Discussing desires and fantasies with your other halves...

[Fan]

Partly yes, we are discussing. But still there are things that I cannot discuss with anyone. Perhaps this is a complex, but it does not bother me.

nBy the way, frank communication online helps to get rid of complexes. But the interlocutor must be interesting, of course)

[Bully Carrie]

By the way, frank communication online helps to get rid of complexes

Unfortunately, yes. People usually tell their fantasies more easily to strangers than to their own. Why is that so, I wonder?

[in the]

By the way, frank communication online helps to get rid of complexes

Unfortunately, yes. People usually tell their fantasies more easily to strangers than to their own. Why is this so, I wonder?

they are worried about the emergence of a negative opinion, this is a good sign

[Lizkkka616]

Unfortunately, yes. People usually tell their fantasies more easily to strangers than to their own. Why is this so, I wonder?

Here you are hidden behind a nickname and your interlocutor is unlikely to ever see you. And you should live with a loved one, and what if he considers your inclinations to be something disgusting.
My husband and I didn’t know about each other’s fantasies for a long time, which caused difficulties, quarrels and swearing.
Last 1 -1.5 all this practically disappeared.
We began to experiment more often, buy costumes, underwear, and various toys. Watch porn together, get acquainted with sexual hobbies that are new to us and we like it.
There are, of course, differences in interests, but they can be smoothed out and an alternative can be offered

[Bully Carrie]

Last 1-1.5

...years? Or months?)

Sent after 1 minute 48 seconds:

worried about the emergence of a negative opinion, this is a good sign

Probably so. Just what’s good about this? There is some kind of mistrust. Like, “I’ll ask him to insert a plug for me, and he’ll say, what a fool.” So?)

[Lizkkka616]

Hooligan Carrie, oh, I missed something this moment. Happens sometimes)
Thanks for correcting it)

[Fan]

[/quote] Probably so. Just what’s good about this? There is some kind of mistrust. Like, “I’ll ask him to insert a plug for me, and he’ll say, what a fool.” Right?)
[/quote]
Yeah, that’s right)

[Bully Carrie]

Lizkkka616, Yes, I’m not trying to correct you, God forbid! I just wanted to clarify. We also had complexes for a long time, especially me. You can’t imagine how unconscious I was! That’s why I wanted to clarify. In my coordinate system, a year and a half of revelations is just wow))

[Lizkkka616]

Hooligan Carrie, I, too, am a rather complex lady, my husband started slowly reveal it, but then I caught him watching trans porn and started making fun of him, although I was aroused by it myself. With my banter I interrupted his desire for variety, he was silent for a long time and did not discuss anything with me...
Once during sex, I started whispering in his ear that I would look at him with a tranny and apologize, I realized what I did the mistake of ridiculing his desires and fantasies...
After that we moved on to discussing why I did that then, what I would have liked, and that’s how some emancipation came

[The passage]

and he will say, what a fool"

IMHO if the fool says, you can continue the dialogue, explain yourself. Or at least know his opinion on this issue. It’s worse when he doesn’t say anything, but thinks to himself that he’s a dick, changes his attitude, and begins to distance himself. That’s why people try not to be frank, so as not to jeopardize the relationship.
Family should not be compared to this forum. They have walked their cockroaches here, closed the forum and are already violet, they share your opinion or they want to communicate with you or they are sick from your fantasies or maybe even sick of coming here for a week. , a month, don’t come in at all. Well, then live with your husband.
My opinion is personal. I don’t impose it on anyone, but I think that all these revelations can be a double-edged sword. This is the same when people have no secrets from each other and they tell everything about their past. Believe me. Everyone has conflicts, and during these conflicts it will definitely fly in, and everything that you told in the simplicity of your soul will fly in and fly in and fly in. As Pindos cops say in Hollywood films. Anything you say can be used against you.

[Bully Carrie]

Everything you say can be used against you.

I completely agree, you couldn’t say it better. But being open about sex is such a cool thing that sometimes it’s worth taking the risk.
And besides, relationships are such a thing that even if you don’t say anything.....it can still be used against you, if desired.

[Igor.filimonov]

not an easy topic for me....I’ve always been somewhat complex about this, about talking....but then I met a partner to whom I began to open up...and she was in front of me, I don’t know, age or experience. reason or simply "that person who is yours"....it has become easier and more pleasant, but I still haven’t shared everything, I’m afraid of being misunderstood, which will judge me...and I really want to open up completely.... We are working on it)))

[The passage]

Everything you say can be used against you.

I completely agree, you couldn’t say it better. But being open about sex is such a cool thing that sometimes it’s worth taking the risk.
And besides, relationships are such a thing that even if you don’t say anything.....it can still be used against you, if desired.

Everything is individual. I like spontaneity and the absence of any scripts, rules and conventions. There were men who first interrogated me before sex, and then during sex they asked if I felt good, if I had finished. And then also after sex, where and what you liked and didn’t like. Such bores.
I just want to have sex, and then go out together to smoke on the balcony and hug each other in silence. Kiss.

[Bully Carrie]

And then also after sex, where and what you liked, what you didn’t like

I also did this before, much like these men)))

[in the]

Probably so. Just what’s good about this? There is some kind of mistrust.

not mistrust, but protection of a person dear to you

[Lizkkka616]

not mistrust, but protection of a person dear to you

There is truth in these words

[olga. yamenko]

I also did this before, much like these men)))
In any difficult situation - jerk off and calm down

comrade man, the next time you play the role of a woman, then you should know that only men jerk off, and women masturbate) so if you write in the role of a woman, what do you prefer)) then everyone, or rather the majority, understands immediately, that in front of them is a virtual male wanker in female form))

[Lizkkka616]

olga.yakemenko, Mademoiselle, you apparently ran past here ?)
Or is this subtle humor?) Did they immediately determine who is who?))) Or is it a simple desire to get to the bottom of the word and shine with your knowledge?)

[Lisa24]

then you should know that only men jerk off, and women masturbate)

who said that? What kind of stupid divisions?
by the word masturbation there are many synonyms, including masturbation. Everyone masturbates, regardless of gender