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Question to the ladies: what will be your reaction, your feelings and, most importantly, your actions if such an embarrassment happens to your partner? You have been waiting for this sex for a long time, perhaps even these feelings, and suddenly such annoyance. The long wait for sex with you and the lengthy foreplay turned your young man on so much that he came just by inserting his penis. Will you give him a second chance? Or will you try another time? Or even after this only with another partner?
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Can this even be called an embarrassment? At a young age, it is even quite possible to become overexcited. And mine had this, at the dawn of our life together. So what, get a divorce after that? Wait a little, caressing each other, and you will be ready for the second approach, already a long one. After all, a man has both hands and mouth to continue caresses. And of course, under no circumstances should you blame this; you can create such complexes and you will suffer for the rest of your life.
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My first partner did not go into details but simply turned me over on my back and sat on top.
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There were such cases, but I remember the first time when there was a young guy with me, who honestly admitted that it was his first time, I considered myself already experienced, and if his memory serves me right, even before... ejaculation occurred. She calmed him down and kissed him... But he didn’t succeed again, he almost cried. But then everything worked out. I met him 10 years after this incident. We remembered and laughed. He became a pilot and flew on large passenger planes.
Yes, my husband and I (I was the first woman for him) also poured out for the first time immediately as soon as he entered me and was scared and upset. He was very grateful to me that I took it very calmly and often remembered it
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I no longer like it when a man puffs on me for an hour and doesn’t cum. And if he does this every time, then this is already a reason to think about breaking up. Half an hour is the maximum, and if more, then as an exception. Every hour of sex is just fucked up.
Well, it’s quick for the first time for many men. It’s no big deal for me.
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It was so. She pretended that nothing happened at all (and thought to herself "Oh my God 🤦🤦🤦). We lay down and talked for a while, and We tried it another time, and everything worked out. But, really, there was a residue, since I still remember it, the evening was definitely ruined.
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I see that the girls, as expected, showed humanism and understanding. It is unlikely that men would behave the same way....
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Hooligan Carrie: 22 Dec 2023, 01:15 I see that the girls, as expected, showed humanism and understanding. It’s unlikely that men would behave the same way....
It was our own fault I had this happen, I twisted and twisted one of these, it broke, resisted, held, and also didn’t go in completely, filled it up 😂, then rehabilitated, rested for about 20 minutes and did it right. Honestly, when a lady breaks down, for me it’s already something to think about 😊
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Hooligan Carrie: 22 Dec 2023, 01:15 I see that the girls, as expected, showed humanism and understanding. It is unlikely that men would behave the same way....
To be honest, I don’t remember such a thing, that in the process of foreplay a girl would suddenly cum and not be able to continue right away... And I’ve never had homosexual sex, so it’s hard for me to compare :clever:

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Sibiryak89, "Gaza Strip" has a song on a similar topic - "doesn’t get up".
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Premature is how many minutes do you think? 😉 Maybe it’s the lady?
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Sibiryak89: 22 Dec 2023, 01:48 Honestly, when a lady breaks down, for me it’s already something to think about
At some point I stopped thinking about this topic. Exceeded the reasonable time limit - knee under the tailbone...
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March: 22 Dec 2023, 03:21
Sibiryak89: 22 Dec 2023, 01:48 Honestly, when a lady breaks down, for me it’s already something to think about
At some point I stopped thinking about this topic. Exceeded the reasonable time limit - with a knee under the tailbone...
So who are you inviting? The wife also exceeded with her knee....
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King Zogu,
Why this question? You’re not a boy, judging by the posts.
In general, for the first time a great way is a glass of cognac or a glass of wine. Relieves anxiety and increases the time of hard-on 🙂 this is exactly what I did on the advice of more experienced comrades.
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Hammer: 22 Dec 2023, 03:45 You are not a boy, judging by the posts.
I am interested in life in all its manifestations.
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I agree with the opinion that this is not an embarrassment, but a normal reaction of an overexcited guy. I remember an incident when my second marriage was collapsing, I started looking for new acquaintances and seduced a boy almost 20 years younger. This was the first time this happened to me, I also got jitters. And what can we say about him? While they were kissing, undressing, everything seemed to be going as it should, and then he exhaled to me in a whisper: I’m going to cum... And he kept his word, pouring water all over my palms. If I was annoyed, but in less than a second it was replaced by some kind of pleasure from myself - it turns out that this is how else I can excite boys. I calmed the boy down, gently caressed him, and after half an hour he was ready again. By the way, for the first 5-10 minutes you don’t need to touch your genitals; after guys have an orgasm, they can be hypersensitive and such caresses will not bring pleasure.

(I remember this case right away in the heat still throws and maybe even wants to roll)
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Apparently I was lucky: there were women who understood. Probably with experience they understand that this is not a problem. Once I even came from petting. The woman was quite plump, with soft hips and belly. In general, I pressed myself against her, two movements and everything started flowing at once. nothing, Then later everything was as it should be.
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Probably everyone has had such cases, I never expressed any complaints, well, I get overexcited, sometimes, I’ll help excite you a second time)
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Sibiryak89: 22 Dec 2023, 01:48
Hooligan Carrie: 22 Dec 2023, 01:15 I see that the girls, as expected, showed humanism and understanding. It’s unlikely that men would behave the same way....
It was our own fault I had this happen, I twisted and twisted one of these, it broke, resisted, held, and also didn’t go in completely, filled it up 😂, then rehabilitated, rested for about 20 minutes and did it right. Honestly, when a lady breaks down, for me it’s already something to think about 😊
what to think about?.. that she didn’t want sex?))

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I didn’t have such experience... well, if I had... I would have taken it calmly... if he’s really young and hot, then it won’t be difficult for him to recover quickly, and then everything will work out)
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Almost all men experienced this in their youth. For the first time I just tried for more than forty minutes. And then, on the contrary, he began to shoot quickly. Never bothered with this. The partners never made any claims. And some were even pleased that the guy was so excited. Men have more than just one penis as a working tool. Hands, lips and tongue. In addition, youth has another feature - rapid recovery.
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This happens not only to young boys, admit it) I think so. I definitely wouldn’t laugh. This means my partner wanted me so much that he could no longer restrain himself. Life doesn’t end there. A man has other ways to make a girl happy.
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Tania: 22 Dec 2023, 03:25 The wife also exceeded it with her knee....
If she had exceeded it in her time, she would not have been a wife.
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Moray eel0314: 21 Dec 2023, 20:03 So what, get a divorce after this?
What?!! Divorce?!!! You can come up with one too. on the contrary, a woman should feel proud that she turned a man on like that.
Unless, of course, it turns into a system...
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I envy stories like this. After circumcision in childhood, during sexual activity I have never come from penetration, I have to finish everything.
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Nearsighted, that’s not the problem. Otherwise, how would the circumcised reproduce? I’m circumcised too. Do you want some advice? Stop jerking off for a while. You’ve developed a reflex
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This happens to me all the time and it can only be corrected through surgery, when the nerves inside the penis are cut. When we found out about this, I was afraid of what my wife would force me to do under threat of divorce. But she said that she liked to cum from my fingers and tongue and would not deprive my head of sensitivity.
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Nearsighted: 04 Jan 2024, 07:58 But I envy such stories. After circumcision in childhood, during sexual activity I have never come from penetration, everything has to be completed.
Some kind of nonsense, apparently you have some kind of problem head
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aleksey.bro: 05 Jan 2024, 23:25 Some kind of nonsense, apparently you have some kind of problem in your head
The sensitivity of the head decreases, it becomes coarser without the foreskin. For me, at least bite it during a blowjob, even catch it with your nails - exactly. I’m not familiar with the "teeth" problem. Cut it for yourself and you will find out what it is.
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About circumcision: I’ve been thinking about it for more than 10 years, but it turns out the effect is different and certainly does not provide a guarantee against PE. Just like the vaunted denervation of the HPG - for many, after 6 months (recovery time), everything comes back and it is done again.

I saw a negative reaction 2 times:
1) one was directly offended and finished right away;
2) the other one said “well, you’re a quick shot” - and this was already well fucked, after 1.5 hours of sex, just without a condom, she leaked it into her mouth very quickly.
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Nearsighted: 05 Jan 2024, 23:42 Cut yourself - you’ll find out what it is.
I know what it is, but I don’t encounter such problems.. you’ve probably just rubbed calluses there you drive dry)
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aleksey.bro: 06 Jan 2024, 00:01 you’ve probably just rubbed the calluses there and are driving dry)
How is this related to the lack of sensitivity? *x)
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When I was young, this happened quite often, hormones were pumping, severe overexcitation. Therefore, very often I came, not only from the first penetration, but also during foreplay. In principle, all the girls were fine with this and understood that it was due to overexcitation. And as a rule, there was always a second approach.
Natalie: 25 Dec 2023, 06:41 This happens not only to young boys, admit it) I think so.
Yes, this happens even now , but very rarely, and if I’m really very excited, I can cum from foreplay or from a few frictions.
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My very first boyfriend had such an embarrassment. Alas, I was morally unable to get a second chance to take my virginity.
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Hooligan Carrie: 22 Dec 2023, 01:15 I see that the girls, as expected, showed humanism and understanding. It is unlikely that men would behave the same way....
Why such a categorical opinion?
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Touch-a-Love: 22 Dec 2023, 23:26 I agree with the opinion that this is not an embarrassment, but a normal reaction of an overexcited guy. I remember an incident when my second marriage was collapsing, I started looking for new acquaintances and seduced a boy almost 20 years younger. This was the first time this happened to me, I also got jitters. And what can we say about him? While they were kissing, undressing, everything seemed to be going as it should, and then he exhaled to me in a whisper: I’m going to cum... And he kept his word, pouring water all over my palms. If I was annoyed, but in less than a second it was replaced by some kind of pleasure from myself - it turns out that this is how else I can excite boys. I calmed the boy down, gently caressed him, and after half an hour he was ready again. By the way, for the first 5-10 minutes you don’t need to touch your genitals; after guys have an orgasm, they can be hypersensitive and such caresses will not bring pleasure.

(I remember this case right away in the heat he still throws and maybe even wants to do it)
It depends on how long ago the sex took place
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Sweet pepper: 06 Feb 2024, 04:25
Touch-a-Love: 22 Dec 2023, 23:26 I agree with the opinion that this is not an embarrassment, but a normal reaction of an overexcited guy. I remember an incident when my second marriage was collapsing, I started looking for new acquaintances and seduced a boy almost 20 years younger. This was the first time this happened to me, I also got jitters. And what can we say about him? While they were kissing, undressing, everything seemed to be going as it should, and then he exhaled to me in a whisper: I’m going to cum... And he kept his word, pouring water all over my palms. If I was annoyed, but in less than a second it was replaced by some kind of pleasure from myself - it turns out that this is how else I can excite boys. I calmed the boy down, gently caressed him, and after half an hour he was ready again. By the way, for the first 5-10 minutes you don’t need to touch your genitals; after guys have an orgasm, they can be hypersensitive and such caresses will not bring pleasure.

(I remember this case right away in the heat still throws it and maybe even wants to hit it)
It depends on how long ago the sex took place
A guy or a woman?
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Why the fright "for later" or "not at all"? Something strange happens. Let’s wait, laugh - and go ahead! But if it continues to be the same... Well, obviously I won’t tell you, but there won’t be a next meeting...
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I support the opinion that a quick shot happens: with young spermotoxicosis and with long-term abstinence. Experienced men will prefer to “shake the shutter” before a date, experienced women will prefer to do a blowjob upon entering the apartment (after learning that they haven’t had sex for a long time). After which you can open a bottle of wine for a light snack, give compliments, touch, caress and get down to business in "long-term working mode".
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