Different temperaments

Unread post by **Avalet** » 12 Jun 2023, 01:58

The story is as old as time

My wife and I have different sexual temperaments (my wife has enough pleasures once a week, but on the 3rd day without sex I climb the wall)
Naturally this difference was noticeable at the beginning of our relationship, but it was decided that in everyday life the idyll is more important

I tried to introduce variety into sexual life in order to stimulate instincts, a huge number of different toys, massage oils and attributes were purchased creating an intimate atmosphere - everything is in vain, they lie gathering dust in the closet (except for massage devices)
In this vein, I give up, I don’t pester again, so as not to get another refusal, there were conversations, but to no avail.
If there are those here who live with the same situation, how do you cope? Or does anyone have any advice?

Unread post by **Let’s** » 12 Jun 2023, 02:16

There are such. In the end I just scored. The relationship is normal but without sex. On self-satisfaction. Over time, it became easier to relate to this. Not really? Well, to hell with him.

Unread post by **Avalet** » 12 Jun 2023, 02:33

Everything is leading to this, it’s depressing, only 31 years old, but sex is disappearing from life

Unread post by he » 12 Jun 2023, 02:58

Are you sure that it is different temperaments? Perhaps initially your wife didn’t particularly want you, but as a husband you suited her very well... especially when you’re young, a woman’s very peak sexual activity begins
Or there are problems in the relationship that you may not even know about , but it can influence a wife like this

Unread post by **Let’s** » 12 Jun 2023, 03:01

Well, besides putting up with it, there are two more options for such a relationship. Divorce and betrayal. I tried the second option, but there were a lot of "buts" in it. It drags you in or her.. The mistress was unmarried and it didn’t end very nicely. Therefore, I decided for myself that a leftist relationship is only possible with a married woman with children, and the most ideal thing is that they also work together, so that she doesn’t need any relationship other than sex. If there is such a thing, then I will support such a relationship, and if not, then it’s not worth starting. But this is my opinion and this is what I decided for myself.

Unread post by **Avalet** » 12 Jun 2023, 03:25

ana, I’m sure
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d3nan, cheating/divorce is not an option for me at this stage of my life. In order for me to cross this line, there must be something very significant and fucked up in the relationship.

12 Jun 2023, 04:48

Avalet: ↑12 Jun 2023, 01:58 there are those here who live with the same situation - how do you cope?

How many years have you been together?

Unread post by **Amateur123** » 12 Jun 2023, 05:06

Well, if 31 years is looming for him, then they live for 10 years at most. This is not yet the period when the relationship between spouses cools down.

12 Jun 2023, 05:10

Avalet: ↑12 Jun 2023, 01:58 how are you coping?

Not a solution to the problem at its root, but a proven option is alcohol.

Unread post by **niqk** » 12 Jun 2023, 05:33

Avalet: ↑12 Jun 2023, 02:33 Everything is heading towards this, it’s depressing, you’re only 31 years old, and sex is disappearing from life

Don’t deceive yourself - you didn’t have sex ! You didn’t have love! Obviously, your wife did not marry you out of love,
but for some other reasons. The only way out is divorce! There is still time to really find your destiny!

Unread post by **Ahah** » 14 Jun 2023, 10:34

Avalet: ↑12 Jun 2023, 01:58 The story is as old as the hills

My wife and I have different sexual temperaments (my wife has enough pleasure once a week, but on the 3rd day without sex I climb the wall)
nNaturally, this difference was noticeable at the beginning of our relationship, but it was decided that in everyday life the idyll is more important

I tried to introduce variety into sexual life in order to stimulate instincts, a huge number of different toys, massage toys were purchased oils and attributes of creating an intimate atmosphere - all in vain, they lie collecting dust in the closet (except for massage devices)
In this vein, I give up, I don’t pester again, lest I get another refusal, there were conversations, but to no avail.
If there are those here who live with the same situation, how do you cope? Or does anyone have any advice?

Well, my wife and I have a similar situation - it’s already outgrown, and I still have a problem with my boobs and pussies :oops:, my dick is like a stake in the morning. I am content with rare acquaintances and my closest assistants (right or left).
Let me have a drink :please:

Unread post by **alex503311** » 14 Jun 2023, 11:08

As for temperament, here temperament differs from desire.
I have a colleague, she had enough too, after a week, that is, after about a week, she already wanted it.
I took her three times a day , approximately, but by nature I am calmer, she is more active, she often sat on top.
In the morning we either in a classic, or sideways, in the afternoon at work, I could take it from behind, or standing.
And often it was like 20 times in a week and we waited until we went to work on Monday, we wanted more.

When I lived with a girl, a day was enough, maybe a day without and then I wanted it, but the girl was less I had a temperament.

Then, from experience, there are active women, and there are passive ones, and there weren’t particularly active ones so that they would go straight in, but it was fine that the women gave themselves up, that is, if I wanted, I took them and many liked them, subordination and when they are fucked and moans and screams, that is, here you want it and take it, if it’s normal, then she wants a man to take her.
They once said that they love rape, some , when the husband came, he bent him over on the table and fucked him.

If you wait for some women to climb on their own, then you can endure it until retirement, I worked with a colleague, but she almost didn’t climb, although she knew what she wanted and that she got a buzz, but when I started squeezing, I already wanted to give myself up.

Unread post by **RockstarAgency** » 14 Jun 2023, 12:07

Avalet: ↑12 Jun 2023, 01:58 My wife and I have different sexual temperaments (my wife gets enough pleasure once a week, but on the 3rd day without sex I climb the wall)
Naturally, this difference was noticeable at the beginning of our relationship, but a decision was made that in everyday life the idyll is more important

Perhaps go to a sexologist? Or see a psychologist?
Perhaps it’s due to some attitudes or limitations of the past. I have heard a lot about such situations when the program of attitudes laid down since childhood influenced the sexual life in the future. When, after a certain period, a woman subconsciously switched from the role of a woman to the role of a wife or mother and completely forgot about the man. This really exists, especially in families where the mother had a very strict and conservative upbringing.
Perhaps a specialist can get to the bottom of it and help. There is nothing wrong with this.

Unread post by **Sufia** » 14 Jun 2023, 15:30

When she doesn’t want to, you can relax a man with a good blowjob))) or will that not be enough?

Unread post by **Bully Carrie** » 14 Jun 2023, 15:35

Two old ways: going left and self-employment. What else can you come up with? And wait, your wife’s temperament may still wake up, later: hold on then)))

Unread post by **Avalet** » 17 Jun 2023, 14:55

alex503311, I had one that climbed by itself, insatiable beast, with her I understood the meaning of the word "fucked up."

Unread post by **alex503311** » 18 Jun 2023, 22:29

Avalet: ↑17 Jun 2023, 14:55 alex503311, I had one like this, who climbed on her own, an insatiable beast, with her I understood the meaning of the word "fucked up".

I also thought later. Why did I persuade my colleague when she was 40 years old? At 25, I didn’t even have enough strength, and then I started not cumming for a long time and got involved and 30 times in a week, that was enough for me and about once or twice at home.
nShe didn’t interfere, but when I kissed her and let’s say we didn’t see each other for two weeks, then when we kissed, I realized that he already wanted it, that is, he trembles when you kiss, etc.
But I also like, for example, like in XXX, when they are modest, but when they fuck them, they moan, scream, their eyes are either slanted, or roll them up, then some like to suck, it turns them on. That is, in real life, for example, she is a modest woman, but in bed she can be passive, but they want to be fucked, that they are being used.

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 02:17

Avalet: ↑12 Jun 2023, 01:58 My wife and I have different sexual temperaments

Maybe she doesn’t like sex with you. Alternatively, she also thinks that sex once a week is not a big price to pay for an idyll in everyday life.

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 02:30

Wednesday, on the contrary, he says that for the first time he had an orgasm with me began, although I am skeptical about such statements because they have told me this too often.
Naturally, I discussed this topic with her, but the last conversation drove her into a depressed state and thoughts that she could not make me happier and did not know how to deal with this situation.
I wrote here to speak out and ask who is coping.
I would go to a psychologist, but we need to go there together until I think she’s ready to start going through this laundry.

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 02:40

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 02:30 on the contrary, he says that for the first time I began to have an orgasm

You see, many people think that a woman can have sex solely out of love and with a strong desire . In fact, this is not true and prostitutes are not special. You can have sex at any time, even if you don’t feel attracted. The only exception is if the person is disgusted or has sex with him. I don’t take into account diseases when having sex brings discomfort or even pain.
I wrote all this to mean that even if she doesn’t need it, she could have sex more often, for your sake. To relieve your tension. I always gave my ex a blowjob during menstruation. So that he doesn’t suffer from desire, just because I’m having my period and I can’t.
A psychologist won’t help you. Or she has somatic diseases that cause discomfort or she doesn’t like sex with you. And, if she is depressed, then she should see a psychotherapist or a psychiatrist.

Unread post by **Gourmet** » 19 Jun 2023, 02:48

I had an acquaintance... his libido was off the charts... he missed his wife... and when he stopped drinking, he was on guard... he muzzled her and half the village. So we lived...how it ended, I don’t know...

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 02:51

Wednesday, categorically)
I disagree with your opinion, because At the medical university there was a psychology department and I know something about it.
Regarding my situation - I know that in childhood my wife had an attempt at rape (fortunately unsuccessful), perhaps post-traumatic blocks are making themselves felt, so perhaps the whole problem is not in physiology but in the head

Unread post by **Beluga** » 19 Jun 2023, 02:56

᠌ ᠌ ᠌᠌ ᠌ ᠌ ᠌ ᠌ ᠌: ↑12 Jun 2023, 04:48 How many years have you been together?

There are different desires regardless of age , even before marriage, I didn’t have it often with my then-not-wife.

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 03:00

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 02:51 in my wife’s childhood there was an attempt at rape (fortunately unsuccessful), perhaps post-traumatic blocks are making themselves felt, so perhaps the whole problem is not in physiology but in the head

Not categorically, but I described to you all the reasons. Simple and accessible.
A university is an institution of higher education. You are a doctor? Happy belated holiday.
If you knew about the rape and suspect your wife has PTSD, then what are you doing here on the forum with this topic? Don’t bother going to a psychiatrist.

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 03:06

Wednesday, I wrote above that I don’t think I’m ready to go yet to a psychologist, but here to talk it out.
Thank you for your congratulations

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 03:08

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 03:06 I wrote above that I don’t think I’m ready to go to a psychologist yet

I didn’t write about a psychologist, she went to a psychiatrist. And the sooner the better.

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 03:15

The fact of the matter is that this is a question of psychology, not psychological diseases

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 03:55

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 03:15 The fact of the matter is that this is a question of psychology, not psychological diseases

PTSD is a mental disorder and requires treatment. You are not a doctor, as far as I understand.
If your problem is not fictitious, then go to the doctor, and if it is fictitious, then you can continue to discuss it further.

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 04:16

Wednesday, I cannot diagnose PTSD, at least because this is not my profile at all, at most based on personal observations - this is not a question of psychiatry. Therefore, it is possible to start with a psychologist (when the spouse is ready for options for solving this problem), and if PTSD is further diagnosed, then there will be further treatment according to the profile.
You are a master at making diagnoses, I was always surprised by this. )))
The initial question was, who is coping with how? (From a male point of view) and not a consultation with "Internet colleagues" Not honey. Forum

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Wednesday, cling to PTSD, and hit your forehead, maybe the hormonal balance is disturbed and the whole problem is in the endocrine system, but there can be many reasons, ending with normal physiology and the absence of pathology in principle

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 04:27

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 04:16 and if they further diagnose PTSD

Who will give you this diagnosis if you don’t see a doctor?

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 04:16 at least because this is not my profile at all, at most based on personal observations - this is not a question of psychiatry

You should have contacted me in the first place see a doctor, at least to rule out mental illness. Then undergo an examination with her to rule out somatic diseases.

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 04:16

You are a master at making diagnoses, I was always surprised by this.

n I didn’t write this, but you wrote above that there was an attempted rape and you suspect she has PTSD.

Avalet: ↑ The original question was, who is coping with how.

People solve the problem, and don’t try to ignore it.
And, don’t write about your colleagues. You are not a doctor. I don’t know who you are by profession, who you studied for and where you studied, but you are definitely not a doctor.

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 04:33

I think this dialogue needs to end, thanks for your opinion

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 04:53

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 04:33 thank you for your opinion

I described to you above what you may have. Somatic diseases that I wrote about at the very beginning are pathologies associated with the body. In medicine there is a division into somatic and mental diseases. If there is even the slightest suspicion, then it is necessary to examine it. To exclude or treat.
You did not know what somatic diseases are. This simply cannot happen. If you came up with the idea that you are a doctor, then your whole story is most likely a fiction.
What did you want from this topic?
If you bought a car, and it starts once a week, then it needs repairs . The most logical thing that can come to mind is to contact a specialist. If you haven’t thought of this yourself, then such advice should not be taken with hostility, but were you expecting that you would be advised to ask your neighbors, take public transport, or if you have the money, order a taxi? And of course, walk. Here the forum is such that most of the forum members walk. And I think you do this too when it won’t start. Well, move on.

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 05:48

Wednesday, you made the wrong conclusions somewhere

https://i.postimg.cc/59v8S4BX/IMG-20230619-154208.jpg

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 05:59

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 05:48 you made the wrong conclusions somewhere

Where? Are you a dentist, did not graduate from university, but studied in college? Yes? Is that why you don’t know about either mental or somatic pathologies? Did you immediately have a narrow specialization? I know that dentists are the only doctors without higher education and of course your training program is apparently very limited.
It doesn’t matter. If there is a problem and everything is really as you described, then you should go with your wife and have her get examined, but if not, then no.

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 06:30

Wednesday, Dentists with secondary education stopped producing in 2009 .
Dentist with higher education.
Naturally we will solve the problem, but here we will say the main thing, my wife is not ready to go to specialists today, that’s all.
Where did you get the idea , that I don’t know the terminology?
Let’s discuss the Krebs cycle

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 06:42

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 06:30 I don’t know the terminology

You don’t know basic things. There is no terminology in our dialogue and there never was.

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 06:30 the spouse is not ready to go to specialists

If your wife mental pathology, then there is no point in waiting until she is ready. Such patients do not come to see a doctor themselves. And, if somatic, then the disease will take a chronic form. Treatment will be more difficult or later.

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 06:30Krebs cycle

What does this have to do with our discussion and with medicine? Why did you suddenly start talking about him? Want to look smart?

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 06:48

Wednesday, when you enter a medical university, then for 2 - in the course at the Department of Biochemistry you will find out what it has to do with it.

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 07:08

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 06:48 When you enter a medical university, then in the 2nd year at the Department of Biochemistry you will find out what

You will decide. Did you study with us to become a dentist or a biochemist? As I understand it, in the photo in the dentist’s office you are a patient, not a doctor.
Well, since you do not respond to my advice and explanations for them, it becomes obvious that your problem is made up. And, if it’s not invented, then you’re not going to solve it. Just excuses on your part.
The dialogue really needs to end here.

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 07:51

Wednesday, biochemistry studies the biochemical processes in cells, tissues and the body as a whole is the fundamental basis of medicine, and as I understand, of the two of us here, only I have a medical education

Regarding the topic: you have long expressed your opinion, for which I thanked.

Unread post by **bark** » 19 Jun 2023, 08:28

So the doctors went wild.
To the author of the topic. Try not to ask anything special. Just take it and caress it. I don’t know, it’s worth it, she’s cooking (relatively speaking), come up and put your hand straight into your panties and put it in your pussy so that your instincts immediately wake up.

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 08:45

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 07:51 only I have a medical education

))) Ahaha, they posted a photo from the dentist’s office, then they wrote that they completed two courses at the Faculty of Biochemistry and do you have a medical education? Smiled))) In fact, I don’t understand why people are ashamed of their professions and introduce themselves as someone they really are not.

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 08:50

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korod, I tried, and kissed and caressed - it doesn’t turn me on, only when the mood comes together + relaxation + romantic - then everything is fine and passion and desire

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 08:58

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 08:50 Can you read?

I can read. Where should I read it?
Since we have moved away from the topic, tell us what your actual education is and what is your job? You didn’t write about the 6th course, but about the 2nd. The Krebs cycle is on the internet. To know what it is, you don’t need to study anywhere at all. Has nothing to do with medical terminology. Who are you really?

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 09:03

Wednesday, well, actually there are 5 courses in dentistry, this there are 6 courses at the Faculty of Medicine,
Secondly, from the 6th semester there are specialized pairs of different areas of dentistry,
thirdly, I realized that you are not a doctor, but you really like to make diagnoses on the Internet, as well as You consider yourself to be more right than everyone else.

Unread post by **Wednesday** » 19 Jun 2023, 09:16

Avalet: ↑19 Jun 2023, 09:03 5 courses in dentistry

I didn’t make any diagnoses. I just thought that you were really a doctor and gave advice with specific assumptions. But alas.
You write that dentists have not been trained since 2009. That there are 5 courses in dentistry, about the Faculty of Biochemistry - this is all information from the Internet.
You didn’t know what somatic diseases are, you don’t know what terminology is. You are googling information from the Internet.
And, even now you haven’t written that you are a dentist. Perhaps you are a doctor. A nurse for example. You didn’t lie about this, but you don’t know anything about diseases because no one taught you this. That’s why you write that you have a medical education. You write medic and avoid the word doctor.
I don’t consider myself more right than everyone else. I don’t like people who lie.
Your topic is apparently not true either.

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 09:30

Wednesday,
you are absolutely in everything you’re right, calm down.

Unread post by **aryamari** » 19 Jun 2023, 09:45

Avalet, alas, this often happens, or temperaments or characters something doesn’t match

Unread post by **Avalet** » 19 Jun 2023, 10:16

AryaMari, yes, maybe everything will rub in, we’ll see how will

Unread post by **aryamari** » 19 Jun 2023, 10:20

Avalet, everything is possible in this strangest of worlds

Unread post by **King Bird** » 19 Jun 2023, 20:14

Markul: ↑12 Jun 2023, 05:10 Not a solution to the problem at its root, but a proven option is alcohol.

Alcohol is a bad advisor. You can fall asleep quickly. It’s better to find a mistress. Or if you get bored, jerk off.

korod: ↑19 Jun 2023, 08:28 To the author of the topic. Try not to ask anything special. Just take it and caress it. I don’t know, it’s worth it, she’s cooking (relatively speaking), they came up and put their hand straight into her panties and put it in her pussy so that her instincts would immediately wake up.

Yeah. Here you are, dear man, sitting at the table, repairing the socket for the refrigerator, carefully so that the small screws do not fall apart. And then your wife crept up to you from behind and grabbed you by the kukan. What’s your reaction?

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