Do you hit your child?

[Viola]

Do you beat your child, or did you beat, I don’t mean beating, of course, but punishment in the form of spankings or slaps on the head?

[Eustace]

I’m even scared to imagine what they might write!

[Viola]

I’m even scared to imagine what they might write!

since I beat my child, I don’t expect that others will write exactly the same, but maybe no one will write anything at all

[Murzik85]

I tried to hit a couple of times, but there was no point in it. There are much more effective ways to get good behavior from a child.

[Eustace]

There are much more effective ways to get good behavior from a child.

Take away the smartphone????

[Viola]

Should I take away the smartphone????

and if the child is 4 years old

[Murzik85]

Should I take away the smartphone????

and if the child is 4 years old

It’s even more useless. The method doesn’t work at all!!!

[Eustace]

and if the child is 4 years old

and does not have a Smartphone?? Well then you should be slapped on the butt!

[slavik.meshalkin]

If you beat often, you will grow up to be a sadist or masochist .

[Eustace]

If you beat often, you will grow up to be a sadist or masochist .

and look at Mom, the address of our website

[Venus]

I believe that beating children is absolutely forbidden, wrong and senseless.

[Eustace]

I believe that it is absolutely forbidden to beat children, it is wrong and senseless.

why then was the belt invented

[Venus]

I believe that it is categorically forbidden to beat children, it is wrong and senseless.

why then was the belt invented

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[Eustace]

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I didn’t know you before, I’ve already discovered so many new things for myself today! It’s not childishly exciting!

[Venus]

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I didn’t know you before, I’ve already discovered so many new things for myself today! It’s not childishly exciting!

))) What new have you discovered?

[Tanya]

I know and understand that you cannot beat children, because this is a sign of stupidity and lack of restraint. But...there was one case when I kicked my eldest son on the ass, and he was only a year and a half old. I sat there all excited and painted my eyes, and he assessed the situation and realized that I wouldn’t get to him quickly, opened the refrigerator that stood in the corner by the front door (it was in my aunt’s private house) and everything he could reach , dumped it on the floor, while carefully watching whether I would have time to reach it or not, while he was moving the pot of borscht.. On the floor there was borscht and sunflower oil and a dozen eggs and a can of milk, how did he not cut himself... until now Don’t know. But I was an impatient young fool, I grabbed him by the hand, beat him and put him in the corner and... he was crazy and fidgety, but that time he stood in the corner for an hour while I washed and put everything away. I didn’t hit him again until I went to school, that’s when he caught slaps on the head... I won’t lie.. And then I realized that it was my fault, it was me who was crazy and he was just different.. I started learning lessons with him, hold back, and then immediately got dressed and ran outside at about 9 pm and walked around the house for about 20 minutes.. In the second month of my walks, a neighbor with a dog comes up to me and asks: you probably want to get a dog, follow us around in the evenings. .getting ready? I answer her: no, where else would I get a dog? I’m like a dog myself... so as not to bite my son, after I’ve done my homework with him, I calm down.
Well, with the youngest I have no reason at all There was never a time to raise a hand against him, he was calm, reasonable from birth, straight... with him at his age it was possible to agree on any issue without any problems. If I suddenly raised my voice, he was surprised and I felt ashamed.

[Christmas_Christmas]

I believe that it is absolutely forbidden to beat children, it is wrong and senseless.

why then was the belt invented : dumayu:

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damn... I was never punished as a child... but I never thought about my parents at all, I didn’t consider punishment from them through the prism of "Topics"))))
but children, that’s okay... you never know what can take up residence in a child’s head))).... but if a father or mother punishes a child with a belt, they experience "BDSM(a) adrenaline" from this... then treat them necessary... and the sooner treatment starts, the better)))

[Eustace]

and everything he could reach, he dumped on the floor, while carefully watching whether I would have time to run or not while he was moving the pan with borscht.. On the floor there was borscht and sunflower oil and a dozen eggs and a can of milk, how did he not cut himself..

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[Eustace]

What new have you discovered?

I’ll show you, Okay!

[RANGE_]

why did they come up with a belt then

It’s a shame in the army of mother’s greyhound sons after lights out in the toilet, grandfathers taught them to be men;)

[Eustace]

It’s like in the army of mother’s greyhounds, after lights out in the toilet, the grandfathers taught them to be men;)

I thought about Translating! On duty...

[Venus]

What new have you discovered?

I’ll show you, Okay!

I didn’t understand a thing

[Eustace]

I didn’t understand a thing

well, you’re a Girl!

[Tanya]

why did they come up with a belt then

It’s a shame in the army of mummy’s greyhound sons after lights out in the toilet, the grandfathers taught them to be men;)

Thank God, now there are no grandfathers and no hazing. It’s my mother’s son who works for me...received gratitude the other day. I was at the shooting yesterday, got into 5, 6, 9... they said it was not bad for the first time... The relationship with the guys is wonderful, I didn’t even expect that he would be able to adapt so easily, because he’s really a spoiled introvert. .was.

[Venus]

I didn’t understand a thing

well, you’re a Girl!

))) Well, tell me, please

[Eustace]

))) Well, tell me, please

Action, Tsimus will lose weight

[RANGE_]

My mother didn’t use a belt, she “treated” me with other objects. She broke two massage combs on me and slammed my favorite wooden machine on my back. That’s up to 10 years. No further was required.

When I was a child, I was still such a child that my parents had to blush for me in front of people. Either I’ll smack the dentist like a child, or I’ll run away from the kindergarten. Then in the same kindergarten I would tempt a girl to show her pussy - and the teachers would catch me... and they would even catch me masturbating. Horror!!!)))
Thankfully, the nanny was loyal.
Once I saw in "quiet hour" that the nanny had molded a dick out of plasticine, and let’s show it to the glorified woman))
The teacher told her: "What are you, a fool? The children will see. "
I saw it;) And then I found it on the shelves where the dolls were.

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But it’s really possible to beat children - you need a good reason and age to take into account.

nI had a couple of times when I hit my nephew on the half-butt when he was 3 years old. Because you don’t want to climb in front of a lawn mower.

And so...look in the “mirror”. Children reflect you and your behavior.

[Juss]

You can’t fuck me off my daughter, she’s a CMS in taekwondo, even though she’s 16 years oldyou can turn anyone you want into dust

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

something I’m even scared to imagine what they might write!

since I beat my child, I don’t expect that the others will write for sure also, but in general, maybe no one will write anything

Viola, were you hacked? :question:

[RANGE_]

you’ll fuck me off my daughter, CCM in taekwondo, even though she’s 16 years old, she can turn anyone you want into dust
Every gopher in the field is an agronomist.

Interesting backstory. Did you choose it yourself or did you bring it? ;)

[Juss]

You’ll fuck me off my daughter, she’s a master of taekwondo, even though she’s 16 years old, she can turn anyone you want into dust
Every gopher in the field is an agronomist.

Interesting backstory. Did you choose it yourself or did you bring it?;)

At first it was as if they had chosen me, I threw it away. But after a year, she consciously said that I could start training again from scratch, that is, with the protection of all the belts and, accordingly, the ranks. And of course, everyone was all for it.

[Viola]

I’m even scared to imagine what they might write!

since I beat my child, I don’t expect that others will write exactly the same, but in general, maybe no one will write anything

Viola, have you been hacked?

no, everything seems to be fine

[red_fox]

My daughter flew in seriously once, when she was 13-14 years old. When I started kicking, I won’t do anything around the house.
For my son more often, but here it’s more symbolic - when he starts to suffer badly from bullshit.

[RANGE_]

Viola,
There is a lot in this topic hidden details.
To hit or not to hit.

I have a lot of living examples where the parents themselves behave in such a way that the child, through his behavior, shows himself to be an antagonist of the parental strict regime.

There is another extreme, when the child is allowed everything: as long as he doesn’t hang himself, so that his offspring doesn’t drip on his brain.

And in the end, the child with his deviations turns into a naughty one, and is even more likely to manipulate his parents.

In both cases there is some kind of unconsciousness. Both the child and the parents.
Either overcontrol or omission. But one fits very well into the other. Alas.

In particular, overcontrol gives rise to omission - like inattention to other aspects of the life of a young person who is growing in every sense.

And permissiveness for a child - nothing more than a feeling of guilt before your child.

The child did not arise from a vacuum and does not live in it. He looks at you, parents, and with his childish little mind, he understands, having learned behavior from his mothers and fathers. He either echoes or goes into denial.

Conflict is born where there is no clear picture of perception, where in the family there is separation between husband and wife (parents), where there is no common understanding not only in logic , but also at the level of feelings for each other, and for the common child.

This is where “outlaws” and “bad guys” arise...whom you want to beat.

[Shy Baby]

Let me start with the fact that a child should be raised, not beaten. NOT everyone can truly educate, and when an inexperienced parent-educator runs out of arguments, he uses “physical education.” And therefore I will say: if you switched to “physical education,” then this is, first of all, YOUR shortcoming. This means that they could not convince in other ways.
But on the other hand.... Look at animals: when raising their children, they BEAT, punish, teach their children. FROM this we can only draw one conclusion: physical punishment is one of the methods of education, but... for the animal world with lower mental development.
And for the objectivity of this question... Once upon a time... The teacher-educator devoted his entire life to the question: to beat or not to beat a child when raising a child. He devoted his entire life to this issue. And when he turned 80, journalists who came to his anniversary asked him:
"You have devoted your entire life to the issue of physical education of a child. So what have you come to: to beat or not to beat?" And he answered: "For me, this is no longer a question: to beat or not to beat children when raising them. They need to be FIGHTED!"

[Bully Carrie]

for the objectivity of this question... Once upon a time one... teacher-educator devoted his entire life to the issue

I ask Forgiveness, purely for the sake of objectivity: did this teacher have a name? What was the hero’s name? )

[RANGE_]

Bashful Baby,

that a child needs to be raised,

This is the only thing I disagree with.
For the rest, repeat what I described above.

If education is like imposing certain cliches, and not transferring real and useful experience through the example of parents.

Fighting is an exceptional measure when there is no time for exhortations on “how to live correctly.” When a child is abandoned by parents. In other words, they beat themselves. An alarming moment.
"The wiring was soldered in the wrong place" - so it smokes. Connections, bitch, connections are not the same.

[Viola]

I know and understand that children should not be beaten

I agree with this, but there are times..

[AlexTDV]

An adequate, adult person can be able to negotiate and solve problems with a child; beating children is not normal

[Viola]

An adequate, adult person can be able to negotiate and solve problems with a child, beating children is not normal

do you have children? Have you really never spanked your child on the bottom in your life?

[AlexTDV]

An adequate adult can be able to negotiate and solve problems with a child, beating children is not normal

and you have children ? Have you really never spanked your child on the butt in your life?

I’m young and single)

[BUGOR]

never hit a child

[Shy Baby]

Bashful Baby,

that a child needs to be raised,

This is the only thing I disagree with.
...
If education is like imposing certain cliches, and not transferring real and useful experience through the example of parents.

Strange and funny...Where did you get the idea that education is "imposing certain cliches"? Imposing cliches is terror towards a child. And education means explaining to a child, often using your own examples, what the TRUTH is...

Fighting is an exceptional measure when there is no time for exhortations "how to live correctly" . When a child is abandoned by his parents....

You are writing to the wrong address about tearing up.
....Actually, I don’t hit the child....

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for the objectivity of this question... Once upon a time... teacher-educator devoted his entire life to the question

I apologize, purely for the sake of objectivity: did this teacher have a name? What was the hero’s name? )

Of course, there is/was a name, but I only remembered not his name, but his verbatim answer about physical punishment....

[Sidor]

It happened once. He was four years old. In the garden I saw how his classmates were acting up and decided to try it at home. I led him somewhere by the hand, and he bent his legs and sat down on the floor. I picked him up by the hand with which I was holding him and hit him on the ass once. All. This never happened again. I didn’t tell him twice. Harsh? May be. He didn’t raise a slobber - a man.

[The Dark Lord]

We kick you in the face. Well, I spank you on the butt

[Sibiryak89]

As Arkady Raikin said in one performance, “Sidorov Sr., Sidorov Jr. beat me like Sidorov’s goat, that’s why I turned out to be a man, otherwise I would have left prison a different person, like our neighbor.” Any punishment should follow an explanation and a ban, you don’t understand, Get... My opinion, I punished my children, they all have higher education, families, etc.

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for the objectivity of this question... Once upon a time, one... teacher-educator devoted his entire life to the question

I apologize, purely for the sake of objectivity: this teacher has a name was? What was the hero’s name? )

Makarenko is his last name and his quote: "If you are sure that hitting a student will do him good, hit him." One thing, he worked with street children , re-educated

[Rabbit]

Do you beat your child, or did you beat, I don’t mean beating, of course, but punishment in the form of slaps or slaps on the head?

nWhen I was younger, the older one got it in the ass. But now I consider this a mistake of youth.
I don’t hit children, although I can punish them severely.

[Consul]

Too big a question. I believe that a certain punishment in the form of spankings can and should be done. But these are definitely not blows that cause injury. And you can’t hit him in the face. If you spank, it is not as humiliation, but as a form of sanctions. Although, as noted above, the effectiveness of assault leaves big questions.