Should relatives carefully hide their sex?

[JustSasha]

I will briefly describe the situation so that the essence of the issue is clear. I am 20 years old. I live in a dorm with my mother (she is 43) because... After the divorce, we didn’t have enough money for an apartment, so we bought 2 rooms located next door. There are only 4 rooms in the section, a grandfather lives in one of them, who rarely goes out, and another one was empty until recently. It was bought by a fat man who was over 50 years old. He and my mother quickly found a common language, and I often began to notice the new neighbor’s slippers near my mother’s room and everything would have been fine, and one late evening I was watching YouTube with headphones while lying on the sofa, and when I took off the headphones, I heard the sounds of sex, gradually becoming more distinct. Since the walls are quite thin. At first I didn’t believe what I heard, but when I quietly went out into the section, I heard my mother’s periodic gasps, interspersed with the creaks of the bed and slams, because the doors to the rooms, although tightly closed, were wooden. Afterwards, I often hear this in the evenings and at night, but that would be nothing, it got to the point that often on weekends I began to hear it during the day, despite the fact that a new neighbor can spend several hours visiting her and periodically I can hear it from there miscellaneous. I became embarrassed by other neighbors because they could hear it. Should I talk to my mom about this so they can try to hide their fun better? Or am I worrying too much and there is nothing extraordinary about this?

[Gudgeon]

How can they hide it? Go to a hotel? You don’t have any extra money. Wait until everyone leaves? And in the evening everyone is home! Not having sex because you’re shy? This is selfishness on your part. The best thing you can ask is to be quiet. And then... hardly. Pretend you didn’t miss it and that’s it.

[Moskvich]

If you see that he is making a lot of noise, tell him about it.

[Puppetry]

Take it easy. It is stupid to deny the existence of sex between people. Almost everyone fucks. Both our parents and our children. Both friends and enemies. But I wouldn’t trust those who don’t fuck...

[Andrey Petrov]

Never mind! They both want to fuck and you can’t cancel it! And the conditions of audibility cannot be changed. Of course the neighbors also hear and are jealous! There was something similar in my biography. So the girl, the daughter of the woman whom I fucked next door in the barracks, brought herself an Armenian merchant and they occupied our sofa before we arrived! She did it out of spite and because of her mother’s jealousy. You don’t like the situation!? So take it and have a fake orgy with any girl behind the wall with oohs, ahs and mutual moans! Then the mother will wonder if I set an example? The guy, of course, doesn’t give a fuck!

[JustSasha]

How can they hide it?

Well, at least on weekends during the day without this, but only late in the evening or at night, when everyone is sleeping.

The best thing you can ask is to be quieter.

They don’t seem to be loud anyway, but you can hear them.

[Oldsnake2104]

The problem has been made up out of thin air. If you don’t want to listen, put on earplugs

[JustSasha]

So go and have a fake orgy with any girl behind the wall

Good advice But It’s unlikely that this will work out for me, because I feel uncomfortable when I know that someone can hear us.

[March]

Good advice But it’s unlikely I’ll succeed

So at least try. Otherwise, immediately setting yourself up for negativity... It’s not good.

[AceS]

Absolutely normal. Your mother is the same person as everyone else and in the same way sometimes wants to drink and be alone with another person for a while.

[JustSasha]

Absolutely normal. Your mother is the same person as everyone else and in the same way sometimes wants to have a drink and be alone with another person for a while.

I’m only for : ) She had lovers before, but they never came to her, and suddenly something changed and she stopped being shy about me and her neighbors.

[d4d]

Should I talk to my mother about this so that they try to hide their entertainment better?

How should they hide it? Fucking in silence? Well, you can probably, but for most people these moans are almost always instinctive and uncontrollable. And even if your mother and her man can fuck "in silent mode", the creaking of the bed will still "strain you".

Or I’m really bothered and that’s not the point anything extraordinary?

Exactly. Well, if it bothers you SO MUCH, add soundproofing to their room :)

and suddenly something changed and she stopped being shy about me and her neighbors.

Why be ashamed? She’s not fucking in the common corridor of the section or in the common kitchen in front of everyone.

[AceS]

She stopped hiding it rather because she hopes for understanding on your part.

[JustSasha]

Unfortunately, it also happens that I accidentally stumble upon details of their intimacy. For example, I often see used condoms and condom wrappers when I throw out the trash. And one more incident from which I was a little shocked. One day after work I opened my laptop and realized that someone was using it because... I always turn it off, but this time it was in a dream because the lid was simply closed. I lock the room, but mom has the key. And it made me want to open my browser history. There was a search and several pages of sex shops with sections for "anal" products. After that, of course, I set a password. I was not ready to find out this at all

[d4d]

After that, of course, I set a password. And now I’m afraid to see something else

The password should have been on the laptop from the beginning :) What exactly are you "afraid of seeing"? Your mother is a grown woman, and she may well have her own preferences in sex. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

[JustSasha]

may have some preferences in sex

I used to think that this was definitely not about her!

[d4d]

I used to think that this was definitely not about her!

Everything flows, everything changes. Both life and views on sex. Your mother is only a little over forty, and it is quite possible that by this age she was tired of the monotony in sex that she had before - and the new partner fully shares her new desires (or he suggested it to her, and she supported his ideas).
You shouldn’t be embarrassed, it’s better to show off for your mother.

[niqk]

may have some preferences in sex

I used to think that this was definitely not about her!

Boy! You better be happy for your mom! Found a friend and is having fun! Are you also looking for a cool girlfriend? Why are you denying this to your mother?

[JustSasha]

Well, if she likes it, all she can really do is be happy. The only thing now is that she will have to be stopped from using her laptop under some pretext (she sometimes takes it from me, she doesn’t have her own). Or immediately delete your browser history without looking.

[Gudgeon]

Just give up the habit of spying on her. Everyone has the right to personal space. Do you protect your right to personal space? Probably not ready to be burned while watching porn or masturbation and discuss this matter with your mother? She doesn’t interfere, although she knows perfectly well, believe me, that this happens. So don’t meddle in her intimate sphere. In general, your "problems" are made up of nothing. Their whole point is “I wasn’t ready to find out.” Well, you’ve grown up, you’re not 15. It’s high time you understood and accepted that your mother has a sex life and that it shouldn’t concern you. And the fact that you are “not ready” is not the problem of others, it’s your perception, don’t shift it. Well, if you really break the mold, then contact a psychologist, they will help you accept and move on with your life. Or they won’t help... I don’t care. Psychologists are also generally useless garbage, so... cry.

[JustSasha]

Just give up the habit of spying on her.

I don’t understand where you read this, or how you came to this conclusion, I don’t have a habit of spying on anyone at all spy on. My posts talk about the carelessness of my mother and her lover; I could have at least not used my laptop to shop in sex shops (and I wouldn’t have learned much), or thrown condoms in the trash so that they weren’t visible. And on weekends it is not necessary to do this during the day when no one is sleeping, I, including another neighbor, go to the sections, but at least in the evening, when everyone has gone to their rooms. Naturally, this is a matter of when, but nevertheless

It’s high time to understand and accept that the mother has a sex life

I understand and accept this, but due to their carelessness I learned details that I would not like to know..

[Gudgeon]

I don’t understand where you read this, or how you came to this conclusion

Here

open browser history. There was a search and several pages of sex shops

and here

delete browser history immediately without looking

An ordinary person would not dig into history to find out where his mother went on the laptop. And even if I accidentally stumbled upon it once, I wouldn’t think about deleting the story, because the thought wouldn’t arise of repeating my “feat.”

And on weekends it is not necessary to do this during the day when no one is sleeping, including me

Ie. Should she agree on a sex schedule with you? What a narcissist!

[JustSasha]

An ordinary person wouldn’t dig into history to find out where his mother went on her laptop.

I’m probably unusual because I often use history on my laptop, because Sometimes you need to look for sites that you forgot to bookmark. And anyone who uses it knows that when you open it, you immediately see the headings and everything is already clear from them.

[d4d]

I’m probably unusual because I often use history on my laptop, because... Sometimes you need to look for sites that you forgot to bookmark. And anyone who uses it knows that when you open it you immediately see the headings and everything is already clear from them.

Create a separate user account in the system for your mother, since she Sometimes he uses beech. And "problem" so that

immediately delete the browser history without looking.

will disappear by itself.

[artmen88]

I read the author, remembered myself... I am dating a woman, she is 49, looks great, slim and tall, almost like me. I come to visit with an overnight stay 1-2 times a week, he lives with his mother, my mother seems to be over 80, she has trouble hearing. plus he lives with his daughter, her daughter is in the 5th grade. And my lady is emotional when it comes to sex... What am I getting at with all this: I wonder if her daughter can hear us.
I read the author of the topic and immediately remembered myself.

[JustSasha]

Create a separate user account in the system for your mother, since she sometimes uses a book

Well, by the way, not a bad option)

[Woman]

Should I talk to my mom about this

under no circumstances! You will ruin her sex life!
After this conversation, she will think about you every time during sex, whether her son heard that "oh"..
She will stop getting orgasms or stop altogether meeting a new friend.

Maybe you are just jealous of her for this man?

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I became embarrassed by other neighbors because they can hear it

In general, what difference does it make what the neighbors think... They are just neighbors! These are strangers..

But, if this bothers you very much, then you need to live with your mother separately.
Go for additional earnings, rent another room/apartment or , as someone wrote above, make soundproofing.

[He will make it right]

You will ruin her sex life!

I completely agree!

[JustSasha]

no way! You will ruin her sex life!
After this conversation, she will think about you every time during sex, whether her son heard this "oh"..

Okay, but if she (they) are asked to be quiet by one of the neighbors, might she have the same thing? Or is it my request that is decisive here?

Go for extra income, rent another room/apartment

Immediately I thought about it, but the next couple of months, unfortunately, is not my option..

Maybe you are just jealous of her for this man?

I think not )

[Lust From Beyond]

If everything written is true, then you are worrying in vain. Being afraid that one of the neighbors will hear them is the same as being afraid that one of the neighbors will find out that she has a vagina between her legs (not see, but find out, don’t think about it). She is a woman of that age when she still wants and sex prolongs her youth, let’s say so. You yourself said that they are not very loud, but you can hear them. So, whoever wants to hear will hear. And if they start gossiping, then it’s just jealousy that they themselves don’t have a sex life

[March]

So take it and arrange a fake orgy with any girl behind the wall

Why is that even necessary? Arrange - so real. Relatives are not imitating anything, everything is natural?... So they will perceive it positively. And there - who knows - they might offer to join... ("hey, you, up there!!!)

[Andrey Petrov]

March, Didn’t you understand from his text that he is simply not capable of the real thing! Afraid of everything!

[March]

March , Didn’t you understand from his text that he is simply not capable of the real thing! Afraid of everything!

Well, let him make an effort on himself. "The party said... The Komsomol answered..."

[Woman]

Okay, but if one of the neighbors asks her (them) to be quieter, she might have the same thing? Or is it my request that is decisive here?

Thinking during sex about a neighbor who hears groans is one thing, you can become quieter, but the sex is unlikely to stop.
But thinking about your son is completely different..