How to understand yourself?

Unread post by **Mr.hamsterrr** » 11 May 2023, 11:30

I’m already 32 years old, but sometimes I can’t understand myself. On the one hand, I want mutual love and family, children. On the other hand, I want sex with couples, men, trannies, and I don’t know how I can give this up forever. It would seem that you can marry the same woman, which I have thought about more than once, but I am not sure that I can share her with someone, and changing her is not in my rules.

I had a relationship, lived together, loved each other. And in those 5 years I didn’t want anyone else. But then I didn’t try anything yet. There was only gay sex and it wasn’t the most successful. Now I have experience with a bi couple and it was awesome. I have experience with trance and I want more. I have good experience with men. But women are still my favorite people and I definitely want a family. In short, I don’t know how to decide.

Unread post by **ustikiya** » 11 May 2023, 12:14

My friend, there is nothing wrong. I understand you! Do you first define within yourself what you clearly, exactly want? It’s impossible to sit on two chairs. It’s either pan or bust. For now, just take care of yourself, your business, your work. The answer will come a little later. Do not rush. When you mature, look for a soul mate just like you and you will have everything. There are sites with swingers, etc. they have chat rooms. Sit there and chat.

Unread post by **Mr.hamsterrr** » 11 May 2023, 12:53

Silvestr, I am registered on swinglife, that’s where I met couple, met last week. This topic has always been interesting to me, and now even more so.

Unread post by **ustikiya** » 11 May 2023, 13:04

Well, they have chats, they have friends, be a friend of the Couple) a Friend of the Family. And everything will be) If they entrusted the meeting to you, then you are a good person) And be in your element. They will love it if they have a free, like-minded woman) Everything will be fine. Know and Believe!

Unread post by **Mr.hamsterrr** » 11 May 2023, 13:17

Silvestr, that’s not the point, the point is that I don’t know if I can lead the same relationship. I have always been possessive and jealous. These contradictions torment me.

Unread post by **ustikiya** » 11 May 2023, 13:23

Either you take one side in a relationship or none at all. Here you need to decide! And to start swinging, you need to live with her for many years and be completely confident in each other. This is the only and correct decision. When I was the owner, I “strangled” myself with this. Then everything changed, I came across a girl who owned it and I realized that it was just cruelty. Do not breathe or take a step, eternal scandals.

Unread post by **Mr.hamsterrr** » 11 May 2023, 13:29

Silvestr, obvious things. This doesn’t make the choice any easier. I want everything and at once burst

Unread post by **XiaH** » 11 May 2023, 18:25

I also have a similar dilemma, although I have no craving for men outside of group sex. But trannies and dissolute spouses are of course always pleasant. I would like to think that as soon as I meet a woman fit to start a family, these lustful thoughts will fade into the background, and the understanding will simply come that it’s already been enough and I need to settle down. Well, then, closer to fifty dollars, as a last resort, consider options. You can’t tell a good woman for whom you have serious plans about your past adventures

Unread post by **meh1** » 05 Jul 2023, 03:38

Walk a little, then when you meet your other half, feelings arise, then I think you can quite easily give up everything else.

Unread post by **Lenok** » 05 Jul 2023, 03:42

I think I need to bet on the family

Unread post by **Lisa24** » 05 Jul 2023, 03:48

Mr.hamsterrr: 11 May 2023, 11:30 In short, I don’t know how to decide.

What do you mean, I don’t know? IMHO you’ve already made up your mind and haven’t had a walk yet, or maybe you haven’t met the one for whom you’ll forget about everything) so go for a walk for now, try it))