I’m acting like a complete idiot

[ilovebiboys]

Question to our dear men, have you ever felt like a complete idiot in a relationship with a girl? Were there any cases when you stopped, slapped yourself on the forehead with your fingers and thought: “Well, what an asshole I am! And why am I such an asshole?”, and in what cases did this happen?
Share your cringe stories, dear ones

[Xenophon]

Women are to blame, but not for everything. Women are to blame for the fact that they sincerely believe that with their good attitude and their love they can correct the character and habits of a man. Hence these strange maxims that a man must realize, draw conclusions and improve. He shouldn’t because that’s how he was brought up and that’s how his character was formed. And he didn’t hide who he really was. And his lady saw this very well, but thought that she could handle it and chose him. What is he guilty of? There was something I didn’t realize about the fact that I didn’t succumb to re-education. So he didn’t promise anything of this and sincerely believes that his girlfriend began to find fault with him. And he remained the same as he was.
Dear ladies, you are not mistaken in your choice, you are mistaken in the fact that you can correct a man. You can not. Therefore, when choosing a life partner, choose those who suit you here and now. So that later you won’t be offended either by life in general or by men in particular.
But I’ll bring a bit of optimism. For every deer there is a doe. I believe in it.

[Venus]

And he didn’t hide who he really is

The fact of the matter is that men hide it both during the period of acquaintance and the first steps in a relationship, behave completely differently, and only then relax. So maybe you shouldn’t relax?

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

Women are to blame, but not for everything. Women are to blame for the fact that they sincerely believe that with their good attitude and their love they can correct the character and habits of a man. Hence these strange maxims that a man must realize, draw conclusions and improve. He shouldn’t because that’s how he was brought up and that’s how his character was formed. And he didn’t hide who he really was. And his lady saw this very well, but thought that she could handle it and chose him. What is he guilty of? There was something I didn’t realize about the fact that I didn’t succumb to re-education. So he didn’t promise anything of this and sincerely believes that his girlfriend began to find fault with him. And he remained the same as he was.
Dear ladies, you are not mistaken in your choice, you are mistaken in the fact that you can correct a man. You can not. Therefore, when choosing a life partner, choose those who suit you here and now. So that later you won’t be offended either by life in general or by men in particular.
But I’ll bring a bit of optimism. For every deer there is a doe. I believe in this.

do you think that the one who beats his wife beats her from the first days of their acquaintance? Do you think that if he hits her on the first date, she will agree to live with him?

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And he didn’t hide who he really is

nThe fact of the matter is that men hide it and during the period of acquaintance and the first steps in a relationship, they behave completely differently, and only then relax. So maybe you shouldn’t relax?

they relax when they already have a bunch of children and a mortgage, as a rule..

[ololohov]

There were a lot of girls I dumped in relationships. I was often considered a radish for leaving the girl, but on the other hand, I did the right thing in not wasting time on girls who don’t give) An asshole, but there was no pussy suffering)

[Xenophon]

Women are to blame, but not for everything. Women are to blame for the fact that they sincerely believe that with their good attitude and their love they can correct the character and habits of a man. Hence these strange maxims that a man must realize, draw conclusions and improve. He shouldn’t because that’s how he was brought up and that’s how his character was formed. And he didn’t hide who he really was. And his lady saw this very well, but thought that she could handle it and chose him. What is he guilty of? There was something I didn’t realize about the fact that I didn’t succumb to re-education. So he didn’t promise anything of this and sincerely believes that his girlfriend began to find fault with him. And he remained the same as he was.
Dear ladies, you are not mistaken in your choice, you are mistaken in the fact that you can correct a man. You can not. Therefore, when choosing a life partner, choose those who suit you here and now. So that later you won’t be offended either by life in general or by men in particular.
But I’ll bring a bit of optimism. For every deer there is a doe. I believe in this.

do you think that the one who beats his wife beats her from the first days of their acquaintance? Do you think that if he hits her on the first date, she will agree to live with him?

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And he didn’t hide who he really is

nThe fact of the matter is that men hide it and during the period of acquaintance and the first steps in a relationship, they behave completely differently, and only then relax. So maybe you shouldn’t relax?

they relax when they already have a lot of children and a mortgage, as a rule..

You know the example of beating before marriage may seem extreme, but I have a life example. I’ll wean him off, you don’t understand. He is good. He just had no luck with women! I haven’t weaned it off. Two children, true, without a mortgage, but with endless lawsuits. Even if he hit a stray cat in front of you, that’s all a diagnosis.
You yourself write "relaxing". Those. this was already the case initially. In rudeness towards parents, towards you, towards children. Run without looking back and don’t wait for him to relax.

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

Women are to blame, but not for everything. Women are to blame for the fact that they sincerely believe that with their good attitude and their love they can correct the character and habits of a man. Hence these strange maxims that a man must realize, draw conclusions and improve. He shouldn’t because that’s how he was brought up and that’s how his character was formed. And he didn’t hide who he really was. And his lady saw this very well, but thought that she could handle it and chose him. What is he guilty of? There was something I didn’t realize about the fact that I didn’t succumb to re-education. So he didn’t promise anything of this and sincerely believes that his girlfriend began to find fault with him. And he remained the same as he was.
Dear ladies, you are not mistaken in your choice, you are mistaken in the fact that you can correct a man. You can not. Therefore, when choosing a life partner, choose those who suit you here and now. So that later you won’t be offended either by life in general or by men in particular.
But I’ll bring a bit of optimism. For every deer there is a doe. I believe in this.

do you think that the one who beats his wife beats her from the first days of their acquaintance? Do you think that if he hits her on the first date, she will agree to live with him?

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The fact of the matter is that men hide it during the period of dating and the first steps in a relationship, they behave completely differently, and only then relax. So maybe you shouldn’t relax?

they relax when they already have a lot of children and a mortgage, as a rule..

You know the example of beating before marriage may seem extreme, but I have a life example. I’ll wean him off, you don’t understand. He is good. He just had no luck with women! I haven’t weaned it off. Two children, true, without a mortgage, but with endless lawsuits. Even if he hit a stray cat in front of you, that’s all a diagnosis.
You yourself write "relaxing". Those. this was already the case initially. In rudeness towards parents, towards you, towards children. Run without looking back and don’t wait for him to relax.

well, this is an isolated case.. I didn’t have this happen.

[Xenophon]

you think the one who beats his wife , he beats her from the first days of their acquaintance? Do you think that if he hits her on the first date, she will agree to live with him?

Sent after 1 minute 36 seconds: they relax when there are already a lot of children and a mortgage, as a rule..

You know the example of beating before marriage can and it may seem extreme, but I have a life example. I’ll wean him off, you don’t understand. He is good. He just had no luck with women! I haven’t weaned it off. Two children, true, without a mortgage, but with endless lawsuits. Even if he hit a stray cat in front of you, that’s all a diagnosis.
You yourself write "relaxing". Those. this was already the case initially. In rudeness towards parents, towards you, towards children. Run without looking back and don’t wait for him to relax.

well, this is an isolated case.. I didn’t have this happen.

This is an extreme case. And if he throws his socks around, puts his toothbrush in the wrong place, or, even worse, doesn’t close the tube of toothpaste. He jokes poorly, burps at the table, only remembers you when he needs something from you, is stingy, doesn’t let you use your car, treats your dog badly and, in the end, doesn’t give you flowers.
If you are ready to put up with something and it doesn’t annoy you, then thank God. And if not, you won’t change it or convince it.

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

You know the example of beating before marriage may seem extreme, but I have a real-life example. I’ll wean him off, you don’t understand. He is good. He just had no luck with women! I haven’t weaned it off. Two children, true, without a mortgage, but with endless lawsuits. Even if he hit a stray cat in front of you, that’s all a diagnosis.
You yourself write "relaxing". Those. this was already the case initially. In rudeness towards parents, towards you, towards children. Run without looking back and don’t wait for him to relax.

well, this is an isolated case.. I didn’t have this happen.

This is an extreme case. And if he throws his socks around, puts his toothbrush in the wrong place, or, even worse, doesn’t close the tube of toothpaste. He jokes poorly, burps at the table, only remembers you when he needs something from you, is stingy, doesn’t let you use your car, treats your dog badly and, in the end, doesn’t give you flowers.
If you are ready to put up with something and it doesn’t annoy you, then thank God. And if not, you won’t change it or convince them.

I have never changed anyone, I never even thought about it. It was not about this at all, that someone wants to re-educate someone, but about the fact that if you offended someone or messed up, realize your mistake and try to correct it.

[Xenophon]

well, this is an isolated case.. I haven’t had this happen.

This is an extreme case. And if he throws his socks around, puts his toothbrush in the wrong place, or, even worse, doesn’t close the tube of toothpaste. He jokes poorly, burps at the table, only remembers you when he needs something from you, is stingy, doesn’t let you use your car, treats your dog badly and, in the end, doesn’t give you flowers.
If you are ready to put up with something and it doesn’t annoy you, then thank God. And if not, you won’t change it or convince them.

I have never changed anyone, I never even thought about it. It was not about this at all, that someone wants to re-educate someone, but about the fact that if you offended someone or messed up, realize your mistake and try to correct it.

Not meeting you late in the evening with heavy bags from work because
he was drinking beer with friends is not perceived by him as a joint, but is perceived as your nagging. This is not a mistake for him, but your stupidity and lack of understanding of his subtle mental organization.
It was fashionable for me to screw up like this, but I felt guilty and it was inconvenient for me to do this next time. But I have not a subtle, but a decent mental organization. And believe me, when women met me, this was obvious. And those who couldn’t see it were simply unlucky.
Although, to be honest, I’m still a moron in life, but for the sake of decency you can turn a blind eye to something.

[Bully Carrie]

And who am I after this?

Like who? Budding romantic! and now you are an incorrigible romantic, and that’s wonderful!

[Bully Carrie]

or even worse, it doesn’t close the tube of toothpaste

exactly. One of my partners was terribly annoyed that I forgot to close the shampoo after a shower. He silently took me by the hand, led me to the bathroom, silently pointed his finger at the unclosed cap of the shampoo bottle, and in his eyes there was a universal reproach... It was hard to see how he was suffering. So I quickly left him. He was worried and tried to return her, but he really could change her.

[ilovebiboys]

or even worse, it doesn’t close the tube of toothpaste

exactly. One of my partners was terribly annoyed that I forgot to close the shampoo after a shower. He silently took me by the hand, led me to the bathroom, silently pointed his finger at the unclosed cap of the shampoo bottle, and in his eyes there was a universal reproach... It was hard to see how he was suffering. So I quickly left him. He was worried and tried to return her, but he really could change her.

Did we live with you or something?
you just don’t understand how annoying it is when it tips over open on the shelf and floods everything and everyone around... and it also freezes and cleaning up, of course, is not a man’s job))

[Xenophon]

or even worse, it doesn’t close the tube of toothpaste

exactly. One of my partners was terribly annoyed that I forgot to close the shampoo after a shower. He silently took me by the hand, led me to the bathroom, silently pointed his finger at the unclosed cap of the shampoo bottle, and in his eyes there was a universal reproach... It was hard to see how he was suffering. So I quickly left him. He was worried and tried to return her, but he really could change her.

Did we live with you or something?
you just don’t understand how annoying it is when it tips over open on the shelf and floods everything and everyone around... and it also freezes and cleaning up, of course, is not a man’s job))

So you’re out of luck . I always close the tubes on principle.

[ilovebiboys]

exactly. One of my partners was terribly annoyed that I forgot to close the shampoo after a shower. He silently took me by the hand, led me to the bathroom, silently pointed his finger at the unclosed cap of the shampoo bottle, and in his eyes there was a universal reproach... It was hard to see how he was suffering. So I quickly left him. He was worried and tried to return her, but he really could change her.

Did we live with you or something?
you just don’t understand how annoying it is when it tips over open on the shelf and floods everything and everyone around... and it also freezes and cleaning up, of course, is not a man’s job))

So you’re out of luck . I always close the tubes on principle.

Well, I myself am not without sin) I also have habits that can piss someone off

[Bully Carrie]

how infuriating it is when it tips over open on the shelf and floods everything and everyone around...

I had thick, stable bottles, they did not tip over. The point is different: he was simply infuriated by the disorder, when he did not follow the ruler exactly. Loose drawers also upset him.

[ilovebiboys]

It was also frustrating that the drawers weren’t pushed in tightly.

listen, you’re already scaring me
what else pissed him off?))) if it’s not a secret

[Faker]

He was also upset by the loose drawers.

What a wonderful and calm person, whose whole nature called for harmony!

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ilovebiboys, We noticed the same proposal. Funny :)

[ilovebiboys]

He was also upset by the drawers not being pushed tightly.

What a wonderful and calm person, whose whole nature called for harmony!

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ilovebiboys, We noticed the same proposal. Funny:)

thank you for appreciating my pedantry

[Bully Carrie]

what else pissed him off?))) if it’s not a secret

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what else pissed him off?))) if it’s not a secret

Well, that’s all. He wanted the apartment to look as if no one lived in it. And I was laying it out - horror! - the books I read, the blanket I used to cover myself with, left a cup of tea on the coffee table and didn’t close the drawers tightly. Therefore, as Xenofont rightly writes Ksenofont, I was can’t be fixed, so I left. To the one who endures all this))

[Faker]

Therefore, as Xenophon rightly writes, I could not be corrected, and I left.

There were two options - either he had to change or you had to leave. There were no other options. From what you wrote, it is immediately clear that the person is inadequate. And living with this is just torture.

[Venus]

Hooligan Carrie, he may have had obsessive-compulsive disorder .

[Bully Carrie]

maybe he had obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Most likely, yes. Then it was all the more necessary to get out.

[RealMax]

Hooligan Carrie, and not the fact that she would go to whom he did not have another even more obsessive disorder, and perhaps without compulsive))