Is it worth looking for your person?

Unread post by **Marquis** » 05 Jul 2022, 10:45

Hi people. I want to know your opinion about whether it’s worth looking for the right person in life?? Or do like the majority and calmly look for any random sex partner? I just have this ideology: that if I want to find a girl who hasn’t slept with anyone yet, everything is normal, then accordingly I should be the same. After all, I want from this person what I myself did not adhere to. Is this fair?)
Yes, many may say there is no need to puzzle yourself like that. I just treat everyone with the same understanding. But at some point you switch and think, is it worth it? I know sex is an important thing in life, and even without it there can be health problems, which I am already seeing little by little. So is it worth searching, enduring, believing? Or just give it up? Many friends adhere to the theory “I’ll have some fun and then I’ll find mine,” and I won’t say that this is bad either, it’s good for everyone in their own way. There’s a lot more I could write, but I think you get the gist. I want to hear your opinion

Unread post by **sevener** » 05 Jul 2022, 10:51

You are a super complex bore with a lot of prejudices. Now, if you think that people in a couple should correspond to each other, think about whether you will be satisfied with the same, boring, limited woman like yourself?
If I were you, I would go to psychologists, attend various developmental programs, play sports and earn money. But I understand you have no time for that, you philosophize and jerk off to your limitations. For many people, it is more important not to find love or sex, but to wait, wait and doubt, this is such a fetish.

Unread post by **nz_alex** » 05 Jul 2022, 10:59

I think it’s worth looking for. Well, that is, everyone’s “own person” is different, of course. Maybe you are looking for an ideal, the probability of finding which is too small, and you risk spending your life searching and not finding it... But if the chances are close to reality, perhaps yes.
My life is already turning towards sunset. There was a period when it was necessary to make a choice, and I made it. My wife is a good, decent woman, I value and respect her, but she is not my person. We are not right for each other. Although we live in peace and harmony, we are not happy. But once upon a time it was possible to implement a more complex maneuver and build a life with another person. There was a choice. And now he’s gone.

Unread post by **Marquis** » 05 Jul 2022, 11:35

nz_alex, thank you, it was interesting to hear your opinion.)

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sevener, No, I’m not looking for a robot. Or as you wrote"limited". Maybe I just didn’t write enough, but the person below understood everything perfectly) But still, thanks for the feedback.)

Unread post by **Mongoose** » 05 Jul 2022, 12:34

If I’m not mistaken, we are talking about finding a life partner!? Then I’ll answer..... Well, come on, it’s a lottery! You can search all your life and not find it, or you can see it on the bus and a spark runs through everything! But the most interesting thing is that a year has passed and such disappointments begin, because they say the truth: “from love to hate - one step!” and now there is a divorce and again the dilemma of where to find the one and only!? In general, there is no answer to this question and there cannot be! Here a lot depends on the characters, the ability to listen, forgive, sympathize, etc., etc.

Unread post by **racer** » 05 Jul 2022, 17:35

After forty, a man need not ask such a question, even to himself. The only one is no longer needed, because at this age you can only raise one child (and the issue of children is not a fact that will be the main one), and someone who is accustomed to changing partners is unlikely to change his established preferences. In my opinion, a successful marriage with the “one” is pure luck

Unread post by **Marquis** » 05 Jul 2022, 17:40

racer, heh got it

) Thanks for the comment.)

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Mongoose, I see) Thanks for the comment))

Unread post by **Cynosure** » 12 Jul 2022, 10:15

Tch, my opinion is: yes. It’s worth looking for your “person,” but he (she) is not alone (alone) in the world. There are many people who are suitable for you as life partners. And in sex, your libido and tastes will coincide as much as possible, and you will see in one direction. But to understand whether a person is suitable for you as a life partner, you need to live under the same roof for half a year, or better yet, a year. You may be great at sex, but it will be completely impossible to live, let alone raise children with this person. But it may be the other way around. She’s a wonderful person, but for this reason, it’s just not worth having sex BEFORE marriage. This is not only a bad thing, but I think it’s a must! Otherwise, then there will be betrayals and all that stuff.

Unread post by **Kotofeicheg** » 22 Jul 2022, 19:26

The main thing is that there are no peculiarities of behavior or habits that are annoying. And it’s unlikely that you will change the person, and there will be a reason for the first scandals. And you can’t guess with libido. After 2-3 years of a relationship, it can change in any direction, especially for a woman.

Unread post by **Marquis** » 05 Aug 2022, 06:32

Thanks for the comment))