Help!!! Dear girls, help!!

[Lowpoly]

The situation is like this - I have a girlfriend, we’ve been living together for a long time and we love each other. BUT the longer we live, the longer the breaks in sex and the less interesting it is (just for show). At the beginning of the relationship, everything was sky-high, they had sex like rabbits could have sex for 12 hours, with a break for a smoke break and a drink of water))). I simply didn’t want to look to the left, the other girls remained only silhouettes against her background, I completely forgot about masturbation for 3 years. Then she gained a little extra weight (really not much) and began to have complexes, but for me she did not lose interest. So sex became less and less frequent and my eyes began to look at other people’s forms, handjob appeared in my sex diet again and it got to the point where I was seriously thinking about cheating. Maybe against the backdrop of this forum it will seem childish, but I don’t want to cheat on her, and I’m pretty tired of fucking my hand!!
I talked to her about this topic - she explains this by the fact that the above mentioned complex appeared in addition to the awareness of that that she is not very developed in terms of sexual pleasures. I, in turn, explained to her more than once that visually I didn’t like her one bit and I still wanted her madly.
For the second problem, at first I sent her articles from the Internet, offered to take courses (she refused) and tried many different approaches, sometimes it came to swearing, well, in general, the apotheosis on my part was (maybe in vain, judge) the offer to learn something - something useful from porn, naturally not all of them, but some things that turn her on turn me on and put them into practice.
But time passes, nothing changes and interest in her sexually is slowly fading away!!! I am completely hopeless and don’t know what to do, please give me some advice, dear girls.

[Tanushka]

Oh, the specialists will be here soon!
Listen, I don’t fully understand - what exactly is the problem? Is it her excess weight or the fact that you are already fed up with everything? Why did you start looking at other girls if you like her even if she’s overweight? You talked to her frankly, what did she say - what’s the matter???

[Lowpoly]

I started staring because I haven’t had sex for months and physical needs are taking their toll, I want sax so much that I can even climb the walls. He had a heart-to-heart talk with her, explaining that he doesn’t like himself and doesn’t know how to do anything and doesn’t want to seem like a log, but doesn’t want to study the issue. Why? It doesn’t give an answer (but everything was fine before).
Struggles with excess weight - went to the gym (on my own initiative)

[Tanushka]

I started staring because I haven’t had sex for months and physical needs take their toll, I want sax so much that I can even climb the walls. He had a heart-to-heart talk with her, explaining that he doesn’t like himself and doesn’t know how to do anything and doesn’t want to seem like a log, but doesn’t want to study the issue. Why? It doesn’t give an answer (but everything was fine before).
Struggles with excess weight - went to the gym (on my own initiative)

So you stimulate her, however, in the right direction. Tell her how prettier she has become, what shape she has become, and so on... Maybe you accidentally blurted out something to her about extra pounds, and now she’s stuck on this.
In general, the lack of sex, at least of any kind, between a couple is an alarming signal. I get the impression that she was specifically focused on her beloved and she completely forgot about your relationship, if there was one at all... The fact that next to you is also a person and he is also alive, with his own needs. Hmmm.

[Frankish]

Lowpoly,
Oh, this is so feminine solidarity)
In fact, the problem is not rare. I had exactly the same thing, only the trigger was the birth of a child. She was completely absorbed in him and caring for him, but forgot about me. Our sex on her part became "fulfillment of marital duties." And as a result, I began to walk to the left. Now we no longer live together, although we are not officially divorced

[vit123]

The situation is like this - I have a girlfriend, we have been living together for a long time and we love each other. BUT the longer we live, the longer the breaks in sex and the less interesting it is (just for show). At the beginning of the relationship, everything was sky-high, they had sex like rabbits could have sex for 12 hours, with a break for a smoke break and a drink of water))). I simply didn’t want to look to the left, the other girls remained only silhouettes against her background, I completely forgot about masturbation for 3 years. Then she gained a little extra weight (really not much) and began to have complexes, but for me she did not lose interest. So sex became less and less frequent and my eyes began to look at other people’s forms, handjob appeared in my sex diet again and it got to the point where I was seriously thinking about cheating. Maybe against the backdrop of this forum it will seem childish, but I don’t want to cheat on her, and I’m pretty tired of fucking my hand!!
I talked to her about this topic - she explains this by the fact that the above mentioned complex appeared in addition to the awareness of that that she is not very developed in terms of sexual pleasures. I, in turn, explained to her more than once that visually I didn’t like her one bit and I still wanted her madly.
For the second problem, at first I sent her articles from the Internet, offered to take courses (she refused) and tried many different approaches, sometimes it came to swearing, well, in general, the apotheosis on my part was (maybe in vain, judge) the offer to learn something - something useful from porn, naturally not all of them, but some things that turn her on turn me on and put them into practice.
But time passes, nothing changes and interest in her sexually is slowly fading away!!! I am completely hopeless and don’t know what to do, please give me some advice, dear girls.

Everything is presented in a vague way. At the beginning you fucked like rabbits. and then it turns out that she is not very developed in sex. so you really fucked the rabbit and left the girl for later? clarify? How does a person who fucks intensely then suddenly find himself sexually constrained?????