What time do you need?

[Anonymous]

I will speak exactly my opinion that I came to. What time should it be?
I started thinking about this
At the age of 14-15, as soon as I started reading snotty novels (which I still like) The heroes are 18-25 years old, they fall in love. Actually, all the actions in the book indicate that they will be together. It comes down to sex, and then it turns out that the girls are virgins. And over the years, men have screwed half the population, and doubting their choice, they went to prostitutes.
I’m not talking about all the books, I’m talking about most of the books. According to the author, if a woman goes to the left, then she is cheap and corrupt, but a man can do anything, even if he doubts his choice. A man is a protector, a wall.
And women write this. I admit, I also wanted to write such a book. At the moment, my opinion has changed, why everything is forgiven for men but not for women. (Although I admit the plot is enchanting, she refused him and betrayed him, so he went to whores) The fact is that these books made me think , did I want everything right? I began to want to be the same immaculate beautiful swans who made princes fall in love with them. I got it into my head that until 25-30, no, no, I’ll wait for the prince according to fate. Many people, reading books and films of this type, drive home the same thing, although they are ready for it.
And one fine day I read psychology about relationships, where it was said that even if you have been with a man for 5 years, he can still leave, stop loving you. But the thing is that you get used to it, it’s difficult to get out of the habit.
So what do you want to have? Mental trauma, you’ve been waiting for so many years for him "the one and only"
Or some kind of affair, passion, understand that this is not forever for one evening and do whatever your heart desires, enjoy the process. It could be a long relationship of 6-10 years, maybe less, but you must be ready to let the person go and move on.
The first time should be when you are ready for it.
What does ready mean? ?, I have never seen cases where girls write “I’m a virgin, I want, I’m ready but I’m afraid it will hurt.” Many people confuse the word want and ready, these are different things. It’s not enough to just want.
Ready is when you are no longer afraid of any pain, you understand that it is not fatal. you are confident in the correctness of your decision. Your complexes disappear, you are sure that there will be no consequences that you do not expect. And most importantly, you are sure that you want this with him. My advice is, don’t spend your first time with someone you don’t like, just to have it. p.sh.