My husband's erection is subsiding, I need advice

[Sunsh1ne]

Hello.
During sex with my husband, his erection declines (the penis becomes a little soft) and this can happen several times during sex. This causes me anxiety, when I ask, he answers in different ways, sometimes he’s tired, sometimes I don’t know, sometimes he was afraid to make noise, sometimes one testicle hurts...
We have been married for 15 years, we married for love and there is always sex and it has always been of high quality and often. With the exception of two pregnancies, those who have children will understand.
But about a year ago this problem appeared and I cannot understand what is happening. I start to imagine that my husband has stopped loving me, that he doesn’t want me anymore, or that he loves me but doesn’t want sex with me, or that he has problems with potency, but he won’t admit it (he doesn’t want to go to the doctor). As far as I know, there is no mistress. We have sex regularly 1-2 times a week. He is 42, I am 36. Tell me, what could it be? Why does this happen to a man?

[A meow]

There is no addiction to Viagra and similar drugs.

But there are side effects. And there are contraindications.

I didn’t mean addiction, like with drugs or wine, but the fact that after taking such drugs without them...
And you yourself are talking about side effects?

[Tapkin]

Doesn’t want to go to the doctor. Doesn’t like to go and get tested, especially to the urologist (

He is 42 years old

Make him go to the doctor , not with a problem specifically, but to make sure of your health .. fish oil will not be superfluous to help, if he smokes, then also cigarettes !

[Serg_A]

There is no addiction to Viagra and similar drugs.

But there are side effects. And there are contraindications.

I didn’t mean addiction, like with drugs or wine, but the fact that after taking such drugs without them...
And you yourself are talking about side effects?

Well, yes, healthy people sometimes have a red face, sometimes a stuffy nose, and some people have a headache. And if a person has heart problems and is on medications, then the side effects can be very serious.

[Sunsh1ne]

Can you share what you agreed on? Just wondering. What is he ready for?

We agreed to go to a paid clinic.

Since there are many who consider me a man, I will not voice further details of my intimate life (

I am not interested in heroin and Viagra.

Thank you to everyone who sincerely shared their opinion, their experience, without reproaches and suspicions.

P.S. And the one who blocked the personal message did not act like a man. so you know this! Men are judged by their actions, not by their written words.

[Hair shirt]

And the one who blocked the personal message did not act like a man. I just want you to know this! Men are judged by their actions, not by their written words

Who is this? For example, it was blocked for me from the very beginning. And so what?

[Sunsh1ne]

Who is this? For example, it was blocked for me from the very beginning. So what of this?

So you didn’t write to me in a personal message. The one in question reads everything and understands.

P.S. Your DM says: “Some users cannot be added because they have disabled receiving private messages.”

[Mitry]

The one we are talking about, he reads everything and understands.

Perhaps there was a misunderstanding?
People who have such experience, If your personal account is blocked or your interlocutor has put you on the emergency list, are there different notifications when it is not possible to send a message?

[Sunsh1ne]

Perhaps there was a misunderstanding?
People who have this experience, if your personal account is blocked or your interlocutor has included you in an emergency, notifications are different when it is not possible to send a message?

And I can write to others)
I thought I was blocked, but it turned out not?)

P.S. We’re talking about you, of course! You got it right. But I still can’t answer...

[Mitry]

Sunsh1ne, what a horror! Well, I don’t even know, the list of friends and enemies is empty, I reset the personal account completely, according to the settings everything seems to be normal
Are you receiving messages from me via PM?

[Sunsh1ne]

Are messages coming from me via PM?

Messages are coming. Can’t answer

[Let’s]

Since there are many who consider me a man, I will not voice further details of my intimate life

I don’t consider you a man)) and the topic itself is not attractive to one created by a man. Or as it was written here "wanker", at least I don’t see any messages here that could be used to satisfy oneself) If you want, write a PM,

[attentive1]

We have a friend who drinks three bottles daily and it works well for him and there are no problems. I think he’ll tell me about it right away.

And I think he’s a man. Here’s this little phrase about a friend who DRINKS THREE BOTTLES OF BEER A DAY AND IS GOOD !!! This means a husband’s friend tells someone else’s wife how his erection is. Very interesting relationship Or let’s say a friend tells her husband how wonderful his erection is, and the husband tells his wife This VALUABLE INFORMATION is worth it as a friend. Well, isn’t it nonsense? Can I treat him with beer?

[Greek10]

Hello.
During sex with my husband, his erection declines (the penis becomes a little soft) and this can happen several times during sex. This causes me anxiety, when I ask, he answers in different ways, sometimes he’s tired, sometimes I don’t know, sometimes he was afraid to make noise, sometimes one testicle hurts...
We have been married for 15 years, we married for love and there is always sex and it has always been of high quality and often. With the exception of two pregnancies, those who have children will understand.
But about a year ago this problem appeared and I cannot understand what is happening. I start to imagine that my husband has stopped loving me, that he doesn’t want me anymore, or that he loves me but doesn’t want sex with me, or that he has problems with potency, but he won’t admit it (he doesn’t want to go to the doctor). As far as I know, there is no mistress. We have sex regularly 1-2 times a week. He is 42, I am 36. Tell me, what could it be? Why does this happen in a man?

The heart is not the same, + an erection is not only the result of sexual arousal, but also the body’s production of special chemicals for an erection. Viagra and its analogues will help you - by the way, Viagra costs 1300, and its substitutes range from 150 to 600 for 10 tablets. I tried it - the effect is amazing. There are many medical limitations and side effects. Everything is written in the instructions. The pills do not work without sexual arousal. But if your husband is lying that he has one thing or another, it means age - take pills. It happens that your wife fucks you so much that you’re about to cum, but she hasn’t yet, you relax - the orgasm recedes, but your penis also subsides

[Sunsh1ne]

And I think he’s a man. Here’s this little phrase about a friend who DRINKS THREE BOTTLES OF BEER A DAY AND HAS A GOOD WORTH!!! This means a husband’s friend tells someone else’s wife how his money is. A very interesting relationship. Or let’s say a friend tells his husband how great his money is, and the husband passes on to his wife this VALUABLE INFORMATION about how his friend’s money is good. Well, isn’t it nonsense? Can beer treat him?

Restless person. You love to fantasize, so this is the topic for you about men’s fantasies it is necessary, I believe that you will do great)

We hang out together often. But he tells his husband when they are together. He had a girlfriend, they broke up and now he has one or the other. His girlfriend left him. So he shares it. And my husband tells me when I grumble about beer. That he drinks and is all good. And he drinks a lot of beer and spirits. True friend is a little younger than my husband)

[Fargal94]

And I think he’s a man. Here’s this little phrase about a friend who DRINKS THREE BOTTLES OF BEER A DAY AND HIS GOOD WORTH!!! This means a husband’s friend tells someone else’s wife how his money is. A very interesting relationship. Or let’s say a friend tells his husband how great his money is, and the husband passes on to his wife this VALUABLE INFORMATION about how his friend’s money is good. Well, isn’t it nonsense? Can beer treat him?

Restless person. You love to fantasize, so this is the topic for you about men’s fantasies it is necessary, I believe that you will do great)

We hang out together often. But he tells his husband when they are together. He had a girlfriend, they broke up and now he has one or the other. His girlfriend left him. So he shares it. And my husband tells me when I grumble about beer. That he drinks and is all good. And he drinks a lot of beer and spirits. True, a friend is a little younger than my husband)

So we got to the bottom of it, let your husband stop drinking! And beer first of all!

[Let’s]

This means the husband’s friend tells someone else’s wife how things are going for him

By the way, I don’t see anything like that here. My wife and I have a friend (originally her friend) who later became common. Well, I quite calmly discuss intimate topics with her, and in detail. And who has toys and all that? She is discussing this with me, because my wife (her friend) is not very supportive of this topic, and she has no one to share it with, so we are discussing it, and plus she loves sex as much as I do. . And yes, I’ll say right away that there are no sexual relations between us. And it won’t. It’s just that when you’re good friends, even of opposite sexes, then why not discuss your erection or desires, or anything related to intimacy in general.

[Sunsh1ne]

So we got to the bottom of it, let your husband stop drinking! And beer first of all!

It’s as if he doesn’t get drunk

Our friend is drinking! And so far everything is fine with his sex life.

[Fargal94]

So we got to the bottom of it, let your husband stop drinking! And beer first of all!

It’s as if he doesn’t get drunk

Our friend is drinking! And so far everything is fine with his sex life.

. If you want to save the family, then try not to drink for at least a month and just not drink, but if it doesn’t work out, then I don’t know (. But a month without blues in any case will benefit your husband, and you too

[Hammer]

When they write to you that the ad is from a guy, it’s solely to test your intuition. Not a single woman would call her favorite vagina a hole! Only men do this when they write about women in a derogatory manner.
Yes, and I never tell a girl that a friend has something better (especially about a penis, that his is better, bigger, more energetic :yes: )

[Hair shirt]

Not a single woman would call her beloved vagina a hole!

Yes, I also noticed this.
In general, this whole topic is for me too seemed somehow stilted. The author’s imagination was only enough for the first post and then there were only inconsistencies. But I decided above not to pay attention to this and simply wrote down what I thought about all this as if I had not noticed any inconsistencies.
Maybe all this is true. My wife just wrote as best she could.

[Sunsh1ne]

Not a single woman would call her favorite vagina a hole!

As you can see, she will call it! Apparently the mood was bad, sometimes emotions win)
I agree that the “hole” came out rude, but for some reason it doesn’t bother me when I write it, if you get personal and say you have a hole there, of course it will hurt any girl. But why does this affect you so much? Next time I’ll write pussy, pussy, but no, better than my rosebud)

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The author’s imagination was only enough for the first post and then there were only inconsistencies

You’re talking about this again. Well, I can’t describe it in as much detail as you can. One word made everyone doubt.

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Yes, and I never tell a girl that a friend has something better

Yes, he also doesn’t say that a friend has something better that’s better. We discussed beer/alcohol in general and its effect on erections.

[Hammer]

36 years old, never had a vaginal orgasm and you write, we have high-quality, regular sex 1 - 2 times a week. Sounds like trolling. In fact, drugs from the tadalafil group will help. 15 - 20 minutes of an excellent boner is enough. For some, up to hours! Let’s run to the pharmacy! Tomorrow we are waiting for a text report on the result!

[Alena26]

Hello.
During sex with my husband, his erection declines (the penis becomes a little soft) and this can happen several times during sex. This causes me anxiety, when I ask, he answers in different ways, sometimes he’s tired, sometimes I don’t know, sometimes he was afraid to make noise, sometimes one testicle hurts...
We have been married for 15 years, we married for love and there is always sex and it has always been of high quality and often. With the exception of two pregnancies, those who have children will understand.
But about a year ago this problem appeared and I cannot understand what is happening. I start to imagine that my husband has stopped loving me, that he doesn’t want me anymore, or that he loves me but doesn’t want sex with me, or that he has problems with potency, but he won’t admit it (he doesn’t want to go to the doctor). As far as I know, there is no mistress. We have sex regularly 1-2 times a week. He is 42, I am 36. Tell me, what could it be? Why does this happen to a man?

he is either sick or you don’t excite him anymore, but everything is in your hands and more

[Swarm]

It seems to me that he’s just fucked up) give him a rest for a week, maybe more) see how everything changes)

[Sunsh1ne]

do you want to learn how to get aroused quickly?

I want, do you have a special method/instruction?

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You don’t suck him enough!

Why did they decide this? In your opinion, how often is it necessary?

My wife likes the position on her side with her back to me. And for the last few years it has always been this pose. There are others, but this is the predominant one. And it seems that it doesn’t matter to me - but I’m tired of it and don’t want it at all anymore. Hence the drop to half past five.

How did you solve this, did you talk to her? What do you do to diversify your sex life?

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I once dated a woman, I told her I did cunnilingus for one and a half to two hours, I moaned, even screamed, but I couldn’t cum, in the end I brought myself to the point with my hand. But she had some kind of emotional alienation, don’t you have that?

Sometimes this happens to me, it’s hard to turn off my head. This is usually when there is a difficult day or problems (probably everyone has this).

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After all, you yourself wrote that when your husband talked about sex with another girl, you became jealous. Now imagine his reaction. Moreover, your age difference, although not big, is 6 years, but you are younger. And then other thoughts may creep in, that you are bored with him and you are looking for an official way to sleep with someone else. I’m just telling you from the male side. Can you imagine? He cannot satisfy you. And he knows about it because you tell him about it. You offer another living member. What thoughts arise in this regard? There can be a lot of complexes here.

Indeed, I didn’t even think about it, maybe he really does have such a complex, but he won’t admit it to me in this.
Thank you for sharing your opinion.

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After all, you yourself wrote that when your husband talked about sex with another girl, you became jealous. Now imagine his reaction. Moreover, your age difference, although not big, is 6 years, but you are younger. And then other thoughts may creep in, that you are bored with him and you are looking for an official way to sleep with someone else. I’m just telling you from the male side. Can you imagine? He cannot satisfy you. And he knows about it because you tell him about it. You offer another living member. What thoughts arise in this regard? There can be a lot of complexes here.

Indeed, I didn’t even think about it, maybe he really does have such a complex, but he won’t admit it to me in this.
Thank you for sharing your opinion.

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I think he’s just fucked up) give him a rest for a week, maybe more) see how everything changes)

nWhy did you give a fuck? Deprive him of sex? Announce a “month of abstinence” challenge? )

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on either he’s sick or you don’t excite him anymore, but everything is in your hands and more

If I don’t excite him anymore, why does he pester me every week? He initiates sex more often than me.

Men, do you pester women if they don’t excite you? Is this sex for sex’s sake?

[Mitry]

Men, do you pester women if they don’t excite you? Is this sex for the sake of sex?

We pester you, but not with sexual intentions we sometimes want to eat or chat.
If a woman doesn’t excite you for sex, then really, why pester her, she won’t get hard!
But the world is not black and white , maybe the wife has been arousing for many years, but weakly. I want to have sex and have sex with someone, even with my wife, at the very least you can hook up. There are a lot of options.

[Seeker]

Deprive him of sex? Announce a “month of abstinence” challenge? )

But I don’t even think it’s worth joking about this.

Just watch your sex without choice. Without choice means without fear, without criticism, condemnation or justification... etc. Just watch. Then it will become natural and beautiful, in which there will be no stupid thoughts. In general, thoughts are not needed in sex, just feel.

[duch552]

Yes, he’s just not getting any younger, that’s all, stress and other stuff

[RANGE_]

Sorry, dear ones!

No matter what I read with advice on all the pages, there is only one question. Or rather, there are several of them.

1. On what basis did the cohabitation/marriage take place? What changed after from to.

2. Do you consider yourself sexually attractive - are you aroused by yourself? The same goes for my husband. Does he consider himself the same?

3. Reveal all your "cards" to each other - what does anyone want in bed. Okay, in bed, but in general, how a person treats a person in everyday life.
Is there emotional pressure in relationships?

But always remember and return to point N1 - why and why your relationship began. There the solution to the problem lies.