​How to stop worrying about the opinions of others?

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My topics are relevant to me too. And what I write is almost always my discovery and revelation. I admit that I was always worried about what others would think of me, and I tried to impress them. At first I just wanted to look better so that I could fit in with society. But then I found features of my appearance and character that I wanted to emphasize in order to show my individuality. At the same time, the opinions of others were still important to me. Next, I started working on self-esteem, working on my “fame.” And then the opinions of others faded into the background. But at the same time, I am inspired by people who can go to the store in a robe or dance on a bar while I give myself permission to have my desires. And today I decided to figure out this issue - how to be yourself and not worry about the opinions of others.

We all live in society, and so that it does not reject us, we need to be in balance with it.[/b] Ignoring the interests of others can lead to you being perceived negatively. In society you need to have emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence helps to perceive people’s needs and the surrounding psychological atmosphere. Those who possess it can influence others because they feel them. But, even with this quality, you need to be in balance with society.
If you can’t do what you like and think about how everyone else please, this is already a serious reason to think about it. This is harmful to your life, because you cannot express your opinion to a friend that you like rock music and tune in and listen to rap. Yielding to the opinion of your parents, you go to work as a doctor, even though your soul is not in medicine. And you can’t break up with your guy, because everyone thinks you’re a great couple. All this is a lie to yourself, and as it accumulates it only brings resentment and anger.
The problem is that then you will no longer understand what you did for yourself, and that - in order to please society. You will also be constantly trying to guess what others will like.
If this happens to you, take control of your imagination and stop assuming for others. Think about it, why did you think that bright clothes would push people away? Why did you decide that in communication you need to be modest / modest and agree on everything?
You have little chance of guessing the reaction of strangers. First of all, you won’t be able to please everyone. Secondly, learn to relax in the face of the unknown, you cannot control everything in life.
The best way to relax is to stay in the image that is comfortable for you. If you are uncomfortable, why wear a short skirt? If you are not confident in your abilities, why take on what you are incompetent in?
Despite the fact that the desire to imitate is in our nature, borrow something , what is close to you and stick to your personal path. Love your individuality. Remember that no matter how hard you try, people will think what they think. And you can’t always influence their opinion. It’s normal, someone won’t like it. Despite what they say about the first impression, that it is the most correct, think about whether this works in life? Have you always been able to guess at first glance how smart a person is? Or does he have a sense of humor? Opinions change, the first impression is supplemented by facts.
And remember - most people don’t care about you until you take part in their lives. But even then, they will look at you through the prism of their "I". And your experiences are the same egocentrism.
The opinions of close people - friends, relatives - should be important to you. But even listening to their opinions, you should not do as they want if you don’t like it. Man is a selfish being, and is free to do as he wants, but he must live in balance in society, because he lives in it.
Now I have finally come to this opinion and live the way I like. I neglect the channel a little, and selfishly write articles on topics that are important to me I hope this material was useful for you too