My father is marrying my mother’s friend. Is he normal at all??

[Belykh]

More than two years ago, my mother had a stroke, and her friend Aunt Katya began to help us. She is a nurse by training and helps us take care of our mother. She lived with us for more than two years. Recently my father said that he and Katya would get married. It turns out that they have already managed to file a divorce from their mother. Although I don’t know when they managed to do this. What is the meaning of such a marriage? I don’t know either. She lives with us anyway. Essentially nothing will change. She does not and never had children. She is 10 years younger than my parents, which means finding a boyfriend is probably not a problem. What is the point, I don’t understand?

[Greek10]

If he married your mom’s friend, he wouldn’t be normal

[Belykh]

If he married your mother’s friend, he would not be normal

Is this normal? Mom is almost in a bedridden state, and for some reason he is marrying her friend. Who already lives with us. This doesn’t make sense

[Greek10]

because my friend is not in bed

[Sorcerer]

because the friend is not in bed

you’d better ask how old the author is. According to his understanding, it is not enough that childish jealousy is manifested.

[Greek10]

you’d better ask how old the author is

Yes, who will come to the forum of perverts to ask for psychological support, advice and answers to questions.... Obviously not 10- and not 15 years. Experience 32 min. Someone’s new clone

[Belykh]

You’d better ask how old the author is. According to his understanding, it’s not enough, childish jealousy is manifested.

What difference does it make how old I am? That’s not the question

[myname]

If I were the author, I would raise the issue not from a moral point of view, but from the most practical one:
1. what will change in everyday life
2. how will care for the mother be provided in the future, who has what obligations
3. where the mother will live: also at home or somewhere else, who will live with her
4. who owns the real estate and other property, how it will be divided and between whom, including in the event of the death of both parents. Who can claim what and what moral and legal right to it.

[Belykh]

If I were the author, I would raise the issue not from a moral point of view, but from the most practical one:

1. Nothing will change in everyday life
2. Care will be the same. She has been living with us for more than two years
3. At home it’s the same
4. Mom doesn’t think well in this state. Why would she pretend to something if she lives with us?

That’s why I don’t understand what the point of such a marriage is

[myname]

1. Nothing will change in everyday life
2. Care will be the same. She has been living with us for more than two years
3. At home it’s the same
4. Mom doesn’t think well in this state. Why will she pretend to something if she will live with us?

Mom may not, but Aunt Katya can and quite has a moral right if she really takes care of your mom and makes your dad happy.

[Belykh]

Mom may not, but Aunt Katya quite possibly can and has the moral right if she really takes care of your mom and makes your dad happy.

She agreed herself. She wasn’t forced. Thank her for her help, of course, but people don’t get married out of gratitude for her help. It doesn’t make us happy, of course, but it helps a lot

[myname]

She agreed herself. She wasn’t forced. Thank her for her help, of course, but people don’t get married out of gratitude for her help. It doesn’t make us happy, of course, but it helps a lot

I’m not a lawyer, but imagine such a picture. You have found your love. He is building a career and quite successfully acquiring property. So you are planning to have a child. Your love - a man - is all such a romantic and believes that there is no point in marriage, if two people love each other, then no proof is needed for this, so he is against the stamp in the passport because he considers it offensive because... the stamp is a sign of distrust of each other. Question: would you still want to have a child with such a person? If not, why not?

[Belykh]

I’m not a lawyer, but imagine imagine such a picture. You have found your love. He is building a career and quite successfully acquiring property. So you are planning to have a child. Your love - a man - is all such a romantic and believes that there is no point in marriage, if two people love each other, then no proof is needed for this, so he is against the stamp in the passport because he considers it offensive because... the stamp is a sign of distrust of each other. Question: would you still want to have a child with such a person? If not, then why

I’m a guy, not a girl)
So my father and Aunt Katya don’t have love. And they don’t have a child together. And they even sleep in different rooms. That’s why I don’t understand the point. Our apartment is still not hers and she has no rights to it

[myname]

I’m a guy, not a girl)
So my father and Aunt Katya don’t have love. And they don’t have a child together. And they even sleep in different rooms. That’s why I don’t understand the point. Our apartment is still not hers and she has no rights to it

You are so sure that they have no love, even in secret ( temporary) from you, Aunt Katya is such an altruist and is ready to give the rest of her life to the care of your mother and your family as a whole. But if everything is as you describe, then the answer to the question "why did they decide to get married?" will be "because gladiolus - they have the right".

in addition to the questions I listed above for discussion with father, I would question your naivety.

[Belykh]

You are so sure that they have no love, even if it is a secret (temporary) from you, Aunt Katya is such an altruist and is ready to give the rest of her life to the care of your mother and your family as a whole.

I don’t know. It wasn’t her dad who brought her, her mother’s other friends recommended her. Most likely she learned from her mother, because she is 10 years younger. Mom is 45, father is 46, and she is 35 in total. So my father is unlikely to suit her. She can find someone her own age. So I don’t think she has a love interest.

She has been living with us for more than two years. And they are in different rooms with their father. Father and mother, and she is in another. Maybe there was something, but I didn’t see it, and I didn’t see any signs of it either

[Keep the change for yourself]

Belykh,

Look.
You found out about the forum -> registered -> immediately created a topic according to the classic scenario without any problems commencement, action, what should I do? -> you write only in it and today you will be lost.

This is a typical fake idea. And I’m sure that half of these topics are yours. Are you tired?

And now provethat I’m wrong.

[Unknown]

So she sleeps with your father, and yet your mother lives with you?

[Belykh]

So she sleeps with your father, and at the same time your mother lives with you?

Dad does not sleep with her. He sleeps with his mother, Aunt Katya is in the other room

[Unknown]

Dad doesn’t sleep with her. He sleeps with his mother, Aunt Katya is in the other room

Apparently this is why the wedding is so that your father can officially sleep with Katya. Maybe they’ll have more children together