Ephemeral love and fantasies. Really want to...

Unread post by **Polly** » 20 Oct 2022, 23:03

I never thought I would experience this, but it happened. And every day I am more and more captured by this feeling, so much so that I could even climb the wall. I fell in love. Every part of body and soul. A person who exists in my life very abstractly. We are from different worlds and lives. This is an adult uncle, twice my age. A famous person. I’m sure everyone reading this now knows him. Or at least heard about it once. I fall asleep and wake up thinking about him. And no, this is not a passing fad. This has been going on for many years. Over the years, I still managed to do something. I am not an empty phrase for him. Do we know each other. There is some contact with this person if necessary. I don’t know what to do with this, I can’t let him go, I can’t even get closer. Next to him, the butterflies in my stomach don’t just flutter. They grow sharp claws and literally tear from the inside. I dream about sex with him. So clearly and tactilely that even when I woke up I remember the feeling of his touch. I really want it. Holding his hands, kissing his lips and dick. I’m ready to do anything for him... But how can I switch him to this wavelength?
This is all literally driving me crazy...
Sorry. I spoke out.

Unread post by **Herurg** » 21 Oct 2022, 00:55

This happens. Tried it several times. And the head was spinning, and the soul was trembling, and all thoughts were only with her. You already begin to consider yourself paranoid, but you have neither the strength nor the desire to overcome this state, these feelings. But time, as we know, heals... Some of the ephemeral objects faded over the years, some were replaced by another object, and some, having become reality, disappointed, turning out to be completely different from my dreams and fantasies. But nevertheless, ephemeral falling in love is something! The state of flight, sweet trepidation, bliss... A wonderful feeling.

Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 01:05

Herurg: ↑21 Oct 2022, 00:55 This happens. Tried it several times. And the head was spinning, and the soul was trembling, and all thoughts were only with her. You already begin to consider yourself paranoid, but you have neither the strength nor the desire to overcome this state, these feelings. But time, as we know, heals... Some of the ephemeral objects faded over the years, some were replaced by another object, and some, having become reality, disappointed, turning out to be completely different from my dreams and fantasies. But nevertheless, ephemeral falling in love is something! The state of flight, sweet trepidation, bliss... A wonderful feeling

The feeling is both beautiful and painful at the same time. It really inspires and fills you with some kind of strength, but when the realization of the impossibility of realizing this in real life comes, it sharply drops down and chops off its wings

I don’t know how many years must pass so that my feelings dull at least a little. More precisely, there was such a moment. They became dull for a while, and then I accidentally saw that he was sick. The mere thought that something could happen to him made me uneasy. The age is no longer small. And after this incident, everything became even more acute with my feelings. Even brighter and even stronger. I can’t be with him physically. I can’t live without him.

Unread post by **Herurg** » 21 Oct 2022, 01:17

I understand very much. I have such a person too. And sometimes it also seems that I have found the strength to put out the fire, or at least reduce the intensity of the burning. But... One look, and again there is a fire in your chest, a sweet fog in your head, and thoughts, thoughts, you walk like a fool, you smile... And at night there is no peace.

Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 01:21

Herurg: ↑21 Oct 2022, 01:17 And there is no peace at night

How long does all this last for you? And what prevents us from being together?

Unread post by **Woman** » 21 Oct 2022, 01:33

Polly: ↑20 Oct 2022, 23:03We know each other

Why didn’t you try to develop a relationship with him if you’ve known each other for many years?

Unread post by **Herurg** » 21 Oct 2022, 01:38

Polly, Almost 10 years... But age gets in the way . I’m very older.

Unread post by **racer** » 21 Oct 2022, 01:48

Love, of course, is a wonderful feeling... but it doesn’t bring anything good with it.

Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 01:49

Woman: ↑21 Oct 2022, 01:33 Why didn’t you try to develop a relationship with him if you have known each other for many years?

How? I don’t know how to get closer. A lot of things are decided here, I think, and the fact that he is a famous person and doesn’t take me very seriously. But since everyone has known each other for a long time, he trusts me to some extent. He gives his contacts for communication, and he has my contacts at hand too. I have access to him and the opportunity to see him if I ask. But that’s all somehow. He keeps his distance. But I’m afraid of scaring him off and I just don’t know what to do.

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Herurg: ↑21 Oct 2022, 01:38 I am very older

Does age definitely confuse both sides or just you? Perhaps it’s a complex. We also have a very big age difference. But she doesn’t bother me. I just don’t see her. At all.

Unread post by **Woman** » 21 Oct 2022, 02:21

Polly: ↑21 Oct 2022, 01:49 He keeps his distance

Perhaps he keeps his distance because of the age difference and so as not to spoil his reputation.

If a person is serious and in a serious position (and most likely married), then for the sake of the well-being of his family and career he will not have an affair on the side.

But .. we are all human and , as they say, forbidden fruit[/url] sweet. There is always a chance.

Unread post by **Herurg** » 21 Oct 2022, 02:35

Polly, no, these are not complexes. This is a sober view of things for an adult. I’m 54, so far so good with my health and energy. But the years go by, I’m not getting any younger, and who knows what state I’ll be in in 5 years. It would be very selfish to think only about yourself and your feelings and impose such a burden on a young girl.

Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 03:05

Herurg: ↑21 Oct 2022, 02:35 It would be very selfish to think only about yourself

Is it really true that the girl has no feelings? Maybe she, like me, only thinks about this, and you have a distance because of your age. And everyone could be happy. My loved one will even be a little older than you. He’s about 60. Those are the numbers. The main thing is how a person feels. Live here and now. And what might happen in 5 years is unknown. And with a young girl as well. Young age does not guarantee that in 5 years everything will be fine.

Unread post by **Hammer** » 21 Oct 2022, 03:11

Author, stop fantasizing and imagining yourself as a girl.

Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 03:47

Woman: ↑21 Oct 2022, 02:21 Perhaps he keeps his distance because of the age difference and so as not to spoil his reputation.

If a person is serious and in a serious position (and most likely married), then for the sake of well-being his family and career will not have an affair on the side.

But .. we are all human and, as they say, the forbidden fruit is sweet. There is always a chance.

The person is actually married. But my wife has been living in another city for several years. Formally they are married, but in fact they have not been together for a long time. They have no children together. Essentially he is alone. I believe in this chance and that nothing is impossible. But so far I can’t think of any manipulations to get closer. Although I tried to be more persistent, I realized that the tactics were not right. All I know for sure is that I haven’t lived without thinking about him for a very long time. I love you, I want you... I miss you very much.

Unread post by **AlexTDV** » 21 Oct 2022, 04:30

Well, with a butt like yours on Ava, few men can resist! )

Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 04:31

And I can probably only speak openly about my feelings and sensations in a place like forums. In real life, only my friend will understand me, and then only until the moment that I want him in terms of sex. In this regard, he will not understand. And sometimes I just fall out of this world. When I go to work, for example, when I travel on public transport, when there is an opportunity to escape from everyday life, my fantasy draws in my head various scenes where we have sex.
Although in real life we also had contact, from which, when I remember goosebumps. Very tired and a little under the weather, he took the initiative and kissed me. Most likely he doesn’t remember about it anymore. But I can’t get it out of my head either. I remember the touch and his breath, and the smell of his perfume.

Unread post by **Woman** » 21 Oct 2022, 05:37

Polly: ↑21 Oct 2022, 03:47 I believe in this chance

try.. if possible, meet more often, communicate.. invite for coffee to discuss some topic..
find out what interests he has, hobbies.. take up the same hobbies (maybe he goes, for example, to the gym, so start going there at the same time as him).. etc.

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Polly:21 Oct 2022, 03:47 Formally they are married, but in fact they haven’t been married for a long time together

all the details of their relationship are known only to the two of them.
The fact that they are not together and there is no longer a relationship is just the guesswork of others.
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Polly : ↑21 Oct 2022, 04:31 at a slight degree, he took the initiative

well, we found out... how you can sleep with him))
Wait for the corporate party...

Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 05:57

Woman: ↑21 Oct 2022, 05:40 invite us to coffee to discuss some topic..

We live in different cities, quite far away, but when I come up with some event, I fly in and I’m trying to organize a meeting. Fortunately, he agrees, but if the meeting is not at an event, then you have to come up with a reason very carefully. He won’t just go out of boredom. I’m thinking about moving to his city, solving work issues so that I can be around him more often. I know in great detail about his hobbies and interests and they all come down to music. He is a musician. And almost all the time he is busy with music\concerts

Woman: ↑21 Oct 2022, 05:40 all the details of their relationship are known only to the two of them.

I agree. There’s no way to say for sure. But from observation I know that they have been living for several years thousands of kilometers away from each other. And a man with crazy energy and sexuality. It is unlikely that he has been abstaining all this time.

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Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 09:31

It would be very interesting to hear who would act in such a situation and how. Maybe I could take note of something.
Or was someone in a similar situation that ended happily

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Unread post by **NoMilas11** » 21 Oct 2022, 09:54

It’s very infuriating when you fall in love with a popular person or even a CHARACTER from a movie, even though you understand that such a person does not exist. Luckily for me it goes away in a couple of months.

Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 10:00

NoMilas11: ↑21 Oct 2022, 09:54 It’s very infuriating when you fall in love with a popular personality or even a CHARACTER from a movie, even though you understand that such a person does not exist.

There is such a thing) But in my case, the personality, although popular, is quite real (and in general! We are all human, aren’t we?). And in fact, I had a lot of personal moments with this person. Of course, these are not moments of intimacy or some kind of closeness directly, but these are moments when we were left one on one, when we communicated as good friends, fooled around, etc. And all these moments prove that nothing is impossible in life. The main thing is to do something. Go for it if it’s really important. It’s a pity that you can’t always immediately understand how to go and in the process you get into trouble.

Unread post by **niqk** » 21 Oct 2022, 10:26

So keep this feeling inside yourself! Take care of him and take care of him! And be glad that you have it in your life! Too many
people live their whole lives and don’t even suspect the existence of such feelings!!!
By the way, your loved one also lives with this feeling and rejoices in it! Perhaps he doesn’t want to actually meet you
only because he is afraid that a collision with real life could destroy this tender sprout of emotions...

Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 10:41

niqk: ↑21 Oct 2022, 10:26 your loved one also lives with this feeling and enjoys it

I don’t think he even thinks about it. He’s too busy, here and there. There are many different events in his life, sometimes I am amazed at how he manages everything.
I went to see him a month ago. Each time in the hope that maybe he will let me go a little, but each time I find myself nearby I am only more convinced that this is the dearest person to me.
The feeling is both beautiful and not. Sometimes it hurts.

Unread post by **niqk** » 21 Oct 2022, 10:59

Even if you are in pain, you are still very lucky to know such a feeling!...

Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 11:05

She didn’t love anyone so much and didn’t want anyone. This is some kind of combo in my feelings.
At our last meeting, we chatted about some nonsense, about music, about technology, and I look at his hands, lips and understand that I am excited. I could barely restrain myself from kissing her. I admire him. I want to do everything in my power and even more for him. I want to please him

Unread post by **niqk** » 21 Oct 2022, 11:07

Well, do it! And most importantly, smile at him more often!

Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 11:14

niqk: ↑21 Oct 2022, 11:07 And most importantly, smile at him more often!

By the way! This is very good advice!) When I returned, I looked at the photos and didn’t understand what was wrong with my face)) I’m so focused and tense everywhere. I wouldn’t approach someone like that myself

Therefore, I’ll definitely take note about the smile) In fact, I worry every time.

Unread post by **niqk** » 21 Oct 2022, 11:17

Apparently, you are so worried that you lose your head and forget the basic ways to please a person...

Unread post by **Polly** » 21 Oct 2022, 11:39

niqk: ↑21 Oct 2022, 11:17 Apparently, you are so worried that you lose your head and forget the basic ways to please a person...

Exactly so. No matter how banal it may sound) I already understood this mistake, now I will definitely catch myself doing it) Moreover, he always smiles like a Cheshire cat))

Unread post by **niqk** » 21 Oct 2022, 11:43

Polly: ↑21 Oct 2022, 11:39
niqk: ↑21 Oct 2022, 11:17 Apparently, you are so worried that you lose your head and forget the basic ways to please a person...
Exactly so. No matter how banal it may sound) I already understood this mistake, now I will definitely catch myself doing it) Moreover, he always smiles like a Cheshire cat))

n Satisfied cat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Unread post by **Woman** » 21 Oct 2022, 16:50

Polly: ↑21 Oct 2022, 09:26 almost all the time he is busy with music\concerts

So try to "attach yourself" to him in this area.

Where there is a concert and music, in any case there will be alcohol and relaxation... and here you are)))

Unread post by **Graham** » 22 Oct 2022, 01:01

I don’t know if this will help you, but I really fucking regret that I didn’t take advantage of some of the chances that life gave me. Life doesn’t like to repeat itself, it gives you a chance once.
Think about what you will lose if you ignore your indecisiveness and talk to him a little more boldly? Job, client, reputation. Consider how fatal this is for you. If you can afford to question all this, my advice to you is to put your doubts away and make up your mind. You yourself will then breathe more calmly, even if everything turns out badly and you are not together, it will be easier for you to forget him. But I hope you succeed

Unread post by **Allah 1974** » 22 Oct 2022, 01:26

Time cures. In our time, most of the girls were "secretly" in love with a history teacher. He talked so interestingly, visited many places and was generally such a stocky handsome guy. But the boys, on the contrary, were in love with the Englishwoman, she really is like a Barbie, she is always dressed with taste. School years and student years have passed, people change and the objects of love change.

Unread post by **Polly** » 22 Oct 2022, 02:20

Grem: ↑22 Oct 2022, 01:01 Think about what you will lose if you neglect your indecision

In fact, you can lose a lot. You can lose the contact that you have and the relationships that have already been built. In order to go on the offensive so decisively, you need to be sure of some kind of interest. Well, at least the slightest. I’m very afraid of losing him. Even in this way. I’m afraid I’ll scare you off with intrusiveness. At the same time, I am well aware that time is running out and chances can be lost.
This year I felt it very acutely. I don’t even pretend to be some wife or anything. I just want to be close, to be closer, to be useful. When he is nearby, it is happiness.

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Alla1974: ↑22 Oct 2022, 01:26 most of the girls "secretly" were in love with the history teacher

School years)) We also had a young computer science teacher, around whom they fussed all girls) Times. Then everything seemed easier and more fun.
My crush hasn’t let me go for 7 years now. I tried to distract myself, to switch to someone else. For something else. There was a moment when it seemed that I even succeeded. But like the law of meanness, as soon as I moved even a little away from this world, it immediately made itself felt. He called and asked something. I didn’t let myself be forgotten. And when at some point I saw that something was happening to him. That something is wrong with your health. The fear that something might happen to him was so strong that I didn’t even think that I should forget him or move away. How? This is my dear person. And as far as I can, I should be there. I don’t know how to support someone else. I will strive to become even closer, but I can’t just forget him or turn away

Unread post by **Graham** » 22 Oct 2022, 09:00

Polly: ↑22 Oct 2022, 02:28 I’m afraid to frighten you away with intrusiveness

Don’t be afraid to lose. It is this fear that prevents you from moving. I don’t know if you can take my advice, but try to push that part of you that panics as far away as possible. In moments when you can at least potentially get closer to him, move this fear away and try to enjoy pleasure, joy, everything that makes you happy. When you yourself are happy, you can radiate this happiness into him, we are all drawn to happiness and joy, try to become the source of these emotions.

Polly: ↑22 Oct 2022, 02:28 I didn’t let you forget about me

Maybe this is wishful thinking, but from this we can conclude that you are a person who is at least pleasant, and agree that this is exactly what you could use to get closer. You are already attractive, he most likely enjoys your company.
And once again, push aside your fear, don’t miss the chances.

Unread post by **November** » 22 Oct 2022, 10:10

What a pervert!
People here talk about lofty things, you understand! About cuckolds, MFM, incest...
And she is a lover!

No, what is it, huh?

Unread post by **Polly** » 22 Oct 2022, 10:14

Grem: ↑22 Oct 2022, 09:00 Maybe this is wishful thinking

No, this is not wishful thinking. This is a little different. Sometimes I help him a little with things on the Internet. This doesn’t happen often. This was exactly the case at that moment. For me, he was like some kind of sign. Despite the fact that he rarely addresses me, it was at the moment when I began to move away from him a little that he felt the urge to address me and remind me of myself. As if the universe didn’t want me to move away))

Unread post by **niqk** » 22 Oct 2022, 10:22

Romance is still alive! Alive!!! :shamp:

Unread post by **November** » 22 Oct 2022, 10:27

Polly: ↑22 Oct 2022, 10:14
Grem: ↑22 Oct 2022, 09:00 Maybe this is wishful thinking
No, this is not wishful thinking. This is a little different. Sometimes I help him a little with things on the Internet. This doesn’t happen often. This was exactly the case at that moment. For me, he was like some kind of sign. Despite the fact that he rarely addresses me, it was at the moment when I began to move away from him a little that he felt the urge to address me and remind me of myself. As if the universe didn’t want me to move away))

Imagine that you have been married for 20 years: he doesn’t put away his toothpaste, he throws dirty socks around the apartment... well, you can another classic: I got drunk in the trash, went to the toilet and didn’t get in... our “Voroshilov shooter”

forgot something else...
Should help! Let him go.

Unread post by **Polly** » 22 Oct 2022, 10:29

Listopad: ↑22 Oct 2022, 10:10 And she is a lyuboff!

Oh, I can talk about everything!) Lyuboff is about pressing matters, and beyond it is a pool of devils.
Well, or whatever? There is love in the soul, and lust in the thoughts. That makes it even harder. I have a complete combo, I don’t know how I got into this

Unread post by **niqk** » 22 Oct 2022, 10:31

The main thing is, don’t blurt it out hastily! Otherwise you will regret...

Unread post by **Polly** » 22 Oct 2022, 10:36

Listopad: ↑22 Oct 2022, 10:27 It should help!

No, well, of course, we are all not ideal and everyday life gnaws at everyone sooner or later, but first of all, there is no guarantee at all that my socks will not lie nearby, and secondly, when in my thoughts and fantasies we have sex several times a day, what socks? What toothpaste? Yes, let it lie, it won’t interfere...well))

Unread post by **November** » 22 Oct 2022, 10:40

Polly: ↑22 Oct 2022, 10:36
Listopad: ↑22 Oct 2022, 10:27 It should help!
No, well, of course, we are all not perfect and everyday life gnaws at everyone sooner or later, but first of all, there is no guarantees that my socks will not lie nearby, and secondly, when in my thoughts and fantasies we have sex several times a day, what socks? What toothpaste? Yes, let it lie, don’t interfere...well))

Apparently love is a perversion that cannot be treated therapeutically. You are hopeless!

Unread post by **Polly** » 22 Oct 2022, 10:45

niqk: ↑22 Oct 2022, 10:31 don’t blurt it out hastily!

How is that?) Sometimes it seems to me that there is no way back at all.

Unread post by **niqk** » 22 Oct 2022, 10:48

And who knows what??????????

Unread post by **Polly** » 22 Oct 2022, 10:56

Listopad: ↑22 Oct 2022, 10:40 You are hopeless!

And you can’t even argue with that) But seriously, sometimes you really want to talk it out. Because everything is not so simple, you also experience it within yourself every day 24/7. And it can also be useful to look at it from the outside. And take note of some points. those around you won’t understand all this.

Unread post by **Lara** » 22 Oct 2022, 11:15

Contact a psychologist, I’m not kidding or kidding. They will help you understand the essence of your attraction; if you have realized the problem, then this is the first step.

Unread post by **Polly** » 22 Oct 2022, 11:21

Lara: ↑22 Oct 2022, 11:15 They will help you understand the essence of your attraction

What is the problem when there is attraction to the opposite sex? Admiration and desire? Even if we are talking about a specific person. I am attracted to an awesome, sexy person. A man with a capital M in every sense. Do you seriously consider this a deviation worthy of going to a psychologist?

My problem is not that I am attracted to him. My problem is that I have not yet found an opportunity to be close to him.

Unread post by **Lara** » 22 Oct 2022, 11:59

3 times the word Problem and 1 time Deviation, I just offered a consultation, but as always, it’s up to you to decide

Unread post by **Polly** » 22 Oct 2022, 12:04

Lara: ↑22 Oct 2022, 11:59 3 times the word Problem

And also 3 question marks, 4 commas and 5 periods) Thanks for the suggestion)

Ephemeral love and fantasies. Really want to...

It would be very interesting to hear who would act in such a situation and how. Maybe I could take note of something. Or was someone in a similar situation that ended happily

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It would be very interesting to hear who would act in such a situation and how. Maybe I could take note of something.
Or was someone in a similar situation that ended happily