Is it possible to love two?

[The passage]

Is it possible to love two? How do you think?

[Let’s]

Personally, I didn’t have this. But my cousin did. Moreover, she was worried about both of them. True, they didn’t know about each other, of course it all didn’t end very well for her, one found out about the other and left her. She was really worried. Over time, we ran away with the second one

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And here is another sister, also a cousin. Honestly, I don’t know about love, but I lived with two men. Initially there was a husband, a son, then a second one appeared, who was always with them... And when I was about 13, (this was the 90s) I didn’t understand then... Damn, it’s clear that she’s sleeping with the second one, really? your husband can’t see? It was always the three of them. Everywhere. And when I grew up, I then realized that everyone knew about everything and everyone was happy with it. They both loved her. I don’t know about her love. But the outcome of the story is also sad on the one hand. The husband loved her and they had a son.. But her lover also loved her and he still has no family.. No family, no children, he remained faithful to her, but there was no continuation of the family. Now they are over 50

[The passage]

Personally, I didn’t have this. But my cousin did. Moreover, she was worried about both of them. True, they didn’t know about each other, of course it all didn’t end very well for her, one found out about the other and left her. She was really worried. Over time, the second one ran away

Sad story, but what happened then?

[Let’s]

Personally, I didn’t experience this. But my cousin did. Moreover, she was worried about both of them. True, they didn’t know about each other, of course it all didn’t end very well for her, one found out about the other and left her. She was really worried. Over time, the second one ran away

Sad story, but what happened then?

Then she got married, though 5 years after these two. She gave birth to a daughter. Now my daughter is already 16 years old, I don’t know if she had love anymore. We communicated well then, but now we talk from time to time during the holidays.

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

You can love children at the same time, but it still turns out to love them differently, you can love parents, but two men at the same time .. I didn’t have that.

[Let’s]

You can love children at the same time, but it still turns out to love them differently, you can love parents, but you can love two men at the same time .. I didn’t have this.

Thank God I didn’t either. But when feelings come over you, it’s very cool and very hard. The first time I fell deeply in love when I was 17.. The relationship lasted 4 months, when I left, my one-sided love for her lasted 5 years. The second time I also fell in love at 40.. And yes, being married.. The relationship lasted for six months, but I couldn’t not think about her at least once a day for about 2.5 years.. Although has it completely passed? Question.

[Anastasia 2005]

I’m now in love with both of them and I don’t know what to do

[Pierro]

I’m now in love with both of them and I don’t know what to do

I went to your link..
and I have a strong feeling that you are a young man pimply, pretending to be someone’s mother..

why is there so much bullshit on this resource?
what motivates you, unfortunate creature?

[Anastasia 2005]

I followed your link..
and a strong feeling that you are a pimply young man pretending to be someone’s mother.

your opinion

[Pierro]

your opinion

of course, mine)
women.. they are women.. they think differently..

[Let’s]

I’m now in love with both of them and I don’t know what to do

I went to your link..
and a persistent feeling , that you are a pimply young man pretending to be someone’s mother..

why are there so many bullshit on this resource?
what motivates you, unfortunate creature?

The link was created automatically based on a certain phrase that was mentioned in topics on this forum)) the girl has nothing to do with that topic)) the girl is 4 months old on the forum, and that topic is 2 years old. .

[Ogest]

I didn’t have that. It is hardly possible to have such feelings for two women at once.

[RazVratnik]

I think that you cannot experience the same feeling of love for two women)

[Pierro]

d3nan, thank you, comrade! I didn’t read it carefully, I looked, again mother and son.. some kind of horror..)

[Truwor]

Love, if it is real, then it is endless, there is enough of it for everyone. For everyone you truly love.

[Vert]

If there are monogamous people, then there are also polygamous people. But this is strange to say the least. It depends on why and how exactly to love .

[Sweden125]

I love both my husband and son! A husband is like a husband, a son is like a son!

[evgeny25]

If you have enough strength, then love two)

[etc]

It is possible, under one condition: two people of the same sex from the triangle must also love each other.
I meant a serious relationship.

[Serg_A]

Is it possible to love two? What do you think?

I understand that most people consider the ability to love only one person as a "plus function", in fact it is “minus function”, that is, this is not an advantage, but a disadvantage. Your love is only enough for one person; you are not capable of loving anyone else. This applies to everything, here ◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊ , states:

You can love children at the same time

In fact, she is being disingenuous , nobody loves all their childreneveryone always loves one, usually the youngest child, although sometimes the eldest. But still one. But it happens (infrequently) that (sexually) men and women can love more than one person...

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

Is it possible to love two? What do you think?

I understand that most people consider the ability to love only one person as a "plus function", in fact it is “minus function”, that is, this is not an advantage, but a disadvantage. Your love is only enough for one person; you are not capable of loving anyone else. This applies to everything, here ◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊ , states:

You can love children at the same time

In fact, she is being disingenuous , nobody loves all their childreneveryone always loves one, usually the youngest child, although sometimes the eldest. But still one. But it happens (infrequently) that (sexually) men and women can love more than one person...

there is no need to judge by yourself, mothers love their children at the same time.
Maternal love is selfless when you love not for something, but simply for the fact of existence. If a mother loves one child because he is small and cute, but does not love the second because he is already big, then this is not love - this is rationality.

[puma]

I had something like this in my youth. I was 23, my boyfriend and I had been together for 5 years, my first love. Everything was fine, but the passion died down, of course.

And then I got stuck on someone else, and he got stuck on me. Knew I was busy. We spent a lot of time together and had great sex. Fell in love. But that first one was still dear to me.

After a few months, everything was revealed. And the year of my emotional hell began. Convergence/parting, now with one, now with the other. Everyone was asked to make a choice. But I couldn’t break it off on either side, I had feelings for both. It was very difficult, although from the outside I was such a fidgety person who can handle two people at once.

As a result, the first one started trying to date other girls, and the second one took me to introduce me to my parents and hint at the registry office. And then I realized that I didn’t see myself with him, and what I had closed my eyes to in the heat of passion began to irritate. We parted very badly, we still don’t say hello.

And a few months later we started talking to our first love on his initiative, at first in a friendly way. It took a long and difficult time to restore the relationship. Now we have a family, we have been together for 18 years. That story now seems like kindergarten, but then everything was very dramatic for all participants.

[Serg_A]

Is it possible to love two? What do you think?

I understand that most people consider the ability to love only one person as a "plus function", in fact it is “minus function”, that is, this is not an advantage, but a disadvantage. Your love is only enough for one person; you are not capable of loving anyone else. This applies to everything, here ◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊ , states:

You can love children at the same time

In fact, she is being disingenuous , nobody loves all their childreneveryone always loves one, usually the youngest child, although sometimes the eldest. But still one. But it happens (infrequently) that (sexually) men and women can love more than one person...

there is no need to judge by yourself, mothers love their children at the same time. n

Well, maybe you are a unique woman. If this is true, then I will tell you the same thing: do not judge by yourself. I just haven’t seen anything like what you’re talking about. After my mother told me several times that she and her father loved my younger brother more than me, I began to observe other families, and the same picture appeared there.

[◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊]

I understand that most people consider the ability to love only one person as a "plus function" ", in fact, this is a "minus function", that is, it is not an advantage, but a disadvantage. Your love is only enough for one person; you are not capable of loving anyone else. This applies to everything, here ◊_NeBo[_Na_]LaDoNi_◊ , states: In fact, she is disingenuous, nobody loves all their childreneveryone always loves one, usually the youngest child, although sometimes the eldest. But still one. But it happens (infrequently) that (sexually) men and women can love more than one person...

there is no need to judge by yourself, mothers love their children at the same time. n

Well, maybe you are a unique woman. If this is true, then I will tell you the same thing: do not judge by yourself. I just haven’t seen anything like what you’re talking about. After my mother told me several times that she and her father loved my younger brother more than me, I began to observe other families, and the same picture appeared there.

I sympathize with you, it’s hard when your own parents reject you. But not all parents are like that, what you observed in other families could be your transference of those feelings, but in reality everything is different there.
You also need to be able to love, unfortunately, not all adults know how to do this .

[SeRg !$!]

define the concept of love and you will answer this question yourself

[Epidemic]

It didn’t work out for me when it comes to carnal love.

[Serg_A]

I’ll quote myself from another topic:

This is actually a complex philosophical question, I can love one woman (wife) as a person, and love another exactly as a woman.

When I met my future wife, I realized that I love her as a friend, as a person, and the fact that she is a woman can simply allow us to create a married couple. There was an opportunity to marry a beautiful woman, but I reasoned that now she is beautiful, but in five years, for example, she will become fat, and my love for her will end. Or, having fallen in love with her beauty, I will probably not notice her quarrelsome and vile character, and when she shows it, I will also stop loving her (or I will suffer for a long time, but in the end I will still stop loving her).

[Serg_A]

I will quote myself from another topic:

This is actually a complex philosophical question, I can love one woman (wife) as a person, and love another exactly as a woman.

When I met my future wife, I realized that I loved her as a friend, as a person, and the fact that she was a woman could simply allow us to create a married couple. There was an opportunity to marry a beautiful woman, but I reasoned that now she is beautiful, but in five years, for example, she will become fat, and my love for her will end. Or, having fallen in love with her beauty, I will probably not notice her quarrelsome and vile character, and when she shows it, I will also stop loving her (or I will suffer for a long time, but in the end I will still stop loving her).

The following happened: before our eyes, a girl from a dysfunctional family grew up. She was drawn to us, she sometimes lived with us, and generally wanted us to adopt her. As a schoolgirl, she simply fell in love with me, and told everyone that she would marry me (she even told my wife this). I’ll say right away that I didn’t take advantage of her feelings. But when she grew up, I suggested to my wife that she should live with us, under the pretext that we don’t have children (but she would like to have them) and that girl will have children. But I realized that I shouldn’t have said this, my wife took it very painfully, and I had to abandon this idea.

[The passage]

the ability to love only one person, as a "plus function", in fact it is a "minus function",

What is love in your understanding? Describe this feeling in your own words.

[Serg_A]

Don’t judge by yourself, children mothers love theirs at the same time.

Well, maybe you are a unique woman. If this is true, then I will tell you the same thing: do not judge by yourself. I just haven’t seen anything like what you’re talking about. After my mother told me several times that she and her father loved my younger brother more than me, I began to observe other families, and the same picture appeared there.

I sympathize with you, it’s hard when your own parents reject you. But not all parents are like that, what you observed in other families could be your transference of those feelings, but in reality everything is different there.
You also need to be able to love, unfortunately, not all adults know how to do this .

I am an explorer by nature, and by that time I myself began to understand that something was wrong, so I took my parents’ words philosophically. I was more surprised that my parents decided for some reason that I was jealous, which means they didn’t understand me at all. I perceived my brother as a destroyer, he broke and destroyed everything around him, and constantly interfered with me in everything. I watched as my parents indulged him in everything, and then I told them that when he grows up, they will cry with him. Even my grandfather told me that he loves him more than me. And of all of them, in fact, it was he, my younger brother, who truly loved me, but his love was also destructive...

[Serg_A]

the ability to love only one person, as a "plus function", in fact it is a "minus function",

n What is love in your understanding? Describe this feeling in your own words.

This is when you realize that you can’t live without this person, and that without him you might go crazy.

[rasaroam]

Is it possible to love two? What do you think?

It is possible, of course. And even three.
But IN DIFFERENT WAYS.

[Serg_A]

what you observed in other families could be your transference of those feelings, but in reality everything is different there

I didn’t transfer any of my feelings and sensations anywhere. I observed squabbles and scandals over younger children. My brother is not the worst option yet. He turned out to be the luckiest one.

[The passage]

the ability to love only one person, like the "plus function", in fact it is the "minus function",

What is love in your understanding? Describe this feeling in your own words.

This is when you realize that you can’t live without this person, and that without him you might go crazy.

Have you written everything or is this just the beginning? Your description just sounds like a selfish feeling.
You only wrote about yourself, but you have no desire to make another person happy? The object of your love is the most, the most, and you want everything to be fine with him. Isn’t this love?
Well, when your love is just your feeling, at the level that you can’t live without this person, then of course there can be as much love as you want.

[Serg_A]

Is it possible to love two? What do you think?

You can love two people completely, for example, when you love one more as a woman, and the other as a person. But this situation can also give rise to conflict. Therefore, I avoid love in every possible way.

[Keep the change for yourself]

Is it possible to love two? What do you think?

In adolescence and a little older - I think yes. There is a state of falling in love and searching for the best, everything is new, you can fall for many.

Now at 30+, when you already become very pragmatic and thinking ahead, then I don’t think so anymore.
nAt the very least, there certainly cannot be sincere, selfless love for two people.
IMHO

[Touch-a-Love]

So this is essentially another topic about polyamory and the question of whether it really exists. My opinion is the same. It’s possible, it happens, and it’s not normal - if we’re talking about long-lasting feelings. But it can happen to many that you are in a love relationship for quite a long time, but suddenly you are overcome by an overwhelming feeling of falling in love with another person. This can cause great confusion in your thoughts, but this state quickly passes. And it’s good, otherwise you can easily do something stupid.

[Serg_A]

What is love in your understanding? Describe this feeling in your own words.

This is when you realize that you can’t live without this person, and that without him you might go crazy.

Have you written everything or is this just the beginning? Your description just sounds like a selfish feeling.
You only wrote about yourself, but you have no desire to make another person happy? The object of your love is the most, the most, and you want everything to be fine with him. Isn’t this love?
Well, when your love is just your feeling, at the level that you can’t live without this person, then of course there can be as much love as you want.

Marinka, here Just don’t tell me about altruism here. Damn, after such words there is still a priest with icons, but not enough with a censer! Yes, I love her (my wife) like an egoist, for myself. If I didn’t love, I wouldn’t save, I wouldn’t tear my veins from tension! I would just let him die twice already. Of course, you are sure that with this option, I make people around me unhappy, so if you want to ask her why she still lives with me, I do not force anyone to do this.

[Keep the change for yourself]

Touch-a-Love, I support 95%, very precisely formulated.

[The passage]

This is when you realize that you can’t live without this person, and that without him you might go crazy.

Have you written everything or is this just the beginning? Your description just sounds like a selfish feeling.
You only wrote about yourself, but you have no desire to make another person happy? The object of your love is the most, the most, and you want everything to be fine with him. Isn’t this love?
Well, when your love is just your feeling, at the level that you can’t live without this person, then of course there can be as much love as you want.

Marinka, here Just don’t tell me about altruism here. Damn, after such words there is still a priest with icons, but not enough with a censer! Yes, I love her, like an egoist, for myself. If I didn’t love, I wouldn’t save, I wouldn’t tear my veins from tension! I would just let him die twice already. Of course, you are sure that with this option, I make people around me unhappy, so if you want, I’ll ask her why she still lives with me, I don’t force anyone to do this.

This is not love, but a sense of ownership. Greed in its hypertrophied manifestation.
You either haven’t loved anyone yet or are simply not capable of this feeling.

[Touch-a-Love]

Touch-a-Love, I support it 95%, very precisely formulated.

I became very curious, what about those 5% where I was wrong ?

[rasaroam]

define the concept of love and you will answer this question yourself

Love is a feeling of deep sincere affection .

[Keep the change for yourself]

Touch-a-Love, I support 95%, very accurately formulated.

It has become very I’m curious, what about the 5% where I was wrong?

I wasn’t so much wrong as I don’t agree with the word polyamory - for me it’s one of the varieties of whoreness, i.e. something on the physical, and not on the mental level, but love and falling in love are still from the category of feelings, and not something carnal.

Or I don’t quite understand the meaning of this word.

[Touch-a-Love]

Markul, polyamory is not promiscuity. It can even imply a platonic relationship. At least between two of the participants in the love triangle.

[Keep the change for yourself]

Markul, polyamory is not promiscuity. It can even imply a platonic relationship. At least between two of the participants in the love triangle.

I’m from the village, and here I am again learning new words

[Serg_A]

Have you written everything or is this just the beginning? Your description just sounds like a selfish feeling.
You only wrote about yourself, but you have no desire to make another person happy? The object of your love is the most, the most, and you want everything to be fine with him. Isn’t this love?
Well, when your love is just your feeling, at the level that you can’t live without this person, then of course there can be as much love as you want.

Marinka, here Just don’t tell me about altruism here. Damn, after such words there is still a priest with icons, but not enough with a censer! Yes, I love her, like an egoist, for myself. If I didn’t love, I wouldn’t save, I wouldn’t tear my veins from tension! I would just let him die twice already. Of course, you are sure that with this option, I make people around me unhappy, so if you want, I’ll ask her why she still lives with me, I don’t force anyone to do this.

This is not love, but a sense of ownership. Greed in its hypertrophied manifestation.
You either haven’t loved anyone yet or are simply not capable of this feeling.

Yes, we are all like that, greedy, evil and cruel. We just want to eat, fuck, and show off. Now you are just showing off:"I’m not like that! I’m better than everyone!" If you are not like that, then go out on a limb with this cheerful couple who are worried about the children, like. You will be third .
Do you want to say that you are capable of higher feelings? So why did you screw up your love then? As far as I remember, your boyfriend went to see his mistress, but why didn’t you do so that everything would be fine with him? Why did she crap on him in front of her, and then send him herself? You are just as selfish as everyone else. He’s also a hypocrite.

[The passage]

Marinka , just don’t tell me about altruism here. Damn, after such words there is still a priest with icons, but not enough with a censer! Yes, I love her, like an egoist, for myself. If I didn’t love, I wouldn’t save, I wouldn’t tear my veins from tension! I would just let him die twice already. Of course, you are sure that with this option, I make people around me unhappy, so if you want, I’ll ask her why she still lives with me, I don’t force anyone to do this.

This is not love, but a sense of ownership. Greed in its hypertrophied manifestation.
You either haven’t loved anyone yet or are simply not capable of this feeling.

Yes, we are all like that, greedy, evil and cruel. We just want to eat, fuck, and show off. Now you are just showing off:"I’m not like that! I’m better than everyone!" If you are not like that, then go out on a limb with this cheerful couple who are worried about the children, like. You will be third .
Do you want to say that you are capable of higher feelings? So why did you screw up your love then? As far as I remember, your boyfriend went to see his mistress, but why didn’t you do so that everything would be fine with him? Why did she crap on him in front of her, and then send him herself? You are just as selfish as everyone else. He’s also a hypocrite.

Don’t be so nervous. Calm down.
Who is my boyfriend? What mistress did he go to? You are confusing something.
You divide everything into plus and minus, into good and bad. But in life everything is much more complicated. This is firstly, and secondly, love and what you consider love are two different things. Apparently you are simply not capable of love, that’s why you don’t know what it is.

[SeRg !$!]

Rasrom,
well, really, then You can’t be deeply attached to several?)

[rasaroam]

Rasrom ,
Well, isn’t it then impossible to be deeply attached to several?)

So I wrote above that, Of course you can

[Serg_A]

It’s possible, it happens, and it’s not normal - if we’re talking about long-lasting feelings

Well, why? This not normal? Polygamy, as a special case, has been legalized in many countries for centuries. And people live. No one is complaining .