Jealousy after divorce

Unread post by **Ted_2023** » 18 Mar 2023, 04:40

Many of us have experienced betrayal, tell me, if you have outwardly forgiven a person, does that person still have a feeling of jealousy in their soul? For example, after a divorce, I didn’t communicate with my wife for 4 years, although I lived in the next house...

Unread post by **The passage** » 18 Mar 2023, 04:42

Ted_2023: 18 Mar 2023, 04:40 Many of us have experienced betrayal, tell me, if you have outwardly forgiven a person, does that person still have a feeling of jealousy in their soul? For example, after a divorce, I didn’t communicate with my wife for 4 years, although I lived in a neighboring house...

Why communicate after a divorce?

Unread post by **Breeze** » 18 Mar 2023, 04:48

What’s gone is gone, forget it and live again!

Unread post by **Mr.hamsterrr** » 18 Mar 2023, 04:56

I didn’t really understand the essence of the question) I’ll tell you a story. We lived with the girl for more than five years. He loved her madly. But since this was the first relationship, there were many mistakes, both on my part and on her part. More from mine. There were quarrels, intemperance, resentment. At the same time, it was not possible to really talk afterwards; it was customary to simply forget and move on with life. As a result, they moved away from each other and only sex remained. Good, nothing to complain about. But other than sex, sometimes there wasn’t even anything to talk about. As a result, she made a friend who became a pillow into which she cried. This caused jealousy on my part and in the end she slept with him, but she decided to leave only after two weeks, apparently side B was not ready to immediately take the ball to their side)
In short, the offense was terrible, I never thought I’ll forgive you. Actually, he didn’t forgive me, but that didn’t stop us from having sex a couple of times after 5 years

the wounds heal and you just don’t get offended anymore, but forgive and live together again - never)

Unread post by **BUGOR** » 18 Mar 2023, 05:02

I will answer for myself, I didn’t have any cheating, but I divorced my ex-wife calmly after the divorce and never communicated again, although we encountered them many times

Unread post by **Ted_2023** » 18 Mar 2023, 05:41

Marinka, everyone has common things to do .. or things

Unread post by **FUCKYAMATERITY** » 22 Mar 2023, 08:29

Mr.hamsterrr: 18 Mar 2023, 04:56 it didn’t stop us from having sex a couple of times after 5 years the wounds heal and you just don’t get offended anymore

Sex with an ex promotes scarring, especially if she is in a relationship. It seems like a feeling of revenge - they say, she crawled anyway)) True, they showed up more often when they parted with the next guy, but that’s also nothing like therapy. For both.

Unread post by **Mr.hamsterrr** » 22 Mar 2023, 08:54

FUCKYAMATERITY: 22 Mar 2023, 08:29 Sex with an ex promotes scarring

That’s exactly what happened. Until we talked, I no, no, and I remembered her, regretted that we broke up and all that. And as soon as we got together for a short time, even if only for sex, and then separated again, now I don’t remember at all, I felt completely relieved.

Unread post by **niqk** » 22 Mar 2023, 09:09

I parted with my mistresses without any regrets... And with my wife - even such thoughts do not appear!..

Unread post by **Ulof** » 22 Mar 2023, 09:15

I have an acquaintance who is constantly interested in the lives of his exes (there are a couple of girls there), is jealous of them, makes advances at them at parties together... I don’t know why this is necessary. It’s good that it doesn’t go any further

Unread post by **Ted_2023** » 22 Mar 2023, 13:00

And why? Everything is in the past

Unread post by **Slavaregy** » 22 Mar 2023, 13:39

Men are characterized by jealousy, but only until new love appears. Therefore, after a breakup, many are jealous of their exes until they meet new love. Then it becomes indifferent.

Unread post by **Mr.hamsterrr** » 22 Mar 2023, 13:51

Slavaregy: 22 Mar 2023, 13:39 Men are characterized by jealousy, but only until new love appears. Therefore, after a breakup, many are jealous of their exes until they meet new love. Then it becomes indifferent.

Everything is spot on ☝

Unread post by **Ulof** » 22 Mar 2023, 22:58

Slavaregy: 22 Mar 2023, 13:39 Men are naturally jealous

not all. I already wrote in another topic that jealousy is a manifestation of an inferiority complex.
In the context of the topic, the past should be in the past. All that remains from a relationship are memories and experiences.

22 Mar 2023, 23:09

Ulof: 22 Mar 2023, 22:58 jealousy is a manifestation of an inferiority complex.

It turns out that I have practically no complexes

, although I always thought that I was the opposite shy.

Unread post by **Ulof** » 22 Mar 2023, 23:14

Markul: 22 Mar 2023, 23:09 It turns out I have practically no complexes

Everyone has complexes

Superficial shyness can get along with internal self-esteem and self-confidence

Unread post by **Andrey Lukashov** » 23 Mar 2023, 02:03

I divorced my first wife 17 years ago. She got married almost immediately after the divorce and now lives in another country, but we communicate with her often. About once a year he comes to his parents and never forgets about me. She already gave birth to a child there and with her new husband, but most likely this was my work, since nine months before the birth of her daughter, she came to her parents, we met and even spent the night together in a hotel. Now, too, when he comes, we never go without good sex. Usually at her parents’ dacha. Her father and mother know everything.

Unread post by **The passage** » 23 Mar 2023, 02:29

It’s not normal to be jealous after a divorce.

Unread post by **Andrey Lukashov** » 23 Mar 2023, 04:34

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 02:29 It’s not normal to be jealous after a divorce.

I absolutely agree. No one forces you to remain close people, just as in general, no one demands you break off relationships for the rest of your life. Jealousy is generally inappropriate here, if only because after a divorce, former spouses gain independence and freedom.

Unread post by **FUCKYAMATERITY** » 23 Mar 2023, 05:36

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 02:29 It’s not normal to be jealous after a divorce.

Of course it’s not normal. Only there are all sorts of circumstances of separation.

Unread post by **DON** » 23 Mar 2023, 05:37

Marinka: 18 Mar 2023, 04:42
Ted_2023: 18 Mar 2023, 04:40 Many of us have experienced betrayal, tell me, if you have outwardly forgiven a person, does that feeling of jealousy still remain in your soul? For example, after a divorce, I didn’t communicate with my wife for 4 years, although I lived in a neighboring house...
Why communicate after a divorce?

Feelings! Do you know there is such a thing?!

Unread post by **The passage** » 23 Mar 2023, 05:37

FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 05:36
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 02:29 It’s not normal to be jealous after a divorce.
Of course it’s not normal. But there are all sorts of circumstances of separation.

And how are the circumstances of separation and jealousy related?

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DON: 23 Mar 2023, 05:37
Marinka:
Ted_2023: 18 Mar 2023, 04:40 Many of us have experienced betrayal, tell me if you have outwardly forgiven person, then that feeling of jealousy still remains in his soul? For example, after a divorce, I didn’t communicate with my wife for 4 years, although I lived in a neighboring house...

Why communicate after a divorce?
Feelings! Do you know there is such a thing?!

If you have feelings, then why did you break up?

Unread post by **DON** » 23 Mar 2023, 05:41

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:38
FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 05:36
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 02:29 It’s not normal to be jealous after a divorce.
Of course it’s not normal. But there are all sorts of circumstances of separation.
And how are the circumstances of separation and jealousy related?

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DON: 23 Mar 2023, 05:37
Marinka:

Why communicate after a divorce?
Feelings! Do you know there is such a thing?!
Often feelings do not interfere with divorce! The reasons for divorce are different.

If you have feelings, then why did you break up?

Unread post by **The passage** » 23 Mar 2023, 05:44

DON: 23 Mar 2023, 05:41
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:38
FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 05:36 Of course it’s not normal. But there are all sorts of circumstances of separation.
And how are the circumstances of separation and jealousy related?

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DON: 23 Mar 2023, 05:37 Feelings! Do you know there is such a thing?!
Often feelings do not interfere with divorce! The reasons for divorce are different.

If you have feelings, then why did you break up?

It’s stupid to break up and then continue to communicate. Then it’s better not to break up at all. Especially if you have feelings.

Unread post by **DON** » 23 Mar 2023, 05:48

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:44
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 05:41
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:38 And how are the circumstances of separation and jealousy related?

Sent after 44 seconds: Often feelings do not interfere with divorce! The reasons for divorce are different.

If you have feelings, then why did you break up?

It’s stupid to break up and then continue to communicate. Then it’s better not to break up at all. Especially if you have feelings.

You know that there are also children! When a man and a woman were married.

Unread post by **The passage** » 23 Mar 2023, 05:50

DON: 23 Mar 2023, 05:48
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:44
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 05:41
It’s stupid to break up and then continue to communicate. Then it’s better not to break up at all. Especially if you have feelings.
You know that there are also children! When a man and a woman have been married.

Of course, you shouldn’t get a divorce for the sake of the children? Yes?

Unread post by **DON** » 23 Mar 2023, 05:55

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:50
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 05:48
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:44 It’s stupid to break up and then continue to communicate. Then it’s better not to break up at all. Especially if you have feelings.
You know that there are also children! When a man and a woman have been married.
Of course, you shouldn’t get a divorce for the sake of the children? Yes?

What does this have to do with it? This is decided by the spouses. Their right to choose.

Unread post by **The passage** » 23 Mar 2023, 05:57

DON: 23 Mar 2023, 05:55
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:50
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 05:48 You know that there are also children! When a man and a woman have been married.
Of course, you shouldn’t get a divorce for the sake of the children? Yes?
What does this have to do with it? This is decided by the spouses. Their right to choose.

And what did they decide?

Unread post by **FUCKYAMATERITY** » 23 Mar 2023, 05:58

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:44 how are the circumstances of separation and jealousy related?

They can be directly connected if the initiative was not mutual.

Unread post by **The passage** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:00

FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 05:58
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:44 how are the circumstances of separation and jealousy related?
They can be directly connected if the initiative was not mutual.

I should have contacted a family psychologist

Unread post by **DON** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:02

FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 05:58
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:44 how are the circumstances of separation and jealousy related?
They can be directly connected if the initiative was not mutual.

Vital. This happens often!

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Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:00
FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 05:58
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:44 how are the circumstances of separation and jealousy related?
They can be directly connected if the initiative was not mutual.
I should have turned to a family psychologist

We have psychologists, like medicine at the level of the African tribe!

Unread post by **The passage** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:05

DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:03
FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 05:58
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 05:44 How are the circumstances of separation and jealousy related?
Can be directly related if the initiative was not mutual.
Vital. This happens often!

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Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:00
FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 05:58 They may be directly connected if the initiative was not mutual.
I should have contacted a family psychologist
We have psychologists, like medicine, at the level of the African tribe!

And how did you determine this level ? Were you treated in Africa, and then here?

Unread post by **opposite** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:06

How are "Anonymous forum about sex and sexual deviations" and "Jealousy after divorce" connected??

Unread post by **DON** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:08

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:05
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:03
FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 05:58
Can be directly connected if the initiative was not mutual.
Vital. This happens often!

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Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:00

I should have turned to a family psychologist
We have psychologists, like medicine at the level of the African tribe!
How did you determine this level? Were you treated in Africa, and then here?

I worked there! I read a lot.

Unread post by **FUCKYAMATERITY** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:11

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:00 It was necessary to contact a family psychologist

This is not a guarantee, and with a firm decision it is simply useless.

Unread post by **The passage** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:12

DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:08
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:05
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:03 Vital. This happens often!

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We have psychologists, like medicine, at the level of the African tribe!
How did you determine this level? Were you treated in Africa, and then here?
I worked there! I read a lot.

Who did they work there? Psychologist? And then we came back and from here the conclusion is that our level and their level are the same))))

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FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 06:11
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:00 I should have contacted a family psychologist
This is not a guarantee, and with a firm decision it is simply useless business.

But it was worth a try

Unread post by **DON** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:15

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:12
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:08
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:05

How did you determine this level? Were you treated in Africa, and then here?
I worked there! I read a lot.
Who did they work there? Psychologist? And then they came back and hence the conclusion that our level and their level are the same))))

Certainly not a psychologist! There is absolutely no need for such a profession.

Just compared. The difference is not great.

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Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:13
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:08
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:05

How did you determine this level? Were you treated in Africa, and then here?
I worked there! I read a lot.
Who did they work there? Psychologist? And then we came back and from here the conclusion is that our level and their level are the same))))

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FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 06:11
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:00 I should have contacted a family psychologist
This is not a guarantee, and with a firm decision it is simply useless business.
But it was worth a try

You probably tried!

Unread post by **FUCKYAMATERITY** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:20

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:13 But it was worth a try

How? Forcibly drag your spouse to a psychologist? It’s too late, this can only have an effect if problems arise. And a joint desire to solve them.

Unread post by **The passage** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:21

DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:16
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:12
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:08 I worked there! I read a lot.
Who did they work there? Psychologist? And then they came back and hence the conclusion that our level and their level are the same))))
Certainly not a psychologist! There is absolutely no need for such a profession. Just compared. The difference is not great.

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Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:13
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:08 I worked there! I read a lot.
Who did they work there? Psychologist? And then we came back and from here the conclusion is that our level and their level are the same))))

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FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 06:11
This is not a guarantee, and with a firm decision it is simply useless.
n But it was worth a try
You probably tried!

In my case it is necessary I had to work not with a psychologist, but with a narcologist, and before filing for divorce, I tried everything. But my husband was not jealous of me even during marriage. The bottle replaced everything in the world for him.

Unread post by **FUCKYAMATERITY** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:23

Marinka, this is a slightly different matter.

Unread post by **DON** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:24

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:21
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:16
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:12 Who did they work there? Psychologist? And then they came back and hence the conclusion that our level and their level are the same))))
Certainly not a psychologist! There is absolutely no need for such a profession. Just compared. The difference is not great.

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Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:13 Who did they work there? Psychologist? And then we came back and from here the conclusion is that our level and their level are the same))))

Sent after 29 seconds: But it was worth a try
You probably tried!
In my case, it was necessary to work not with a psychologist, but with a narcologist, and before filing for divorce, I tried everything. But my husband was not jealous of me even during marriage. The bottle replaced everything in the world for him.

Why did he exchange the bottle for you?

Unread post by **The passage** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:26

DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:24
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:21
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:16 Certainly not a psychologist! There is absolutely no need for such a profession. Just compared. The difference is not great.

Sent after 1 minute 14 seconds: You probably we tried!
In my case, it was necessary to work not with a psychologist, but with a narcologist, and before filing for divorce, I tried everything. But my husband was not jealous of me even during marriage. The bottle replaced everything in the world for him.
Why did he exchange the bottle for you?

Alcoholism, disease. But you can’t cure a person if he doesn’t want it himself.

Unread post by **DON** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:28

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:26
DON: 23 Mar 2023, 06:24
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:21 In my case, it was necessary to work not with a psychologist, but with a narcologist, and before filing for divorce, I tried everything. But my husband was not jealous of me even during marriage. The bottle replaced everything in the world for him.
Why did he exchange the bottle for you?
Alcoholism, disease. But you can’t cure a person if he doesn’t want it himself

Alcoholics are not born! They become them. Or did you marry an alcoholic?

Unread post by **FUCKYAMATERITY** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:32

Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:26 if he doesn’t want it himself

That’s for sure. In general, you cannot help anyone or anything without the desire of the person himself.

Unread post by **DON** » 23 Mar 2023, 06:44

FUCKYAMATERITY: 23 Mar 2023, 06:32
Marinka: 23 Mar 2023, 06:26 if he doesn’t want it himself
That’s for sure. In general, you cannot help anyone or anything without the desire of the person himself.

I disagree! The spouse is not unimportant in the fact that a person becomes an alcoholic! Experiences of familiar married couples!

Unread post by **in us** » 25 Mar 2023, 21:30

Ted_2023: 18 Mar 2023, 04:40

I think it’s a matter of resentment towards the person. Understand yourself, find the reason, analyze, break it down into components and understand what bothers you so much.

Unread post by **Ulof** » 25 Mar 2023, 22:41

By the way, one ex was jealous after we broke up.
Stalkered, told tall tales.... but that was a long time ago and not serious

Unread post by **Ted_2023** » 25 Mar 2023, 22:45

I understand, something similar happened to me