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Hi all. What is more important to you in sex, to have pleasure or to give it to your partner?
Share your thoughts and observations, it will be interesting to read.
Share your thoughts and observations, it will be interesting to read.
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
You see what happens
Perhaps this is the meaning of sex - to get pleasure from it. You can, of course, have sex for show, or to fulfill your marital duty (if this term is still in fashion, of course), but in this way, of course, the thought will come to your mind that there is no great sense in such sex and it is better to jerk off :)
At the same time, since sex is joint jerking with a partner, it would be nice to try to please him, because that’s what a partner is for, to please him. It is only important to remember that in essence you are still doing this for yourself, even if you are a first-class altruist in sex)
So, the main thing is to just enjoy pleasant leisure time and, if possible, do good for others

Perhaps this is the meaning of sex - to get pleasure from it. You can, of course, have sex for show, or to fulfill your marital duty (if this term is still in fashion, of course), but in this way, of course, the thought will come to your mind that there is no great sense in such sex and it is better to jerk off :)
At the same time, since sex is joint jerking with a partner, it would be nice to try to please him, because that’s what a partner is for, to please him. It is only important to remember that in essence you are still doing this for yourself, even if you are a first-class altruist in sex)
So, the main thing is to just enjoy pleasant leisure time and, if possible, do good for others

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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
I think good sex is when both partners try to please each other. It’s always very sensual and cool

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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
Kauchuk, Porolon,
Dear!... I absolutely agree with you!..
I’ll add on my own behalf.
When giving pleasure to your partner, don’t forget about yourself.
Dear!... I absolutely agree with you!..
I’ll add on my own behalf.
When giving pleasure to your partner, don’t forget about yourself.

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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
The funny thing is that I won’t be able to get true pleasure if my partner doesn’t get hers. I think most men are like that.
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
ilmir, in this case, study, study and again learn to give pleasure

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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
psihleh, that’s not even a question. Definitely - to please your partner! And when both have it, it’s fantastic sex. You can get pleasure from masturbation and sex, the main thing is to give it!
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
when a man has not yet formed, he tries to prove to a woman, and to himself, that he can give pleasure in sex, and then.. and who stops a woman from having pleasure under me?
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
It is important for me to please my beloved. And when she got her pleasure, then mine increases significantly

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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
The best feeling is when it’s mutual
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
The best feeling is when you both enjoy long-term sex, at the end both of you have very powerful orgasms, that’s cool
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I love it when a girl cums
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
I only get pleasure when I make a girl feel good, I think this is the most important thing in sex. To give my partner pleasure, I’ll somehow manage it myself in the end.
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
Unfortunately, I don’t get physical pleasure from sex. But I like giving pleasure to my partner; at least I get moral satisfaction. Well, when your partner cums, it’s great.
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
To my first time I only cared about my partner having fun. Because when she finished, I received strong moral pleasure.
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
You need to find that middle ground when you feel good and she feels good, and the fact that she feels good makes you feel even better!
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
not a simple question, if it’s directly either or, I would like 50/50

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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
there is a golden mean in everything) ... satisfying your partner is + to karma))), and your pleasure from this only increases

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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
When your partner doesn’t enjoy sex with you, it’s better to jerk off. A couple of times I saw how my partner, during sex, thinks about how quickly this would end, and from this even the dick begins to fall. Therefore, only mutual pleasure
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
When they say that you like to give pleasure to your partner, they are “modestly” silent about your desires - this is self-deception! In any case, when giving pleasure to another, you receive your own pleasure in return, or you hope to receive yours in return - in general, no matter how you look at it, everyone gets theirs!
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
For me personally, it is more important to give pleasure than to receive it myself. If a girl feels good, if she cums over and over again, if she shakes with pleasure, then I will feel good too. First of all morally. And physically there will be enough release after accumulated positive emotions
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
Always the first priority is to please her, and the more she enjoys herself, the more she enjoys me.
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
Differently. Sometimes you want to please a girl, even if not yourself. And sometimes you just want to roughly fry and drain the sperm and don’t care that she remains aroused
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
When I have sex, the goal in my head is to bring maximum pleasure to my partner. I will lick her all over, I will caress her all over (naturally, with the transition of my “rest” to her “work”). I will fuck her in many positions, but so that she gets a thrill. And I won’t be able to finish my job without making sure that my partner has finished. How do I see that she has finished? I feel it when she leaks during cunnilingus and grabs my hair on my head and squeezes it or squeezes the sheet with her hands. During sex in the rear position, she begins to help herself with her hand, caressing the clitoris, moaning passionately, tenderly. Or screams from penetration. Therefore, it is important that both partners enjoy it. Everyone just has different orgasms. Some girls get an orgasm from touching, while others need time to get it. But still - mutual pleasure should be obtained!
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
Elementary! It’s more pleasant for myself when a woman cums and at that time my penis is in her vagina!!!!!

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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
Golden mean! mutual feeling of each partner, what could be cooler?! when receiving pleasure or delivering it to your partner merge into one whole, when your bodies are shaking from a simultaneous orgasm, then we can confidently say that this is endless bliss

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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
The most relish is to feel the state of your partner, his emotions and pleasure, share them and strengthen them. The more pleasant it is for another, the better for me
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
I love both receiving and giving pleasure! But when my partner gets it, I get more! I’m glad for myself that I brought pleasure to another, and I get from it myself)))
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
I think a man needs both. Pleasure with oneself, but also the partner’s orgasm is no less important, so to speak, for self-affirmation and raising self-esteem) and in general, if you love a person, then in addition to all this, you will always be happy to give him pleasure...
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
Let’s start with oral sex. When I take cunnilingus, I am in the mood for pleasure. This helps me to open up to my partner emotionally and physically to trust him and get bliss. And vice versa, when I give him a blowjob, all my thoughts are about him getting great pleasure....
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
Sex is a game for two. How to determine what is best to do? It seems to me that there is no way - the best option is that both (three or more...) want to please each other, but I also get a lot from the other. The worst thing is that you give pleasure, but your partner doesn’t like it and he doesn’t know what to do with it...
Probably, these are extreme points, and between them, as usual, there are a lot of options.


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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
Enjoy the pleasure delivered!
Emotions are stronger than physical ones!
Emotions are stronger than physical ones!
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
First I lick until he cums 2-3 times, only then I insert and fuck.
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I have a tiny penis of 13 cm and I actively bring women to orgasm with my tongue, thereby compensating for my shortcomings. Once I did it to two girlfriends at once and it made my jaw cramp.
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
I don’t know why, but I like giving pleasure more than receiving. But I don’t forget about myself)))
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
I always work for quality. That is, I know that I can always finish it... so first everything is for her. and then for yourself! )
A fucked girl is a grateful girl)
A fucked girl is a grateful girl)
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
I catch pleasure in his every touch and during sex I also always want to get a buzz, but when he gets a buzz from me, sex with me makes it doubly pleasant)))
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
I generally cannot cum until I feel that a woman is having a good time with me. In general, the most thrill is not the orgasm itself, but the feeling that magic is happening inside a woman from my penis
I’ve always been a sex altruist

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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
First, of course, give pleasure, and only then, get it yourself. For what then is the whole process? Of course, if everything is different in a couple, I think it’s selfishness.
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
Not clear question. The pleasure must be mutual! And that’s it!!!
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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
niqk, Well, you answered the question? What do you mean he’s incomprehensible? If you haven’t encountered the fact that girls don’t get the pleasure they want, then what is there to talk about?
Then understand the issue and there will be no problems with them)

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Re: Get pleasure or give it to your partner?
For me, both points are important, otherwise sex will be somehow one-sided, if we talk about sex with a partner in general. Well, each specific sex depends on the mood, sometimes you want to have a blast yourself, and sometimes you want to give maximum pleasure to your partner.
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