You have a new tenant at home

[Beluga]

If it’s expanding, then it’s not a good place to live.
Alcohol and tobacco, depending on how it is.
If you like the appearance and clothes, then so be it, the main thing is that there are no insects.
And at whose expense are the utilities and food?

[Keep the change for yourself]

Belukha, the situation is still hypothetical, but most likely for our and yours, that is, at the expense of the parents.

[Beluga]

Belukha, the situation is still hypothetical, but most likely for ours and yours, i.e. at the expense of the parents.

well, if it’s equal then we’ll welcome you

[Keep the change for yourself]

Belukha, situation Hypothetical for now, but most likely for ours and yours, that is, at the expense of the parents.

well, if it’s equal, then we’ll welcome

Not equally, the parasite (freeloader) started up (started up).

[Beluga]

Belukha, the situation is still hypothetical, but most likely for ours and yours, that is, at the expense of the parents.

well, if it’s equal then we’ll welcome

Not equally, the freeloader (freeloader) got wound up (started up).

then my house is my rules and community service

[King Bird]

I came across an interesting thought, I suggest discussing it.

Important clarification under the spoiler.

Pedophiles go to hell.
nWrite and express your alluring fantasies elsewhere.

Your coming of age(or close to it) the child brought home something resembling a person: dyed or with an incomprehensible haircut, wildly dressed, smoking and drinking (maybe smoking), not studying or working, and says:
- I love this creature and I can’t live without it, it will live with us, we have van love, relationships and all that.

Your actions? What do you think? What will you do?

There are not enough introductions here. What gender is your child - son or daughter? Well, accordingly, who was brought then - a girl or a guy? There are nuances.

Several general points. Expanding - immediately get out without talking and with a threat to call the police. I still didn’t have enough criminal substances in my apartment. Smoking is welcome outside (not into the entrance, and not into the balcony, but into the street, outside the entrance, regardless of the ambient temperature and time of year), smoking is prohibited in our apartment and in the entrance. Drinking - depending on quantity. If it’s moderate, then I’ll sit down and have a drink with them .

I don’t care about hairstyles and outfits, I once looked like someone unknown. I’ll understand that. And oddly enough, girls painted in acid colors even evoke sympathy.

Now gender specifics.

If the son brought such a girl, then let him work himself then for two. And the girl by any means necessary to help his wife in the kitchen. If they go to Denial, then they’ll have to get out. But I’ll help you rent a room in a communal apartment. And let them live like adults, separately.

If the daughter brought a parasite, then get him out. Even if he looks like a London dandy, a non-drinker, a non-smoker and a non-drinker. I won’t help rent a room.

[Keep the change for yourself]

King Zogu, excellent detailed answer!
I think similarly.
I did not indicate the gender of the children so that each participant in the discussion would think about their children and the possibility of such a situation.
One thing is certain, we fathers will have to participate in the arrangement of their lives long after our children’s 18th birthday, but we would like our children to choose an adequate mate for themselves, and not who the hell.

[Hair shirt]

There are not enough introductions here. What gender is your child - son or daughter? Well, accordingly, who was brought then - a girl or a guy? There are nuances.

Several general points. Expanding - immediately get out without talking and with a threat to call the police. I still didn’t have enough criminal substances in my apartment. Smoking is welcome outside (not into the entrance, and not into the balcony, but into the street, outside the entrance, regardless of the ambient temperature and time of year), smoking is prohibited in our apartment and in the entrance. Drinking - depending on quantity. If it’s moderate, then I’ll sit down and have a drink with them.

I don’t care about hairstyles and outfits, I myself once looked like someone unknown. I’ll understand that. And oddly enough, girls painted in acid colors even evoke sympathy.

Now gender specifics.

If the son brought such a girl, then let him work himself then for two. And the girl by any means necessary to help his wife in the kitchen. If they go to Denial, then they’ll have to get out. But I’ll help you rent a room in a communal apartment. And let them live like adults, separately.

If the daughter brought a parasite, then get him out. Even if he looks like a London dandy, a non-drinker, a non-smoker and a non-drinker. I won’t help rent a room.
A good conscience never gnaws at its owner.

I also wanted to ask two questions - who brought whom? The son of a girl or the daughter of a man?
And also something is unclear about the hypothetical nature. So has the child brought someone or not yet and this is just fear?
Well, in general, the question is really complicated. On the one hand, it’s good to initially set the condition for adult children that it’s okay to drag someone home.
If you love someone, rent a house. But an adult, smart child can then put his parents on the ass - like I’m registered here and have the right to living space. Let’s exchange the apartment then. I kind of insist. And here your dear blood will be right and may even sue you and sue you for its area. Yes, exactly like that.

Therefore, it is not easy for parents to drive a child out of the house - it is more expensive for yourself. Another question is if the child is not registered in the living space and is registered somewhere with the grandmother. Well, in general, in my opinion, a good child should not stutter about any placement at all and be glad that he has not yet been kicked out of the apartment and that he is fed, sung and his underwear and socks are washed. Well, in general, they are completely contained for now.

And this is the idea I would first of all convey to my child. As Maxim Gorky wrote about himself in his trilogy.
Grandfather Kashirin said - Lyaksey, you are not a medal for me to hang around my neck. Get out into the public!
So, I think an adult child should be informed that he must move away from his parents at some foreseeable date. That he is already an adult and should start an independent life himself. They say we parents will help and pay for housing for three months. Enough time to find a job and somehow in three months be able to pay for an apartment and a refrigerator.

And against this background, I think it will go without saying that it’s not today, tomorrow you have to move out yourself, but It’s not like dragging someone into the house to live.
In some families, parents specially create such unbearable conditions for an already adult child that he happily fucks himself away. Because they ask all sorts of different questions, pry into your personal life, rip your brains out about everything possible - late arrivals, irregular meals, how he dresses, how he spends his weekends, and so on and so forth.

nWell, in general, as soon as it finishes school, the kinder must immediately set the conditions that that’s it, the freebie is over. That you need to get out of the house, rent a house, look for a job and learn to live on your own. An exception may be if the child is studying at university. Well then, yes, we’ll have to support him for another five years. Or at least until he flies out or until he finishes.
Well, when he’s done, rent him a place for three months and evict him from his home.

I agree with daughters are more difficult. Therefore, back in the Soviet era, the first thing parents did was try to get their daughter married. Even right after school. And this was even more important than going somewhere. The daughter was getting married and he moved out from his parents. And even if she later got divorced after a year or two, it was easier for everyone. The daughter is already used to living separately and she herself will no longer want to share the space with someone, even with her parents.

Yes, there is a danger that if she kicks her daughter out of the house, she will then go from hand to hand. She will have nowhere to live and will live with one guy or another. Roaming on other people’s pillows. Therefore, of course, a daughter is a parent’s cross. But I definitely think fuck my daughter’s boyfriends!
And explain this to your daughter even before anyone appears with her. That you won’t let a man on the doorstep under any pretext and that she shouldn’t even start a conversation about it.