Libido has dropped to zero

Unread post by **zxcursed** » 26 Mar 2023, 08:21

Hello everybody. Male, 30 years old.
Libido has decreased.
The essence: I fantasize about a specific girl, I see a girl, physical intimacy appears (we sit next to each other), physical contact, kissing, petting - excitement, sensuality and the riser disappears. Skin sensitivity decreases.
I first noticed the problem at the age of 14. Then at one moment the opportunity arose to contact a girl about my age, I touched her legs, which I lusted after - my libido immediately dropped, there was only bewilderment, like, that’s all? Where is the excitement that was there?
The second time the problem surfaced was when I decided to lose my virginity with a prostitute (fairy). At the age of 28...
Before going to see her, I felt incredible excitement. I came to her, entered the apartment, and my libido began to decline. The process (touching) began - libido dropped to zero, skin sensitivity decreased to a minimum, I did not feel pleasure from the process. The erection was 20-30%, after an hour I somehow came without feeling anything. Libido recovered within a week.
Then, a year later, there was a relationship (last year). Three relationships, one for each month of summer. Libido dropped so much and so consistently that it did not recover even when physical intimacy stopped. That is, I did not feel pleasure and excitement from watching porn. And so I lived for about a year with small micro improvements without libido.
The situation improved a little after going to a psychologist (I still go). Now I have libido when I start watching porn. Morning boners are rare, but they do happen. But with fantasies with any girl, with physical intimacy (there are approximately 20 meters between us), the libido drops to zero.
But the feeling of fear has also disappeared when I am next to a girl with whom, for example, I could potentially to get acquainted (I used to be very afraid).
I lost empathy and the ability to fall in love. When I kiss, I don’t feel anything except that I realize how unpleasant it turns out to be to move your lips against someone else’s lips, to feel the taste of someone else’s saliva; blowjob (without condom) is not felt due to decreased skin sensitivity.
Your thoughts?

Unread post by **Anastasia 2005** » 26 Mar 2023, 08:27

Here you probably need to see a psychologist, at the age of 28 you lose your virginity, most likely all the porn sites have already been downloaded and learned.
Porn has a very bad influence

Unread post by **zxcursed** » 26 Mar 2023, 08:29

I have been seeing a psychologist for 4 months. An experienced psychologist said that he had a similar case with a woman, her problem was solved after six months

Unread post by **Anastasia 2005** » 26 Mar 2023, 08:41

It is also necessary to take into account that psychologists are different)

Unread post by **zxcursed** » 26 Mar 2023, 08:46

Gestalt psychologist. Helped me understand where the problems were coming from. We played out situations from childhood.[/url] After the sessions, a morning hard-on appeared, and excitement for porn appeared (although I refused to watch porn because I realized how harmful it is).

Unread post by **Anastasia 2005** » 26 Mar 2023, 08:49

zxcursed: ↑26 Mar 2023, 08:46 situations from childhood

I just wanted to ask about childhood, because it is often very destructive to go there, and non-psychologists think that it is fashionable)

Unread post by **Doctor_sexy** » 29 Mar 2023, 09:36

I think the author himself definitely cannot cope with the problem..

Unread post by **The passage** » 29 Mar 2023, 09:40

Perhaps in this case we are dealing with an otherworldly force. They jinxed the guy.

Unread post by **niqk** » 29 Mar 2023, 09:54

Marinka: ↑29 Mar 2023, 09:40 Perhaps in this case we are dealing with an otherworldly force. They jinxed the guy.

It is best to fight with otherworldly force with this-worldly force! :shamp:

Unread post by **The passage** » 29 Mar 2023, 09:58

niqk: ↑29 Mar 2023, 09:54
Marinka: ↑29 Mar 2023, 09:40 Perhaps in this case we are dealing with an otherworldly force. They jinxed the guy.

It is best to fight with otherworldly force with this-worldly force!

It is necessary to remove the damage from it, otherwise it will happen

Unread post by **niqk** » 29 Mar 2023, 10:01

Marinka, the most reliable way to remove damage is good sex! For example, a threesome! They gouge it like that - not a single damage can be resisted!!!

Unread post by **The passage** » 29 Mar 2023, 10:02

niqk: ↑29 Mar 2023, 10:01 Marinka, the most reliable way to remove damage - awesome sex! For example, a threesome! They’ll gouge you like that - not a single damage will survive!!!

If you remove the damage, then you can safely move on to a group sex)

Unread post by **niqk** » 29 Mar 2023, 10:05

Marinka, no damage can resist a group sex!

Unread post by **The passage** » 29 Mar 2023, 10:07

niqk: ↑29 Mar 2023, 10:05 Marinka, before a group sex there is no damage will resist!

Maybe)))

Unread post by **niqk** » 29 Mar 2023, 10:09

Marinka: ↑29 Mar 2023, 10:07
niqk: ↑29 Mar 2023, 10:05 Marinka, before Gangbang no damage can resist!
Maybe)))

Exactly, exactly... Especially if the group sex is long-term and perverted... And the more perverted, the cooler!

Unread post by **The passage** » 29 Mar 2023, 10:14

niqk: ↑29 Mar 2023, 10:09
Marinka: ↑29 Mar 2023, 10:07
niqk: ↑29 Mar 2023, 10:05 Marinka, no damage can resist a gangbang!
Maybe)))
Exactly, exactly... Especially if the gangbang is long-term and perverted... And the more perverted, the cooler!

Anything can happen , but the damage to the guy still needs to be removed

Unread post by **niqk** » 29 Mar 2023, 10:20

Marinka, and if sex is also sprinkled with rum - damage she’ll run away on her own!

Unread post by **Rooss** » 31 Mar 2023, 01:41

I heard that there are specialists who work on such cases using hypnosis, but the risk of going crazy is absolutely present....

Unread post by **Gudgeon** » 31 Mar 2023, 09:32

Rooss: ↑31 Mar 2023, 01:41 there are specialists in working through such cases with the help of hypnosis

And also with the help of homeopathy, yeah

Unread post by **Rooss** » 31 Mar 2023, 12:35

Gudgeon: ↑31 Mar 2023, 09:32 And also with the help of homeopathy, yeah

Laughter is laughter, but a person is suggestible, and hypnosis is a working thing, although not for everyone

Unread post by **it’s. a matter** » 31 Mar 2023, 21:42

Or maybe the problem is not in the head?
When you got that pussy, did it even hurt? Or are you like a bull terrier

Unread post by **Seeker** » 10 Oct 2023, 22:09

Anastasia2005: ↑26 Mar 2023, 08:49 I just wanted to ask about childhood, because it is often very destructive to go there, and non-psychologists think it’s fashionable)

I said it to the point about non-psychologists, smart girl!
Many simply cannot imagine, for example, 50 years of experience.... how long it will take to shovel everything.
Not only will you hit something incorrectly, but secondly, while you are shoveling, you will have time to accumulate hundreds of other new problems.
This is a very deep topic...

Unread post by **Serg_A** » 10 Oct 2023, 23:16

Anastasia2005: ↑26 Mar 2023, 08:49
zxcursed: ↑26 Mar 2023, 08:46 situations from childhood
I just wanted to ask about childhood, because it is often very destructive to go there, and non-psychologists think that it is fashionable) n

I have not yet seen a single person who has been helped by a psychologist

Unread post by **etc** » 10 Oct 2023, 23:20

Finder: ↑10 Oct 2023, 22:09 She said it to the point about non-psychologists, smart girl!

How did you live without psychologists before?)
Just go straight to a psychologist.
Here the mother told me that the child was taken to psychologists and psychiatrists, diagnosed with autism and sent to a special school. But no one thought to check the child for hormones - the protocols do not provide for it.
Okay, the mother turned to an edocrinologist she knew. It turned out to be hypothyroidism. They prescribed thyroxine and the child ran and returned to regular school.
So in the case of the author of the topic, is it not necessary to check for hormones? Maybe he has hypogonadism? There is little testosterone - hence the decreased libido and weak potency.
If everything is normal with physiology, then it stands strong. No mood disorders will fundamentally affect potency.

Unread post by **Seeker** » 10 Oct 2023, 23:34

Rooss: ↑31 Mar 2023, 12:35 Laughter is laughter, but a person is suggestible, and hypnosis is a working thing, although not for everyone

Let me clarify if you allow.
A person is suggestible without being mature when he does not listen to himself but accepts everything only on an intellectual level and understands it as an idea.
The beginning of wisdom is understanding oneself...

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