Ephemeral love and fantasies. Really want to...

Unread post by **archery** » 22 Oct 2022, 12:28

Polly: ↑22 Oct 2022, 11:21 My problem is...

If you knew what it was like to live without ever experiencing even approximately similar feelings, this is a problem It definitely wouldn’t be for you. In any case) Believe me

Unread post by **Lara** » 22 Oct 2022, 12:35

Perhaps this is an attraction to the image of an ideal man that you yourself have drawn in your head and idealized? If you do not have the opportunity to spend time with him, get to know each other more, How did you realize that he was so awesome? We’re not talking about Chris Kelmi now, are we?)

Unread post by **Polly** » 22 Oct 2022, 12:42

qwas: ↑22 Oct 2022, 12:28 not having experienced even approximately similar feelings

I can’t believe it, unfortunately. You can’t tell it to the deaf, you can’t show it to the blind. How can someone who has never experienced such a thing know whether such feelings are something good or bad? On the contrary, only those who have experienced them can say for sure. And I can say that there is nothing magical or cool about the fact that you love to the depths of your soul, with every part of yourself, some person and cannot be with him - no. It’s not cool, it’s not fun, and it’s not fun. It is often sad and offensive. Although I like this feeling, if I don’t start thinking about my possibilities. I’m exaggerating and not talking about the “problem.” Psychologists came to report this.

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Lara: ↑22 Oct 2022, 12:35 If you don’t have the opportunity to spend time with him, to get to know each other more,

You apparently haven’t fully studied the topic. We communicate, we are in contact. This is not about a mythical character. We also have time together. I visit him periodically. And over the years of our interaction, I had a lot of opportunities to understand how awesome he is) There were actions. Many different ones.

Unread post by **archery** » 22 Oct 2022, 12:53

Polly: ↑22 Oct 2022, 12:48 You can’t tell the deaf, you can’t show it to the blind.

The point here is that it’s better to remember what happened with a smile than to regret what didn’t happen It happened. Absence, it can be worse.

Unread post by **Polly** » 22 Oct 2022, 12:59

qwas: ↑22 Oct 2022, 12:53 Absence, it can be worse.

The fact that it was/is is definitely cool. And it’s not so much about feelings, but about the events that they entailed. There were many happy moments. Lots of meetings, hugs. Happiness is fleeting. It consists of such moments. So yes. Even though everything is not perfect, in many ways this is the best thing that happened in my life

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Lara: ↑22 Oct 2022, 12:35 We’re not talking about Chris Kelmi now, are we?)

He died a little) I not a necrophiliac)

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It would also be interesting to know from men. It’s clear that everyone is individual and everyone has their own cockroaches in terms of fantasies, but is there one most common desire, something that almost all men like (or want in sex)? What they don’t always talk about openly, but fantasize about.

I really want to know about his preferences in sex , about fantasies and desires. Perhaps the moment will come when I decide to take a closer step\conversation. An opportunity will arise and everything will work out well. I find myself thinking that I’m ready for almost any experiments with him.

Unread post by **archery** » 23 Oct 2022, 02:11

I would compare it roughly to this situation.

Let’s say a certain Vasily is happy about the upcoming weekend, looking forward to relaxing with his favorite beer at the computer and two whole days of unrestrained games. But, the day before, he received an offer to go to the mountains/scuba dive/fly in a helicopter. Let’s take the last case. And since childhood, Vasily dreamed of becoming a pilot...

And so, two contradictory feelings are fighting in him - on the one hand, he is drawn to a warm, cozy, lived-in and well-known comfort zone. Plus fear of something new and possible upcoming expenses. On the other hand, a lot of adventures, a lot of interesting things, good company and unforgettable impressions - a childhood dream, again.

Here a split arises and we can trace two alternative branches of events. Let’s say our hero showed cowardice, made a choice in favor of a quiet existence, refused to change his life and did nothing. But, over time, he becomes aware that this trip turned out to be extremely interesting. Vadim, who took his place, did not just ride a helicopter - he managed to sit down at the control levers, grounding the retired pilot. The guys got into a real adventure, found themselves in the center of exciting events, took part in eliminating the cataclysm, saving people, and so on and so forth. Can you imagine what Vasily could feel?!

This whole story was heard by a certain Ivan, to whom fate not only does not offer such opportunities, but even very actively discourages him from them. Moreover, when Ivan himself tries to get into something like this, he is left with only an extremely heavy aftertaste in his soul and bad memories that bring acute mental pain. And he can realize his dream only in virtual reality, hanging out in various simulators. But an interesting point is that Ivan heard this story from the words of Vadim, who, as the story progressed, constantly told how his shoes were chafing, the sun was blinding him, he wanted to shit all the time and was worried that money would be stolen from his backpack.

In general, if Vasily can only feel annoyance at the missed opportunity. And, of course, if you promise yourself to do exactly the opposite next time, then Ivan’s feelings are quite difficult to fully imagine.

This is my point of view on the same events . And, I repeat, sometimes the absence of something can be much worse than even a bad development of events.

Unread post by **Polly** » 23 Oct 2022, 03:21

qwas, Now, without knowing it, you accidentally got into this story-comparison of one real moment with this person. It’s a funny coincidence, it gave me goosebumps.
I wanted to look back

I understood your comparison and message) And in principle I agree with it

Unread post by **archery** » 23 Oct 2022, 08:03

Calm down, there’s no one behind me

It’s just that our story is quite common, albeit in different variations)

Unread post by **Polly** » 23 Oct 2022, 11:40

qwas, the story is quite clear)
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And a small offshoot of this topics

Re: What do almost all men want in sex?

Unread post by **niqk** » 24 Oct 2022, 09:26

Clearly clear - all men want pleasure! And not only men! Only women often surround their
desires with so many conditions that...

Unread post by **Polly** » 24 Oct 2022, 09:32

niqk, women want no less.
An interested woman in love will not state any conditions. Vice versa. She herself is interested in giving maximum pleasure.
And if the conditions are straight, then it’s just sex for the sake of sex, or the woman is not particularly interested in the process\man, etc.

Unread post by **niqk** » 24 Oct 2022, 09:35

Agree. Only now there are fewer and fewer such women. Unfortunately! Too many people try to catch some benefit
from love relationships. Instead of romance, the wallet reigns!

Unread post by **Polly** » 24 Oct 2022, 09:40

niqk, yeah nope. Absolutely not. Feelings\emotions\needs (including the needs of love and romance) have not disappeared from the face of the earth. But as they say, you can’t order your heart. As long as there are men who delight and make the heart beat faster, there will also be women who are ready to go to the ends of the earth and to a hut and without conditions) Well, if there are none and no one is catching you, then they will come with a purse and just "for health" ", as my neighbor said) With conditions, of course) How is it according to the classics? "We have lost the spirit of adventurism"

Unread post by **niqk** » 24 Oct 2022, 09:47

Well, not completely gone. You manage to find enough girls who love sex itself! Just sex for pleasure!
But, I repeat, there are not too many of them...

Unread post by **Polly** » 24 Oct 2022, 09:57

niqk, everyone loves sex for pleasure. It’s just that not everyone is ready for it with a stranger, for example. For some, complexes do not allow it, for others, principles do not allow it. If you speak, for example, for yourself. Quite often there were moments when you were very excited and just wanted sex. It makes absolutely no difference with whom. Familiar\unfamiliar. I want to go searching for myself at such moments)) Fortunately masturbation helps and relieves a little

Unread post by **niqk** » 24 Oct 2022, 10:01

Bravo, madam! It’s rare to see such sincere recognition. Respect!!! :shamp:

Unread post by **Polly** » 24 Oct 2022, 10:11

niqk, here it’s easier to somehow be yourself, that’s all after all, the forum is not cutting and sewing. And it pleases)

Unread post by **niqk** » 24 Oct 2022, 10:13

Polly: ↑24 Oct 2022, 10:11 niqk, it’s somehow easier here be yourself, after all, the forum is not cutting and sewing. And this makes me happy)

That’s why such forums are useful. People can communicate freely and discuss problems that few people can even
just tell about! Although there are trolls here too...

Unread post by **Polly** » 24 Oct 2022, 10:26

yeah... This weekend went by like a blur for me. Only in masturbation. In thoughts, in memories, in plans. Thanks in part to the forum. He continued my wave of emotions. I had a hard time going to work today.
Lately it’s been particularly difficult. Or be sad or masturbate)

Unread post by **niqk** » 24 Oct 2022, 10:30

Of course, masturbate! And more! And you can communicate with forum members by correspondence! You can send me a personal message...
And sadness adds unnecessary wrinkles to even the most beautiful ladies...

Unread post by **Polly** » 24 Oct 2022, 10:39

Much more) I haven’t had marathons like this weekend for a long time) With minimal breaks. I would say that it was a “lazy” weekend on the couch, because that’s where I spent it. But no. Not exactly lazy. Excitement to the point of trembling just from thoughts and fantasies. Thank you to nature for not depriving us of the opportunity to visualize perfectly)
Well, there’s nowhere without sadness. It’s all in fantasy. And I want this to happen in real life.

Unread post by **Polly** » 24 Oct 2022, 19:52

I’m not looking for anyone. Neither in real life, nor on the Internet. I need a specific person. One, dear and only.
And I’m not looking for anyone on the forum. I’m just venting here. Like in a diary. It’s really very difficult. And like this you can’t tell anyone openly. And this is a very strong feeling, burning from the inside.

Unread post by **AlexK85** » 20 Nov 2022, 07:24

Polly: ↑24 Oct 2022, 09:12 And a small branch of this topic
Re: What do almost all men want in sex?

And here I am, remembering the time when there was sex in my life), I want to say that most of all I adored giving pleasure to a lady, for me it was such a thrill to touch her, listen to her, feel her body shudder and watch her breathe languidly... it’s great)

Unread post by **Mihaaa 4** » 03 Dec 2022, 07:57

Yes, you fell in love. I had this. After the breakup, I was burned out from the inside for about 15 years. While you are in love, you flutter and move mountains, but...

Unread post by **dva2dva** » 03 Dec 2022, 09:06

My situation is a little different... But the feelings are also one-sided. One-sided. One day a woman came to work with us from another city (transferred to our office). I talked to her on the phone just before the move, for work. We discussed several issues related to the move and already over the phone, we somehow developed a friendly relationship, talked three times and during conversations deviated from work topics and switched to detached ones, the weather, and various garbage not related to work, but then nothing personal. But it was already clear that the contact was more than purely working. Let’s just say it’s friendly. The moment came when she arrived and from the very first day friendly relations developed. I fell in love with her.. And I fell in love hard. After a month of dating, we slept together and started dating, but there is one thing - I’m married. In general, to put it briefly, the relationship lasted 4 months, then we broke up on her initiative. This was three years ago. Since then she has been married and pregnant. But I’ve had feelings for three years now. At first, after the breakup, I didn’t sleep at night.. Now I’ve let it go. But there wasn’t a single day when I didn’t at least somehow remember her, didn’t think about her. Everything was complicated by the fact that we work in the same company. And we had to cross paths. Sometimes I wonder how it could have been. Sometimes I think that this is how it should have been, but the feelings haven’t gone away. Yes, love is a wonderful feeling, but when it is mutual, and when it is in one direction it is an ass.

Unread post by **niqk** » 03 Dec 2022, 09:29

Yeah... I can only sympathize with you... And wish you good luck in finding a replacement...

Unread post by **Polly** » 03 Dec 2022, 17:57

dva2dva: ↑03 Dec 2022, 09:06 Now it has let go

I was also let go, it would seem. And then it came with renewed vigor. I feel like I’m in some kind of captivity, but I can’t do anything about it.

Unread post by **dva2dva** » 03 Dec 2022, 22:42

Polly: ↑03 Dec 2022, 17:57 I feel like I’m in some kind of captivity, but I can’t do anything about it

Maybe I should still pluck up the courage and open up to this person? But only when we meet. You still can’t guess the consequences. It is quite possible that he will stop communicating with you, or maybe, on the contrary, you will become closer. But it’s not for nothing that they say that it’s better to regret what you did than what you couldn’t do. And in the future you will be able to tell yourself that - yes, I loved and I tried to do what I could. Why blame yourself later for not opening up?

Unread post by **Polly** » 04 Dec 2022, 01:28

dva2dva: ↑03 Dec 2022, 22:42 Can you still muster up the courage and open up to this person?

Oh no, he definitely won’t reciprocate now, I’ll only make it worse. And he doesn’t have any events yet for which I could arrange a meeting and come. And I not only don’t want a wall between us, but I’m also afraid. It’s hard for me without him.

Especially now, not so long ago we had a situation because of which he was offended by me. Although he says that he is not offended, I feel this cold perfectly. It’s already very hard for me I hope this will settle down soon. But I’m not ready to lose him completely. If I admit it, I need to be at least a little sure that he also has an attraction to me. I’m not sure about this...

Unread post by **dva2dva** » 04 Dec 2022, 01:52

Polly: ↑04 Dec 2022, 01:28We need a case

I understand that in real life not everything is as simple as give advice what and how. Moreover, we still don’t see the whole picture and don’t know the nuances. But for such a case to arise, we must go for it. That is, to be in his field of vision as much as possible. Either in person or by correspondence, if possible. Well, in general, at least try to remind yourself somehow. The more you are in his space, the better. I’m not saying impose. Sometimes even one fleeting message is enough to remind you of yourself. I have friends like this, they worked together, they also write from time to time just like that.. The difference is 15 years. She writes out of the blue, nothing personal, but I really appreciate it..

Unread post by **Polly** » 04 Dec 2022, 01:58

dva2dva: ↑04 Dec 2022, 01:52 That is, to be in his field of vision as much as possible.

I agree with this... I try. It seems to me that lately there has been too much of me in his field of vision. Personally, no, but correspondence, yes. I’m writing as if I’m on business. But if it weren’t for my recent mistake for which he is offended. And so it seemed to me that somehow our communication became easier. Now the new year is approaching, he has a lot of filming and performances. Literally no time for my messages. But he still answers, for which I thank you. Especially considering the offense.

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In general, all my “troubles” in this story are precisely that I am starting to lose my subordination.
I realize this, but as a rule, only after I said something\did something wrong.
They began to allow me something more than usual and I got carried away)
It’s also important, it seems to me, to keep it to myself, giving the right to the man to be the first to show some aspects.

Unread post by **dva2dva** » 04 Dec 2022, 02:07

Polly: ↑04 Dec 2022, 01:58 Especially considering the offense

Don’t dwell on the offense. If he answers you, it means he is not very offended. Believe me, if he was very offended, he would stop writing. So don’t worry too much about this, just learn a lesson for yourself so you don’t repeat it and move on.

Unread post by **Polly** » 04 Dec 2022, 02:47

dva2dva: ↑04 Dec 2022, 02:07 If he answers you, it means he is not very offended

Just a gentleman to the core. But you can feel the cold. Somehow I even started saying hello every other time in messages. Of course, I’m also putting pressure on myself because I’m worried. But in conversations with him I do not touch on this topic.

dva2dva: ↑04 Dec 2022, 02:07 just learn a lesson for yourself

I did. Thank you very much for your support

Unread post by **dva2dva** » 04 Dec 2022, 03:17

Polly: ↑04 Dec 2022, 02:47 But the cold is felt

The key point is "answers and writes", this is the main thing, it means not everything is so serious, but the cold will pass. And the grievances will pass.

Unread post by **Alyosha** » 04 Dec 2022, 03:43

I have a friend with about the same situation, a lot of fantasies, some stilted dialogues about something, but not sex...
She herself is married and has four children, she got married at 18, she had two friends, one didn’t dare, but the second one took the girl down the aisle
Considering that both are from wealthy Moscow families - the girl does not experience everyday problems, she does not have a headache from worries, but thoughts about lost opportunities, possibilities and adventures of the young woman are constantly spinning in her head chicks - all these experiences are focused on that man who did not dare to take her
she is sick of him, but deep down she understands that if she sleeps with him, then, to some extent, she will be disappointed in him - he will not be the one she is talking about dreams
in general - try to have sex with that guy, maybe you will calm down, otherwise it will be a situation like my friend who, with her fantasies, is filing the foundation of her prosperous family and the future of her children

Unread post by **Polly** » 04 Dec 2022, 04:34

Alyosha: ↑04 Dec 2022, 03:43 try to have sex with that guy

yes, I’m all for it) How? You can’t say it directly. We need some kind of occasion. For such closeness. This is how it should be. As for the rest, I’m all for it. I really want him.
But I’m unlikely to be disappointed, even if the sex wasn’t wow.

Unread post by **Hammer** » 04 Dec 2022, 05:34

Absolutely unpromising relationship. If you are 30+ as in the profile, forget about him. Find a peer, you need to have time to somehow improve your personal life.

Unread post by **Polly** » 04 Dec 2022, 05:56

Hammer: ↑04 Dec 2022, 05:34 forget about him. Find a peer, you need to have time to somehow improve your personal life.

I’m 33. I can’t forget about it. No matter how banal it may sound, you can’t command your heart. Man occupies a huge place in my life and heart. Even if it happens that I move away from him someday, I will not be able to completely throw him out of my heart and forget\forget him. But I’m not closed to relationships either. If there is a person with whom I can take my mind off these thoughts, who will fill them with himself and give me something that I could admire - why not? That is, I’m not obsessed, but so far I don’t see anyone who would be better than him

Unread post by **Comrade** » 04 Dec 2022, 06:20

Polly, Juno and Avos, second series, love Cum and Razanova.

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Polly, Sorry, typo! Conchita and Count Ryazanov.

Unread post by **Hammer** » 04 Dec 2022, 06:29

Polly,
If anyone then signs of attention, care, respect in your direction, get together and live together. You want to have time to give birth to a child? The happiest marriages, according to the stereotype, are sympathy, common views on life. And as for friendship, a lot of men probably wrote to you in a personal message

Unread post by **Alyosha** » 04 Dec 2022, 08:03

Polly: ↑04 Dec 2022, 04:34 But I’m unlikely to be disappointed, even if the sex wasn’t wow

the question is not only about the quality of sex, but about how he will behave after it , because formally he will already be on his “territory” and there will no longer be a need to observe the standards of decency as with a stranger
as for seduction - touch more often when meeting, hug at any opportunity (for example, offer to take a selfie and hug him), while wearing nice and slightly revealing clothes, for example a dress with a deep neckline or a blouse with several buttons undone and all without a bra, so that when hugging him he can sneak a look at your breasts - I think he will understand

Unread post by **Polly** » 04 Dec 2022, 08:30

Alyosha: ↑04 Dec 2022, 08:03 I think he will understand

I will take into account both experience and instruction)
We have no problems with hugging when we meet. He is a tactile person, he always hugs both when meeting and for selfies... So that you can’t escape) He’s such a cat.

Unread post by **Denach** » 04 Dec 2022, 08:37

Polly: ↑04 Dec 2022, 08:30 I will take into account both experience and instruction)
We have no problems with hugging when we meet. He is a tactile person, he always hugs both when meeting and for selfies... So that you can’t escape) He’s such a cat

well, that’s probably all in public one thing, but when in a smaller circle it’s another

Unread post by **Alyosha** » 04 Dec 2022, 09:49

Polly: ↑04 Dec 2022, 08:30
Alyosha: ↑04 Dec 2022, 08:03 I think he will understand
I will take into account both experience and instruction)
We have no problems with hugging when we meet . He is a tactile person, he always hugs both when meeting and for selfies... So that you can’t escape) He’s such a cat.

talks about personal things, about his relationships with women, about your relationships with men, say what you like in men
For example (all conditional): if a man wears a suit without a tie, you can say that such and such a tie would suit him very well, add what you would like I liked it
And in the opposite situation - on the contrary (they say you like it without a tie)
you can also choose a restaurant near the place where you are meeting and hint that you would like to visit it, but you just don’t want to there’s already more open flirting when you’re alone

Unread post by **Polly** » 04 Dec 2022, 10:03

Alyosha: ↑04 Dec 2022, 09:49 and there already alone

he won’t go openly to a restaurant, especially with a young girl. He is a public figure, and in the morning this trip to the restaurant will spread across the media. In general, this is how you look at it from a man’s point of view. Don’t such hints (and similar ones) look too blatant? I’m always so embarrassed to impose myself or ask for something.

Unread post by **Alyosha** » 04 Dec 2022, 10:11

Polly: ↑04 Dec 2022, 10:03
Alyosha: ↑04 Dec 2022, 09:49 and there already alone
he will not go openly to a restaurant, especially with a young girl. He is a public figure, and in the morning this trip to the restaurant will spread across the media. In general, this is how you look at it from a man’s point of view. Don’t such hints (and similar ones) look too blatant? I’m always so embarrassed to impose or ask for something.

any interaction is a violation of personal boundaries
we are talking about you now - do you want to feel it inside yourself or do you prefer to masturbate to fantasies about him

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Polly: ↑04 Dec 2022, 10:03 He is a public figure, in the morning this trip to the restaurant will spread across the media

you can ask where he goes and playfully tell him what you have been wanting for a long time try this cuisine
or find out whether he likes to cook something, express a desire to try his cooking

Unread post by **Polly** » 14 Dec 2022, 10:44

Alyosha: ↑04 Dec 2022, 10:13 would you like to feel it inside you

Both inside you and next to you. We stand there, chatting nicely about music, and I nod just as nicely in response. And mentally, at that moment we had already slept together a couple of times. And I can’t hear what he’s saying at all; just a wild desire is ringing in my head. Especially when he is a couple of centimeters away from me.

Unread post by **niqk** » 14 Dec 2022, 10:59

Well, just a fix idea! I even feel sorry for you...

Unread post by **Polly** » 15 Dec 2022, 10:29

niqk: ↑14 Dec 2022, 10:59 Well, just a fixed idea!

In what sense?)

Unread post by **niqk** » 15 Dec 2022, 10:34

In the sense of thirst for sex with him and only him...

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