Help in resolving the issue

Unread post by **Entourage** » 31 Oct 2022, 00:28

Dear residents of the forum, greetings.
The problem in general is this, I keep thinking, I’m beating around the bush, I’ve been living with my wife for three years, a daughter was born, We love each other, everything is great, but there is one moment that really doesn’t suit me, this is the lack of oral sex and anal sex, which is extremely necessary for me, in three years of marriage there was anal twice and twice there was blowjob and then a couple of minutes from strength without ending, although in terms of the classics we are all right, we both end together, etc., I can’t understand and at the same time I don’t want to talk about it with her, I still think that she will understand it herself, but every time I make hints about this all goes unnoticed, in fact, lately I’ve been inclined to find myself a mistress solely for the lack of variety in sex, I’m not going to leave my family because of this, and we love each other very much, but this moment torments me, and after the birth of my daughter, sex is very rare, but I adore it and endure it all the time, what are your advice in this situation, gentlemen and ladies?

Unread post by **A mermaid** » 31 Oct 2022, 00:36

Will you lick on the side?

Unread post by **Alex431** » 31 Oct 2022, 00:40

Try the 69 position for both of you well and at the same time

Unread post by **Entourage** » 31 Oct 2022, 00:43

I would love to, but she is categorical about this for some reason, I give her cunnilingus with the hope that she will reciprocate my feelings, but alas, this does not happen, and I cannot say that I can’t give you a blowjob

Unread post by **Woman** » 31 Oct 2022, 00:48

Anturage: 31 Oct 2022, 00:28 I don’t want to talk about it with her

But you want to go left..
Excellent solution to the problem!

Unread post by **Danafil** » 31 Oct 2022, 00:49

You need to talk frankly with your wife and explain everything. Say what you want, find out why she avoids these types of sex. Maybe you can find a joint solution that suits both.

Unread post by **Entourage** » 31 Oct 2022, 00:53

This is the point: I don’t want to go to the left, that’s why I’m interested in how best to proceed in this situation, I want to talk, but I know that the reaction will be negative, since I tried to approach this question in a veiled manner, to which I saw a reaction of disgust

Unread post by **Cheeks** » 31 Oct 2022, 01:35

At the beginning of the relationship, my wife wouldn’t let me do cunnilingus; after several attempts to lick me, I asked why she wouldn’t let me. She said that in return she would have to pamper me with her mouth too, but she didn’t want that. I then said you will suck as soon as you are ready for it, and now spread your legs and have fun. As a result, first time in the mouth[/url] she took it about 2 years later. I never asked her about this, I just knew that if she didn’t want to, she would do it through force, and nothing good would come of it.

Unread post by **Kite** » 04 Nov 2022, 12:45

Look for your wife longer, kiss everywhere, slowly bring your penis to her mouth, I think she won’t refuse. Mine doesn’t always want to either, but she doesn’t refuse when caresses.

Unread post by **Alyosha** » 04 Nov 2022, 13:05

Still, it’s better to talk to her about it directly

Unread post by **dva2dva** » 04 Nov 2022, 13:10

It is useless to insist, it will only push you away. Advising without knowing your relationship and the nuances of your relationship is pointing your finger at the sky. It’s not for nothing that psychologists and sexologists first ask a bunch of leading questions before giving any advice. Maybe she has a childhood trauma associated with blowjobs, or maybe just banal disgust - like urine flows from this lace and I have to suck it? There is only one conclusion. You need to talk to your wife.. And talk not with reproaches - like I want it but you don’t suck, but talk - share why you have such an attitude towards blowjob, tell me, I’ll understand everything.. Conversation, in a confidential tone, without complaints, without attacks, that you lick and she does not suck in response. Only such a conversation can produce results. And of course, in this conversation, explain what you would like. And during sex, it’s better not to insist and not to poke your dick into her mouth, especially if you write that you love her.. When she wants to, she will please you. And if you reproach and insist, perhaps you will achieve what she will put in her mouth. But she will do it so it would be better not to do it.