Give birth under 50 years old.

[rasaroam]

I have a family friend. He is a little over 50, she is 47.
There is a child, already grown up.
And so they decided to give birth to a second one (they say: "they finally got around to it").
When They have no help for this; their parents are already very elderly. They themselves are not young either; they don’t have much strength to cope with a small child. And not to say that they are too wealthy to hire nannies around the clock. All on their own....

Will they cope?
And in general: did they need to do this? Is the desire to have children so strong that it outweighs all rational arguments?

[Serg_A]

There is a child, already grown up.
And so they decided to give birth to a second one

I think that in connection with current real events, they They think they might lose the first one... So they decided to get a second one, just in case.

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How much strength they have is up to them to decide for themselves. In my personal opinion, 50 years is quite a normal adult age, not even close to old age. A friend of mine recently said: “I visited a gynecologist, he told me that at 48, everything is fine with me, so I’m thinking, maybe I should give birth to a third?” (My son is 27, my daughter is 13, she herself has 4 marriages in her anamnesis) .

[etc]

After fifty, it will be difficult for them to bear a child. There is less and less strength. Diseases. They die.

[Andrey Lukashov]

I have a family friend. He is a little over 50, she is 47.
There is a child, already grown up.
And so they decided to give birth to a second one (they say: "they finally got around to it")...

This is very difficult...
If we consider in terms of education, will they be able to raise this child and give him an education while this child grows up and can live regardless of parents. If the mother is now 47 years old, and by the time the child is born she will be 48, this will add another 25 years. The father is even older. Moreover, people are not wealthy. As pensioners, it will be very difficult to support a child who needs to study.
Physiologically, it will be almost impossible to conceive this child. My wife and I stopped using birth control when she was 48 years old, despite the fact that she still had periods until she was almost 49 years old.
So most likely nothing will work out with the child.

[rasaroam]

I have a family friend. He is a little over 50, she is 47.
There is a child, already grown up.
And so they decided to give birth to a second one (they say: "they finally got around to it")...

This is very difficult...
If we consider in terms of education, will they be able to raise this child and give him an education while this child grows up and can live regardless of parents. If the mother is now 47 years old, and by the time the child is born she will be 48, this will add another 25 years. The father is even older. Moreover, people are not wealthy. As pensioners, it will be very difficult to support a child who needs to study.
Physiologically, it will be almost impossible to conceive this child. My wife and I stopped using birth control when she was 48 years old, despite the fact that she still had periods until she was almost 49 years old.
So most likely they won’t succeed with the child.

They ALREADY HAD IT.
Through IVF, Certainly. We spent almost all our savings on this.

[Morpheus]

In my opinion, such parents, even if they are both absolutely healthy, decide to give birth to a child at that age and act unreasonably. The health of both will gradually deteriorate, the nervous system is also often in shambles by this age, and children’s screams can greatly shake the psyche of even a young person, not to mention the age group of people. The child will not cause joy, but irritation. Let’s add here elderly parents who also need care, care, love... It turns out that they will have to be torn on two fronts, and the man will also have to earn for two in order to provide for everyone more or less... So the question is: do they need it? It was not for nothing that nature limited natural conception in women under 50 years of age, so that the risk of becoming pregnant by this time was minimal. And only artificial insemination for a hell of a lot of money helped a person get around this ban... The question is whether this child will still be happy when at the age of 16 he has to take care of his elderly parents.

[Admin]

Whether they can cope or not, of course, only they themselves know. But in my opinion, giving birth at this age is stupid. At 20 years old, when the child is born, they may no longer exist, or even earlier. Or some kind of disease, no one is insured. And the existing child will apparently be like a nanny for the little one. There are smaller differences here, and you constantly see from your friends how they strain the elders to watch the kids. They give birth for themselves, and then blame it on their elders.

[rasaroam]

Whether they will cope or not, of course, only they themselves know. But in my opinion, giving birth at this age is stupid. At 20 years old, when the child is born, they may no longer exist, or even earlier. Or some kind of disease, no one is insured. And the existing child will apparently be like a nanny for the little one. There are smaller differences here, and you constantly see from your friends how they strain the elders to watch the kids. They give birth for themselves, and then blame it on the elders.

Shouldn’t the elders help with the younger ones?!

[Admin]

Shouldn’t older people help with younger ones?!

Within reasonable limits. But it never becomes a duty, and the elder is also punished if the younger one messes up. Like, you didn’t follow. The eldest also has his own life.
Just an example that I myself observed among relatives. We met in one place. The eldest plays with his peers (cousin), haven’t seen each other for a long time. This older one has a younger one. He wants to be entertained, he goes and complains to his mother that they don’t let him play, but they have a different interest in the game, since they are 6 years apart. Mom scolds her eldest son, forces him to quit his game and entertain the younger one, like this is your brother and you should help with him. Well, in my opinion it shouldn’t. It turns out that they take their time from the older one, and give it to the younger one.

[Serg_A]

I have a family friend. He is a little over 50, she is 47.
There is a child, already grown up.
And so they decided to give birth to a second one (they say: "they finally got around to it").
When They have no help for this; their parents are already very elderly. They themselves are not young either; they don’t have much strength to cope with a small child. And not to say that they are too wealthy to hire nannies around the clock. All on their own....

Will they cope?
And in general: did they need to do this? The desire to have children is so strong that it outweighs all rational arguments?

There is one more nuance: in women, as they age, mutations accumulate in their eggs, unfortunately, so giving birth Down, for women over 35 the risk is already huge, but under 50 I don’t even know what it is. It’s another matter if these pathologies can be detected by ultrasound...

[rasaroam]

I have a family friend. He is a little over 50, she is 47.
There is a child, already grown up.
And so they decided to give birth to a second one (they say: "they finally got around to it").
When They have no help for this; their parents are already very elderly. They themselves are not young either; they don’t have much strength to cope with a small child. And not to say that they are too wealthy to hire nannies around the clock. All on their own....

Will they cope?
And in general: did they need to do this? The desire to have children is so strong that it outweighs all rational arguments?

There is one more nuance: in women, as they age, mutations accumulate in their eggs, unfortunately, so giving birth Down, for women over 35 the risk is already huge, but under 50 I don’t even know what it is. It’s another matter if these pathologies can be detected by ultrasound...

Yes, the chance of pathology is very high. But in this case, thank God, this did not happen.

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There is one more nuance, in women with age, mutations, unfortunately, accumulate in their eggs, so giving birth to a down is already a huge risk for women over 35, but under 50 I don’t even know what it is. It’s another matter if these pathologies can be detected by ultrasound...

Strictly speaking, this is not a mutation, but an extra copy of chromosome 21. But this is possible in any case detected by a blood test already at 10-11 weeks of pregnancy, and at 15-20 weeks - many other congenital diseases.

[opposite]

My wife and I are 53. Our youngest daughter is 7 years old and will go to school in September. The eldest son is 31, the eldest daughter is 27. We live and enjoy life)) Do you have any questions?

[rasaroam]

My wife and I are 53. Our youngest daughter is 7 years old and will go to school in September. The eldest son is 31, the eldest daughter is 27. We live and enjoy life)) Do you have any questions?

[Morpheus]

with his wife, 53. The youngest daughter is 7 years old and will go to school in September. The eldest son is 31, the eldest daughter is 27. We live and enjoy life)) Do you have any questions?

There is no need to equate everyone. Just because everything went smoothly for you and is going smoothly now, doesn’t mean that’s how it will be for everyone. Each person is individual and each person may have different situations with the birth of a child at this age. Besides, can you be 100% sure that you will be able to raise this child and bring him into the public?! Where is the guarantee that nothing will happen to you and the child will not be left an orphan? Or do you hope that older children will then take on the role of educators?

[Vladtsst]

My wife and I are 53. Our youngest daughter is 7 years old and will go to school in September. The eldest son is 31, the eldest daughter is 27. We live and enjoy life)) Do you have any questions?

Similarly. I am over 50, my wife is over 40. The eldest is 7 years old, the youngest is 5. I also have a son from my first marriage. He’s 25. I’m a little older than you. My wife is 10 years younger than me. This is my wife’s first marriage with me. She didn’t have children before me

[opposite]

with his wife, 53. The youngest daughter is 7 years old and will go to school in September. The eldest son is 31, the eldest daughter is 27. We live and enjoy life)) Do you have any questions?

There is no need to equate everyone. Just because everything went smoothly for you and is going smoothly now, doesn’t mean that’s how it will be for everyone. Each person is individual and each person may have different situations with the birth of a child at this age. Besides, can you be 100% sure that you will be able to raise this child and bring him into the public?! Where is the guarantee that nothing will happen to you and the child will not be left an orphan? Or do you hope that older children will then take on the role of educators?

Where is the guarantee that nothing will happen to each of us? Or does a forty-year-old have a better chance of not dying in the next year than me?)) And, between us...the persimmon is knitting))