A failed swinger relationship

Unread post by **Margo** » 05 Nov 2022, 07:13

My husband and I met Lena and her husband Kolya in the spring of 2019. Even then, their marriage began to show noticeable cracks. It all started about a year before we met. Then Lena, yielding to her husband’s persuasion, decided to try sex with another man with his consent. Kolya, by the way, was her first and only man before. Lena didn’t need anyone else, but she decided to please her husband and agreed. And there was also curiosity, as she told me. At the alumni meeting, she gave in to the advances of a former classmate. I told my husband about everything. Then Kolya persuaded Lena to sleep with his friend in front of him. It was very embarrassing, but I liked it. Before us, they had been looking for an adequate swing couple of suitable age and external characteristics for a long time to no avail, and finally found us. Before me, Lena had nothing with the girls. I tried to show how fun it can be, but she didn’t really like it. Not hers. But she fucked my husband quite briskly, I even got a little jealous, but a little, I calmed down in the arms of her Kolya. When we met them, her husband was already showing certain signs of jealousy. It was unpleasant for him that he was gradually being pushed aside by other men. So, at least, it seemed to him. A couple of months after we met, my husband gave her an ultimatum: EVERYTHING. They had a fight, but then she gave in. But it didn’t really work out to become a faithful wife again. The men did not give her passage, but she wanted it herself. A year later they divorced. Lena has found herself another man who wants her to be the only one for him without any side trips. She agrees, she is already tired of adventures. She feels sorry for her ex-husband, but believes that he started the mess himself. Where is the logic here? Don’t look for her. This is the real world of swinging relationships.

Unread post by **Sweden125** » 05 Nov 2022, 07:29

I don’t understand my husband’s logic! go (cheat) for me if everything is mutual and in front of your husband\wife it’s not cheating, especially since I wanted it myself! Zhana did this for his sake, but that’s why it happened to her! it means I didn’t love you!!!!

Unread post by **Adiofan** » 05 Nov 2022, 07:43

I think this has little to do with their divorce. Everything there is much deeper and more complex.
And it can be considered a reason.

Unread post by **Sweden125** » 05 Nov 2022, 07:51

the main thing is to find the reason and find the culprit

Unread post by **Margo** » 05 Nov 2022, 07:55

Don’t know. I’m an honest girl. In my youth, I honestly said: I’M TIRED, or YOU’RE FINISHING EARLY, or I FOUND MORE BEAUTIFUL, or I FOUND RICHER... Strangely enough, it’s easier this way. He considers you a complete bitch, and himself white and fluffy, so it seems like there’s no point in talking to this bitch and insisting on something, looking for ways to reconciliation. It’s easier to break up like that.

Unread post by **Adiofan** » 05 Nov 2022, 08:00

Margo: ↑05 Nov 2022, 07:55 It’s easier to part ways like this.

I agree!
Respect for directness and honesty

Unread post by **Sweden125** » 05 Nov 2022, 08:02

I don’t know, my husband and I are fine, but we fight sometimes, but how can we live without it!!!! and there were different types of meetings!

Unread post by **Shamanakas** » 05 Nov 2022, 08:17

Margo: ↑05 Nov 2022, 07:13 Where is the logic here? Don’t look for her. This is the real world of swing relationships.

I think we won’t know the full version of this story, because you need to talk to your husband, and the world of cockroaches is in his head the husband himself may be very dark.
But for now it sounds like a common parable from the series "fear what you wish for".

Unread post by **Sweden125** » 05 Nov 2022, 08:29

Shamanaks: ↑05 Nov 2022, 08:17 But for now it sounds like a common parable from the series "fear what you wish for".
[o/quote]
correctly said! but desires and needs are different!

Unread post by **dva2dva** » 05 Nov 2022, 08:34

The reasons for the divorce are still unknown. But for me, this story on the part of the husband shows an attempt to legalize infidelity for himself. My wife stopped arranging it, let me send her to the left so I can calmly fuck on the side. Or not on the side, as if together, but on the other. But it turned out that everything was not so good, since “he began to feel that he was being pushed aside.” Maybe I’m wrong, but that’s how it seemed to me.

Unread post by **niqk** » 05 Nov 2022, 10:37

svetik125: ↑05 Nov 2022, 07:51 the main thing is to find the reason and find the culprit

No, not like that. People just want to take the blame off themselves! And who will be to blame then...

Unread post by **Sweden125** » 05 Nov 2022, 10:48

niqk: ↑05 Nov 2022, 10:37
svetik125: ↑05 Nov 2022, 07:51 the main thing is to find the reason and find the culprit
No, not like that. People just want to take the blame off themselves! And who will be to blame then...

and why is it to blame?

Unread post by **niqk** » 05 Nov 2022, 10:54

svetik125: ↑05 Nov 2022, 10:48 why is it my fault?

Go figure it out...

Unread post by **Shalun70** » 05 Nov 2022, 12:15

I also date in the couple + couple format, but not with my wife, but with a girl with whom we had sex from time to time... our relationship lasted three years... after that she gave me an ultimatum... either you don’t marry us or have sex with us it won’t... I didn’t fall for blackmail... and we remained good friends... But as for the topic... then if a person is even a little jealous of him, group sex is contraindicated...

Unread post by **ukrop1972** » 05 Nov 2022, 12:26

I think that’s true. We must trust each other

Unread post by **Shalun70** » 05 Nov 2022, 12:59

ukrop1972,
Yes, trust is what you need ... and in order to have trust, you need to communicate openly within the family...

Unread post by **Meloman Almaty** » 12 Dec 2022, 19:40

Margo: ↑05 Nov 2022, 07:13 Even then their marriage began to show noticeable cracks.

After reading this, it is already clear that this is their end. In swing, people who love each other come not to solve problems, but to broaden their horizons in bed!

A failed swinger relationship

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