No sex with my wife for years.

[rasaroam]

One of my friends has this situation: he has a very bad relationship with his wife, constant quarrels (mainly about money, and in general she has a nasty character).
He says that the last time he had sex was about 3 years ago. 4 ago.
He has no time or money for mistresses and prostitutes. He saves himself by jerking off to porn on the Internet. (By the way, she doesn’t have a lover either, as he assures).
Question: what should a man do? How to save him?

PS. He doesn’t want to get a divorce because of children and various material issues.

[Gudgeon]

Rasrom, I sympathize with "an acquaintance". But if you have a “very bad relationship with your wife,” then getting a divorce is the best solution. Children will survive if they are over 12-14 years old. Yes, they will survive less, but worse. Financial issues - a man with his head and hands will not disappear and will not end up on the street. They will divide the property, something will remain. And if the whole point is the desire to maintain comfort and a familiar life, then you need to decide what is more important: a normal woman and sex or familiar everyday life. I would have left. Same for you, ugh, that is. "I advise one of my friends.
In general, give more information about what and how. And then the question is like “My car won’t start: should I buy a new one or repair the old one?” Who the hell knows, maybe it burned out a year ago, or maybe the battery needs to be recharged.

[rasaroam]

Rasrom, I sympathize with "one friend ". But if you have a “very bad relationship with your wife,” then getting a divorce is the best solution. Children will survive if they are over 12-14 years old. Yes, they will survive less, but worse. Financial issues - a man with his head and hands will not disappear and will not end up on the street. They will divide the property, something will remain. And if the whole point is the desire to maintain comfort and a familiar life, then you need to decide what is more important: a normal woman and sex or familiar everyday life. I would have left. Same for you, ugh, that is. "I advise one of my friends.
In general, give more information about what and how. And then the question is like “My car won’t start: should I buy a new one or repair the old one?” Who the hell knows, maybe it burned out a year ago, or maybe the battery needs to be recharged.

Well, what information?
The man is already over 50, so yes, habits apparently play an important role.
Children? The eldest is already 18, the youngest is still kindergarten age.
In material terms, he depends on his wife, she generally commands the parade there, and especially in terms of money.
They have been together for a quarter of a century, about 15 years ago They separated for a couple of years, but he couldn’t stand it and eventually returned back (knowing all the nightmares of life with her!). He says: “One is even worse.”
But then at least they had sex. And now - a complete pipe.

[Sibiryak89]

Rasrom, I sympathize "to an acquaintance". But if you have a “very bad relationship with your wife,” then getting a divorce is the best solution. Children will survive if they are over 12-14 years old. Yes, they will survive less, but worse. Financial issues - a man with his head and hands will not disappear and will not end up on the street. They will divide the property, something will remain. And if the whole point is the desire to maintain comfort and a familiar life, then you need to decide what is more important: a normal woman and sex or familiar everyday life. I would have left. Same for you, ugh, that is. "I advise one of my friends.
In general, give more information about what and how. And then the question is like “My car won’t start: should I buy a new one or repair the old one?” Who the hell knows, maybe it burned out a year ago, or maybe the battery needs to be recharged.

Well, what information?
The man is already over 50, so yes, habits apparently play an important role.
Children? The eldest is already 18, the youngest is still kindergarten age.
In material terms, he depends on his wife, she generally commands the parade there, and especially in terms of money.
They have been together for a quarter of a century, about 15 years ago They separated for a couple of years, but he couldn’t stand it and eventually returned back (knowing all the nightmares of life with her!). He says: “One is even worse.”
But then at least they had sex. And now - a complete pipe.

And why feel sorry for him, he is a kept man, he chose his life, and he will live in humiliation and reproaches...

[niqk]

If your friend is a real man, then he should have sent such a wife to a well-known address long ago!
And if this is not a man, but he was patient, then let him sit in a dark corner and jerk off on the quiet, so that the wife doesn’t notice.. .

[rasaroam]

Rasrom, I sympathize with "an acquaintance". But if you have a “very bad relationship with your wife,” then getting a divorce is the best solution. Children will survive if they are over 12-14 years old. Yes, they will survive less, but worse. Financial issues - a man with his head and hands will not disappear and will not end up on the street. They will divide the property, something will remain. And if the whole point is the desire to maintain comfort and a familiar life, then you need to decide what is more important: a normal woman and sex or familiar everyday life. I would have left. Same for you, ugh, that is. "I advise one of my friends.
In general, give more information about what and how. And then the question is like “My car won’t start: should I buy a new one or repair the old one?” Who the hell knows, maybe it burned out a year ago, or maybe the battery needs to be recharged.

Well, what information?
The man is already over 50, so yes, habits apparently play an important role.
Children? The eldest is already 18, the youngest is still kindergarten age.
In material terms, he depends on his wife, she generally commands the parade there, and especially in terms of money.
They have been together for a quarter of a century, about 15 years ago They separated for a couple of years, but he couldn’t stand it and eventually returned back (knowing all the nightmares of life with her!). He says: “One is even worse.”
But then at least they had sex. And now - a complete pipe.

And why feel sorry for him, he is a kept man, he chose his life, and he will live in humiliation and reproaches...

Not exactly a kept man. He just earns a little, and she takes his entire salary, leaving him pennies for the bare necessities.
But now it’s no longer about money, but about sex...

[Gudgeon]

In material terms, he depends on his wife

she actually commands the parade there

takes his entire salary

couldn’t stand it and came back

I see. You can’t fix a rag.

[The passage]

Such a man is like a pet, like a cat. There is no benefit, but it’s a shame to throw it out on the street and seems inhumane.

[rasaroam]

Such a man is like a pet, like a cat. There is no benefit, but throwing it out on the street is a pity and seems inhumane.

How is it "no benefit" if she eats with his money?! And it’s unlikely that she will move the cabinets and sofas.
By the way, he told me that almost all the housework (washing dishes, cleaning, etc.) is also his responsibility. There are only children on it (more precisely, only the youngest, the eldest is already independent).

[The passage]

A man like a pet, like a cat. There is no benefit, but throwing it out on the street is a pity and seems inhumane.

How is it "no benefit" if she eats with his money?! And it’s unlikely that she will move the cabinets and sofas.
By the way, he told me that almost all the housework (washing dishes, cleaning, etc.) is also his responsibility. There are only children on it (more precisely, only the youngest, the eldest is already independent).

You wrote above that financially he depends on his wife?

[rasaroam]

A man like a pet, like a cat. There is no benefit, but throwing it out on the street is a pity and seems inhumane.

How is it "no benefit" if she eats with his money?! And it’s unlikely that she will move the cabinets and sofas.
By the way, he told me that almost all the housework (washing dishes, cleaning, etc.) is also his responsibility. There are only children on it (more precisely, only the youngest, the eldest is already independent).

You wrote above that financially he depends on his wife?

Yes, because she commands the money.
All the money (including his salary) is accumulated in her personal account, from which she highlights what she herself considers necessary. This is such a dependence...
And their income level is approximately the same

[The passage]

How is it "no use" if she eats with his money?! And it’s unlikely that she will move the cabinets and sofas.
By the way, he told me that almost all the housework (washing dishes, cleaning, etc.) is also his responsibility. There are only children on it (more precisely, only the youngest, the eldest is already independent).

You wrote above that financially he depends on his wife?

Yes, because she commands the money.
All the money (including his salary) is accumulated in her personal account, from which she highlights what she herself considers necessary. This is such a dependence...
And so their level of income is approximately the same

If the level of income is the same, then why did you write that does she eat with his money? And how often do they move cabinets and sofas? And, the most important question, doesn’t your friend think that he didn’t need sex all these years, that masturbation was enough for him, since he doesn’t even remember when he last had sex, three or four years ago? The difference is a whole year - that’s 365 days - that’s a lot. And he posted this topic when there has been no sex for such a long time. Why did he suddenly even remember about sex?

[rasaroam]

You wrote above that financially he depends on his wife?

Yes , because she commands money.
All the money (including his salary) is accumulated in her personal account, from which she allocates what she considers necessary. This is such a dependence...
And so their level of income is approximately the same

If the level of income is the same, then why did you write that does she eat with his money? And how often do they move cabinets and sofas? And, the most important question, doesn’t your friend think that he didn’t need sex all these years, that masturbation was enough for him, since he doesn’t even remember when he last had sex, three or four years ago? The difference is a whole year - that’s 365 days - that’s a lot. And he posted this topic when there has been no sex for such a long time. Why did he suddenly remember about sex?

He eats with his money, because all current expenses come from his salary. And all of it is collected in one’s account, accumulated, like (it’s unknown for what, really).
I can’t say for sure about sofas, but I assume that this happens from time to time
As for sex - I didn’t specify the exact dates, and I don’t think they are important. He just recently cried that he was tired of living in this format. But he doesn’t know how to get out of this vicious circle. Any possible exit option is only fraught with worsening the situation. Which is already unbearable.

[The passage]

Yes, because she commands the money.
All the money (including his salary) is accumulated in her personal account, from which she allocates what she considers it necessary. This is such a dependence...
And so their level of income is approximately the same

If the level of income is the same, then why did you write that does she eat with his money? And how often do they move cabinets and sofas? And, the most important question, doesn’t your friend think that he didn’t need sex all these years, that masturbation was enough for him, since he doesn’t even remember when he last had sex, three or four years ago? The difference is a whole year - that’s 365 days - that’s a lot. And he posted this topic when there has been no sex for such a long time. Why did he suddenly remember about sex?

He eats with his money, because all current expenses come from his salary. And all of it is collected in one’s account, accumulated, like (it’s unknown for what, really).
I can’t say for sure about sofas, but I assume that this happens from time to time
As for sex - I didn’t specify the exact dates, and I don’t think they are important. He just recently cried that he was tired of living in this format. But he doesn’t know how to get out of this vicious circle. Any possible exit option is only fraught with worsening the situation. Which is already unbearable.

I lived for four years and everything was fine, and now suddenly everything is bad? Why, the joints on his hand are inflamed and he can’t masturbate anymore?
Tell me honestly, he used to drink and didn’t even notice how the sex disappeared. His wife got tired of his binges and she put him in another room, but he didn’t need to; during moments of remission he managed without his wife, and then he went on a binge again. Oh, he doesn’t drink now. Something happened to his health and the doctors forbade it and he remembered about sex.
If he lives in a family, then it’s normal to give his salary to his wife. She runs the household, and he won’t be able to drink it all away if he slips up again.

[bpvtyf]

hello everyone. Poor guy, he has to live like this, why don’t he go to the bathhouse. This is how you have to endure it, well, he’s got nerves. Yeah

[Ogest]

and in general she has a vile character

Something tells me that it’s not only her.

[Gudgeon]

But he doesn’t know how to get out of this vicious circle.

What is there to know? Divorce and free. He’s just spineless. They won’t change anything. Just whine.

[rasaroam]

If the income level is the same, then why did you write that she eats with his money? And how often do they move cabinets and sofas? And, the most important question, doesn’t your friend think that he didn’t need sex all these years, that masturbation was enough for him, since he doesn’t even remember when he last had sex, three or four years ago? The difference is a whole year - that’s 365 days - that’s a lot. And he posted this topic when there has been no sex for such a long time. Why did he suddenly remember about sex?

He eats with his money, because all current expenses come from his salary. And all of it is collected in one’s account, accumulated, like (it’s unknown for what, really).
I can’t say for sure about sofas, but I assume that this happens from time to time
As for sex - I didn’t specify the exact dates, and I don’t think they are important. He just recently cried that he was tired of living in this format. But he doesn’t know how to get out of this vicious circle. Any possible exit option is only fraught with worsening the situation. Which is already unbearable.

I lived for four years and everything was fine, and now suddenly everything is bad? Why, the joints on his hand are inflamed and he can’t masturbate anymore?
Tell me honestly, he used to drink and didn’t even notice how the sex disappeared. His wife got tired of his binges and she put him in another room, but he didn’t need to; during moments of remission he managed without his wife, and then he went on a binge again. Oh, he doesn’t drink now. Something happened to his health and the doctors forbade it and he remembered about sex.
If he lives in a family, then it’s normal to give his salary to his wife. She runs the household, and he won’t be able to drink it all away if he breaks down again.

The most interesting thing is that he doesn’t drink. Well, only wine on holidays
I don’t know about the other room, but I wouldn’t be surprised.
She often yells at him about how she hates him and that if he doesn’t like something, then keep him he is not going to.
But he says that he still, in spite of everything, loves her, because he remembers her differently, as she was before, 20 years ago.

As for the lack of sex - he’s just tired of it, that’s all. Isn’t this a normal reason?

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And he doesn’t know how to get out of this vicious circle.

What is there to know? Divorce and free. He’s just spineless. They won’t change anything. Just whine.

Well, yes, spineless. Do the spineless people not have the right to personal happiness and normal sex?

[The passage]

He eats with his money, because all current expenses come from his salary. And all of it is collected in one’s account, accumulated, like (it’s unknown for what, really).
I can’t say for sure about sofas, but I assume that this happens from time to time
As for sex - I didn’t specify the exact dates, and I don’t think they are important. He just recently cried that he was tired of living in this format. But he doesn’t know how to get out of this vicious circle. Any possible exit option is only fraught with worsening the situation. Which is already unbearable.

I lived for four years and everything was fine, and now suddenly everything is bad? Why, the joints on his hand are inflamed and he can’t masturbate anymore?
Tell me honestly, he used to drink and didn’t even notice how the sex disappeared. His wife got tired of his binges and she put him in another room, but he didn’t need to; during moments of remission he managed without his wife, and then he went on a binge again. Oh, he doesn’t drink now. Something happened to his health and the doctors forbade it and he remembered about sex.
If he lives in a family, then it’s normal to give his salary to his wife. She runs the household, and he won’t be able to drink it all away if he breaks down again.

The most interesting thing is that he doesn’t drink. Well, only wine on holidays
I don’t know about the other room, but I wouldn’t be surprised.
She often yells at him about how she hates him and that if he doesn’t like something, then keep him he is not going to.
But he says that he still, in spite of everything, loves her, because he remembers her differently, as she was before, 20 years ago.

As for the lack of sex - he’s just tired of it, that’s all. Isn’t this a normal reason?

If you got tired of it, you would probably get a divorce? Is not it? Something is wrong in this story, something your friend is not telling you.

[alex503311]

I would send, he doesn’t cook and doesn’t clean, okay, but he doesn’t give, even if I love him, but because I don’t want to, but rather a divorce.

[Gudgeon]

that they have no right to personal happiness and normal sex

That’s not the point. And the fact is that there is no way to help him until he decides to help himself.

[rasaroam]

I lived for four years and everything was fine, and now suddenly everything is bad? Why, the joints on his hand are inflamed and he can’t masturbate anymore?
Tell me honestly, he used to drink and didn’t even notice how the sex disappeared. His wife got tired of his binges and she put him in another room, but he didn’t need to; during moments of remission he managed without his wife, and then he went on a binge again. Oh, he doesn’t drink now. Something happened to his health and the doctors forbade it and he remembered about sex.
If he lives in a family, then it’s normal to give his salary to his wife. She runs the household, and he won’t be able to drink it all away if he breaks down again.

The most interesting thing is that he doesn’t drink. Well, only wine on holidays
I don’t know about the other room, but I wouldn’t be surprised.
She often yells at him about how she hates him and that if he doesn’t like something, then keep him he is not going to.
But he says that he still, in spite of everything, loves her, because he remembers her differently, as she was before, 20 years ago.

As for the lack of sex - he’s just tired of it, that’s all. Isn’t this a normal reason?

If you got tired of it, you would probably get a divorce? Is not it? Something is wrong in this story, something your friend is not telling you.

So they already went through it, ran away. He says: it got even worse, that’s why he asked to come back.
This is such a tragedy for a person (well, not a tragedy, since everyone is alive, thank God, but a drama, for sure).

[Solomon]

Rasrom, I sympathize with "one friend ". But if you have a “very bad relationship with your wife,” then getting a divorce is the best solution. Children will survive if they are over 12-14 years old. Yes, they will survive less, but worse. Financial issues - a man with his head and hands will not disappear and will not end up on the street. They will divide the property, something will remain. And if the whole point is the desire to maintain comfort and a familiar life, then you need to decide what is more important: a normal woman and sex or familiar everyday life. I would have left. Same for you, ugh, that is. "I advise one of my friends.
In general, give more information about what and how. And then the question is like “My car won’t start: should I buy a new one or repair the old one?” Who the hell knows, maybe it burned out a year ago, or maybe the battery needs to be recharged.

I support. That’s right. But my opinion is that she has been fucking on the side for a long time, most likely, since she doesn’t give it to her husband, the woman will not be left without sex. and the husband can be a latent cuckold

[rasaroam]

Rasrom, I sympathize "to an acquaintance". But if you have a “very bad relationship with your wife,” then getting a divorce is the best solution. Children will survive if they are over 12-14 years old. Yes, they will survive less, but worse. Financial issues - a man with his head and hands will not disappear and will not end up on the street. They will divide the property, something will remain. And if the whole point is the desire to maintain comfort and a familiar life, then you need to decide what is more important: a normal woman and sex or familiar everyday life. I would have left. Same for you, ugh, that is. "I advise one of my friends.
In general, give more information about what and how. And then the question is like “My car won’t start: should I buy a new one or repair the old one?” Who the hell knows, maybe it burned out a year ago, or maybe the battery needs to be recharged.

I support. That’s right. But my opinion is that she has been fucking on the side for a long time, most likely, since she doesn’t give it to her husband, the woman will not be left without sex. and the husband can be a latent cuckold

nNo, he doesn’t give a fuck. That’s probably why she’s angry, I think: if people don’t have normal sex, then they start screwing each other’s brains out.
It’s a vicious circle: lack of sex leads to bad relationships, and with bad relationships, sex is impossible. And no one knows how to break this vicious circle...

[Solomon]

Rasrom, I sympathize with "an acquaintance". But if you have a “very bad relationship with your wife,” then getting a divorce is the best solution. Children will survive if they are over 12-14 years old. Yes, they will survive less, but worse. Financial issues - a man with his head and hands will not disappear and will not end up on the street. They will divide the property, something will remain. And if the whole point is the desire to maintain comfort and a familiar life, then you need to decide what is more important: a normal woman and sex or familiar everyday life. I would have left. Same for you, ugh, that is. "I advise one of my friends.
In general, give more information about what and how. And then the question is like “My car won’t start: should I buy a new one or repair the old one?” Who the hell knows, maybe it burned out a year ago, or maybe the battery needs to be recharged.

I support. That’s right. But my opinion is that she has been fucking on the side for a long time, most likely, since she doesn’t give it to her husband, the woman will not be left without sex. and the husband can be a latent cuckold

nNo, he doesn’t give a fuck. That’s probably why she’s angry, I think: if people don’t have normal sex, then they start screwing each other’s brains out.
It’s a vicious circle: lack of sex leads to bad relationships, and with bad relationships, sex is impossible. And no one knows how to break this vicious circle...

I don’t give a fuck, she may be angry that she has to put up with you, she can’t leave, she doesn’t want to destroy , clings to a family that doesn’t exist. Maybe he values ​​the opinions of his family or friends, he doesn’t want in their eyes to be someone who didn’t keep his family together, but there are many reasons why a woman can be evil. A lover is only kind, and the one who fucks her is not necessarily her beloved

[The passage]

Rasrom, I sympathize with "an acquaintance". But if you have a “very bad relationship with your wife,” then getting a divorce is the best solution. Children will survive if they are over 12-14 years old. Yes, they will survive less, but worse. Financial issues - a man with his head and hands will not disappear and will not end up on the street. They will divide the property, something will remain. And if the whole point is the desire to maintain comfort and a familiar life, then you need to decide what is more important: a normal woman and sex or familiar everyday life. I would have left. Same for you, ugh, that is. "I advise one of my friends.
In general, give more information about what and how. And then the question is like “My car won’t start: should I buy a new one or repair the old one?” Who the hell knows, maybe it burned out a year ago, or maybe the battery needs to be recharged.

I support. That’s right. But my opinion is that she has been fucking on the side for a long time, most likely, since she doesn’t give it to her husband, the woman will not be left without sex. and the husband can be a latent cuckold

nNo, he doesn’t give a fuck. That’s probably why she’s angry, I think: if people don’t have normal sex, then they start screwing each other’s brains out.
It’s a vicious circle: lack of sex leads to bad relationships, and with bad relationships, sex is impossible. And no one knows how to break this vicious circle...

If she swears for no reason, then perhaps she has problems with the thyroid gland, with the cortex adrenal glands or ischemia of the frontal part of the brain. Or there is still a reason. In any case, we need to figure it out and not whine.

[Loco]

Marinka, you also forgot about menopause. This stage in women’s lives also makes them too angry

[Winsly]

What should he do? Talk to your wife about this topic. If divorce is not an option, then just jerk off or look for sex on the side. What else can you do here?

[The passage]

Marinka, you forgot about menopause . This stage in women’s lives also makes them too angry

Maybe, but we have hormone replacement therapy that helps smooth out the symptoms of menopause. In any case, water does not flow under the lying stone. If the vehicle does nothing, nothing in life will change.

[Loco]

Marinka, yes, there is such a therapy, but it is completely not cheap, especially for residents of countries like the Russian Federation, so most women simply tolerate

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Rasrom , well, he’s just a slave, a resource for her. Now everything is clear. Heels don’t excite women. I am 100 percent sure that she gives to lovers on the side, and does not sit in nuns

[The passage]

Marinka, yes, there is such a therapy , but it is not cheap at all, especially for residents of countries like the Russian Federation, so most women simply tolerate

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Rasrom, well, he’s just a slave, a resource for her. Now everything is clear. Heels don’t excite women. I am 100 percent sure that she gives to lovers on the side, and does not sit in a nun

There is no point in enduring. Menopause can last for years.

[Loco]

Marinka, perhaps, but not for all women Menopause is so long, and not all women have strong side effects. Some people tolerate it more or less calmly

[The passage]

Marinka, perhaps, but not All women have such a long menopause, and not all women have strong side effects. Some tolerate it more or less calmly

I know the symptoms and clinical picture of menopause.

[Rtrc]

Find a girlfriend quickly. Either for meetings, or go to her for good. There are no problems now.

[Sibiryak89]

Well, what information?
The man is already over 50, so yes, habits apparently play an important role.
Children? The eldest is already 18, the youngest is still kindergarten age.
In material terms, he depends on his wife, she generally commands the parade there, and especially in terms of money.
They have been together for a quarter of a century, about 15 years ago They separated for a couple of years, but he couldn’t stand it and eventually returned back (knowing all the nightmares of life with her!). He says: “One is even worse.”
But then at least they had sex. And now - a complete pipe.

And why feel sorry for him, he is a kept man, he chose his life, and he will live in humiliation and reproaches...

Not exactly a kept man. He just earns a little, and she takes his entire salary, leaving him pennies for the most necessary things.
But now it’s no longer about money, but about sex...

If he had money, then he would be interesting to the ladies or he could hire a prostitute, but he can find a job and be independent, or he can only jerk off, that’s his fate.

[niqk]

So they suggest a way out to the passion-bearer...

[Bizig]

One of my friends has this situation

1:1!!! Unfortunately... I wasted my life...

[6996]

If this is not a fictional character, then you can only say one thing: "To hell with him! Let the asshole himself suffer!"
Because he himself allowed such an attitude towards himself. He himself is so weak-willed that he doesn’t want to change anything. Well, let him now live in the hell he himself created.

[Terminator]

He has only one destiny. Just jerk off.

[rasaroam]

If this is not a fictional character, then you can only say one thing: "To hell with him! Let the asshole himself suffer!"
Because he himself allowed such an attitude towards himself. He himself is so weak-willed that he doesn’t want to change anything. Well, let him now live in hell, which he himself created.

Cruelty is evil!

[6996]

If this is not a fictional character, then you can only say one thing: "To hell with him! Let the asshole himself suffer!"
Because he himself allowed such an attitude towards himself. He himself is so weak-willed that he doesn’t want to change anything. Well, let him now live in hell, which he himself created.

Cruelty is evil!

Not like that! Senseless cruelty is evil!
So what? Is there a real chance to help him if he himself doesn’t want to change anything? I’m just not a hypocrite. And if a person himself does not want to part (and this is the only adequate way out for a moment), then he is his own evil Pinocchio.