The wife is not interested in any intimacy other than the classics. What to do?

Unread post by **shadow** » 13 Oct 2022, 06:08

People, help me out.
With my Wife for a long time, at first everything was enough for me and everyone was happy.
But over time, my interest in the same type of sex faded, I began to wonder what else people pleasure themselves in bed, except for those who have been fucked for a long time pos)
Attempts to discuss anything, to have frank conversations, are still going awry. The wife herself won’t even talk about anything.
I bought sex toys, tried them several times, however, if I don’t get them, she won’t remember in her life.
I turned on porn on TV, it turns on , discharges and again silence.
I’m already silent about forums, about learning something new, inventing something new, about role-playing, about swinging...

The wife doesn’t seem to be frigid, a couple Once a week she starts flirting herself and the result is classic sex. In general, everything is fine. But I’m always interested in adding something, changing something. And in response there was silence.

Tell me, knowledgeable people, what to do?

Unread post by **Felix07** » 13 Oct 2022, 06:17

In fact, nothing) it’s one thing when there is no libido, there are options, it’s another thing when there is, but she is a conservative in herself. There’s nothing you can do about it. By force, persuasion, etc. you’ll make it worse. If he agrees, then everything will be fucked off.

Unread post by **shadow** » 13 Oct 2022, 06:23

What are the options for libido?

Unread post by **Petrtmn** » 13 Oct 2022, 06:39

It’s the same bullshit, you buy toys yourself, you buy underwear from your wife, there are no initiatives, I’m always amazed that there really are ladies who take the toys themselves, etc.

Unread post by **opposite** » 13 Oct 2022, 06:57

There are ladies who will go choose toys with you... and will remind you of them, and show initiative. And there are, as the person already said, extremely conservative views. It’s in the blood, under the crust... It won’t be possible to re-preserve it. Or take advantage of the fact that he agrees to at least something... or alas...

Unread post by **nz_alex** » 13 Oct 2022, 07:00

You can replace your wife.

Unread post by **opposite** » 13 Oct 2022, 07:22

nz_alex: ↑13 Oct 2022, 07:00 You can replace your wife.

You can replace "can" with "need"))

Unread post by **Looking for** » 13 Oct 2022, 08:09

senka,
Hmm...
1. This means you don’t know how to use toys so that she wants them again.
2. There is a possibility that you are not the only one with her....
3. There is something that worries her more than sex.

Unread post by **Woman** » 17 Oct 2022, 15:05

Petrtmn: ↑13 Oct 2022, 06:39 ladies who take the toys themselves

Of course there are!
I recently ordered a couple for myself from ozone, I can’t wait to receive them. .
I check every day to see if they arrived earlier)))

Unread post by **Akteya** » 17 Oct 2022, 15:22

All problems come from the head. To avoid cheating, you need to go to a sexologist for both of them

Unread post by **in the Urals** » 17 Oct 2022, 15:32

Just have a mistress and everything will be fine. That’s for sure!

Unread post by **Sweep** » 17 Oct 2022, 19:46

In general, we need to talk, discuss, find a common language. Not here, but with my beloved wife!

Unread post by **LediXXX** » 20 Oct 2022, 04:44

To be honest, I don’t think anything will help. This is mine too. I tried everything. And he talked. So she doesn’t want to talk about it. Swears and screams. And in general, talking about sex is taboo. She accepts affection, but she herself only classics and that’s all. He doesn’t want to masturbate in front of me, he can watch. But somehow without enthusiasm.

Unread post by **Hammer** » 20 Oct 2022, 08:53

Be happy

And don’t compare yourself to porn actors.

Unread post by **Paradise apples** » 20 Oct 2022, 09:12

My husband is like that. Nothing will help here)))

Unread post by **Ozasa** » 20 Oct 2022, 09:27

senka: ↑13 Oct 2022, 06:08 Tell me, knowledgeable people, what to do?

Be patient. If she has a normal libido and you want each other, and it’s just a matter of general conservatism or upbringing, then it will be difficult to achieve quick results here.
Try to diversify your general leisure time. Go to new cafes, new attractions, play new games, generally bring variety and novelty to any activities you do together, and look for new interesting leisure activities. But without radical novelty, something that will be interesting to both of you and will not be accompanied by discomfort.
Read literature and forums on the topic "emancipation of women", take a closer look at what would be appropriate to apply in your case.
Try it bring alcohol into your sex. If already, then try increasing the dose.
The radical ones are surfactants, especially marijuana and psilocybin mushrooms. These substances have a proven effect on neurogenesis, increase the plasticity of the cerebral cortex and can seriously expand your worldview. But this can be used if both have an interest in this direction, have a sense of proportion and do not have mental illness. Well, be prepared for the fact that this will affect not only your sex life; the consequences can be unpredictable.
Try to introduce her more to the world of bodily pleasures. Learn how to massage, or some new techniques if you already know how. Ask her to massage you. Try going to the spa, the sauna, getting a massage.
Try playing sports together.

I have a friend who is already well over 40, and so is his wife. His wife was very conservative for a long time, and he spent 5 years, if not more, to liberate her. In the end, he made her SW and both are happy

Unread post by **shadow** » 15 Nov 2022, 04:21

Everyone talks about libido, but how do you understand what Normal Libido means?

Unread post by **treater234** » 15 Nov 2022, 08:49

I agree with the answers. It is best to change your wife to one who will suit you sexually. If this really resonates with you, then you need to increase your importance in her life. Start supporting your family so that it depends on you financially and then it will do everything to make you happy.

Unread post by **Alexey.1** » 18 Nov 2022, 07:32

My wife is also only for the classics. The maximum is cunnilingus, and blowjob on holidays, but in a 69 position and so that I don’t see (in short, wow..

Unread post by **Legos** » 18 Nov 2022, 14:18

Change the situation, or better yet, have a mistress. You will make your fantasies come true with your mistress, and your wife a couple of times a week, and life will get better...

Unread post by **Arianna** » 20 Nov 2022, 12:33

Maybe she’s afraid or embarrassed about something, maybe she’s afraid of seeming “loose” if she takes the initiative, or maybe she’s worried that you will cross a certain line in your experiments. Like today you offer her role-playing games, and tomorrow you drag a third person into bed. Just talk and find out, I guess. Or maybe she really is not interested in all this and seems like unnecessary fuss. Someone above a sexologist suggested that this is also an option

Unread post by **Bexed** » 20 Nov 2022, 12:42

A mistress is not an option if you have children. All the same, everything will be visible from the behavior of both husband and wife. You need to get someone interested somehow. Mine is the same way, I perceive toys as something out of the ordinary: why do I need a third hand. In short, I am inclined towards Soviet education.

Unread post by **Gent52800** » 20 Nov 2022, 12:42

Play different porn videos, maybe she will like something and that will be the beginning. Women are more depraved than men and she needs to be opened - like a flower - so one woman told me.

Unread post by **dva2dva** » 20 Nov 2022, 20:57

The same situation. There is a wife, but no sex)) they write - change your wife. What about children? What about relationships? For example, I am married for the second time and after about 6-7 years the same scenario. Well, we broke up with the first one; apart from sex, we still didn’t get along in terms of personalities. And we have an excellent relationship with the second one, we don’t swear, we don’t quarrel, but she doesn’t want sex.. So what? Get divorced again?

Unread post by **Shamanakas** » 20 Nov 2022, 21:30

senka: ↑13 Oct 2022, 06:08 I bought sex toys, tried them several times, however, if I don’t get them, she won’t remember for the life of her.
I turned on porn on the TV, it starts up, discharges and is silent again.

In general, the situation that you described is something far from frigidity and enslavement. Does your wife easily agree to sex toys, watch porn together and take the initiative? Is this ALREADY more? than in a significant part of couples.
Real frigidity and real sexual joylessness look different: when you have to persuade someone to have sex, but they don’t want to hear about some toys, underwear and experiments. And you obviously have at least contact with your wife on this topic. As an example, I know one couple where sex happens once a month or less? and they don’t want to hear about any toys or even oral sex. Moreover, it is the guy who is “frigid”, and the girl who suffers.

I think that in your situation, “changing your wife” would definitely be a huge mistake. You need to TALK more. Talk openly in an adult way about your sexual desires, convince her that such discussions are normal, and ask her to talk about her fantasies as well. It may take time, even a lot of time, but the relationship that you build this way is worth it, and no third-party lovers can replace it.

Unread post by **shadow** » 22 Nov 2022, 15:51

Bexed, Yes, a mistress is definitely not an option. Here you either develop your current relationship or end it, and then at least every week you have a new girlfriend)

Unread post by **Brazen** » 22 Nov 2022, 16:39

Perhaps the most sensible topic of the forum. I have the same problem. In the first years of dating, sex was not only frequent, but also spontaneous. They fucked wherever they wanted. And both wanted it. We were thinking about swinging. We filmed a video. We took photos. And now this enthusiasm remains only with me. I can’t get my wife back to her previous state. Otherwise everything is fine with her. The family is strong.

Unread post by **shadow** » 22 Nov 2022, 16:45

Brazen, Thank you, I tried when I created it)
...We fucked wherever we wanted. And both wanted it. We were thinking about swinging. We filmed a video. We took photos. ... - was there something after which everything changed? or did it just gradually fade away?

Unread post by **Brazen** » 22 Nov 2022, 21:48

senka: ↑22 Nov 2022, 16:45 - was there something after which everything changed? or just gradually faded away?

rather just faded away. somehow of course.

Unread post by **AlexK85** » 22 Nov 2022, 23:39

senka: ↑22 Nov 2022, 15:51 Yes, a mistress is definitely not an option. Here, either develop the current relationship or end it, and then at least every week a new friend)

Unfortunately, I have a similar situation, only it’s very neglected, I haven’t told anyone ( anonymously) they always say you need to get a divorce, but how do you get a divorce? Both the family and the household have lived for so many years, damn it, but it’s not possible to live like this, life is not sweet without normal sex, and my soul is torn by the thought that I’ll grow old and regret that I didn’t get divorced... In general, I’m also of the opinion that cheating this is not right, and the option with a mistress is not for me, it’s just not honest and it won’t be comfortable for me to hide something, I’ve been honest all my life and I don’t deceive anyone... I would be interested to know why you are against your mistress, for what reasons ?

Unread post by **shadow** » 02 Dec 2022, 18:33

No, I have nothing against mistresses if there is no permanent relationship))
I just think that the person who trusts you should either be in the know, or there is no need to give false hopes.

Unread post by **exzzzik** » 03 Dec 2022, 04:55

Same story as TS

Unread post by **Jimax** » 03 Dec 2022, 05:43

senka: ↑02 Dec 2022, 18:33 No, I have nothing against mistresses if there is no permanent relationship))

well then they are not called mistresses.

It’s stupid to live with one and have a friend, move in with the one you have

Unread post by **5nica** » 04 Dec 2022, 02:32

senka: ↑13 Oct 2022, 06:08 In general, everything is fine. But I’m always interested in adding something, changing something. And in response there was silence.

The author’s question is rhetorical and does not require an answer. It is said: Everything is fine.
When there are no classics, then of course it’s bad. But then there will be no time for sex, so everything is fine again

Unread post by **Couple 33** » 04 Dec 2022, 02:34

Difficult situation, try to talk

Unread post by **seriously** » 04 Dec 2022, 03:14

Yes, that’s how I look at many people, mine is the same, sex only in classic positions, blowjob, ugh, or if you beg for a long time. Learning something new and trying it for whores. I’ve been trying to persuade her to do MFM for almost a year, persuaded her, but she categorically refuses to repeat it. Although, according to her stories, she had everything in her youth, she had cum in her mouth and in her ass. But he doesn’t want anything special with me. He took the toys himself, she didn’t want any, I even tried not to give her sex, I thought it would help, but nothing.

Unread post by **Alex366** » 04 Dec 2022, 03:17

Look for someone else who will do everything.

Unread post by **Egor_ka** » 10 Dec 2022, 04:37

senka: ↑13 Oct 2022, 06:08 People, help me out.
With my wife for a long time, at first everything was enough for me and everyone was happy.
But over time, my interest in the same type of sex faded, I began to be interested in what other people in bed they amuse, except for long-fucked positions)
Attempts to discuss anything, to have frank conversations, are still going awry. The wife herself won’t even talk about anything.
I bought sex toys, tried them several times, however, if I don’t get them, she won’t remember in her life.
I turned on porn on TV, it turns on , discharges and again silence.
I’m already silent about forums, about learning something new, inventing something new, about role-playing, about swinging...

The wife doesn’t seem to be frigid, a couple Once a week she starts flirting herself and the result is classic sex. In general, everything is fine. But I’m always interested in adding something, changing something. And in response there was silence.

Tell me, knowledgeable people, what to do?

So your sex is basically fire !!! I myself have been married for 11 years, any conversations about sex are immediately blocked by my wife at the thought stage. You shouldn’t even dream about toys or porn videos. All 11 years of sex in three positions: classic, on top and from the side. He never even wants to hear about cancer, he considers this position humiliating. I did everything I could, including romance with massages and trips abroad, seas and oceans, I swore and set conditions, I tried everything. So, my friend, it’s rubbish. This cannot be fixed, at all costs. There are three options: accept it and continue living like this, find sex on the side, get a divorce. Otherwise you’ll just wear yourself out.

Unread post by **ScrewFIX** » 10 Dec 2022, 12:46

Couple 33: ↑04 Dec 2022, 02:34 It’s a difficult situation, try to talk

Does talking help your wife when she wants sex?

Unread post by **Alex366** » 10 Dec 2022, 12:52

It’s good that it generally gives, sometimes such modest little ones are even better, the main thing is that she didn’t cheat, and didn’t do everything else with others.

Unread post by **Solomon** » 10 Dec 2022, 21:05

Senya had a girl like that, I just fucked her constantly, several times a day, she got so used to it that she didn’t have enough and began to be interested in variety herself, but in general a man shouldn’t ask his woman for his own, he should have her as he wants.

Unread post by **sweetie** » 10 Dec 2022, 21:44

she needs to be corrupted.. given a drink, let real males use her, who would fuck her hard :forkandknife:

Unread post by **Couple 33** » 10 Dec 2022, 23:14

ScrewF: ↑10 Dec 2022, 12:46
Couple 33: ↑04 Dec 2022, 02:34 It’s a difficult situation, try to talk
Does talking help your wife when she wants sex?

This has to do with it

Unread post by **Marek** » 11 Dec 2022, 03:36

The same story. Here konfetka writes to get drunk and seduce, as when a little under the table she doesn’t even want sex. It seems like she likes to give a blowjob and likes it when I lick her, but how else to lighten up and diversify it is also naught. We talked about saing without exchange, it seems like it’s not against .unclear

Unread post by **Egor_ka** » 11 Dec 2022, 09:57

Getting drunk is a dubious option. There may be some effect, of course, he will become bolder, more promiscuous, but after that he will sober up and start all over again. Well, you can’t always get your wife drunk. Female alcoholism is usually very difficult to treat)

Unread post by **Who will win** » 19 Jan 2023, 12:00

Larri: ↑04 Dec 2022, 03:14 And he doesn’t want anything special with me

that’s the situation. how did you solve the issue??? maybe I should tell her to go to hell too? Nothing. nothing at all to her. otherwise we give them food and clothes and trips and restaurants with attractions, but we don’t care. You need to treat a person exactly the same way as he treats us. or even 2 times worse. they all think that this is the norm. and this is frigidity and deviation. You don’t need to live with people like that. let them live in their fantasies. The most offensive thing is that when you leave them, after this understanding of loneliness, it turns out that she can suck and in pressure and poses she can do everything from the Kamasutpa overnight. but not for us. we are rednecks. moral monsters.

Unread post by **Rtrc** » 19 Jan 2023, 12:21

We need to develop and experiment. Create an intimate atmosphere,
do not be distracted and take your time. And don’t get hung up on one pose.

Unread post by **Solomon** » 19 Jan 2023, 12:22

Are you a man or not?
She is your woman and you can fuck her as you wish! Stay calm and carry on!
There is no need to make snot, he came up and took his own. you’ll see, she’ll like it over time

Unread post by **Dr.Who** » 19 Jan 2023, 13:12

Brew tea with fresh ginger and lemon regularly, in the late afternoon, and let her drink it...)

Unread post by **Rtrc** » 23 Jan 2023, 22:04

It looks like she’s just shy of you.
Watch porn together, and you look at her face, and by her emotions you will understand what she likes on the screen.
Go to a nudik together (when there is no one there to begin with), try to loosen her up and talk frankly
. Try having sex with her in unusual places, and not just on your bed at home.
Give her a glass of wine (no more).

The wife is not interested in any intimacy other than the classics. What to do?

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