How to rid your husband of complexes in sex?

Unread post by **Successful** » 22 Jul 2022, 09:08

Hi all! Question for men. But in general, even to experienced women. My husband and I are the same age. 33 years. Married for 3 years. Before that we dated for 2 years. We’ve known each other for a total of 10 years. At the beginning of the relationship he was very active. Sex has always been only traditional and I give him a blowjob. I want it in the ass but I can’t. I’ll explain why, he doesn’t give me cunnilingus. I really miss this. My ex loved my pussy. And I got hooked on such caresses + he licked my ass and kneaded it well, so that I didn’t need lubrication, after which he fucked me well in all the holes (So that there were no questions why we broke up, we broke up because of his excessive jealousy and desire to completely control my life). So, I no longer know how to persuade my husband to lick me? I told him that you will lick ladies in the ass, he doesn’t fall for it. I give him a deep blowjob. I swallow sperm. What else should I do? He doesn’t have another one, that’s for sure. In general, I am in despair

22 Jul 2022, 09:15

Successful: 22 Jul 2022, 09:08 Hello everyone! Question for men. But in general, even to experienced women. My husband and I are the same age. 33 years. Married for 3 years. Before that we dated for 2 years. We’ve known each other for a total of 10 years. At the beginning of the relationship he was very active. Sex has always been only traditional and I give him a blowjob. I want it in the ass but I can’t. I’ll explain why, he doesn’t give me cunnilingus. I really miss this. My ex loved my pussy. And I got hooked on such caresses + he licked my ass and kneaded it well, so that I didn’t need lubrication, after which he fucked me well in all the holes (So that there were no questions why we broke up, we broke up because of his excessive jealousy and desire to completely control my life). So, I no longer know how to persuade my husband to lick me? I told him that you will lick ladies in the ass, he doesn’t fall for it. I give him a deep blowjob. I swallow sperm. What else should I do? He doesn’t have another one, that’s for sure. In general, I am in despair

I can’t advise anything , just to sympathize.. and how does he explain why he doesn’t give you cunnilingus?..

Unread post by **Gunter** » 22 Jul 2022, 09:19

◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊: 22 Jul 2022, 09:15 I can’t advise anything, just sympathize.. how does he explain why he doesn’t give you cunnilingus?..
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Has anyone even approached you?

Unread post by **seriously** » 22 Jul 2022, 09:32

Unfortunately, there’s no way to force it, it’s the same thing if you didn’t like blowjobs and your husband was constantly trying to persuade you. Most likely just stupid"concepts" like not boyish. As an option, don’t give him a blowjob and that’s it.

Unread post by **young lady** » 22 Jul 2022, 10:23

Successful: 22 Jul 2022, 09:08 how to persuade my husband to lick me?

Yeah... It’s a difficult situation. I’d say you have at least a few options here.

Have you tried not just talking to him about it, but putting on erotic films of appropriate content for him, and at the same time telling him: “You see, my dear? I really want it too, so that you do the same for me. It’s very nice!" Well, that is, conversations plus visual accompaniment, this is like a more powerful argument in favor of him finally starting to do what you ask him to do.
In addition, some men are well (positively) influenced by the so-called sexual blackmail. In your case, it might sound something like this: “Darling, if you don’t lick me there, then I’ll stop giving you sex altogether!” Of course, you can formulate the same meaning in other words, and with your own additions and changes. I wrote this just as an example. But the point is, if your man clearly understands that he will be missing something very important in life (which you have, but which you do not want to give him), then he will be able to better understand the situation. After all, in reality, he does the same thing to you: he doesn’t give you something that he can calmly and freely give you every day, but he just doesn’t want to do it (he doesn’t want to lick, roughly speaking).

This second option is more suitable in cases where a woman at least partially dominates her man. But if he weakly and poorly listens to you, and if he is used to doing everything his own way and regardless of you, then, of course, it will be difficult to apply such blackmail to him. It’s even worse if he has the type of character in which the only reaction to such blackmail will be: “Oh, so good! Well then, goodbye! Divorce now, and maiden name!” But it’s better for you to know what your man’s plan is . It’s just that such a knight move has a good effect on some men. They then begin to realize that they are doing something wrong and that they are not behaving well.

Unread post by **Successful** » 22 Jul 2022, 10:33

Larri: 22 Jul 2022, 09:32 just stupid"concepts" like not like a boy.

. I also think it’s because of this. He is a sportsman. I have been practicing karate since school. All friends are the same. And they all seem to have boyish principles. Eh, now I have to suffer. And I like to give blowjobs myself. This turns me on.

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Pannochka: 22 Jul 2022, 10:23 erotic films of appropriate content

We watched it more than once. But we don’t break through. I manipulate sex. But I myself can’t live without his penis for a long time. Masturbation is not enough. In a relationship, I prefer the husband to dominate. Thank you for the advice

Unread post by **Elf** » 22 Jul 2022, 11:16

Firstly, maybe you don’t shave there; or you depilate... and he doesn’t like it with hair like most men..? But one option can help, but it all depends on him, of course. You can tell him that if he doesn’t do cunnilingus, then you will invite a lesbian at home for this... firstly, most men would be happy to watch this, and secondly, if he is against it, then you will have an argument to do with “her” (this in his thoughts), and if he doesn’t want to share you with anyone, he will agree to give you cunnilingus... This is only a possibility.. I don’t know him or you and it’s difficult to give definite advice..

Unread post by **seriously** » 22 Jul 2022, 11:22

Successful, well, he doesn’t understand your wishes, then this Question: does he kiss you after a blowjob?

22 Jul 2022, 11:27

Successful: 22 Jul 2022, 10:40
Larri: 22 Jul 2022, 09:32 just stupid"concepts" like not boyish.
. I also think it’s because of this. He is a sportsman. I have been practicing karate since school. All friends are the same. And they all seem to have boyish principles. Eh, now I have to suffer. And I like to give blowjobs myself. This turns me on.

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Pannochka: 22 Jul 2022, 10:23 erotic films of appropriate content
We watched it more than once. But we don’t break through. I manipulate sex. But I myself can’t live without his penis for a long time. Masturbation is not enough. In a relationship, I prefer the husband to dominate. Thank you for the advice

What does your husband tell you, how does he explain his reluctance to perform cunnilingus on you?

Unread post by **Successful** » 22 Jul 2022, 11:41

Elf: 22 Jul 2022, 11:16 maybe you don’t shave there; or you depilate... and he doesn’t like his hair like most men

Everything is smooth and sweet for me

I don’t like vegetation

I don’t even I know where to find a lesbian, I could experiment))) We have a small town. And my friends are traditional)))

Unread post by **Elf** » 22 Jul 2022, 11:46

Successful: 22 Jul 2022, 11:41 And my friends are traditional)))

that’s just fine, just play with words, maybe even the words will change his opinion... Maybe a friend will come to you he will come in and hug and touch his ass in front of him))) Go with your friend to the room and tell him that you need to talk to your friend

Unread post by **seriously** » 22 Jul 2022, 11:50

I don’t think the friend trick will work. Well, girls lick and let them lick. He still won’t do cunnilingus.

Unread post by **Successful** » 22 Jul 2022, 13:12

In general, today during sex, he touched my anus again, and I told him: “I’ll give it to you in the ass when you’re in the mood for cunnilingus))) I don’t know how long we really have to wait))) But now let him think too, and not just me)) )Thank you all for your advice and support! I read the blog and envy how liberated men there are

Unread post by **niqk** » 22 Jul 2022, 13:20

Yes, apparently your husband has a powerful psychological inhibitor on cunnilingus. And it’s unlikely to be removed. Just be patient.
Good luck!

Unread post by **seriously** » 22 Jul 2022, 16:25

I honestly don’t understand how it’s possible not to caress this delicate girlish flower, this one is incredibly pleasant and delightful. I make mine every time. And I will do it no matter what anyone says.

Unread post by **A mermaid** » 22 Jul 2022, 17:14

Successful, stop begging for it. And in general, to be passive in sex.
A woman’s activity gives rise to a man’s passivity - this is obvious.
Another option is to get him drunk

Unread post by **My things** » 29 Jul 2022, 21:21

Directly and clearly describe the situation and ways to solve it, without hints, without tricks, pressures, omissions.
She came up, stood up, said: lick me, and then fuck me.
You can start in the shower or bath so he can see how you’ve washed yourself

Unread post by **Wool** » 29 Jul 2022, 21:30

Or maybe TS’s pussy is just ugly? It’s rare, but I’ve seen something like this in photos - it would be cunnilingus only through force

Unread post by **My things** » 29 Jul 2022, 21:30

Mermaid: 22 Jul 2022, 17:14 stop begging for it. And in general, to be passive in sex.
A woman’s activity gives rise to a man’s passivity - this is obvious.
Another option is to get drunk

here shitty logic, passivity only causes misunderstanding, like she lay down, spread her legs and that’s it, fuck me, lieutenant, I’m all yours. But what about the common cause? move your ass there, tighten your vaginal muscles, arch your back, dirty talk, languid looks, bite? at least something.
but getting drunk, yes, is an option, or suggest for a hangover

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Bolbol: 29 Jul 2022, 21:30 Or maybe the TS pussy is just ugly

An examination needs to be carried out here, Successful, studio photo, let honest people discuss, evaluate and make a verdict !

Unread post by **Desert1** » 30 Jul 2022, 04:00

Successful: 22 Jul 2022, 09:08 Hello everyone! Question for men. But in general, even to experienced women. My husband and I are the same age. 33 years. Married for 3 years. Before that we dated for 2 years. We’ve known each other for a total of 10 years. At the beginning of the relationship he was very active. Sex has always been only traditional and I give him a blowjob. I want it in the ass but I can’t. I’ll explain why, he doesn’t give me cunnilingus. I really miss this. My ex loved my pussy. And I got hooked on such caresses + he licked my ass and kneaded it well, so that I didn’t need lubrication, after which he fucked me well in all the holes (So that there were no questions why we broke up, we broke up because of his excessive jealousy and desire to completely control my life). So, I no longer know how to persuade my husband to lick me? I told him that you will lick ladies in the ass, he doesn’t fall for it. I give him a deep blowjob. I swallow sperm. What else should I do? He doesn’t have another one, that’s for sure. In general, I’m in despair

Tell him that you want sex with two men, the second one will only lick

Unread post by **Man07** » 30 Jul 2022, 04:39

Successful, I am without complexes!

Unread post by **Gera645** » 30 Jul 2022, 05:56

Well... The gentle boys have gone. As for me, you need to try everything in bed and appreciate the girl’s desire

Unread post by **ScrewFIX** » 30 Jul 2022, 17:15

Successful, personal consultation in PM

Unread post by **A mermaid** » 31 Jul 2022, 06:32

Abudabina: 29 Jul 2022, 21:52 that’s crap logic, passivity only causes misunderstanding, like she lay down, spread her legs and that’s it, fuck me, lieutenant, I’m all yours. But what about the common cause?

You don’t know how to read? The author is active and the answer is a log! So your logic is one-sided, judge it stupidly.

Unread post by Mr » 09 Aug 2022, 07:41

Maybe my husband has some kind of psychological trauma from childhood associated with this?

Larri: 22 Jul 2022, 11:22 he doesn’t understand your wishes well, then the question is he kisses you after a blowjob!?

And this question was correct. I never saw a response from the author of the post.

Unread post by **ScrewFIX** » 10 Aug 2022, 09:29

Successful, прям как я своей

Unread post by **va234567** » 14 Aug 2022, 09:42

Successful: 22 Jul 2022, 10:40 I also think that because of this

It seems that I don’t want to believe that he was pretending at the beginning of the relationship, as many women do in order to get the man he liked.
Maybe he blurted out to someone, but they laughed at him, so now he’s embarrassed... You need to talk... there’s no other way...

Unread post by **Amateur** » 14 Aug 2022, 09:46

Successful, I envy yours, so many opportunities

Unread post by **a romantic** » 18 Aug 2022, 12:44

Successful: 22 Jul 2022, 10:40 . And they all seem to have boyish principles

It seems that his boyish principles and boys are more valuable to him than your relationship

Unread post by **Skf** » 19 Aug 2022, 00:59

Find a lover and let him lick you

Unread post by **SERG!!** » 19 Aug 2022, 01:03

Well, to be honest, I don’t understand this, especially when you are husband and wife...Sex is a game between two people, I love both having fun and fulfilling the desires of my partner!

Unread post by **jonny_t** » 20 Aug 2022, 07:18

I think it’s this kind of temperament. This doesn’t turn him on and that’s all. In the ranks of masculine men (athletes, military, police, hard workers), they are more interested in the number of “women” and their “quality”, and the sex itself is just for show, done and done. The main thing for such people is to get more and more beautiful chicks into bed.
My story is the other way around. My wife has enough classics, and blowjob and cunnilingus doesn’t bother her. Until I ask or start doing it, he does not take the initiative. Not to say that she lies like a log, but a couple of positions and mutual jerking are enough for her. Does not include fantasy at all. No matter how much I spoke on this topic and suggested that I somehow loosen up, it was all to no avail (((
As they say: sex is in the head, and it’s a shame if it’s not there.

Unread post by **Coffee** » 20 Aug 2022, 07:53

What if you sit on your face first in a playful way?

Unread post by **niqk** » 20 Aug 2022, 08:15

Fika: 20 Aug 2022, 07:53 And if you sit on your face first in a playful way?

And if he bites in response? In a playful way? Yes to blood...

Unread post by **lovers** » 20 Aug 2022, 13:31

Successful: 22 Jul 2022, 09:08What else should I

add an anal vibrator to sex so that my husband sees it and wants it. So diversify

Unread post by **Didudo** » 20 Aug 2022, 13:37

I always give my wife cunnilingus before entering her so that she can cum a couple of times from my tongue)

Unread post by **Graham** » 22 Aug 2022, 09:24

Fika: 20 Aug 2022, 07:53 And if you sit on your face first in a playful way?

He’s a karateka, he might have something stuck there and he’ll perform a technique to free him

Unread post by **Yamal** » 22 Aug 2022, 10:13

Eh, it’s a pity that you’re not my wife, I would have buried you))))) such a flower

caress mmmm... I think excommunication for my husband You can’t break from sex, you need to be more subtle here in a playful way with cream and strawberries, massage and so on...

Unread post by **Solomon** » 22 Aug 2022, 10:30

There are those who don’t agree on sex, I’ve also met friends who don’t do cunnilingus, because they’re like men and you can’t lick, like that means you’re not a man, in short, since childhood there have been stupid prohibitions like moral ones.
But! I know one thing for sure! If a man loves you, he will lick you all clean! He just likes you, yes, he fell in love at first, and then fell out of love, he lives by inertia....

Unread post by **Immodest** » 22 Aug 2022, 11:02

Yes, he just has an injury. Ask him to associate a pussy with a hedgehog that was chopped in half with an axe?

Unread post by **Lust From Beyond** » 28 Aug 2022, 01:04

Try buying a lubricant for oral sex (flavored). Pour it over the desired places and “eat it.” Do the same with yourself. You don’t need to pour it on your pussy right away if he doesn’t want it that way. But after playing with your chest, legs and other places, apply lubricant to your pussy. It all needs to be in a playful way

Unread post by **Andre_s** » 28 Aug 2022, 06:06

Yes, there is most likely some kind of big cockroach in my husband’s head. Unfortunately, you can fight this for many years and what the hell will happen. For example, I have been married for 16 years and my wife avoids cunnilingus, she has her own cockroach. I came up with one of the options. I buy dice with different poses and then we play. Let’s see what happens with this)