Fear of sex with a girl, she will sue for rape

Unread post by **romance book** » 11 Jan 2023, 04:06

It was when I was young that I met a girl on the Internet, we met in real life a couple of times, we walked in the park, she was a lawyer by training (she was about 24 years old and I was about the same). Another day he invited her to a nightclub, she agreed, he picked her up at her house in a taxi, they danced in the club. After the club I had to go home, I called a taxi, she was apparently a little worried and told me this phrase in all seriousness: "If you rape me, I’ll take you to court."
I didn’t attach much importance to the words, because I had no plans to have sex with her, but the aftertaste remained. I don’t even understand why she got the idea that someone was going to rape her. I didn’t seem to raise the topic of sex at all, and I didn’t touch her or caress her (maybe it bothered her that I didn’t touch her at all and looked like a maniac?). We communicated more as if in a friendly manner, getting to know each other. Maybe many Lawyers are like this. It’s probably dangerous to do business with them.
Yes, and even if you’re not a lawyer, there’s still a risk that women can make up in their heads that they were raped and sue. Because of this, there is a slight fear of starting to take the initiative first, hugging, intimacy, and especially sex.
Have you ever had something similar?

11 Jan 2023, 04:14

Probably something happened in childhood and I’m afraid of it happening again.

Unread post by **The passage** » 11 Jan 2023, 05:39

romanbon: 11 Jan 2023, 04:06 When I was young, I met a girl on the Internet, we met in real life a couple of times, we walked in the park, she was a lawyer by training (she was about 24 years old and I was about the same). Another day he invited her to a nightclub, she agreed, he picked her up at her house in a taxi, they danced in the club. After the club I had to go home, I called a taxi, she was apparently a little worried and told me this phrase in all seriousness: "If you rape me, I’ll take you to court."
I didn’t attach much importance to the words, because I had no plans to have sex with her, but the aftertaste remained. I don’t even understand why she got the idea that someone was going to rape her. I didn’t seem to raise the topic of sex at all, and I didn’t touch her or caress her (maybe it bothered her that I didn’t touch her at all and looked like a maniac?). We communicated more as if in a friendly manner, getting to know each other. Maybe many Lawyers are like this. It’s probably dangerous to do business with them.
Yes, and even if you’re not a lawyer, there’s still a risk that women can make up in their heads that they were raped and sue. Because of this, there is a slight fear of starting to take the initiative first, hugs, intimacy and especially sex.
Have you ever had something similar?

Has your anxiety turned into a phobia and that’s why you don’t have sex, or is everything normal with sex and you just remembered that incident?

Unread post by **romance book** » 11 Jan 2023, 06:17

Marinka: 11 Jan 2023, 05:39 or is everything normal with sex and you just remembered that incident?

I don’t think that that incident had any strong influence on me. Maybe it had a little impact. And I am indecisive, insecure and anxious - this was always the case even before that incident. I prefer to watch porn and jerk off, I’m already used to it. Real sex doesn’t bring pleasure, it happens rarely, it’s like sports, and I don’t like sports, and my penis is insensitive, if I insert it into the vagina here and there, I move it and don’t really feel anything. And the second point is that it’s better for me when there is complete trust and I know the girl well, but there is no such girl. and unfamiliar people psychologically strain me, and this does not allow me to relax in sex.

Unread post by **Dictator** » 11 Jan 2023, 10:55

romanbon: 11 Jan 2023, 04:06 Maybe many Lawyers are like this. It’s probably dangerous to do business with them.

My wife is a lawyer by training - she never frightened me with anything like that)))

romanbon: 11 Jan 2023, 04:06 Yes, and even if you are not a lawyer, there is still a risk that women can make up in their heads that they were raped and sue.

But this happens - regardless of a woman’s education.

Unread post by **niqk** » 11 Jan 2023, 11:18

Everything happens in life. And there are rapes, and there are unfounded accusations... You need to look at who you communicate with and how...

Unread post by **N@TyPaL** » 11 Jan 2023, 11:31

I would immediately send such manipulators. The same goes for those who manipulate sex. Of course, you need to trust people, but if they fuck you a couple of times, you will involuntarily turn on the recorder before intercourse in order to somehow record that consent was given

Screenshots of correspondence can be made for safety net so that the dynamics of the development of the relationship can be seen , but this can also be used in the opposite direction, if the girl gets knocked up and then tries to take it on her belly. Here, other than learning to understand at least a little about people, there is nothing you can recommend, because living in paranoia is also fraught, as is trusting everyone indiscriminately