Cry from the heart

[Serg_A]

There are real obstacles, like a big difference aged, and the fact that we have a long-distance relationship

If this is Virt, then the images that you create for each other often do not correspond to reality. I always had to put on the image that a woman wants me to see. And then, when I said that I’m really not like that, they refused to believe.

no, this is not virtual, we see each other in real life. I don’t understand anything about virtual reality, I don’t see any point in it. I need to feel a person, hold his hand, hug him, see his eyes, smile. Virt doesn’t insert at all.. this is some kind of castrated love.

Well then you are a happy person if you can feel it in real life. And the fact that it’s at a distance has its advantages: you won’t bother each other, everyday life won’t eat away at the relationship...)

[Grace]

I answered

The question was whether you are an expert or not. You should have simply answered that no, you are not an expert, you have never been interested in this topic, but write just like that.
TS must understand who he is dealing with. If he has problems in his family and he really wants to solve them, but advice from people like you will not only not help him, but can also harm him.

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

I answered

The question was whether you are an expert or not. You should have simply answered that no, you are not an expert, you have never been interested in this topic, but write just like that.
TS must understand who he is dealing with. If he has problems in his family and he really wants to solve them, but advice from people like you will not only not help him, but can also harm him.

no advice the forum won’t help him... we’re all armchair psychologists here. you need to figure it out yourself, talk to your wife, contact a family psychologist.
Do you consider yourself an expert?

[etc]

It was specially designed, if you haven’t guessed it yet. Go learn your lessons, after a couple of girls you’ll get there.

Listen, smart guy! Before writing to a stranger, think about what to write so as not to look stupid. And yet, only juvenile morons write in an offensive tone on the Internet.

[Grace]

no advice from the forum will help him.

I wrote too most, just yesterday.

You consider yourself an expert

I am not an expert in the psychology of family relationships. You wouldn’t ask this question if you read this topic, and if you did, it wouldn’t be to me.

[Lost]

There are many reasons, but of course you have to start with yourself. But it’s not a fact, even if your wife doesn’t like the smell of cigarettes, it’s strange, it’s not the first day she’s known you. Most likely there is some kind of frigidity or someone is on the side, maybe there is a third option, but it’s hard to believe in it

[King Bird]

yes, we have a mistress, we meet extremely rarely, once every 2 months or so. I thought a lot about this, of course it’s a shame, but with my mistress we can realize any fantasies and desires, which brings an unforgettable experience. With my wife, sex is limited to the classics, not a step left or right(. And to understand, at the beginning of a sexual relationship there were various experiments, but over time they faded away completely. Blowjob became something of a reward

The wife senses something wrong at the level of intuition. Once or twice they may not notice anything if all precautions are taken. And so, albeit rarely, but regularly. What started first? The mistress appeared or the wife abandoned? diversity?

It is possible, by the way, that she herself is dating someone who is not disgusting to kiss, at least this also matters.

[Marion]

At a minimum, you need to admit to your wife that there was cheating, otherwise everything will come down to nerves, baldness, impotence, gradual emotional burnout will occur, if you forgive, then talk about no cheating, but also talk about sex, they say, a lot is not enough, people are adults, that’s the only way to save the relationship, a scandal will a shake-up of chemistry in sex and relationships, the rest is half measures...

You cannot admit to cheating under any circumstances, even if you have already broken up and do not live together. In general, everything suggests that your wife, Evgen84, doesn’t like it. Look for the reason within the family. At some point, something went wrong for you. But a mistress is really a half-measure; it’s hard for a person to live long on both sides. Maybe even divorce will be a solution in this situation.

[Evgen84]

The problem here is not love, but the frigidity of the wife. When we were younger, there was still diversity, but now it’s getting sadder and sadder.

[Marion]

Evgen84, it doesn’t look like the 18th century, Now frigidity is being treated. If it is not congenital.

[Evgen84]

Haven’t heard of this, how is it treated?

[niqk]

If the cause of frigidity is withered love, then treatment is unlikely to help...

[Marion]

Haven’t heard of this, how is it treated?

There are such interesting things as Google or Yandex search engines. In general, doctors have such a specialty - they call it a sexologist. Haven’t you heard either?

[Evgen84]

I already looked and read it, thanks for the advice

[niqk]

There is also an andrologist, a family psychologist, and a psychotherapist... Only they will not return lost love... Only the person himself can do this...

[Evgen84]

It’s not about love, I love my wife, she loves me too, as far as I feel, but there are problems with sex

[niqk]

It’s not about love, I love my wife, she loves me too, as far as I feel, but there are problems with sex

You love her! She loves You! But she doesn’t want to fuck! Baby talk...

[Profixx11]

I suggest not listening to her, but stupidly fucking her, or putting her in her mouth.

[Serg_A]

Have you heard of this, how is it treated?

I already wrote to you, you need to check first of all estradiol and thyroid hormones, mostly in women with age, the hormonal system disappears.

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Or, as Marion says, go to a sexologist, but not a psychologist (charlatans, damn it).

[Evgen84]

Thank you, I will read more on this topic and will work on it

[Grace]

Evgen84, I always wonder why 17 years of your Everything was fine with your marriage, but yesterday you suddenly felt the desire to change something?

[Lost]

Indeed, we need to talk about the problem with each other and probably consult a doctor!

[Meleon]

I was in the author’s situation, we’ve also been together for 16 years, 2 children, my wife doesn’t need intimacy, I’m not scary, I’m not a drunk, I work, I built a house, I have cars. On her part there were problems with alcohol, then a reluctance to be intimate. I struggled with this for a long time, using carrots and sticks and talking. Then I met another married woman and exhaled. The problem with dissatisfaction went away and over time, my wife’s appetite returned. We broke up with my mistress, it was very difficult (but that’s another story). Now my wife and I live in perfect harmony.

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This is why sometimes a competent leftist can actually save a marriage...

[Gudgeon]

Meleon, but along the way the author just swelled and felt sad . One-time. He sighed purely at the audience.

[Meleon]

Gudgeon, Yes, it seems that he was also present in the topic, maybe he really , it’s Complicated. For a long time I didn’t decide on a mistress, but it accumulated and I snapped. Everything happens in this life. Maybe everything was resolved for him there

[Bully Carrie]

Has anyone written about the possible pregnancy of TS’s wife? In the early stages, it happens that you don’t really want sex.

[mega second]

Thank you, I’ll read more on this topic and we’ll work on it

. My friend, everything will be fine. Time cures. Vme will come.

[Evgen84]

Has no one written about the possible pregnancy of TS’s wife? In the early stages, it happens that you don’t really want sex.

no, there is no pregnancy one hundred percent

[German1]

Evgen84, I understand. Well, fuck her, light it on the other side , at least temporarily. That’s right.

[Ivanovich]

Evgen84, Yes, it’s a difficult situation. How often is sex you?

[Evgen84]

Ivanovich, 2-3 times a month somewhere

[Ivanovich]

Evgen84, And the initiative is always on your part?

[Evgen84]

Ivanovich, in recent years 4 yes

[WazzzzzzzUp]

Even I don’t understand, did the author of the topic even talk to his wife about this topic or not? Why seek any advice from people who have a different mentality from the author’s wife?

Evgen84, this is how you talk to your wife, she will say that she doesn’t like it (or maybe she has some problems, but you don’t notice), so come, We will help you with advice. Otherwise it’s pointless, it’s worse than guessing on coffee grounds.

[government38]

I remember I was in the hospital for a week, when I was discharged, I thought it would break my penis, if a woman loves it and wants it, leave fairy tales about frigidity to teenagers, another thing is that she may not like it when a person is drunk or unwashed, and this rejects her.
if there are hormones and her health is normal, she can’t help but believe me...