The beginning of a relationship in perspective projection.

[Venus]

IMHO, almost any relationship begins either with common interests, or with banal and simple-minded sex. In one case, two people either work together, or study, or are engaged in some other useful activity. There are many options. The main idea is that people are brought together not by mutual passion or sympathy, but by a certain common cause, when they gradually become attached to each other, realizing that it would be nice to sleep with each other, since there is such excellent mutual understanding in everything else.
In the second In this case, two people wake up, get to know each other in the same bed, and if the night’s fun was at the proper level, they decide that they could repeat it, and at the same time get to know each other better. And then comes a period of joyful sex, followed by joint breakfasts, walks and other romance, which unexpectedly turns out to be pleasant for both participants.
Do you think, in the long run, which couple will be stronger, the first or the second?

[March]

IMHO, almost any relationship begins either with common interests, or with banal and simple-minded sex. In one case, two people either work together, or study, or are engaged in some other useful activity. There are many options. The main idea is that people are brought together not by mutual passion or sympathy, but by a certain common cause, when they gradually become attached to each other, realizing that it would be nice to sleep with each other, since there is such excellent mutual understanding in everything else.
In the second In this case, two people wake up, get to know each other in the same bed, and if the night’s fun was at the proper level, they decide that they could repeat it, and at the same time get to know each other better. And then comes a period of joyful sex, followed by joint breakfasts, walks and other romance, which unexpectedly turns out to be pleasant for both participants.
Do you think, in the long run, which couple will be stronger, the first or the second?

If there are no common interests, it is unlikely that it will last long. Build a relationship on sex alone... Unlikely...

[many]

Looking back at the past, I can say that relationships will be stronger in a couple where there are more common interests: common values, hobbies, views. but sex is also very important... but the first is more important. as I think.

[Venus]

IMHO, almost any relationship begins either with common interests, or with banal and simple-minded sex. In one case, two people either work together, or study, or are engaged in some other useful activity. There are many options. The main idea is that people are brought together not by mutual passion or sympathy, but by a certain common cause, when they gradually become attached to each other, realizing that it would be nice to sleep with each other, since there is such excellent mutual understanding in everything else.
In the second In this case, two people wake up, get to know each other in the same bed, and if the night’s fun was at the proper level, they decide that they could repeat it, and at the same time get to know each other better. And then comes a period of joyful sex, followed by joint breakfasts, walks and other romance, which unexpectedly turns out to be pleasant for both participants.
Do you think, in the long run, which couple will be stronger, the first or the second?

If there are no common interests, it is unlikely that it will last long. To build a relationship on sex alone... It is unlikely...

On the one hand, you are right, but on the other, a relationship without sex is also not a full-fledged relationship .

[March]

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Do you think in the long run which pair will be stronger, the first or the second?

Again... common interests can also appear in the process of communication. At least in order to jointly manage the household and raise children. There was no particular coincidence of tastes and views with his first wife. More sex. However, they lived for 13 years. Is it a lot or a little?... HZ.

[Venus]

However, they lived for 13 years. Is it a lot or a little?

I believe that relationships should be looked at, not by duration, but by quality. They are together all their lives, but they live like cats and dogs. They hate each other, they swear, they fight, they just didn’t kill each other. This is of course no longer a full-fledged relationship. Toxic relationships are not relationships at all, IMHO, but the parasitism of one and self-sacrifice simultaneously with the masochism of the other.

[alexey.bro]

Strecoza,
In my opinion, the first option for the development of events is much more reliable, and in the future will lead to a more interesting development of events, because in this plot sex will be a pleasant addition to what already exists, rather than in the second option...
I went through both stages, the second most often ended in a week - another month..

[Venus]

Strecoza,
In my opinion, the first option for the development of events is much more reliable, and in the future it will lead to a more interesting development of events, because in this plot sex will be a pleasant addition to what already exists, rather than in the second option...
I went through both stage, the second most often ended in a week or another month..

Strecoza,
In my opinion, the first scenario is much more reliable, and will lead to a more interesting development of events, because in this plot sex will be a pleasant addition to what already exists, rather than in the second option...
I went through both stages, the second most often ended in a week or another month..

I myself am more inclined to the first option and this means that sex is not the first place in a relationship or we simply underestimate the importance of sex for a harmonious relationship.

[alexey.bro]

I myself am more inclined to the first option, and this means that sex is not the first place in a relationship or we simply underestimate the importance of sex for a harmonious relationship.

It seems to me that he should not take first place, in the first place I would put this respect for each other, in all aspects, trust, if it exists, then everything else will already be love, and passion, and harmony and stormy and good sex, but that’s my opinion

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Strecoza,
After all, as far as I know “you”, by this I mean girls, you should feel that you are loved and respected, then you can become both a good housewife and a slut in bed, and such that you didn’t even expect this from yourself, for my husband of course)

[Bully Carrie]

I’ll be the devil’s advocate)) I was in a relationship for several years that arose out of common interests: we loved almost the same things, long, long walks, sports, constant trips to the theater, even the family background was similar. We listened to the same bands and read the same books. People sometimes even thought that we were relatives, we were so similar. Sex was good and frequent. But something went wrong, and the DEVELOPMENT of the relationship turned out to be some kind of nonsense. I had to break up. That is, the starting point is point A - OK, but point B - alas. It turns out that in the long term there are not enough common interests either.

[alexey.bro]

But something went wrong, and the DEVELOPMENT of the relationship turned out to be some kind of nonsense.

This is none of my business, of course , but if I may... who was the initiator of such a decision?

[Bully Carrie]

we simply underestimate the importance of sex for harmonious relationships

We underestimate, yes. We move sex to second, third, or tenth place. But it would be necessary to do the first thing. I say this from my own life experience.
As children we are asked: what will you be when you grow up? And adults should be asked: what will you become when you take them out? What and with whom will you be left? ) And if sex in a relationship is somewhere in the foggy distant past, then I have bad news for you.

[Bully Carrie]

This is none of my business, of course, but if I may... who was the initiator of such a decision?

Me.

[alexey.bro]

I.

Then it is very likely that this was simply not your man, and he could not make you happy, even if it were everything is exactly the opposite.. forgive me for interfering in your affairs with my assessment... I won’t do it again

[Bully Carrie]

Then it is very likely that it was simply not your man, and he could not make you happy

Perhaps! But initially, the conditions of the task were met: there were a lot of common interests, the relationships were built perfectly)

[Venus]

I.

Then it is very likely that it was simply not your man, and he could not do make you happy, even if everything were exactly the opposite... forgive me for interfering in your affairs with my assessment... I won’t do it anymore

And how Do you understand if this is your man or not? Well, or a woman. How many common points should there be and which ones, in your opinion?

[qwerty13]

But initially, the conditions of the task were met: there were plenty of common interests, relationships were built perfectly)

Common interests are a condition necessary for starting a relationship, but insufficient and unimportant so that the union does not fall apart after 3 or 30 years. It is inappropriate to talk about the main condition on this forum.

[alexey.bro]

How can you tell if this is your man or not? Well, or a woman. How many common points of contact should there be and what are they, in your opinion?

I think everyone should feel this, it is not necessary to have any points of contact.. for example, with us There are practically no common interests, there used to be work when we first met, movies, music, cinema.. choice of clothes.. food, she doesn’t like what I like, but this does not play an important role. Let me return to your question ’how to understand’ I think it’s not for me to tell you this, and you understand this much more... regarding the answer... ask yourself a couple of questions, are you happy? Do you want to call him or her in your free moment, do you want to return home quickly, make some kind of surprise, or just hug and be silent... Or passionately and violently fall on the bed and have passionate and animal sex... just looking into the eyes will be enough at the moment of passion and everything will become clear whether you are yours or not..

[Bully Carrie]

How can you tell if this is your man or not? Well, or a woman. How many common points of contact should there be and which ones, in your opinion?

The question is not for me, but let me answer too
It seems to me that there are 4 main points: attitude towards sex, attitude towards money, attitude towards parents and how to raise children. As for the rest, IMHO it is easier to come to a compromise.

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How can you tell if this is your man or not? Well, or a woman. How many common points of contact should there be and what are they, in your opinion?

I think everyone should feel this, it is not necessary to have any points of contact.. for example, with us There are practically no common interests, there used to be work when we first met, movies, music, cinema.. choice of clothes.. food, she doesn’t like what I like, but this does not play an important role. Let me return to your question ’how to understand’ I think it’s not for me to tell you this, and you understand this much more... regarding the answer... ask yourself a couple of questions, are you happy? Do you want to call him or her in your free moment, do you want to return home quickly, make some kind of surprise, or just hug and be silent... Or passionately and violently fall on the bed and have passionate and animal sex... just looking into the eyes will be enough at the moment of passion and everything will become clear whether you are yours or not..

Well said.

[Igor1989]

first or second?

I think these two cases should be partially combined. Because individually, sooner or later they will fall apart. Because passion, sex, common interests, etc. must be present here and there...

[Venus]

So what about the statement that opposites attract? Is it true and if they really attract, then how strongly and for how long?

[alexey.bro]

And, what about the statement that opposites attract? Is it true and if they really attract, then how strongly and for how long?

Of course it’s true, it’s not for nothing that they always mention earthly forces that are different in nature, but they are united in all years, fire and water, ice and flame, in such relationships everyone always complements each other without letting them fade away, and they can last for an insanely long time, but of course there is a possibility that either someone will go out, or the cup will simply overflow..

[Venus]

And, what about the statement that opposites attract? Is it true and if they really attract, then how strongly and for how long?

Of course it’s true, it’s not for nothing that they always mention earthly forces that are different in nature, but they are united in all years, fire and water, ice and flame, in such relationships everyone always complements each other without letting them fade away, and they can last for an insanely long time, but of course there is a possibility that either someone will go out, or the cup will simply overflow..

I watched the cartoon literally a month ago. It’s called "Elementary". This year’s cartoon. There the girl is fire, and the MCH is water.
They not only became friends, but are also quite happy together, but this is, of course, a cartoon))) By the way, if you like cartoons, take a look. I liked it)))

https://media.kg-portal.ru/movies/e/ele ... tal_2t.jpg

[alexey.bro]

I watched the cartoon literally a month ago. It’s called "Elementary". This year’s cartoon.

I’m not a fan, but I think I’ll watch it with mine, she loves them

[March]

And, what about the statement that opposites attract? Is it true and if they really attract, then how strongly and for how long?

They can strongly. But hardly for long.

[Bully Carrie]

And what about the statement that opposites attract?

as often happens with statements, they suffer from understatement. Opposite tastes in music or sports, for example, but at the same time basic views on life can coincide, and then - bingo, opposites do attract))

[FUCKYAMATERITY]

IMHO, almost any relationship begins either with common interests, or with banal and simple-minded sex.

With a common interest in non-banal sex
There are no extremes or extremely rare, almost always some combination of factors. It’s strange that thoughts about sex arise from coinciding interests, even if only one person had such an interest right away or allowed such development in his head. The beginning of a relationship is more likely from spontaneous sex. But if there are no other points of contact, they will not last long or will remain at the stage of targeted meetings. Sometimes this lasts for a long time, but it also doesn’t last forever; one of the couple finds a partner for life, and not just for pleasure.

[Wow]

What brings us together... is the tremendous work of a man in multitasking mode and adaptability “to suit” the interests of a woman.
A woman comes into a relationship as if she were on a show or like at an all-inclusive resort.

[alexey.bro]

Brings us together... the enormous work of a man in multitasking and adaptability “to” the interests of a woman.
A woman comes into a relationship as if she were on a show or like at a resort where “all inclusive”.

Accurately noted

[Venus]

Veey, aleksey.bro, there are several behavioral models in relationships.
If you don’t delve into psychology of relationships, we can highlight several main ones. The first is spouses who are equal partners. The second is the relationship between spouses, like father-daughter, and the third, like mother-son. By the way, mother-son relationships are not so rare, when literally the wife even wipes her husband’s snot. I had a husband like a son to me, although he was 7 years older than me.
You have a choice how to build relationships within relationships. And, if you like to surround your wife with hyper-care, then surround her, and if not, then don’t do it through force, and then feel sorry for yourself, who is so good.

[Wow]

several behavioral models

...for psychologists-propagandists, so that they powder the brains of men...covering the System with Situationalism.

[alexey.bro]

there are several behavioral models in relationships.

Thank you for reminding the main points

[Venus]

several behavioral models

...for psychologists-propagandists to fool the minds of men...covering the System with Situationalism.

Well, I’m not a psychologist. And, I saw these models in life, with relatives, well acquaintances and just acquaintances. The mother-son format is quite common by the way. In him, a man not only lacks multitasking, but in fact he is like a cat in such a family. So not all poor men are that poor.

[Pierro]

Strecoza,
You for yourself - then.. have you come up with a recipe for a happy family?

[weak intestine]

It is important that you do not hesitate to fart in front of each other at home and everywhere. Then the couple will definitely be strong

[Venus]

Strecoza,
nHave you come up with a recipe for a happy family for yourself?

Perhaps the absence of a man in the family means the absence of problems.

[alexey.bro]

It is important that you do not hesitate to fart in front of each other at home and everywhere. Then the couple will definitely be strong

You are like a 1x bet advertisement in every topic at the most inopportune moment I’m already torn from you

[Pierro]

Perhaps the absence of a man in the family means the absence of problems.

i.e. have you come to terms with your inability to build a full-fledged family?

[Wow]

I saw these models in life

In Nazi Germany, someone also saw people of “inferior nationalities” walking freely in freedom... and even some Jews, - they were seen not in the ghetto or in the concentration camp, but in the service of the Reich...
Herman Goering said: “At my headquarters, I myself decide who is a Jew and who is not!”

[Venus]

I saw these models in life

In Nazi Germany, someone also saw people of “inferior nationalities” walking freely in freedom... and even some Jews - they were seen not in a ghetto or in a concentration camp, but in the service of the Reich...
Herman Goering said: “In my headquarters, I myself decide who is a Jew and who is not!”.

Have you just read an article or watched a video about it and you were itching to insert this information somewhere and inserted it here? It looks stupid and out of place here.

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Perhaps the absence of a man in the family means the absence of problems.

i.e. have you come to terms with your inability to build a full-fledged family?

Yes, I was disappointed in men.