How long have you been able to remain sexually faithful to one person?

[gerz13]

15 years! No one anywhere!)

[OwDrin]

This is definitely not for me, I am for open relationships

[Hair shirt]

So the man finally freed me from any desire to be faithful. The only thing that gets in the way is that I’m at home with the little ones.
I honestly told him that now I also have the right to cheat. Yes, we are divorced, but we still live together. And he still insists that he will kill me if he finds out about my betrayal. Funny) Sometimes I am amazed at the hypocrisy of people, to be honest

Keep in mind that you are in a very dangerous situation. If you read the cop reports, there are a lot of everyday stabbings and exactly in a situation similar to yours. People are divorced but not rich. And like this one day they cannot go to other apartments, regions, cities, countries. So out of the gate and out of mind!
And they continue to live together.

And it would be nice if they were truly divorced. But no, they continue to fuck from time to time. And in words it seems to be a divorce, but in fact there was no divorce. They just have a long-term grudge against each other. But nevertheless, they sleep in the same bed, have a single budget, the husband repairs the shelves in the kitchen, the wife cooks in the kitchen and feeds the man.
But from time to time one of them remembers that they are still divorced. And the wife is really trying to get a divorce and from time to time during the day she makes weak attempts to separate from her husband. And at night she goes to bed with him.

And one fine day some guy appears with his wife, and maybe she even brings him home. For example, when my husband is at work. Well, of course the neighbors report to their husband. Or even he unexpectedly comes home, and here it is - a rumpled bed, some guy all sweaty and scared. And a flushed wife.
Well...

I would advise you to make up your mind and finally make a decision. It is clear that you do not want to move anywhere for fear of being left without housing at all. The husband will bring the woman and change the locks. And the husband is also not an oligarch or a fool. He also understands that tomorrow you will bring a man to the apartment, change the locks and then he will take his holey sweatpants and worn-out slippers to the police. So you both are guarding the apartment. And you don’t let each other live on.

The first thing you need to do is separate and stop seeing each other. Stop sleeping with each other and stop communicating on any topic. Simply put, get out of the habit of each other.
Or maybe give up on everything, buy two tickets to Thailand and go there for 90 days. Thailand’s visa-free regime allows Russians to do this. You will need little money for 90 days. The main amount will go towards renting accommodation and a round-trip plane ticket for two. And in these ninety days you will improve your relationship and fall in love with each other again. Maybe even arrange an MFM. Or FFM. We’ll see how it goes. Forgive each other and try to start living again. And from now on, the truth is not to lie to each other.

Well, you wanted someone and told your husband about it. It doesn’t matter before or after. The main thing is what he said. Like, this way and that, I don’t know how it happened, but it was nice and good. Maybe it will happen again someday. And if you want, I can invite you home, we’ll buy some wine, and the three of us will make it up if he/she agrees.
Think about it.

[Go ahead]

You need to leave first and stop seeing each other. Stop sleeping with each other and stop communicating on any topic. Simply put, get out of the habit of each other.

Thanks for the advice)
There are places to separate, personally, I live together because of the children and common affairs.
It’s hardly possible to improve a relationship, okay, it would just be an insult, and when you are endlessly disappointed in a person more than once, this is another level.
Going somewhere is also not a good idea - two small children, whom leave it to no one. I don’t have parents, and we didn’t give in to his parents.
It won’t come to a knife fight, he’s got a lot of guts)) he’s just talking.

[Alesya]

05 Nov 2022, 14:37

I’m still 44 years old, but I’m also tired of everything, two husbands, etc. Why on the site? I wanted to speak out, show myself naked.

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I forgot, higher education

[Hair shirt]

It won’t come to a knife fight, he’s got a lot of guts)) he’s just talking.

But you’re in vain. A self-sufficient, rich and self-confident person will not poke a knife at you. But a person with damaged pride, who considers himself a victim and justifies himself in everything, can do just that. If I were you, I wouldn’t risk it.
Everyone who has ever been divorced says that it is very painful and very traumatic. And for both.
And the best way to get out of this process with as little losses and problems as possible is to try not to see each other. Don’t call each other. And the smartest thing is to leave the city for a while and turn off the phone.

Yes, both of you will be very sick, but little by little you will both begin to learn to live without each other. Without blaming each other for anything. You will find that you need this for some reason. So that there is a person nearby whom you can yell at or lash out at. And accuse him of something.
But if you go somewhere else, you will have to start living from scratch. Without every minute irritation with someone, without constant resentment that someone is to blame for all this. The people who will be around you don’t need all this even once.

And you will begin to get used to living without negativity. Wake up and enjoy the good weather, think first of all not about problems but about something pleasant. In general, the wedge is knocked out by wedge. What I mean is that sooner or later some man will appear in your life. And you will think about the upcoming sex with him, and not about what an asshole your husband is and how he ruined your whole life.

Yes, I don’t argue with two children, it’s very difficult to arrange something own life. But if you don’t rush at macho men and tall, pumped-up blond handsome men, you will find that there are a huge number of ordinary men walking around you. Different ages, different incomes. They may not be so presentable and handsome, but perhaps one of them can become your good friend in life. Well, in general, don’t look for a husband or a breadwinner, but look for a man, first of all, for a friend.

Don’t make the mistakes of your youth, don’t cheat and don’t look for a rich man. It is with him that you will have problems.
Look for a friend and so that he is a match for you. So that there is mutual understanding and that it is interesting to be with him.
And don’t persuade yourself if a man seems promising to you, but does not warm your heart.
You need to like him right away. Literally when we first met. And he needs to like you too.
If he liked you, you can’t hide it from your eyes, it’s obvious right away.

And one more thing...
From your own experience...
Don’t be cunning and don’t lie if you like a person and if he likes you.
Fuck all these rules - like never allow sex on the first date. Fuck it all!
Listen to your heart. Don’t put lies and manipulation at the very beginning of your relationship.

How to know why your husband lied to you, although he might not have lied from your words. Maybe he just caught you lying and didn’t quite trust you when you said that you wouldn’t be jealous of him and that he shouldn’t lie to you and tell you everything as it is?
Maybe he just caught you in some kind of manipulation, but about that Didn’t tell you anything...

Or maybe he accidentally overheard your conversation with your friend on the phone where you openly talked about how skillfully you manage your husband, and how you know him as a flaky, and how You know very well that he will take the next two steps.

[Tapkin]

The first thing you need to do is separate and stop seeing each other. Stop sleeping with each other and stop communicating on any topic. Simply put, get out of the habit of each other.

Thanks for the advice)
There are places to separate, personally, I live together because of the children and common affairs.
It’s hardly possible to improve a relationship, okay, it would just be an insult, and when you are endlessly disappointed in a person more than once, this is another level.
Going somewhere is also not a good idea - two small children, whom leave it to no one. I don’t have parents, and we didn’t give in to his parents.
It won’t come to a knife fight, he’s got a lot of guts)) he’s just talking.

nHere they rarely talk about painful things...hence the gratitude!
But in fact, the longer you torture yourself, the worse it gets,
time passes, and you won’t be able to beat yourself. The previous SPEAKER, here
he did a lot of "heap" and could have done it in a couple of lines, but he can’t do that!((

[Hair shirt]

The previous SPEAKER, here
he has done a lot of "heap" and could have done it in a couple of lines, but he can’t do that!((

Or you can not write anything at all. And so everything is clear to everyone.
And you can also not go here to this forum, and accordingly not read anyone’s posts.
And this will be even more correct.
And instead of all this useless waste of time, you can go and do something useful around the house, wash the floors or windows.
Or fix the shelf, or finally fix the vacuum cleaner.
What is the truth here? sit in this forum and give advice on who should write what or not write, how much to write.

[Tapkin]

The previous SPEAKER, here
he did a lot of "heap" and could have done it in a couple of lines, but he can’t do that!((

Or you can not write anything at all. And so everything is clear to everyone.
And you can also not go here to this forum, and accordingly not read anyone’s posts.
And that’s it. It would be even more correct.
And instead of all this useless waste of time, you can go and do something useful around the house, wash the floors or windows.
Or fix the shelf, or finally fix the vacuum cleaner.
Why is it really worth sitting in this forum and giving out advice on who should write what or not write, how much to write.

how can I connect you with Scamp, here If only you had something to do!
One indiscriminately drags pictures from YouTube..the other one scribbles on the sheets!
IDIL TO EAT!))))

:cat1:

[Hair shirt]

how can I connect you with Scamp, if only you had something to do!
One indiscriminately drags pictures from YouTube .. scribbles on the second sheet!
IDIL TO EAT!))))

As far as I understand, every hole here has a plug!?

[Barsuk70]

My sister and I apparently won this competition. I fucked her in the ass at my wedding, and she sucked me and my friend at hers.

[Go ahead]

People rarely talk about painful things here...hence the gratitude!

I thank the person for his pure impulses and desire to help) empathy and desire to help people, Such rare qualities in our time, especially on this forum, that only for this one can say "thank you"). Although most of the advice, unfortunately, is beyond me, I don’t want to offend you for noble impulses.
And so, I am writing here purely for the purpose of entertainment, relaxation. I write what I can write more or less on topic. Not for receiving advice, if this is not indicated in the post) There is some goal, rather interest, without which I would not be here for a long time, but for now I’m just observing and typing messages

[Anatolich]

There is one more goal, without which I wouldn’t be here a long time ago, but for now I’m just observing and typing messages

Tell me what for a goal?

[Go ahead]

Tell me what the goal is?

I can’t tell everyone, it’s a personal secret)

[Anatolich]

Tell me what the goal is?

I can’t tell everyone, it’s a personal secret)

If it’s a personal secret, then why talk about it?!
And so, I think, A said, tell B too.
But this, of course , That’s your business.
Creating intrigue is also fun

[Go ahead]

why talk about him

I didn’t talk about him) I just said that there is a reason why I’m here and why I write posts)

[Hair shirt]

I thank the person for his pure impulses and for his desire to help) empathy and desire to help people, such rare qualities in our time, especially on this forum, that only for this you can say "thank you"). Although most of the advice, unfortunately, is beyond me, I don’t want to offend for noble impulses.
And so, I am writing here purely for the purpose of entertainment and relaxation. I write what I can write more or less on topic. Not for receiving advice, if this is not indicated in the post) There is some goal, rather interest, without which I would not have been here for a long time, but for now I’m just observing and typing messages

I am not writing all this to troll you. I just have something to say on this topic. Moreover, I know something absolutely for sure. I know how it will be, and how everything will decompose, as if I had arrived from the future.

Once upon a time, I was left alone for a whole year with a little five-year-old girl in my arms. And I know very well all the problems you and your husband have that await you, and those that are yet to come.
And all this is very painful. And it can only be treated by separating both spouses into different corners, and giving them both individuals of the opposite sex.
It’s the same and nothing else.
And to continue to live together is hell and Israel. And before it’s too late, we need to end this. Because this is a comfort zone for both. And this will continue indefinitely until one of the spouses passes into another world for one reason or another.

That is, something needs to be done about this situation. And the sooner the better. Ideally, separate and hire a lawyer who, instead of you, will communicate with your spouse and resolve all issues related to the divorce - housing, children, alimony, division of property. You shouldn’t be in business at all. And the goal of all this is to try to separate peacefully and without a scandal.
And try very hard, because both need it.
You must under no circumstances provoke your ex-husband into dividing up the children, so that he doesn’t He began to spoil things for you and did not begin military operations against you. This is typical for men. He can give up a couple of years of his life to spoil things for you.

I often see these Sunday dads on the subway who on Sunday evenings are taking some five-year-old girl or boy back to their mother. Or vice versa, late on Friday evening he takes this child to his home. They both have a full set of everything - a backpack, a cart and two or three more bags of everything they might need.
And here they are sitting and this father is painfully trying to establish a dialogue with his own child. And he can’t do a damn thing. Because he was used to scolding or pulling back the child before. But here it seems like something needs to be done differently.

And so he asks all sorts of stupid questions. And a child is still a child. At five years old he has no conscience or tact. He answers his father in monosyllables without looking up from his mobile phone. And my father would be happy to slap him right now and take away his mobile phone. But he is afraid to do it. The child will throw a tantrum right now and call his mother. And the father is fucked! His mother will file a complaint against him at the cops. She’s just waiting for this. And the man knows all this very well and, gritted his teeth, continues to ask this child of his, who for some reason has become a stranger to him, about something.

It should be noted that in a normal situation, if the wife had not spoiled her husband during the divorce then he would never bother her by picking up the kids for the weekend. But things took this turn of confrontation. And the man said - oh so! Am I a fucking father or not a father? I’m supposed to see my child. This is my child!
Actually, to this man this child is like a traffic light to a hare. He’ll be babysitting him all weekend and he’ll get tired. On Sunday evening he will take it back to his wife. But he needs all this for some reason.

First of all, like it or not, the child will tell him in every detail what is going on with his ex-wife. And this is not indifferent to him.
Secondly, he will see the sour face of the guy who wound up with his ex and will see the hating eyes of his ex. Because it’s clear that her new man doesn’t like all this terribly when this ex of hers is an eyesore every week.
Thirdly, because of his ex, the child continues to call him dad, and calls his ex-wife’s man who knows what. The wife is trying to teach her child to call her new man dad.

The child gets angry and, seeing this whole thing, begins to manipulate adults. And where they would simply give him a slap on the head or deprive him of something, here they talk to him and persuade him. And he swears. For good measure, the ex should go into the sunset and not appear again. And the wife’s new husband should become a full-fledged father to the child. And it will be normal and everyone will like it. Because the ex-husband doesn’t really need all this. He didn’t have time for children anyway, and then there were such difficulties.

And at that moment that wife herself was no longer happy that she had started this war with her ex. And even she herself would be glad to give her ex money so that he would leave and not appear again. But he took revenge on her and poisoned her life by setting up the child and constantly appearing in her life and in the life of the child.

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And I didn’t talk about him) I just said that there is a reason why I’m here and why I write posts)

She waited for someone like me to appear here and put everything in order. I mean, it will lead to some smart thoughts - how to do and what to doMore on with all this.

[Eustace]

And if you want, I can invite you home, we’ll buy some wine, and the three of us will hook up if he/she agrees.
Think about it.

no don’t fall for it, this is a boring type

I am not writing all this to troll

no, you are not a Troll!!! you Stuffy Troll!!!

[Eustace]

how can I connect you with Scamp, if only you had something to do!
One indiscriminately drags pictures from YouTube .. scribbles on the second sheet!
IDIL TO EAT!))))

As far as I understand, you have a plug in every hole here!?

Tapkin, Tapachkin, you are a plug!!!

[Tapkin]

How can I connect you with Naughty, if only you had something to do!
One indiscriminately drags pictures from YouTube .. scribbles on the second sheet!
IDYL TO EAT! ))))

As far as I understand, every hole here has a plug!?

Tapkin, Tapachkin, you are a plug!!!

nYes, let him at least call him a pot... I wouldn’t put it in the oven.
And so what...you and "almost" with respect...INTELLIGENT, "shark of the pen" local! ))))

[Andrey-37]

I held out for three years. There were options and the opportunity to fuck someone, but he held on. The first time it was like this: my wife wasn’t at home, a friend came to give me something.
- come in for tea
Drink some tea.
- Let’s have some beer
- come on
We sat down not in the kitchen, but in room on the sofa. He hugged her and began to caress her thighs and butt. She doesn’t mind. I unzipped the back of the dress
- I’m having my period
I still take off the dress and say that I’ll look at her beauty. He squeezed her for a long time in her underwear and tights, then he took off her bra and kissed her breasts. She said
- "I really want to!"
- let’s go to the bed!
And he carried her in his arms. He took off the rest of his clothes. And I don’t care about Crete days anymore. It seems I fucked her three times in the evening. But it was possible to cum in her!

[Go ahead]

Sackcloth,
Damn, that’s hell... It’s easier to hang yourself than to live like this) not life, but hopeless, sad shit.
No, I’d rather live with my friend-ex-husband and enjoy life some more)) until it’s clear exactly what to do further (and I’m not talking about some left-wing guys)

She waited for someone like me to appear here and put everything in order. I mean, it will lead to some smart thoughts - how to do and what to do next with all this.

Aaaaah! Nope, sorry, Hairshirt, your posts are in no way connected with a couple of my goals that I am pursuing here))) they are generally from a different universe, not even parallel to yours))
I repeat, I am not looking for advice here on those posts in which I don’t ask for advice :)
If your aspirations were in the right direction, you would probably help many standard divorced women) But not my case, alas.
I remember one time I was sitting at my mother-in-law’s house and her sister came to see her. I sat and talked about some abstract things. About living and interesting. And for some reason these two women, 50+ years old, started a conversation with me about what a difficult woman’s lot is, that men are men, but a woman sits at home, waits for a man, washes him and feeds him, raises children, and doesn’t complain. And that the relationship between a man and a woman is endlessly full of some other hopeless, sad crap. I don’t remember... Exactly. I remember that they sighed a lot, but did not complain. But there was something very sad in this conversation, which was infinitely far from me.
I understood the men who run away from these women. I also wanted to go out and smoke with the men and something heavier and talk about a bunch of pleasant things that exist in our lives. About my father-in-law’s business, and at least run to his service station nearby and help me dig into the cars (if my crooked and inept hands could help in any way) in the cars. Something to learn. It would be more useful and more pleasant.
For some reason, when talking with you, I remember the feeling of talking with them

[Milena69]

It took me a long time, but it just happened, I’m also addicted to sex)))

[Hair shirt]

Aaaaah! Nope, sorry, Hairshirt, your posts are in no way connected with a couple of my goals that I am pursuing here))) they are generally from a different universe, not even parallel to yours))
I repeat, I am not looking for advice here on those posts in which I don’t ask for advice :)
If your aspirations were in the right direction, you would probably help many standard divorced women) But not my case, alas.
I remember one time I was sitting at my mother-in-law’s house and her sister came to see her. I sat and talked about some abstract things. About living and interesting. And for some reason these two women, 50+ years old, started a conversation with me about what a difficult woman’s lot is, that men are men, but a woman sits at home, waits for a man, washes him and feeds him, raises children, and doesn’t complain. And that the relationship between a man and a woman is endlessly full of some other hopeless, sad crap. I don’t remember... Exactly. I remember that they sighed a lot, but did not complain. But there was something very sad in this conversation, which was infinitely far from me.
I understood the men who run away from these women. I also wanted to go out and smoke with the men and something heavier and talk about a bunch of pleasant things that exist in our lives. About my father-in-law’s business, and at least run to his service station nearby and help me dig into the cars (if my crooked and inept hands could help in any way) in the cars. Something to learn. It would be more useful and more pleasant.
For some reason, when talking with you, I remember the feeling of talking with them

I read your lines and for some reason I see a man with them. I mean it was all written by a man.

[Go ahead]

I read your lines and for some reason I see a man behind them. I mean, this is all written by a man.

Oh, "unexpected")) and why, dear friend, do you see it this way? In the last answer, did the guy stick out too much?)
And if you put a pretty chick on your avatar, will I pass for a chick?) or no options?)

[Hair shirt]

Oh how, "unexpected")) and why, dear friend, do you see it this way? In the last answer, did the guy stick out too much?)
And if you put a cute chick on your avatar, will I pass for a chick?) or no options?)

Well, there you go You again answered as a slightly irritated man would answer.

[Go ahead]

Well, again you answered as a slightly irritated man would answer.

Hmm, in any case, you gave me a compliment). I’m pleased when they see me as a man.
And if I’m a man, what a damn good fantasy I have :)

[Hair shirt]

No, I’d rather live with my friend-ex-husband and enjoy some more life)) until it’s definitely clear, what to do next

Have pity on yourself and your this ex. Or who he is to you now. Right now you are preparing him for slaughter like that calf who is scratched between the ears and affectionately called Borka. And in the fall they will put you under the knife and there will be fresh veal.
But if you don’t feel sorry for the man, then at least feel sorry for yourself. You wrote above about the fact that you and I are from different universes. No, as practice shows, everything is the same for everyone and everywhere. How sad is that? It is clear that it is more convenient for you when this ex (or present) of yours is being built and brings money into the house. And he does everything around the house, no matter what you say.
And in general, as one good friend of mine said - a guilty man - a necessary and very useful thing in the house.

And everything would be fine if If you lived, say, five hundred years. Well, okay, we can live as is for the next twenty years, and then the children will grow up and we’ll finally sort everything out. But when the children grow up and finally start telling you to fuck off (and this always happens).....
I don’t even want to upset you about what will happen to us all in twenty years.

What I mean is that, in my opinion, we should hurry to correct our mistakes and not hang them up until better times. Because if the problem hangs on a nail and is not solved, then it will not get better. It will only get worse. Believe me.
So if you break up with your man now, you have a chance to find your soulmate and thus find your happiness. And forget all these squabbles with your ex like a bad dream. Believe me it is possible. And there are more opportunities than before. You start all this - the sooner you get in, the sooner you get out!

Well, at the moment, in my opinion, you are just being clever - you don’t want to be left alone with two children. You are using a man without any guarantees, without promising him anything. And you are like this in free search. So to speak, in standby mode. If a normal guy catches your eye, then you will decide something. And even then, leave it to him to sort everything out with your ex. It will be especially cool if this new guy is some kind of cop or prosecutor or investigator. Well then, he will quickly sort things out with your ex. And you won’t have to deal with this whole matter.

Well, in general, your ex is fucked anyway. He really doesn’t know this yet.
And it is unknown what is worse for him - staying with you until the end of his days, or the fact that you will kick him out of the door if it comes to that.
For me it’s like that he needs to run away from you right now without looking back - the sooner the better. And best of all, further away - somewhere in Argentina or Uruguay. And start building your life there again. If I were him, that’s what I would do. Because you are preparing it for slaughter.

[Go ahead]

Have pity on yourself and your ex.

Fuck, bro, you’ve already revealed that I’m a man and that all these posts are made up)) Why the hell keep rolling the sheets? It’s better to write a book, it will be more useful, you’ll see that you’ll raise money and become a famous psychologist :)
I wish I could roll like that. Otherwise I write a page or two an hour...

[Hair shirt]

I wish I could ride like that. Otherwise I write a page or two an hour...

No problem - it’s all about the ability to touch type using the ten-finger method. It will take about six months of daily exercise for at least an hour to acquire the skill. In six months you won’t know which key you press with which finger. And you will type more or less quickly looking only at the screen and not looking at the keyboard.

Well, about your last post...
It’s getting ruder and ruder.
Are you really a man or what? For me, a woman ceases to be such after such rudeness.

[Go ahead]

No problem - it’s all about the ability to touch type using the ten-finger method.

Ah, I got it, thanks for the info :) in the distant 2000s there was a funny program " keyboard solo". I didn’t master everything, but I acquired some skills.
Who would you like to communicate with more, a guy or a girl? I’ll be whoever you want ;)

[Venus]

))) I could remain faithful all my life)) but there is no one

[Hair shirt]

))) I could remain faithful all my life)) but there is no one

Something tells me that you are very selective and in some sense you yourself are not you know exactly who you need.
That is, you want something, but I don’t know who. And I don’t want anyone I know.
I’ll share my observations...
I’ve had it more than once or twice in my life when you meet a person of the opposite sex and he obviously falls for you. That is, he just likes you.
And I don’t differ in any special appearance or article. It’s just that you can see with the naked eye that a person likes you and that’s it!
A couple of times it was even mutual. That is, it is obvious to both and there is attraction. And you can call him to bed right now, and he’ll go, but there’s nowhere.

And only then I realized that such things need to be expected and appreciated if it happened to you. But often people are not ready for this. For example, I was riding on a bus and a girl and I got tongue-tied - and here it is! But you go out now - your stop. And for some reason you go out because you have to go to work. It would seem that fuck this job - here it is! Catch it!
But you took it and fucked it up for some reason, smiling goodbye.

[Venus]

))) I could remain faithful all my life)) but there is no one

Something tells me that you are very selective and in what that is, you don’t know exactly who you need.
That is, you want something, but I don’t know who. And I don’t want anyone I know.
I’ll share my observations...
I’ve had it more than once or twice in my life when you meet a person of the opposite sex and he obviously falls for you. That is, he just likes you.
And I don’t differ in any special appearance or article. It’s just that you can see with the naked eye that a person likes you and that’s it!
A couple of times it was even mutual. That is, it is obvious to both and there is attraction. And you can call him to bed right now, and he’ll go, but there’s nowhere.

And only then I realized that such things need to be expected and appreciated if it happened to you. But often people are not ready for this. For example, I was riding on a bus and a girl and I got tongue-tied - and here it is! But you go out now - your stop. And for some reason you go out because you have to go to work. It would seem that fuck this job - here it is! Catch!
But you took it and fucked it up for some reason, smiling goodbye.

Perhaps we are afraid to change something in life or don’t want to, on a subconscious level. It is very scary and very painful for me to be disappointed in a person. A bad habit of idealizing people, and then suffering when he turns out to be not the one I pictured for myself.

[Hair shirt]

Ah, I understand, thanks for the info :) in the distant 2000s there was a funny program "solo on the keyboard". I didn’t master everything, but I acquired some skills.
Who would you like to communicate with more, a guy or a girl? I’ll be whoever you want;)

I personally know Shakhijanyan who is the owner of this program. I launched it, I didn’t like it. I studied in a different program. It’s called Droplet.
In this program, a droplet with a letter written on it falls from above. It is strictly forbidden to look at the keyboard. To be sure, it’s better to generally buy a keyboard with no Russian letters.

And in this program you are told on the screen that now ONLY your index fingers will be used. That the index finger of the left hand is A, and the index finger of the right hand is O. And that you don’t need to look at the keyboard right now, but simply use your index fingers on the keyboard to find the keys with small notches. They are on every keyboard.
And now you find these serifs with both index fingers and touch them with your fingers.

This position of both hands when the index fingers touch the serifs is called the position of the hands for touch typing.
Hold your hands in this position, feeling these serifs with the fingers of both index fingers.
And then a drop with the letter A written on it begins to slowly fall from the top of the screen. And this means that you need to use the index finger of your left hand press the letter A. And press until the drop reaches the bottom of the screen. The drop falls slowly - you have time to think.

Press A. A drop with O written on it begins to fall. So you need to press the O key with the index finger of your right hand. And they begin to fall alternately in a random order . You make mistakes at first, but then you click more confidently. The drops begin to fall faster. And after some time, the program decides that it seems possible to move on.
And they write to you on the screen that they say your index fingers press two more letters in the middle row. The left index finger presses P, and the right index finger presses the P key. And a droplet with the letter P begins to fall, and then with the letter P.

But the complicated thing begins when drops with four begin to fall mixed together with the letters A, O, P, R.
This is where the brain begins to boil. You need to break your motor skills and literally force you to press this or that letter with the right finger.
But after a while you do this more confidently, and after a while you stop making mistakes, and after a while the program introduces two more fingers - average. Those that show FAK. The left FAK is the letter B, and the right one is the letter L.

In the middle row, the middle finger of each hand presses only one letter and the same with all other fingers except the index fingers. It’s just the index fingers that press two letters in each row.
And so on...

I wouldn’t say that studying is dreary, it’s just that you have to work hard to learn it. It will take a lot of time, but it is worth it because in our lives it is impossible to live without a computer and without typing texts on the keyboard.

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Perhaps we are afraid to change something in life or don’t want to, on a subconscious level. It is very scary and very painful for me to be disappointed in a person. It’s a bad habit to idealize people, and then suffer when he turns out to be not the one I pictured for myself.

I was once in a similar situation. My conclusion is that you have to take risks and you have to listen to your heart. Under no circumstances should you consult with anyone about this or that person. Make the decision yourself. And the most important thing is not to be a coward and not to play it safe. And if someone warms your heart and likes someone, then trust your feelings and do what you want, and not follow your fears and concerns. And this is the whole difficulty - trusting a stranger.
But it is necessary, otherwise nothing will happen.

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Who would you like to communicate with more, a guy or a girl? I’ll be whoever you want;)

I’m not interested in all these deviations. I’m answering you simply because I have something to say on this topic. No more.
I don’t communicate with you because I like you or don’t like you.

I just saw something and I have something to say about it. That’s what I said.
And it’s up to you whether you need this information or not.
You don’t even need to scold me for what I said.

I’m just like a book for you. You opened the book and read something in it for yourself.
You will not then prove to the book that what is written in it is incorrect and that you think differently.
This is tolerance for dissent in communication.
That is, you don’t need to immediately hit your head on the asphalt in a public place of someone who said something that you don’t like.

[Venus]

trust a stranger.

))) I trust))) but less and less often.

[Go ahead]

I wouldn’t say it’s a chore, I just have to work hard to learn it.

Then I didn’t have the patience to master it completely. I reached the level where the index and middle fingers were and stopped. Sometimes I actually type some letters without looking. But the fact that I don’t type quickly is not even so much a matter of typing. And in fantasy. You type a few sentences, then you sit and think about what’s best next. Then you edit again.

"All these deviations are not interesting"
Ok, don’t take it seriously, a joke of humor

Book, talking book... why are you here?

[Hair shirt]

But the fact that I don’t type quickly is not so much a matter of typing. And in fantasy. You type a few sentences, then you sit and think about what’s best next.

This is an initially wrong approach. Here is imagine imagine that you are sitting with someone and talking about this or that topic. And you have something to say to your interlocutor in response to one or another of his remarks. And the interlocutor knows how to listen and does not interrupt you. And now you have four or five minutes to speak.

And you speak out. You don’t need to think about what to say right now. You don’t pause for ten minutes to think. You are just given four minutes to say something. And you don’t need to think about anything there. Just shut you up in these four minutes given to you!
It’s the same with the blind seal. You just have something to say, and you can do it easily. You just need to be able to touch-type with ten fingers and then you will be able to keep up with your thoughts.

And you don’t need to think much here. You already know how to do everything. You just type slowly and your thoughts run far ahead, and then in general you have already forgotten what exactly you wanted to say and how...

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))) I trust))) but less and less.

I think it’s definitely about you, and not about the men you come across.

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Book, talking book... why are you here?

I wrote above - I have something to say on this or that topic...

[Sashkalovesssya]

My longest relationship was 3 years.
And I’m a monogamist, when I’m in a relationship, I don’t need anyone else.
But it turned out that there weren’t many direct serious relationships.
Lastly, these 3 years, we broke up 4 years ago)

[Hair shirt]

In general, I think that before agreeing to marriage, people simply agree on some things with each other. That is, what is possible and what is not.
Well, for example, I know one person who agreed with his future wife that, first of all, they would not cheat on each other. Secondly, that they will spend the night at home.
And these are general agreements. That is, spending the night at home means no business trips and no night shifts. And this is a condition, and if you agree in advance, then be kind enough not to violate it because this is one of the main conditions of living together.

Well, the same thing is not to cheat on each other. What does this mean - not to change? This means not fucking each other up and not fucking with someone behind their back. But on the other hand, there was no agreement that you could still fuck someone with your spouse’s knowledge, right?
And that means you can always come to an agreement. And this is not so critical. The main thing is not to fuck each other up.

Well, for example, tomorrow is the eighth of March and the wife says to her husband - listen, we have a sauna here at our enterprise and tomorrow our whole team is going to celebrate the eighth of March in this sauna . And most likely everyone will fuck there. What am I supposed to do? Not going to this event? But honestly, I want to be with the team, to be honest!
I can go to this event and see how it turns out - there will be sex with someone - well, then so be it! It won’t happen - oh well! I condoms I’ll definitely take it!?
But if you forbid it, then of course I won’t go. But I still want to go. And not because I want to have sex with someone, but I just want to stay connected with the team.

And I think a man who really loves his wife and trusts her, I think he should almost cry from all this. And say - well, of course, go! Well, of course, depending on the situation. And just look about condoms don’t forget. And I think that this is true love. When you want your loved one to feel good and be happy. But the most important thing is that he won’t fuck you, although he could.

And everything is the same in reverse. I once heard the following statement from one woman whom I know well:
Like when a husband fucks someone, it’s us who fuck!
And when they fuck me (the wife), then they fuck us.