Irritation after sex

Unread post by **XiaH** » 16 Mar 2023, 20:46

Question for men - do you ever experience such a sharp, growing irritation after sex? Literally in the first minutes after ejaculation. I noticed that sometimes this happens to me, even sometimes on a physiological level as if. When you have just finished and immediately after the pleasure, some not very pleasant feeling comes over you. Sometimes you even want to immediately forget this sex or imagine that it never happened. This has happened to me occasionally before, but I blamed my partners, saying I didn’t like them much, since we frolicked with many of them purely for relaxation. But now I somehow paid special attention to this, maybe it’s due to age?

Somehow it blurs the effect on the finale and spoils the pleasure of orgasm sometimes. I wonder if something similar has happened to members of the forum. I found such a definition as “post-coital dysphoria,” but according to the description it’s not quite right and mainly only women suffer from this. For some reason, it seems that this is an age thing; in my youth, I also had women who did not cause much delight, but it ended well with many and there was little like this. Well, except that sometimes I wanted to quickly get rid of them right after sex or disappear somewhere out of shame. For example, in cases when after sex you immediately pull your panties over yourself, sneaking a glance at the object of passion and thinking, "Fuck, fucked up."

Unread post by **Tanya** » 16 Mar 2023, 21:36

This probably happens if you don’t like your partner or if there is a misunderstanding or quarrel with her before intimacy. And then perhaps after sex the question arises, like why is all this necessary.

By the way, I experienced this when I entered into intimacy without desire and after PA the thought itched "well, why was this necessary"

Unread post by **Axler** » 16 Mar 2023, 21:42

This phenomenon is called "postcoital dysphoria". The thing is rare, little studied, unpleasant (psychologically), but harmless from a health point of view (although it itself may be an indicator of existing problems).
In general, as I said, it is extremely rare, but many people have individual symptoms that resemble it. This is most often associated with a sharp change in hormonal levels at the moment of ejaculation (in both men and women) or in the psyche.
If the strength of negative feelings is not very strong, and such cases are rare, you can simply give up. Indeed, maybe the partner is simply not suitable / other external factors. This happens to many people.
If you experience this every time and the negative feelings after ejaculation are strong and last a long time (several hours or more), then I would advise you to find a good endocrinologist and get tested for hormones. And then either a sex therapist or a psychologist.

Unread post by **Mr.hamsterrr** » 16 Mar 2023, 21:54

It happened before, when I just tried it with men and every time after sex there was disappointment and a silent question to myself "Well, what’s wrong with you?"

there’s something in my head, I need to figure it out, maybe go to a sexologist-psychologist. Obviously, I was hampered by the moral bonds that were given to me by my upbringing from childhood. And, accordingly, with age I became free from them and now I get high as I want))

Unread post by **Lada R** » 16 Mar 2023, 22:26

Mr.hamsterrr: 16 Mar 2023, 21:54 It happened before, when I just tried it with men and every time after sex there was disappointment and a silent question to myself "well, what’s wrong with you?" something is sitting in my head, I need to deal with it So, maybe go to a sexologist-psychologist. Obviously, I was hampered by the moral bonds that were given to me by my upbringing from childhood. And, accordingly, with age I became free from them and now I get high as I want

just don’t forget us women... : bel_flag:

Unread post by **Tapkin** » 16 Mar 2023, 22:26

XyaH: 16 Mar 2023, 20:46 Question to men - do you ever experience such a sharp increase in irritation after sex? Literally in the first minutes after ejaculation. I noticed that sometimes this happens to me, even sometimes on a physiological level as if. When you have just finished and immediately after the pleasure, some not very pleasant feeling comes over you. Sometimes you even want to immediately forget this sex or imagine that it never happened. This has happened to me occasionally before, but I blamed my partners, saying I didn’t like them much, since we frolicked with many of them purely for relaxation. But now I somehow paid special attention to this, maybe it’s due to age?

Somehow it blurs the effect on the finale and spoils the pleasure of orgasm sometimes. I wonder if something similar has happened to members of the forum. I found such a definition as “post-coital dysphoria,” but according to the description it’s not quite right and mainly only women suffer from this. For some reason, it seems that this is an age thing; in my youth, I also had women who did not cause much delight, but it ended well with many and there was little like this. Well, except that sometimes I wanted to quickly get rid of them right after sex or disappear somewhere out of shame. For example, in cases when, after sex, you immediately pull your panties over yourself, sneaking a glance at the object of passion and thinking, “Fuck, fucked up.”

...for me it probably manifests itself somewhat differently. Most likely, some kind of feature, with a generally quite attractive appearance! Although it happens that even without sex, this feature, when examined for a long time, spoils the whole picture of attractiveness to the point of ugliness!
Hence, probably, the desire, immediately after sex, to stop all this immediately and get out of the place of "violence against one’s own personality", well, it goes away in about 30 minutes))))

Unread post by **Mr.hamsterrr** » 16 Mar 2023, 23:15

Lada R: 16 Mar 2023, 22:26 don’t forget us women...

No, no, I adore women, they are my favorite people

Unread post by **XiaH** » 17 Mar 2023, 09:19

Axler: 16 Mar 2023, 21:42 If you experience this every time and the negative feelings after ejaculation are strong and last a long time (several hours or more), then I would advise you to find a good endocrinologist and get tested for hormones. And then either a sex therapist or a psychologist.

ugh, not every time and the effect does not last long, up to 5 minutes. In any case, you need to go and get tested for hormones. It seems testosterone is falling, well, at least there is no strong desire to seek sex like before. I also stopped drinking and realized that most of the contacts were obtained in a drunken stupor. Just like sex actually happened most of the time, but when I drank, no such effect was observed. And in general, when you’re drunk, you close your eyes to many things and in general all sex becomes blurred, I’m tired of it. Finding an absolutely non-drinking girl is not an easy task, and you still have to refuse every other time. It’s surprising that women don’t shy away from drinking alone, even without company, when you say that you don’t drink.

Unread post by **Axler** » 17 Mar 2023, 09:53

XyaH, I would say that in your case absolutely no need to worry. A five-minute "reboot", and not every time, is a fairly common and quite normal phenomenon.
As for testosterone, then, most likely, everything is normal too. The fact is that with age, daily peaks smooth out (~8 am at maximum, ~8 pm at minimum), and if at 18-20 years old the difference can reach 33-34 nmol/l, then at 30-40 years old it is only ~7 nmol/l. Plus, with age, the overall concentration decreases, which is absolutely natural and normal (it does not decrease sharply and not to say very strongly).
With a sharp drop in testosterone, you will immediately notice it - erectile dysfunction will appear, rapid hair loss, breast growth and uncontrolled weight gain will begin, regardless of diet.

Unread post by **Wanderer** » 17 Mar 2023, 22:43

Oh, that’s what... Testosterone...
As a child, I was perplexed by the plot of Samuil Marshak. What happened there? What is the conflict? Now it’s clear... Here it is:
Come on, old woman, let’s keep quiet.
And whoever opens his mouth,
And is the first to utter a word,
That’s the door and the ban!

Unread post by **Ulof** » 17 Mar 2023, 23:13

It happens and it all depends on the situation.
When sex is bad and you come so it’s over. When there is no liberation in the process for some reason (a quarrel, omissions, or just my head is not in the right place).

I will cum a couple of times, then I force myself to cum. And then she wants to hug or be pampered some more, but I would like to restrain myself and not push her out of bed)))
But this happens extremely rarely and has an emotional background