​How to believe in yourself?

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This is an age-old question and problem for many people, because anxiety is firmly attached to our personality from childhood. All troubles are to blame for our parents’ beliefs that we are not independent and cannot cope with anything without outside help.[/b] Yes, the child is certainly limited due to the fact that the brain and the body as a whole are not sufficiently developed, and there is still not enough life experience. But sometimes these thoughts germinate so much, and a person even in adulthood can be deeply convinced that without He will not be able to get help and support from his parents. Also, such people tend to cling to their partners and demand that they be helped and taken care of. You can work with such an attitude, but if a person has been convinced since childhood, it will be quite difficult. And the first step to changing this situation will be its awareness. But in addition to parental programs, there are also our own. Everyone has resources that we need to soberly evaluate. If you are a "morning person" then you will It’s difficult to work night shifts. If you are calm and balanced, then it will be difficult for you to achieve the activity of a sanguine person. Here lies the problem in assessing your capabilities.
Not everything depends on the level of intelligence. If a person began to rely only on the results of the Eysenck test, a series of failures will await him, and if he continues to focus on his brains, he will begin to lose faith in himself. But the interesting point is that in order to believe in yourself, you need to let failures appear, then change the situation if it suits you dramatically.
The saddest thing is that if a person is in an “unfortunate” situation for too long, he stops noticing it and begins to perceive as the norm. Then he will have to admit that he has been at the same level in an uncomfortable situation for 10 years. It is easier to admit failure than to realize what has been happening for many years and how much effort has been spent on it.
For shorter situations, you can use this method: first you imitate the person you want to become, and then you become that person. This statement may seem controversial, but this idea really works. Take, for example, studies of open and closed poses. If a person takes closed power poses with a position over someone, he experiences changes at the physiological and behavioral level, he actually becomes more persistent and tough.
If a person takes open postures; on the contrary, he experiences changes that actually lead to greater openness, receptivity and success. If a person takes a victim’s pose, closes himself off and hides from others, then stress hormones are released, and those around him begin to perceive him as a loser. Thus, to feel more confident, you need to start every morning in star pose, spread your legs to the sides and raise your arms wide apart. And at night, tell yourself 5-10 things that you did during the day and for which you can praise yourself. During the day, work on your beliefs, tell yourself that you are an adult, independent, self-sufficient person, and you yourself can satisfy most of your needs, and only you can achieve your goals. And self-confidence will not take long to appear.
It is important to believe in yourself. After all, if you don’t believe in yourself, then others won’t believe in you. And your uncomfortable beliefs will limit your life and prevent you from self-realization. Through self-belief and self-realization comes self-love. Therefore, this problem is important, it affects important areas of our lives and parts of our personality.