How important is sex in a relationship?

[Beluga]

How important is sex to you in a relationship?
Is it the basis, the cement of a relationship, or is it just a pleasant addition, the cherry on the cake?

[niqk]

How important is sex in a relationship for you?
Is it the basis, the cement of a relationship, or is it just a pleasant addition, the icing on the cake?

Good question! For me sex is everything! And relationships, and cement, and an addition to everything, and, of course, a cherry!

[The passage]

How important is sex in a relationship for you?
Is it the basis, the cement of a relationship, or is it just a pleasant addition, the cherry on the cake?

In life, sex is not the first place and even not the second and not the third, but in a relationship sex is more than important. This is what binds a man and a woman into one.

[niqk]

Marinka, I don’t agree! Without sex, the country will simply die out in a generation...

[Beluga]

For me, sex is everything!

That is. had sex and that’s it? I’m not interested in how a person lives, communication, interests, problems.... "orgasm, period"

[With me]

Believe me, he is the basis. How many times has this been confirmed by time...

[Sweden125]

Marinka, I don’t agree! Without sex, the country will simply die out in a generation...

Sex is not important here! There may be a distribution meeting here!

[niqk]

Belukha, re-read the title of the topic, my friend. And your questions will evaporate...

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svetik125, one-time meeting - without sex? We drank some tea, talked about the sublime - and that’s all?

[Beluga]

Without sex, the country will simply die out

Children can perfectly well appear without physical contact between men and women - the 21st century is in the yard, my friend :cat1:

[niqk]

Beluga whale, so far this is used only for scientific purposes. On the mice, my friend...

[Sweden125]

How important is sex in a relationship for you?
Is it the basis, the cement of a relationship, or is it just a pleasant addition, the cherry on the cake?

In a relationship, the main thing is how you treat each other, support in love and joy, in sorrow and misfortune! And this is precisely the decoration for all sorrows

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svetik125, one-time meeting - without sex? We drank tea, talked about the sublime - and that’s it

I’m talking about sex!

[Beluga]

for now it is used only for scientific purposes.

E.K.O. - three simple letters in Google or Wikipedia and amazing depths will open up for you, I repeat, the 21st century has already arrived, wake up, beautiful child.


yes, regarding the issue of extinction, with IVF the chance of giving birth to twins or triplets is much higher than with normal conception.

[Sweden125]

Sex is of course very important for both girls and guys! From its absence all sorts of diseases develop!

[Vert]

Without sex, the country will simply die out in a generation...

Well, there are methods of conception without sex. But it seems better and more pleasant to me the natural way.

In life, sex is not the first place, or even second or third

In life, the main thing is food and roof over your head.

but in a relationship, sex is more than important

It all depends on the people in this relationship. If 2 asexuals meet, then it’s quite normal for them to have without sex.

[niqk]

Belukha, do you know how to use Google, my friend?! Commendable. It would be nice if I understood
what you dug up there... IVF means "in vitro fertilization". If you read what extracorporeal is, you will find out that in order to conceive a child, direct contact between the sperm and the egg is necessary... However, I won’t torment you with sophisticated words, go do your homework first...

[Sweden125]

the chance of giving birth to twins or triplets is much higher than with normal conception

I have a double chance of giving birth to twins! My husband and I had twins in our generation

[Anastasia 2005]

Is it the basis, the cement of the relationship or is it just a pleasant addition, the cherry on the cake?

Of course the basis of the relationship)

[Sweden125]

Is it the basis, the cement of a relationship, or is it just a pleasant addition, the cherry on the cake?

Of course the basis of a relationship)

Sex is not the main thing

[Greek10]

Without sex there will be no family, this is the basis. Just like friendship between a man and a woman will definitely lead to sex, friendly, non-binding, like a sedative, etc.

[Anastasia 2005]

Sex is not the main thing

Well, why? without sex everything will collapse)

[Beluga]

without sex everything will collapse)

And if there is nothing besides sex? Everyone lives in their own world, is this a healthy relationship?

[Anastasia 2005]

What if there is nothing besides sex? Everyone lives in their own world, is this a healthy relationship?

But what if there is no sex at all? healthy too?

[niqk]

Anastasia2005, this can be a healthy relationship for asexuals. But how healthy are these sexuals? Big question...

[Anastasia 2005]

this can be a healthy relationship for asexuals. But how healthy are these sexuals? Big question...

There must be a golden mean) cannot be without something)

[Sweden125]

Sex is not the main thing

Well, why? without sex everything will collapse)

The main thing is love and attitude! To you!

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Sex is also important without it!

[niqk]

svetik125, why are you completely confused in three pines ...

[Sweden125]

svetik125, you really are got entangled in three pine trees...

Which ones? Hey, I’m not in the forest!

[niqk]

svetik125, Why not in the forest? You’re going to get it...

[Sweden125]

svetik125, Why not in the forest? You’re going to hear...

It’s from the buzz))))

[niqk]

svetik125, I love it when girls get high! Especially with an orgasm!

[Sweden125]

svetik125, I love it when girls get high ! Especially with an orgasm!

How can you get high without it?

[niqk]

svetik125, NO WAY!!! I wish you more of this buzz!!!

[Sweden125]

svetik125, NO WAY!!! I wish you more of this buzz!!!

Thank you

[Artem.Maxsimov]

Belukha, What was the relationship between a man and a woman like: intelligence, common interests, mating position.....it’s difficult to live together without sex. Cheating and going to the left does not count, because this is no longer an ideal relationship. Belukha, This is purely my opinion.

[Unique]

No sex no relationship, just friends

[Omelchenko.Alexey]

I.e. had sex and that’s it? it’s not interesting how a person lives, communication, interests, problems.... "orgasm and period"

Well, it’s a no brainer - sex is EVERYTHING and communication and interests and problems... ALL of this is EVERYTHING in life, but the cement between a guy and a girl in any situation is sex! It is he who connects them, and if he is not there, then the relationship will quickly go down the drain!

[alex503311]

From experience, if a guy often fucks a girl, then she is attached to him, although they said that it was sex and all that.
But as they rightly said, without sex, it is more difficult to attach a girl.
Again .if there is no sex, then someone else fucks her, but I think it’s unlikely that this is necessary, then many will not share their wife.

[Wolffr]

Is it normal to have less and less sex in a relationship over time? What if it disappears completely? Why does sex in family relationships become less and less frequent over time, or even disappear completely? Is this normal and is it possible to change the situation?

When you first met, there was passion between you and sparks were flying, but after a year and a half or two everything calmed down. And if a child is born, even more so...

Will there never be that passion again? Does this mean that love is gone too? Do you need to look for a new one or can you awaken sexuality in your couple?

Let’s look at sex from the point of view of psychology and biology.
What does sex depend on?

Sex and its quantity in our lives depend not only on romantic feelings, but also on biological mechanisms. In particular, the first time after meeting, the couple has a lot of sex, because nature is interested in them conceiving a child as quickly as possible.
After about a year and a half (some faster, some slower) hormonal the surge ends and the chemistry between partners begins to gradually fade away. In nature, this is usually associated with the birth of children, but in the modern world there is contraception, and the child does not always appear immediately.
But, one way or another, family plans, affairs, and tasks arise that need to be solved. In addition, both the man and the woman remember their own interests and cease to be a single whole. On the one hand, they no longer have time to have sex, and on the other hand, they no longer want to. And this is a natural stage of family life.

Is less sex bad?

There are very few families where parents and children openly discuss sex. Therefore, we largely take our idea of ​​him, in particular, how much of him there should be in a couple, not from the real world, but from romantic books and films. And they usually show an idealized image of the relationship. Their passion does not fade away for many years, remaining the same as on the first day (and of course, no one ever quarrels, gets sick or is in a bad mood, but that’s another story).
We have read and watched so much of this that we expect something similar in our relationship. And we inevitably get disappointed. These made-up stories especially affect women. Although men sometimes worry that they do not live up to the image of the hero-lover who is “always ready.”

But in this case, we take for a problem things that are not problems, because the plots of the books and films do not reflect reality. So the problem is not sex, but our expectations.

It is normal that over time sex does not happen as easily as in the beginning, not on its own, but only under certain circumstances . It’s just important to take these circumstances into account. Then the sex life in a couple will be harmonious. Maybe not like in the movies, but wonderful for your couple.

What is important for sexual harmony in a couple?

To make your sex life enjoyable even after many years, you need to make an effort. It is very important to find time for each other, take care of your emotional state and relax.

Emotional intimacy and tenderness

Your task is to support them, and not only when you are going to have sex, but all the time. Sexual intimacy usually occurs where there is spiritual intimacy.

Time for sex

It’s banal, but true – sex happens where there is time for it. Realize the importance of sex, make time for it. Let you have the opportunity to sit together, watch a movie, pet each other, talk. And so that no one distracts or disturbs you, of course.

Relaxed state

When you are tired and exhausted, there is no time for sex. Unlike the situation in the first year and a half of a relationship, when, no matter how tired and sleep-deprived you are, hormones force you to crawl into bed.

And one more important point! Try not to use sex as a way to relieve stress. Then sex becomes not a way to get closer, but physical exercise. This has a bad effect on relationships.

And accept the fact that over time, sex in a couple actually becomes less. But on the other hand, mental and spiritual kinship increases. And this closeness is very deep. It doesn’t replace physical contact, but it is much more interesting, bigger, and makes you closer.

So don’t worry, don’t compare yourself with your girlfriends and friends, and take care of yourself and your partner .
And if there is no sex at all?!

Is this also a normal stage in a couple’s life? Doubts are already appearing here. Let’s look at why this can happen.

Here are the possible reasons why sex has disappeared in the family. The list is incomplete, because I am still not a sexologist, and I pay attention mainly to the psychological roots of problems. Although I believe that most of them have such roots.

Fatigue and no time

Yes, this may be the reason if fatigue is very strong and there is no time at all. But if you have such a situation, it means, most likely, you don’t have time for yourself, you’ve been pushing yourself. Usually in such cases there is not much communication between the couple, there is no intimacy.

What to do? It’s worth thinking about why you don’t love and value yourself so much, why you’re so tired that you don’t even have the strength to be with your loved one.

No culture of sex, misunderstanding in the field of sex

Nobody taught us how to receive and give pleasure to a loved one . Most are ashamed of sex, ashamed to learn about it and talk about their desires.

It turns out to be a vicious circle, from which many get out in a simple way - no sex, no problems.

What to do? For example, I took the “Ideal Lover” training so that my relationship with my wife would become even stronger. It’s normal that you need to learn this. After all, our parents don’t tell us about sex.

If you’re not ready for training yet, at least it’s worth talking to each other about your desires.

No emotional, spiritual intimacy

For many people, for me including physical intimacy - a continuation of spiritual, psychological intimacy. And if you do not devote time and attention to each other, do not communicate, but only work and solve family problems, then, of course, there will be no closeness.

What to do? Find time for each other, no matter how difficult it is. No one will do this for you. Ask yourself: Did you really get married just to pay the mortgage and clean the house? If yes, then everything is fine.

You or your partner, or both, do not love your body, do not feel its desires

Sex is an expression of love, including for your body, it is acceptance of your body and the body of your partner. If this is not the case, you will not want sex.

What to do? Learn to listen to yourself and your body, try to ask yourself what you want, learn to love yourself. But in general this is a very deep problem, from childhood, it cannot be solved with a raid.

Deep resentment towards the husband (wife)

It is clear that if you have a lot of complaints and negativity towards a person, you will not want to go to bed with him. This may be a hidden offense or an obvious one, but this does not change the essence.

What to do? Work through the conflict, talk through it, analyze it, solve it. Hidden negativity in relationships interferes not only with your sex life. Can you imagine how difficult it is to live with a partner against whom you have constant complaints? It’s not just sex, it’s difficult to sit at the same table.

Child-parent relationships between husband and wife

It happens that a husband and wife are in a psychological interaction not “adult-adult”, but “parent-child”, that is, one psychologically shifts responsibility for his decisions and life to another, and the other bears them with pleasure, having his own benefits from this.

It doesn’t matter who the child is and who the parent is, it is important that if you are too If you often fall into these states, it is not good for sexual relationships. Parents don’t sleep with their children.

What to do? Learn to redistribute responsibility among yourself, learn to interact like adults. This is not easy, especially if the family has long been playing parent-child games. You may need professional help...

Is sex important in a relationship?

All people have different temperaments and needs in the field of sex. And for some, sex may not be so important, especially if the couple has been together for many years. But you shouldn’t neglect this side of life, even if you are a highly spiritual person with varied interests.

Sex is an important aspect of a relationship and can also serve as a litmus test for what is happening in a relationship. Therefore, take care of yourself and your partner, love your bodies and make them happy.

(c)Vadim Kurkin

I will say from myself:
So much so that there is enough for everyone!) The problem is that people do not know how to talk about their feelings with each other. Especially regarding the topic of sex. This is extremely strange for me. It’s simple - if something doesn’t suit you (not only regarding sex), talk, listen to each other’s feelings and emotions and decide something.

[Center]

Sex is the basis of a relationship in the 21st century. If you remove it, then there is no need for a relationship.