Is it possible to love two?

[Serg_A]

This is not love, but a sense of ownership. Greed in its hypertrophied manifestation.
You either haven’t loved anyone yet or are simply not capable of this feeling.

Yes, we are all like that, greedy, evil and cruel. We just want to eat, fuck, and show off. Now you are just showing off:"I’m not like that! I’m better than everyone!" If you are not like that, then go out on a limb with this cheerful couple who are worried about the children, like. You will be third .
Do you want to say that you are capable of higher feelings? So why did you screw up your love then? As far as I remember, your boyfriend went to see his mistress, but why didn’t you do so that everything would be fine with him? Why did she crap on him in front of her, and then send him herself? You are just as selfish as everyone else. He’s also a hypocrite.

Don’t be so nervous. Calm down.
Who is my boyfriend? What mistress did he go to? You are confusing something.
You divide everything into plus and minus, into good and bad. But in life everything is much more complicated. This is firstly, and secondly, love and what you consider love are two different things. Apparently you are simply not capable of love, that’s why you don’t know what it is.

You’re wrong, I’ve always loved myself !
Well, I don’t know, my definition is also suitable for self-love.
Well then everyone is waiting for your definition...

[Touch-a-Love]

It’s possible, it happens, and it’s not normal - if we’re talking about long-lasting feelings

Why isn’t this normal? Polygamy, as a special case, has been legalized in many countries since time immemorial.

Do not substitute concepts. Polygamy is a model, a form of marriage, not a relationship. It may not necessarily imply a feeling of love or be based on a loving relationship. Whereas polyamory is a must. And without any marriage it can happen.

And people live. No one is complaining .

And you Are you really so sure that everyone, especially women, is satisfied with this model? For some reason I really doubt this. Forced marriage of girls against their will to men who already have wives occurs in the world. In many countries. Unfortunately.

[Serg_A]

Do not substitute concepts. Polygamy is a model, a form of marriage, not a relationship. It may not necessarily imply a feeling of love or be based on a loving relationship. Whereas polyamory is a must. And without any marriage it can happen.

You are right. I didn’t go into much detail about these concepts. But based on your words that polyamory is always based on mutual feelings, I don’t understand what’s going on here then do you think it’s abnormal?

[Serg_A]

Are you really so sure that everyone, especially women, is satisfied with this model? For some reason I really doubt this. Forced marriage of girls against their will to men who already have wives occurs in the world. In many countries. Unfortunately

I meant that if a society with such types of families survived normally for centuries, then such families are quite viable. As for who feels good there. Here I would clarify that it’s probably not good for anyone, and this is not because it is polyandry, polygamy, or monogamy. In many cases, the bride and groom do not even see or know each other before the wedding. There can be no talk of any feelings there.

[Lisa24]

I think no, it’s impossible. At least I didn’t have that. It’s probably possible to experience passion for several, but you can’t just love) love one)

[aryamari]

Is it possible to love two? What do you think?

two men are equally strong? I think no
to cool down for one, to light up for another yes, but equally hmm, no

[Touch-a-Love]

Polyamory is always based on mutual feelings, I don’t understand what is abnormal here in your opinion?

Normal is when two people have feelings for each other feelings. Or at least one to the other. And this kind of “spraying”, when you can’t understand which of the two in the corners of the triangle is really loved, and which one is just falling in love, then what’s good about that?

I meant that if a society with such types of family survived normally for centuries, then such families are quite viable.

Families may be viable, but are all the spouses in such, so to speak, families happy? ?

In many cases, the bride and groom do not even see or know each other before the wedding. There can be no talk of any feelings there.

Well, you yourself understand everything.

[SeRg !$!]

I’ll answer this question this way
Gray eyes - dawn,
Steamship siren,
Rain, separation, gray trail
For like a screw of running foam.

Black eyes - heat,
Sliding in the sea of ​​sleepy stars,
And at the side until the morning
Reflection of kisses.

Blue eyes - the moon,
Waltz white silence,
Daily wall
Inevitable farewell.

nBrown eyes - sand,
Autumn, wolf steppe, hunting,
Jump, all by a hair’s breadth
From falling and flying.

No, I am not a judge for them,
Just without absurd judgments
I am a debtor four times
Blue, grey, brown, black.

Like four sides
The same light,
I love - there is no fault in that -
All four of these colors.

Love and be loved in this one of the components of HAPPINESS

[Serg_A]

Normal is when two people have feelings for each other. Or at least one to the other. And this kind of “spraying”, when you can’t understand which of the two in the corners of the triangle is really loved, and which one is just in love, then what’s good about that?

You are right, but what about people who are not capable of love? Here, for example, they gently hinted to me that I am not capable... Well, or it’s not possible (perhaps for now) to meet someone whom I can truly love. Endorphins are needed by a person, so you have to find in different people what does not fit in one person.

[Wow]

Why not? A person can love, for example, both dumplings and cakes.
Probably no one will advise: give up one thing... or look for a dish that combines dumplings with cakes... Dumplings?

[Solomon]

Is it possible to love two? What do you think?

this is all fiction, a cover for whoredom.

[Touch-a-Love]

You are right, but what about people who are not capable of love? Here, for example, they gently hinted to me that I am not capable... Well, or it’s not possible (perhaps for now) to meet someone whom I can truly love. Endorphins are needed by a person, so you have to find in different people what is not combined in one person.

It’s difficult for me to answer this question (what to do with someone? No way...), and it’s even more difficult to agree with the definition that was given to you here. It is difficult to judge a person just by his posts on the forum, much less comment on the opinions of other participants.

[Billy Flow]

There may be sympathy for 2, but there is no love in the classical sense

[Hangover nonsense]

Why can’t you love two!? I still love my boyfriend who allowed me to experience all the emotions during sex, to know myself first and foremost and gave me so much sexual pleasure that I have never received with anyone else! Although, for obvious reasons, our meetings are rare (mainly on Saturdays at the dacha in the bathhouse, when they gathered under the guise of taking a steam bath...) But after that I already come home and that evening my wife, the mother of my children, whom I also love, says that I was more erotic and active during sex with her than on other days :

[A charmer]

I think not.
There may be a feeling of love for one, an affair for another, or simply interest for selfish reasons

[Vetal B]

I think it’s possible, I like to watch Alina’s sex

[m241nu]

I fell in love with a colleague, I think about her all the time, I’m married, she’s married, I’m 50, she’s 40. We’re very good friends, we’ve always been close during breaks and corporate events for two years now. But... it didn’t even come to hugs, I don’t dare, I feel that she’s not indifferent to me either. What to do I don’t know. I’m sure that even if I decide to confess her, I won’t leave the family and it may not even be that I love my wife, but rather a matter of traditions and habit. This torments me, even more than anything that I can’t find a reason to tell her that I’m in love.

[Martin]

Is it possible to love two? What do you think?

I think that it is not only possible, but even necessary...))) And the more partners, the better for the slut’s health.. .) And not to protect yourself while doing this...

[Watchman]

Is it beer and vodka?

[Flex]

It’s possible, already tested from personal experience

[Truwor]

What is love? I know that I love my wife, and I also really like both of our friends who also love my wife. And they are pleasant to her, she submits to the eldest as a father and cannot refuse him anything, and she perceives her younger friend as a part of me.

[Argus]

Marinka, You can! If they both give

[Hair shirt]

I fell in love with a colleague, I think about her all the time, I’m married, she’s married, I’m 50, she’s 40. We’re very good friends, we’ve always been close during breaks and corporate events for two years now. But... it didn’t even come to hugs, I don’t dare, I feel that she’s not indifferent to me either. What to do I don’t know. I’m sure that even if I decide to confess her, I won’t leave the family and it may not even be that I love my wife, but rather a matter of traditions and habit. This torments me, even more than anything that I can’t find a reason to tell her that I’m in love.

This is not love. You’re more like just good friends to each other. And the fact that you are of different sexes adds a few more advantages to your friendship with her.
Personally, I am very familiar with all this. For your part, you value this friendship, but you are afraid of ruining everything if you offer her sex as a friend. Or even just touch her ass.

Only God knows what’s going on in her head about you. But the fact that you are friends is also an indicator of something. And what exactly is not entirely clear. Maybe she also wants this to develop into something more, or maybe not. Or maybe you both understand that you are probably the same halves for each other. But you have your own families and you are tied together by property, children, and a shared refrigerator. But perhaps everything is just going according to plan for you and your spouse. And as soon as I tell you about divorce, this wife of yours will immediately turn into a bitch. Like - oh, fuck! Well hold on! And you are fucked!

Or maybe it’s easier than living with such a person who can instantly turn from a roommate into an irreconcilable enemy. But just to know what’s going on in your friend’s head about you. Any heterosexual friendship goes through some stages. And one of them is friendly sex. That is, sex is simply like the highest degree of trust. Like wanting to do something nice for your friend. As proof of your friendship and trust in each other.

Moreover, this friendly sex is based on the fact that both understand that it is possible that they will have sex again that same evening. But already with their spouses. And maybe not even with their spouses. That is, this friendly sex is not involved in any obligations. This is simply the highest degree of trust between friends of different sexes.
But the whole point is that this friendly sex can reveal some nuances. After all, you may not particularly like sex. Well, at least they weren’t disgusted with each other. And then everything seems to be smooth - well, we had sex, okay. Well, maybe someday this will happen.

But it may happen that you may like sex. And very much so. Well, let’s say for both of them this sex will be better than with their spouses. Let’s not pretend, it could be based on some physiological characteristics. Let’s say a friend had a very tight pussy, and her friend had a very impressive penis of the size that she so missed during her sex with her husband. And she kept thinking about it, what she was missing in sex. And then it becomes clear what exactly.

Well, in general, you should have sex with each other before taking any decisive actions. That is, if you want to change something, then your friendship must grow into something more. And in my opinion, there is only one way out - you just need to invite her somewhere and confess everything to her. Maybe she will even tell you the same thing in response. And if this is so, then it would be advisable to immediately have sex somewhere to consolidate these positions. And your relationship will develop into an office romance. And maybe you both have enough strength and determination to change something in your life.

[Hmmmm]

You can. Everything is possible!

[Hair shirt]

Is it possible to love two? What do you think?

Easily. Moreover, what is for a man and what is for a woman.
But there is one nuance - if you are married, your significant other should be aware of this.
That is, your spouse should not be against it.
Well, if it’s all secret from him, then it’s all disgusting and disgusting. To be encrypted, to screw up, to be afraid of getting burned all the time.
And then one fine day all this will become clear.
Well, in general, it’s disgusting and generally fucked up to live like this!!!?

Well, if your other half doesn’t mind, regardless of gender, then why not. A family friend, provided that no one hides anything from each other, this is very cool.
Moreover, this family friend may not necessarily be a man. It could also be a woman. Let’s say some friend of his wife. And their husband can love both of them. In every sense, both literally and figuratively. Well, everything is the same in relation to a family friend, a man.

A wife can love both men equally - both the family friend and the husband. And I don’t see anything reprehensible in this. Well, as for the relationship between men, I think they should just become friends in the end.
And in general - the Americans have this proverb - if you love me, love my dog.
That is, to my husband or the wife, depending on the gender of the family friend, will have to somehow meet halfway and take some steps on her part in order to become friends. And don’t give a fuck and don’t set difficult conditions and wishes.

That is, he is either against all this or not. If you are against it, then everything is clear - there is no and there is no trial.
Well, if you are not against it, then you must, for your part, somehow contribute to ensuring that there are no problems. That is, build a normal relationship with a family friend. Because they,
your wife and this family friend with your wife, have feelings. Almost love. And so do you and your wife. But you can hardly have love with a family friend. But there must be friendship for sure. Otherwise it will all end in a knife fight.

[Tolkala]

I will quote myself from another topic:

This is actually a complex philosophical question, I can love one woman (wife) as a person, and love another exactly as a woman.

When I met my future wife, I realized that I loved her as a friend, as a person, and the fact that she was a woman could simply allow us to create a married couple. There was an opportunity to marry a beautiful woman, but I reasoned that now she is beautiful, but in five years, for example, she will become fat, and my love for her will end. Or, having fallen in love with her beauty, I will probably not notice her quarrelsome and vile character, and when she shows it, I will also stop loving her (or I will suffer for a long time, but in the end I will still stop loving her).

The following happened: before our eyes, a girl from a dysfunctional family grew up. She was drawn to us, she sometimes lived with us, and generally wanted us to adopt her. As a schoolgirl, she simply fell in love with me, and told everyone that she would marry me (she even told my wife this). I’ll say right away that I didn’t take advantage of her feelings. But when she grew up, I suggested to my wife that she should live with us, under the pretext that we don’t have children (but she would like to have them) and that girl will have children. But I realized that I shouldn’t have said this, my wife took it very painfully, I had to leave this idea.

And I know a story where a married couple has sex for pleasure I met a 13-year-old girl. And then they agreed with her mother and took her into their care. They didn’t work out with children. Now she’s already 19 years old. The child is 1 year old. So the three of them live together.

[Hair shirt]

And I know a story where a married couple met a 13-year-old girl for sex. And then they agreed with her mother and took her into their care. They didn’t succeed with children. Now she is already 19 years old. The child is 1 year old .That’s how the three of them live.

Who stood on whom?
Why are there three of us when including the child there should be five of us - a married couple, that’s two. A thirteen-year-old girl, her mother and some one-year-old child.
By the way, where did he come from? Whose is he? Mothers or her daughters?

[Tolkala]

And I know a story where a married couple met a 13-year-old girl for sex. And then they agreed with her mother and took her into their care. They didn’t work out with children. Now she’s already 19 years old .The child is 1 year old. So the three of them live.

Who stood on whom?
Why are there three of us when including the child there should be five of us - a married couple, this two. A thirteen-year-old girl, her mother and some one-year-old child.
By the way, where did he come from? Whose is he? Mothers or her daughters?

sleep it out and read it sober, you’ll understand.

[m241nu]

The hair shirt,

This is not love. You’re more like just good friends to each other. And the fact that you are of different sexes adds a few more advantages to your friendship with her.
Personally, I am very familiar with all this. For your part, you value this friendship, but you are afraid of ruining everything if you offer her sex as a friend. Or even just touch her ass.

Thank you very much, your advice helped a lot, pushed me somehow. Recognition and
a serious conversation took place. The answer was that, unfortunately, she could not reciprocate, and that I had made it all up, but it seemed to me that the answer was not entirely sincere. Well, okay, my soul felt lighter and the conversation did not spoil the relationship. We decided to leave everything as it was before, and as if this conversation had never happened.

[Hair shirt]

Thank you very much, your advice helped a lot, pushed me somehow. Recognition and
a serious conversation took place. The answer was that, unfortunately, she could not reciprocate, and that I had made it all up, but it seemed to me that the answer was not entirely sincere.

Well, of course not sincere!
It was just necessary to start a conversation on this topic at the highest point of a trusting relationship. Well, like it’s your or her birthday. You invited her somewhere to celebrate this matter, maybe even booked a table. They gave her a gift, told her all sorts of nice things, and once again convinced her that you don’t need anything from her and that she’s just a fucking friend. Well, we would drink together to friendship, then to both of you.

And then they would tell her that you have one cherished desire, and you can now ask the Lord whether this desire of yours can be fulfilled. And ask with a coin. And she will have to fulfill this desire. And if the Eagle lands up, then she will have to fulfill her wish. And ask her - so what!? Let’s toss a coin!? And all this with a smile on her face and a positive attitude.
Any woman will be very intrigued and will immediately agree to toss a coin. Or after some time later.

There is an element of chance and intrigue in all this. After all, the Eagle may not fall out. And for the purity of the experiment, let her toss this coin herself.
And if it comes up heads, then say - well, the Lord God himself decided this way.
And then tell her that your cherished desire is to engage with her sex. That you really like her as a woman and that you constantly have a hard-on for her. And that often even this prevents you from communicating with her because you are constantly distracted by these thoughts.

And explain to her that this is all happening besides you, it’s just that apparently you both need this friendly sex to save Your friendships. And explain to her that this is not lust, and not some kind of deceit on your part. That this is simply apparently the highest degree of trust in each other. That is, you are so close to each other and trust each other so much that there are no barriers between you. And the fact that you are different sexes constantly bothered both of you, and you were both constantly distracted by it and thinking about it.
And that apparently sex in such a situation is simply necessary to get through this, to somehow calm down and continue to be friends and trust each other and further.

By the way, the fact that you talked to her and admitted something to her does not at all negate everything that was described above. Well, like, arrange a get-together with her and tell her about the coin and about your cherished desire.
Understand that a woman sometimes needs something more than just a desire to get laid in order to have sex with someone.
But in general, I was thinking...
All this, of course, is good, friendship between a man and a woman and all that.
But let’s turn the situation around - let’s say the woman herself invited a man friend to have sex. And the man took it and refused!
Wow! And the woman will chew on this matter and say - okay, let’s continue to be friends! Well, of course!

I think it will be terribly unpleasant for her. After all, she offered sex to a male friend with the best intentions. You can say at the peak of your trust in him.
And he refused. Like he doesn’t need it! Well, screw it!
But we must not forget that friends have equal rights in their friendship and the usual relationship between a man and a woman does not work here.

They are friends, they have equal rights regardless of who is there a man and who is a woman.
And the man will also be very unpleasant that he offered, but was refused.
They say you misunderstood me.

No! I just understood, and very correctly, that this friendship has boundaries. Before it you are friends, but after it you are no longer friends. Maybe even enemies.
Well, what kind of friendship is this?
This is not friendship, it’s just someone using someone for some reason under the guise of friendship.
Friendship is without five minutes Love. This is about the same thing - when you first think about a friend and then about yourself.
A friend offered you sex for some reason, well, he wanted it. And you first of all think not about yourself but about him, well, how can you refuse him right now!? No way!
If I refuse him right now, it will be bad for him.

You wrote above that it seemed to you that she did not answer you sincerely. And apparently so it was. And if she were a friend, she would tell you everything honestly, and would not lie.
That she herself constantly thinks about it, that sometimes she herself wants it. But she doesn’t want to lie to her husband. That she is afraid that this could destroy both your friendship and your families.
That she actually likes you but she doesn’t know what to do with all this.
And that it might actually be your friend who sleeps with you with a friend and maybe nothing terrible will happen. It will just be such friendly sex and it will simply relieve this tension that has arisen in your friendship. And maybe there’s nothing wrong with that.

But instead of that, as I understand it, she simply said that you had invented something for yourself. Well, screw it!
I think that this is not friendship at all between you. This is just fucked up. She needed you for some reason.
Maybe she is somehow using you at work. Are you the boss? Does something depend on you at work? Maybe in this way, through you, she somehow strengthens her position in the office?

Well, in general, one way or another, good friends don’t behave like that. And I repeat once again - if this is friendship, then gender does not matter and there is no discount for the fact that she is a woman. You are both equal in friendship. And there can be no discount for the fact that she is a woman.

[Bani]

I don’t think so. You can only love one! Unless of course you are loving...

[Eustace]

get some sleep and read it sober, you’ll understand.

[Go ahead]

For me, it’s at least ten at a time. And you don’t even have to sleep with everyone. Being married and loving my husband, I fell in love with other girls and boys more than once. Love for every person is different. No matter what anyone says about whoredom, I don’t give a damn, I was in love, but I didn’t enter into relationships on the side. But she loved some people deeply and sincerely, so she went through thick and thin to help.
It’s just that falling in love becomes more difficult over the years; from numerous experiences you already know that a person can turn out to be that kind of brute, or become one with age ) so now, well, fuck him - falling in love, especially with one))

[Wool]

It’s just that falling in love becomes more difficult over the years; from numerous experiences you already know that a person can turn out to be that brute, or become one with age) so now - God forbid you fall in love))

So that’s good, an older person won’t be any worse

[Go ahead]

that’s good, an older person won’t be any worse

Well, over time... Everyone can get unexpected cockroaches, even at 30, at least at 70 years old))

[SeRg !$!]

We all love more than one, but in your own way and even without sexual overtones, you love your parents and your spouse and your children... and you love your lovers too... so you can and should, give love and accept love !

And most importantly, like this! -

I’ll drown in your eyes - Is it possible?
After all, drowning in your eyes is happiness!
I’ll come up and say - Hello!
I I love you very much - Is it difficult?
No, it’s not difficult, but it’s difficult.
It’s very difficult to love - Do you believe?
I’ll approach a steep cliff
I’ll fall - You’ll have time to catch it ?
Well, if I leave, will you write?
Only it’s hard for me without you!
I want to be with you—Do you hear?
Not for a minute, not for a month, but for a long time
A very long time, all my life - Do you understand?
That means together always - Do you want?
I’m afraid of the answer - You know?
You answer me, but only with your eyes.
Will you answer me with your eyes - Do you love?
If yes, then I promise you
That you will be the happiest.

[Rabbit]

Is it possible to love two? What do you think?

Quite. I was convinced from personal experience: you can love both your wife and your mistress