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I just came across it on a forum and read it with interest and copied and pasted it here. Maybe someone will be interested too. Or maybe someone will add or correct it.
First of all, I would like to warn you that some of the terms used in the text are quite new and unsettled. Some people don’t see any difference between them at all, while others think that all this doesn’t matter and is unnecessary speculation.
In the English-speaking segment of the Internet, the term SexWife (wife for sex) practically does not exist, there is only HotWife (hot wife, in the sense of "hot little thing") or SlutWife (whore wife). And Cuckold is just a husband whose wife is secretly cheating on him. There is a noteworthy opinion that the term SexWife was generally coined in Russia simply for greater clarity. It is quite possible, we will neither argue nor agree.
So, let’s get started. Swing, MFM, SexWife, Cuckold and HotWife: what do all these terms mean? What are the similarities and what are the differences?
And if there seem to be no special problems with Swing, then with the others there are discrepancies. Moreover, these same discrepancies begin as soon as a couple of swingers think about a possible meeting not with the same couple, but with a single man. That is, we are talking about MZHM. True-swingers ("true swingers" are a kind of knights of swing with a crown on their crown) this option is no longer recognized, they say, what kind of swing is this? Again, we will neither argue nor agree, but let us remind you that at least one ingredient is definitely there: a married couple wants to get to know each other closely. But with whom exactly, with the same couple, a man or a girl, is a completely different question, relating only to this couple. Is this swing? For a couple who has decided on MFM - yes. The question is closed.
By the way, it’s funny, but for some reason a couple’s acquaintance with a girl does not cause such sharp rejection of true swingers! I wonder why?)))
But let’s return to MZHM. This is a swinger term, it is quite understandable and transparent: Man, Woman, Man met in order to have group sex, the center of attraction in which is, undoubtedly, the Woman. Sometimes it is slightly modified and it turns into MMF. Most often it is implied that in this version the men in this trio are bisexual, so sexual contacts are possible between all participants. What if FMM or even F+MM? And this is already some hint at the Gang-Bang version of the Light)))
But in any case, for swingers this format is far from the main one, many couples, we repeat, do not recognize it at all!
Here we are to Sex-Wife or Hot-Wife.
For these thematic couples, MFM is the main one, albeit with slightly different rules, in its own way.
Sex-Wife or Wife-for-Sex, sounds exciting, doesn’t it?
Family game of "cheating", where the wife herself freely meets, flirts and has sex with other men, sometimes several at once; the husband is faithful to the "cheater" from whom he expects a story, photo or video, in general, "evidence of betrayal" (which excites both him and her wildly). Most often, the husband is prohibited from “cheating” with other women according to the terms of the game (and he himself doesn’t want to!), he is “Rogatik”. Well, the wife, accordingly, "Slut", "Bitch", "*damn" - depending on the agreements, desires, level of culture. Accordingly, the man with whom his wife "cheats" is a "lover", "hahal", "*bar". In some couples, the husband may be present at the meeting with the “lover,” observe the action, take photos/videos of it, and perhaps even participate. True, participation can be different: participation in sex, participation in preparing the meeting place, participation as an observer, or participation as a “servant,” “slave.” A humiliated and powerless husband at a meeting between his wife and her lover is precisely that same Cuckold. In any case, this is precisely the idea of ​​this term that has become entrenched in the Russian-language Internet, and this is unlikely to change. A cuckold is a masochist husband of a gorgeous *poisonous beauty SexWife, who enjoys dominating him with his wife and nothing else.
Hot-Wife or Hot-Wife (ahhh.. you can get burned!)
This is also a family game , but it is much closer to Swing: no one cheats on anyone, the wife and husband most often meet with men or women together, no sexual prohibitions are imposed on the husband. He, of course, can only observe and/or take photos and videos, but at will and by agreement. They choose a man, a “family friend,” again only together and by mutual agreement. No "Rogatiki", "Sluts" and "Fucks" for you, and at meetings the husband has greater "rights" than "lover". Big, in the sense that it is his reliable presence that allows the wife to completely relax, not think about anything, give control over what is happening to her husband and get maximum pleasure from the meeting. And men should be proud of themselves, looking at a tired cat purring with pleasure! And her gratitude will have no limits, get ready, boys!
This is already something close to BDSM - humiliation, moral and/or physical "bullying", excommunication from sex, "violent" bisex with "lover" in a passive role... It sounds creepy, but if everyone playing likes it, then that’s their business and only theirs. In the end, swing, from the point of view of generally accepted morality, is also a terrible perversion)))
So this is the same "swinger MFM"?
No, not really. Hot-wife implies more freedom, eroticism and emotions in the relationship between wife and "friend" outside of bed. In some couples, it is allowed to go to a restaurant and meet the wife with a “friend” without the husband (who is sure that nothing bad will happen to his beloved), it all depends on the agreements in the couple and the resulting “trio”)))
But here a lot depends on the “family friend.” He either likes this topic and accepts the jointly agreed upon rules of the game or... No open competition, jealousy during a meeting or “separate negotiations” with the wife behind the husband’s back are, of course, allowed later. If anything, an immediate break and a "wolf ticket" in the entire swing or HotWife community is guaranteed.
To summarize... Whoever is closer, chooses it. True swingers verbally do not like "mzhmschiki" (however, sometimes it turns out that they don’t even mind meeting a trio), strictly heterosexual men snort contemptuously at big guys (however, sometimes it turns out that they themselves are not against experimenting with bisex), desperate sexwifes seeing a charming themed girl on the site... In general, it’s clear)))
And some mix "genres", meeting this way and that and even completely awry - so you should never get into bed with your lover a married couple... unless she invites you there, of course.

[Shalun70]

yes, yes, I’ve read here more than once that the topics are voluminous and non-specialists cannot understand, and also that all this has already been discussed 1000 times, but to be honest, I perceive the grumbling of such characters as senile grumbling and treat them with condescension towards age.

Why are you rattling? I’m not a prude, let everyone have fun as they want and can. It just infuriates me when the ladies usually get indignant here. Because if a man cheats, then it’s his fault, but if you’re quiet yourself, then it’s okay. And I am for openness and respect for everyone. Well, I wanted something exotic, tell me, and not just a knife in the back.

[Beluga]

Well, you wanted something exotic, tell me, and not just a trick, a knife in the back.

so here we are talking about openness in terms of wives and cuckolds - where is the opening

[Bully Carrie]

Shalun70,
Honestly speaking, barely sold out through your original spelling
In fact, it seems that your wife cuckolded you, and this, of course, infuriates you.
And the point is, dear comrade, that betrayal is the result of the relationship of both partners to each other. Remember? Two people dance tango...

[Shalun70]

so here we are talking about openness in terms of wives and cuckolds - where is the opening

Have you read where the opinions differ? One person wanted to sit in the quiet fish and the fish and sit on horseradish... So I cocked it.

[Beluga]

so here we are talking about openness in terms of wifes and cuckolds - where is the opening

Have you read where the opinions differ? One person wanted to sit in the quiet fish and the fish and sit on horseradish... So I cocked it. much what kind of hypocrisy, and I tried some myself

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[Shalun70]

Honestly speaking, I barely sold myself through your original spelling
In fact, it seems that your wife cuckolded you, and this, of course, infuriates you.
nAnd the point is, dear comrade, that betrayal is the result of the relationship of both partners to each other. Remember? Two people dance tango...

Nonsense... First of all, I write in my native language without errors. Secondly, not everyone who lives here (I’m talking about the forum) can communicate without problems in all the languages ​​of the world... For example, you... how many foreign languages ​​do you speak?
I’ll upset you, my wife is cheating on me! Believe it or not, it’s up to you, there’s no point in convincing me... But I, like all people, faced betrayal, and a secret one at that. Then I married someone else. But regarding the fact that tango is danced in two... respect to you... you are 100% right... but what kind of tango are we talking about when a lady in a quiet dance dances with others...
One thing is when the wife says this dance I dance with you, next I want to dance with a girlfriend or friend... but then the white dance will be 100% yours... Something like this..

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don’t get cocky like that, it’s bad for the nerves, I’m also not too bigoted, and I tried some myself

I read... you seem to be a guy with experience... but you shouldn’t have signed up for sucking up... They will like you for a while deflection... and then they will forget... it’s better to remain yourself...

[Bully Carrie]

how many foreign languages ​​do you specifically speak?

Five, to varying degrees. For those that I don’t know very confidently, I don’t write or use a dictionary. What is your native language? You don’t write about this in your profile, so how can we guess that Russian is not your native language?

[Beluga]

by myself

I by myself, what I agree with, I support and fit in with, and what I don’t, I don’t

[Shalun70]

Five, to varying degrees. For those that I don’t know very confidently, I don’t write or use a dictionary. What is your native language? You don’t write about this in your profile, so how can we guess that Russian is not your native language?

I speak 4 languages ​​well. I speak Russian even without an accent... but I agree that Russian writing is poor... but not so much that people who want to understand will not understand. Sorry, this is not a scientific forum... well, I won’t bother with the glory here...
I think that we indicate in our wave profile what we want... you also did not indicate everything in yours. I don’t care about it.

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I am of course, what I agree with, I support and fit in with, and what I don’t agree with, I don’t

Okay, I’ll ask you three questions.
n1) Your wife tells you, dear, I love you, but I want to diversify my sex life. I wanted to go to the left or have a triplets or a couple for a couple... what will be your reaction?
2) You come to a party with friends or colleagues and after alcohol, through poisonous conversations, you find out that one of them had your wife . At first you are incredulous... and then they tell you in detail how the moles are located on your wife’s “pussy”. You begin to understand that only the one who undressed her can know this... what is your reaction?
3) Which of the two options is most acceptable to you and why?

[Beluga]

1) Your wife tells you, dear, I love you, but I want to diversify my sex life. I wanted to go to the left or have a triplets or a couple for a couple... what will be your reaction?
2) You come to a party with friends or colleagues and after alcohol, through poisonous conversations, you find out that one of them had your wife . At first you are incredulous... and then they tell you in detail how the moles are located on your wife’s “pussy”. You begin to understand that only the one who undressed her can know this... what is your reaction?
3) Which of the two options is most acceptable to you and why?

1) I already mentioned that the three of us met together with my wife, there were no couples, but it would be interesting to try it on occasion.
2) My friends don’t drink that much, and with colleagues it’s a purely working relationship without get-togethers. And so my reaction is "what a fool, messing with your inner circle "
3) Option 1)

[Shalun70]

1) I already mentioned that the three of us met together with my wife, there were no couples, but on occasion it would be interesting to try.
2) My friends don’t drink that much, and with colleagues it’s a purely working relationship without get-togethers. And so my reaction is "what a fool, stir things up with your inner circle"
3) Option 1)

There was no request to pour water here during conversation. Simple questions.
And we found out that you wouldn’t like it either if your wife secretly cuckolded you behind your back. That’s what I’m trying to tell all of you here.
You are a very gifted person who shares the same position with me, but out of lack of female attention you spoil women. Have a nice day...

[Beluga]

1) I already mentioned that the three of us met together with my wife, there were no couples, but it would be interesting to try it on occasion.
2) My friends don’t drink that much, and with my colleagues it’s purely a working relationship without gatherings. And so my reaction is "what a fool, stir things up with your inner circle"
3) Option 1)

There was no request to pour water here during conversation. Simple questions.
And we found out that you wouldn’t like it either if your wife secretly cuckolded you behind your back. That’s what I’m trying to tell all of you here.
You are a very gifted person who shares the same position with me, but out of lack of female attention you spoil women. Have a nice day...

The questions asked cannot be answered in monosyllables YES / NO. This doesn’t just apply to cheating. I would not like it if my wife took money from my wallet behind her back or my belongings, and especially if she lied at the same time. It seems to me that this would not bring pleasant emotions to anyone.