Being jealous is normal, and every person has experienced this feeling at least once in their life. We are jealous of our partners, other people or even the work that takes up most of their time. We are jealous of our parents, our brothers and sisters, our girlfriends, with whom they see more often than with us. Quarrels arising from jealousy can ruin any relationship. Jealousy is difficult to deal with. Today we will figure out whether it needs to be suppressed, where it comes from and how it can be controlled.
Jealousy is not an absolute evil , if it were such, it would not arise for each of us. We can say that we inherited it; in order to survive, our ancestors competed with each other, and to compete we need emotions. It is jealousy that helps you relax, it motivates, it gives you tone.
The thought that someone is jealous of you for another person can be flattering, but actions that committed in a fit of jealousy will not please anyone. After all, it’s unpleasant when someone checks your correspondence or demands to confess to treason.
In some cases, jealousy is justified, but most often the main problem of jealous people is considered to be low self-esteem. This opinion is based on the attachment that we have formed based on early interactions with our parents. And most often this style of attachment passes into the relationship of partners. These styles can be divided into 2 groups: 1) A reliable style is boosted in families where parents are confident and love each other.
2) Insecure styles - anxious, avoidant and disorganized.
The names speak for themselves. To understand what kind of insecure style is typical for you, answer the following questions. Do you experience a feeling of emptiness and worthlessness? Is there an atmosphere of love in your home, or are you experiencing anxiety? Maybe you were suppressed and scolded all the time as a child?
If one of these questions bothers you , then most likely your attachment style is insecure. But these styles can be changed through new experiences and work on self-esteem.
Jealousy can be caused by low and high self-esteem. For example, you may be jealous because you think you should be given more attention. Jealousy can also reflect your values: You truly believe in love, loyalty and honesty with each other. Any threat that can destroy your illusions seems to be an attempt to take away the most sacred thing you have.
What needs to be done to prevent jealousy from destroying relationships? To begin with, it is worth remembering that emotions and behavior are not the same thing; actions carry with them a destructive force. Accept the fact that you are jealous. Watch your emotions. Don’t suppress them, don’t ignore them, acknowledge their presence and allow them to be. Yes, you are jealous, but this does not mean that jealousy determines all your actions. You should not give in to these emotions and feelings. Try to feel, by mentally returning to unpleasant situations, that anxiety and anger are intensifying. Don’t suppress them, let them be. Experiencing the situation again allows you to reduce tension, and in the future it will be easier for you to cope with jealousy. nAccept the fact of uncertainty, you cannot be sure that you will be loved forever. Stay here and now, and then you will learn to receive joy from what you have. nTry to evaluate your requests for relationships, how realistic they are. Maybe you think that your partner can’t like anyone but you? But sympathy for others is a completely normal phenomenon, and you need to remember that if someone is with you, it means they need it for some reason.
Eliminate negativity from your relationship, learn to give compliments and say something good. Instead of “I see without you,” say “thank you,” and such changes will strengthen the relationship and eliminate jealousy from them.
It was a busy week, but I finally wrote an article I’m interested in relationship topics, so I decided to talk to you about jealousy A feeling that is completely unfamiliar to me, but arises in many couples. By the way, I’m also working on relationships
[i]Being jealous is normal, and every person has experienced this feeling at least once in their life. We are jealous of our partners, other people or even the work that takes up most of their time. We are jealous of our parents, our brothers and sisters, our girlfriends, with whom they see more often than with us. Quarrels arising from jealousy can ruin any relationship. Jealousy is difficult to deal with. Today we will figure out whether it needs to be suppressed, where it comes from and how it can be controlled.[/i]
Jealousy is not an absolute evil , if it were such, it would not arise for each of us. We can say that we inherited it; in order to survive, our ancestors competed with each other, and to compete we need emotions. It is jealousy that helps you relax, it motivates, it gives you tone.[b] The thought that someone is jealous of you for another person can be flattering, but actions that committed in a fit of jealousy will not please anyone. After all, it’s unpleasant when someone checks your correspondence or demands to confess to treason.
In some cases, jealousy is justified, but most often the main problem of jealous people is considered to be low self-esteem. This opinion is based on the attachment that we have formed based on early interactions with our parents. And most often this style of attachment passes into the relationship of partners.[/b] These styles can be divided into 2 groups:[b] [i]1) A reliable style is boosted in families where parents are confident and love each other.[/i]
[i]2) Insecure styles - anxious, avoidant and disorganized.[/i]
The names speak for themselves. To understand what kind of insecure style is typical for you, answer the following questions. Do you experience a feeling of emptiness and worthlessness? Is there an atmosphere of love in your home, or are you experiencing anxiety? Maybe you were suppressed and scolded all the time as a child?[/b][b] If one of these questions bothers you , then most likely your attachment style is insecure. But these styles can be changed through new experiences and work on self-esteem.[/b][b] Jealousy can be caused by low and high self-esteem. For example, you may be jealous because you think you should be given more attention. Jealousy can also reflect your values: You truly believe in love, loyalty and honesty with each other. [/b]Any threat that can destroy your illusions seems to be an attempt to take away the most sacred thing you have.[b] What needs to be done to prevent jealousy from destroying relationships? To begin with, it is worth remembering that emotions and behavior are not the same thing; actions carry with them a destructive force. Accept the fact that you are jealous. Watch your emotions. Don’t suppress them, don’t ignore them, acknowledge their presence and allow them to be. [/b]Yes, you are jealous, but this does not mean that jealousy determines all your actions. You should not give in to these emotions and feelings. [b]Try to feel, by mentally returning to unpleasant situations, that anxiety and anger are intensifying. Don’t suppress them, let them be. Experiencing the situation again allows you to reduce tension, and in the future it will be easier for you to cope with jealousy.[/b][b] nAccept the fact of uncertainty, you cannot be sure that you will be loved forever. Stay here and now, and then you will learn to receive joy from what you have.[/b][b] nTry to evaluate your requests for relationships, how realistic they are.[/b] Maybe you think that your partner can’t like anyone but you? But sympathy for others is a completely normal phenomenon, and you need to remember that if someone is with you, it means they need it for some reason.[b] Eliminate negativity from your relationship, learn to give compliments and say something good. [/b]Instead of “I see without you,” say “thank you,” and such changes will strengthen the relationship and eliminate jealousy from them.[b] It was a busy week, but I finally wrote an article [i]😊[/b][/i] I’m interested in relationship topics, so I decided to talk to you about jealousy [i ][b]😊[/b][/i] A feeling that is completely unfamiliar to me, but arises in many couples. By the way, I’m also working on relationships [i][b]😉 [/b][/i]
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