How to overcome the fear of sex and intimacy? Tell me, who has experience in sex!

Unread post by **Alexey_klinkov** » 18 Jul 2023, 07:12

I don’t know if I’m the only one who has such fear and embarrassment about intimacy and sex in general? I go in for sports, I take care of myself, I have a pumped up athletic body, I love sexuality and I can be quite liberated myself if necessary.
I realized that I seem to be afraid or embarrassed of any sexual intimacy, and when I watch the video for adults, I like it and I understand that sexual intercourse looks like this and it is a natural process. Perhaps I need my first sex experience, and then everything will fall into place.
So in adult videos it’s all so easy, but I imagined myself in this place, that I needed to be naked one on one with a girl, and then somehow interact. It’s hard for me to imagine how embarrassed I would be if a girl took my dick with her mouth and, frankly, sucked it,
and then I have to insert my dick into her, and, frankly speaking, fuck her, and now I’m back to the beginning, All this is so simple in adult videos, but in reality I don’t even know if I can implement it?

Unread post by **ilovebiboys** » 18 Jul 2023, 07:20

I take it you’re a virgin? rather, accept that the first damn will be lumpy, most likely you will cum as soon as you enter, this is normal) for 90% of people the first experience does not live up to expectations, and there is nothing wrong with that: at first you will load, then repeat a couple more times and forget about it what it was like the first time. And many years later you will remember it with humor)) The main thing is not to get hung up and not get into complexes. To avoid this, do not set high expectations for yourself before the first time.

Unread post by **Alexey_klinkov** » 18 Jul 2023, 07:32

For now, yes, but I have a friend with whom there may be a relationship, and I understand, no matter what we do, there are always mistakes the first time, and then we learn from the mistakes, that’s why I’m trying to at least get oral experience, so as not to be disappointed.
It would be useful for me, if you have experience, to find out about the sensations that they will have from a blowjob, and so to speak from the most important thing, when I have already entered the girl, or when she sat on top of my penis .
also about precautions, I’ve heard a lot about penis injuries, but when it’s standing it can’t bend much, this also needs to be taken into account

Unread post by **ilovebiboys** » 18 Jul 2023, 07:38

Alexey_klinkov, I can only share women’s experience, since I’m a girl myself) the situation was about the same as yours, by the way

Unread post by **Admin** » 18 Jul 2023, 07:39

Nobody here has any experience. The forum is like that.

Unread post by **RazVratnik** » 18 Jul 2023, 07:44

Alexey_klinkov: ↑18 Jul 2023, 07:32 It would be useful for me, if you have experience, to find out about the sensations that they will have from a blowjob, and so to speak, from the most important thing, when I have already entered the girl, or when she sat on top of my penis.

Everyone has a different level of sensation, so no one here will tell you how it will be for you.
The main thing is don’t worry, let everything go instinctively, don’t rush, do as you feel.
Well, selfishness aside, you need to not be the only one to finish

Unread post by **xp911** » 18 Jul 2023, 08:24

I had a similar problem in my youth. only in a slightly different way: because of excitement, I fell and did not have normal sex. Over time, he calmed down and became normal.

Unread post by **evgeny25** » 18 Jul 2023, 08:50

do everything calmly, don’t think about what will happen next, everyone made mistakes at first

Unread post by **Admin** » 18 Jul 2023, 08:53

Do. Even if the first time is a bummer. You can’t go anywhere without this.

Unread post by **vox** » 22 Jul 2023, 13:15

Alexey_klinkov, fear may be largely due to that in the presentation of sex intermediate steps are skipped. Between the moment they saw the girl and the moment she took the penis in her mouth, there are moments of communication, flirting, light touches, closer touches, kisses, hugs, caressing her breasts. Events are increasing, no matter at what speed, it is important to be in contact with her, feedback comes from her (not necessarily in words, in general you can see her mood and reaction to your steps). Taking each next step is easier and more natural than jumping from the first step to the last in your mind.
If a girl is pleasant, then all these steps are pleasant with her, so there is no reason to rush, you can enjoy the interaction that is comfortable and do little one step forward. If something is wrong and annoying, you can always roll back a little and try again after a while

Unread post by **Center** » 18 Apr 2024, 04:24

Everything is the same for me. With age, autism begins to appear and you begin to avoid the opposite sex. I can’t imagine how to overcome “tetanus.”

How to overcome the fear of sex and intimacy? Tell me, who has experience in sex!

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