Wrote by an ex asking for a meeting - what are your actions?

[Keep the change for yourself]

An ex or ex from a long-forgotten time, period 5-10-15 years, writes and wants to meet, offers to chat. In the correspondence so far everything is neutral, neither warm nor cold.

It is especially interesting to hear the opinion from those who are not free: married, married, cohabiting.

[SeRg !$!]

)) we meet with my ex-wife but only communication...

[Libertine]

Yes, from time to time we meet with an ex-girlfriend, we live in neighboring houses) sometimes we just get sushi or pizza and sit and watch a movie)) sometimes we go for a walk)

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

I have only one ex who can write to me, if he writes, then I will send him on an erotic journey.

[Lisa24]

No, I don’t agree, but I’ll discuss it online. What if something happened or you need help.

[Libertine]

◊_НеБо[_На_]ЛаДоНи_◊,
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. видимо очень плохо разбежались))))

[The passage]

I dated and even slept with exes. I have no principles, I am unprincipled in this and in many other matters. I wrote in another topic that I am temperamental and can break dishes on a man’s head. I can, but I have never hit you and in general in matters of relationships, when the relationship grows cold, I grow cold too. But there is no hatred, no resentment. There is only disappointment, but it does not prevent me from communicating or meeting.
There is only one thing. I’m single, if I were married, I wouldn’t even answer calls from my exes, no communication, no meetings. I am principled on this issue.

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

◊_НеБо[_На_]ЛаДоНи_◊,
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. видимо очень плохо разбежались))))

просто терпеть не могу людей, у которых все вокруг виноваты, а он один стоит в белом пальте.
Ну и там до кучи много всего..

[niqk]

It’s good that I don’t have an ex! No one will call, write, or spoil...

[Libertine]

◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊, whoa whoa, take it easy )) well, I understand everything.

[rim11]

The girl I used to fuck, found me 5 years later through social networks and offered to meet me at a cafe for coffee. It seems to have manifested itself, I think I’ll go and fuck you one more time. Well, that’s how I became a wife.

[Lisa24]

The girl whom I used to f*ck, after 5 years, I found through social networks and offered to meet at a cafe for coffee. It seems to have manifested itself, I think I’ll go and fuck you one more time. Well, that’s how I became my wife.

ahah) what a sweet story)

[rim11]

The girl whom I used to f*ck, after 5 years, I found through social networks and offered to meet at a cafe for coffee. It seems to have manifested itself, I think I’ll go and fuck you one more time. Well, that’s how I became my wife.
hah)what a sweet story)

But it’s convenient. No reticence, no fear of anything.

[Lisa24]

But it’s convenient. No omissions, no fear of something.

well, in principle, yes) time-tested))

[Wow]

Depending on the situation... In general, meetings with anyone, with exes or new ones, are purely “downstream”...
It happened, for example, when going to the apartment of someone with whom I was corresponding in the north. I had already gotten dressed, was about to leave the house, but I was thinking about something: “I’m somehow too lazy to drag myself somewhere at all. And so I was already tired of running around to work, and here again - I’m tired of it; and even if I come, I’ll have to be exhausted by hours of sex”...
I undressed, turned off the phone... and went to bed.

In general, I’m not against exes. Well, you never know what doesn’t happen in life - maybe they accidentally became former... and then they thought about it, came to their senses and again wanted to become current.

[Your hand 1999]

maybe they accidentally became exes... and then they thought about it, came to their senses and wanted to become current again.

I was an ex and didn’t try to re-enter a relationship . If you break up with a person once, then it is very likely that the same thing will happen the second time.

[Bani]

I would never have met. For what? If all the points have been placed, then I don’t see the point.

[Didudo]

I had: I broke up with my girlfriend, but since we worked together we communicated normally. One day she called and said she was nearby and asked to take a shower. It was a hot summer. I say no problem. I came in. I went to the bathroom. I asked if I could go with you, she agreed. And they washed and had sex))

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I had: I broke up with my girlfriend, but since we worked together we communicated normally. One day she called and said she was nearby and asked to take a shower. It was a hot summer. I say no problem. I came in. I went to the bathroom. I asked if I could go with you, she agreed. And they washed and had sex))

Now she is married, I am married. We communicate well. We are family friends

[Serg_A]

It happened, for example, when I was going to the apartment of someone I was corresponding with in sz. I had already gotten dressed, was about to leave the house, but I was thinking about something: “I’m somehow too lazy to drag myself somewhere at all. And so I was already tired of running around to work, and here again - I’m tired of it; and even if I come, I’ll have to be exhausted by hours of sex”...
I undressed, turned off the phone... and went to bed

Well, you... There are simply no words .

[Serg_A]

An ex or ex from a long-forgotten time, a period of 5-10-15 years, writes and wants to meet, offers to chat. So far everything in the correspondence is neutral, neither warm nor cold.

It is especially interesting to hear the opinion from those who are not single: married, married, cohabiting.

Well, you already know it, all the pros and cons, you know the approach to it. If you are still attracted, then why not chat.

[Viola]

fortunately there are no former ones, there is a present one, and I don’t know how I would react, but I definitely wouldn’t write that I would do this and that, it depends on my mood and on the question that arose, on a lot of things, so

[Morpheus]

If I communicate with my ex-wife on the phone, it’s only if something concerns our common children or I just need to tell her something. But this is very rare. Contact with her is minimal, because everything about her is annoying: demeanor, character, appearance, etc. The only plus she had was that she was reliable in sex and I could do whatever I wanted with her. If we took away from her what started to piss me off about her in the last five years of our marriage, then she would be an almost ideal wife.
Sometimes in my thoughts I imagine sex with her in a rented apartment in secret from my second wife, so that I can fuck her as my heart desires, but as soon as I hear her voice on the phone, I begin to feel sick and any desire to even just see each other disappears completely.

[Serg_A]

Even if I communicate with my ex-wife on the phone, it’s only if something concerns our common children or I just need to tell her something. But this is very rare. Contact with her is minimal, because everything about her is annoying: demeanor, character, appearance, etc. The only plus she had was that she was reliable in sex and I could do whatever I wanted with her. If we took away from her what started to piss me off about her in the last five years of our marriage, then she would be an almost ideal wife.
Sometimes in my thoughts I imagine sex with her in a rented apartment in secret from my second wife, so that fuck as much as my heart desires, but as soon as I hear her voice on the phone, I begin to vomit and any desire to even just see each other disappears completely.

That’s why you don’t ask such questions you set .

[in Peru]

I won’t go to the meeting for sure, since I’m married to the best) And I don’t really want to communicate

[Izumi]

free or not, would not have met.

but it depends on the circumstances, if you remain in normal relations, then you can communicate. although I have a hard time imagining it)

[The passage]

That’s what I understood while reading this thread. It all depends on how people broke up. If it’s quiet, peaceful, then you can communicate, and meet, and help each other, but if you lived like a cat and a dog, but parted as fierce enemies, then what kind of meetings can there be?! They didn’t kill each other and thank God)))

[Izumi]

It also happens that it is difficult for people to maintain relationships because of feelings; one has fallen out of love and may well do so, while the other will suffer.

[Let’s]

It all depends on the situation of how you broke up. For example, we broke up with my former first lover, so to speak, due to circumstances. We had a connection at work (we worked in the same holding company, but in different legal entities, so the holding collapsed and her company went to one end of the city, ours to the other, and since both were not free, it was not possible to meet and they ran away. And Over time, the promise came to naught. At the same time, they didn’t quarrel, they didn’t quarrel. I would love to meet with her and chat.
I don’t even want to talk to my ex-wife. white, the rest are all in shit. We separated, I tried to communicate normally for about 4 years, until I got tired of hearing at every meeting that I was an asshole and that I was the only one to blame for the divorce. In the end, I expressed everything I thought and for 7 years we haven’t communicated at all, not a word. And I don’t want to.
There was another mistress, we met at work, then she quit, we continued dating, then she left me as a hopeless option, a year later she returned to work with us and communicated normally, but mostly only by phone. work. personal topics were not touched. No more connections. Then she became pregnant and went on maternity leave. If he writes and just wants to meet for coffee and chat, I won’t refuse. In general, it all depends on the circumstances under which she became an ex))

[Viola]

If it’s quiet, peaceful, then you can communicate

then why did you run away

[Henson]

I don’t know how to maintain contact and interest in people for a long time without regular communication. Consequently, the fates of my exes do not interest me at all; after breaking up, they become strangers to me. They don’t just appear after a year or more, something is always needed

[The passage]

If it’s quiet, peaceful, then you can communicate

then why did you run away

There are different reasons. For example, my ex is an alcoholic. I tried to cure him. I spent several years on this, but I couldn’t. IMHO alcoholism of one of the spouses is the most common cause of divorce.

[Serg_A]

If it’s quiet and peaceful, then you can communicate

then why did you run away

There are different reasons. For example, my ex is an alcoholic. I tried to cure him. I spent several years on this, but I couldn’t. IMHO, alcoholism of one of the spouses is the most common cause of divorce.

Well, you know that there are no former alcoholics. But there is one nuance, you’re a strong-willed woman, and after his next drinking session, you just give him a blast, put pressure on his conscience, and then, if he has one, he’ll give up drinking for a while. But then you have to repeat it all. And so all my life...

[Bully Carrie]

I’ve done this myself several times. Purely out of a sense of ownership. There was sex every time. And it’s not something I’m proud of, because it’s stupid.

[niqk]

I did this myself several times. Purely out of a sense of ownership. There was sex every time. And this is not something I’m proud of, because it’s stupid.

Yes, unfortunately, neither alcoholism, nor drug addiction, nor much else can be cured . Therefore, after
a couple of unsuccessful attempts to correct the situation, you need to disperse. And, without wasting time, look for the best option! Since life rushes too fast and you may not have time to find your soul mate.....

[The passage]

then why did they run away

There are different reasons. For example, my ex is an alcoholic. I tried to cure him. I spent several years on this, but I couldn’t. IMHO, alcoholism of one of the spouses is the most common cause of divorce.

Well, you know that there are no former alcoholics. But there is one nuance, you’re a strong-willed woman, and after his next drinking session, you just give him a blast, put pressure on his conscience, and then, if he has one, he’ll give up drinking for a while. But then you have to repeat it all. And so all my life...

To understand what alcoholism is, you need to live with such a person. When he was on a drinking binge, he simply wasn’t there. In the morning I went to work and came home from work and went straight to bed. At this time he was kind. But when he didn’t drink, he became angry, irritable, and nervous. Impossible. Therefore, it was not good at all, neither when he drank, nor when he did not drink. It would have been possible to cure it completely, but I wanted it, and he didn’t want it. That’s why they got divorced.

[Viola]

To understand what alcoholism is

how quickly did this transition from an ordinary person to an alcoholic occur?

[The passage]

To understand what alcoholism is

how quickly did this transition from an ordinary person to an alcoholic occur?

I can’t say for sure. Our family life began in different cities. We met on weekends.
At first he was in the teaching staff and did not drink often, I never saw him drunk. He was very drunk, I didn’t see him, and then he moved to the local police, became an officer and then began to drink too much. Their work was not standardized. Therefore, I didn’t even know where he was, whether he worked or drank.

[Serg_A]

To understand what alcoholism is

how quickly did this transition from an ordinary person to an alcoholic occur?

It can happen in different ways, my neighbor became an alcoholic after his first drink. It’s a lottery.

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

Most men in this topic are for sex with exes, most girls are against)) as always, it proves that men are omnivorous and unconcerned with the circumstances of the breakup.

[Wool]

Most men in this topic are for sex with exes, most girls are against)) as always proves the omnivorousness of men and lack of concern for the circumstances of separation.

I don’t know, if they broke up without a scandal, then why not. In addition, a woman is not ashamed of her ex as with a new partner.
And some mutual feelings still remain for life.

[Keep the change for yourself]

Most men in this topic are for sex with exes, most girls are against)) as always proves the omnivorousness of men and lack of concern for the circumstances of separation.

Or maybe it’s not a matter of omnivorousness, but of priorities? How about this theory:
- for men, sex is easier than relationships,
- for women, relationships are easier than sex.
That’s why there is a skew.

[Obedient boy]

Here’s a good example: I got married, had a child, but after a while got divorced. We communicated, of course, after all, we have a common child, and one day he called her, let’s see you, let’s drink some wine? Well, we saw each other, had a drink and then slept. A couple of days later she called and the same story repeated itself, wine, conversations and sex. Well, somehow we naturally got back together and now we have 2 children. So basically you need to be careful with your exes!

[Keep the change for yourself]

Obedient boy, it’s a good story with a good ending, but This probably happens extremely rarely.

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

Most men in this topic are for sex with exes, most girls are against)) as always proves the omnivorous nature of men and their lack of concern over the circumstances of separation.

Or maybe it’s not a matter of omnivorousness, but of priorities? How about this theory:
- for men, sex is easier than relationships,
- for women, relationships are easier than sex.
That’s why there is a skew.

Yes, we are generally different, we think differently. I remember being offended by my ex, I wouldn’t be able to even just talk to him, sit at the same table, but for some it doesn’t matter, because you always want sex

[Keep the change for yourself]

but for some it doesn’t matter, because you always want sex

For me it would be, sex is secondary, feelings should be primary in a relationship

[RazVratnik]

I remember being offended by my ex

And if you were kind broke up and there was no resentment?)

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

I remember being offended by my ex

And if would you break up on good terms and there would be no resentment?)

Why break up then? We have children together, 15 years of marriage... if everything was fine, we would still be together.

Even if we imagine this option purely theoretically, it’s still not. I don’t step into the same river twice. Sex means too much to me; if there is such a close intimate relationship between us, then there must be concern for each other, attention, and interest in each other’s destinies.

[Martin]

Depending on the situation... In general, meetings with anyone, with exes or new ones, are purely “downstream”...
It happened, for example, when I was going to the apartment of someone with whom I was corresponding in sz. I had already gotten dressed, was about to leave the house, but I was thinking about something: “I’m somehow too lazy to drag myself somewhere at all. And so I was already tired of running around to work, and here again - I’m tired of it; and even if I come, I’ll have to be exhausted by hours of sex”...
I undressed, turned off the phone... and went to bed.

In general, I’m not against exes. Well, you never know what doesn’t happen in life - maybe they accidentally became former... and then they thought about it, came to their senses and wanted to become current again.

:please:
Just like me...))) They want to fuck, so let them come...))) Hay doesn’t go to the cow...)))))))

[Player-2]

I communicate with all my exes normally. Of those who want to communicate.
Some people get lost over time.
There was also sex. The latter wrote a couple of times "Have sex, should you sleep?"
In general, we communicate very openly with her about everything, including our current relationship. We can tease and flirt.
We won’t get along, there are differences in views on family and relationships.
We just disagreed with everyone on good terms.

[padshiy]

Our meetings with her end in bed. She was my first, we learned the joys of sex together
After two years of marriage they were “taken” into the Army, but she didn’t wait for me to get the result. Her family didn’t work out either...
But from time to time we meet secretly from our families and only have sex. She’s just as happy with everything as I am...