Second chance

Unread post by **The passage** » 31 Jul 2023, 02:51

To give a second chance or not to give? Should I believe the promises or not?
Do you think maybe you have had a similar experience? How did it all end?

Unread post by **RazVratnik** » 31 Jul 2023, 03:06

You can’t go back to your ex...

Unread post by **Murena0314** » 31 Jul 2023, 03:14

Marinka: ↑31 Jul 2023, 02:51 Give a second chance or not? Should I believe the promises or not?
Do you think maybe you have had a similar experience? How did it all end?

If the question concerns treason, betrayal, assault, then my answer is radically clear: no, no second chances, having betrayed once, or raised your hand on a woman, will never change. Personally, I didn’t find myself in such a situation, thank God, but I had close friends, I wouldn’t wish such a fate on anyone.
Well, what if it’s something else, for example, he drinks, is not ready for a family relationship, or something like that , then you can still fight, give it a chance, but of course, within reasonable limits.

Unread post by **AlexTDV** » 31 Jul 2023, 03:20

If a person messes up once, it means it will happen again

Unread post by **Sufia** » 31 Jul 2023, 03:32

AlexTDV, I agree, there was such a relationship, in the end we We finally separated after half a year (which I am very happy about).

If anything, the separation was not related to alcoholism, assault, etc.

Unread post by **Serg_A** » 31 Jul 2023, 03:44

Marinka: ↑31 Jul 2023, 02:51 Give a second chance or not? Should I believe the promises or not?
Do you think maybe you have had a similar experience? How did it all end?

Give a second chance, but don’t believe the promises.
Marinka, you are the one who can give a second chance, this does not mean that many others can strength.

31 Jul 2023, 03:47

Marinka: ↑31 Jul 2023, 02:51 Give a second chance or not? Should I believe the promises or not?
Do you think maybe you have had a similar experience? How did it all end?

In the period of first love, in youth somewhere, when people sometimes make mistakes due to inexperience, then I think it’s worth trying a second time .
And if adults have already separated, it means they have separated, there is a divorce not based on emotions, but a deliberate decision, so there is no need for second chances.

Unread post by **Fargal94** » 20 Sep 2023, 03:49

I drank and very hard! But there were reasons for this. And it seemed like it was a vicious circle (but thanks to my wife, everything is fine now! Well, I also made some efforts)

Unread post by **Beluga** » 20 Sep 2023, 04:31

It depends on who has what chance and what?

Unread post by **yah** » 20 Sep 2023, 04:40

Fargal94: ↑20 Sep 2023, 03:49 I drank and very hard! But there were reasons for this. And it seemed like it was a vicious circle (but thanks to my wife, everything is fine now! Well, I also made some efforts)

You have to drink to this!

Unread post by **Beluga** » 20 Sep 2023, 05:03

Let there be a second chance, what if

himself needs it, who knows?

Unread post by **Lenok** » 20 Sep 2023, 05:33

No! No 2,3,4,5,6……100,000 chances

Unread post by **Fargal94** » 20 Sep 2023, 05:36

Lenok: ↑20 Sep 2023, 05:33 No! No 2,3,4,5,6……100,000 chances

Lenok: ↑ No! No 2,3,4,5,6......100,000 chances

You just had a negative experience and probably your man didn’t love you very much or was very weak

Unread post by **mrmraaa** » 20 Sep 2023, 06:00

Both my friend and I had the same experience. We returned to our exes, who said that they had changed, that they understood and comprehended everything. In the end, it lasted for a month at most. No matter how a person says that he will change, it is all a lie. Then everything will return to normal

Unread post by **Fargal94** » 20 Sep 2023, 06:11

mrmraaa: ↑20 Sep 2023, 06:00 Both my friend and I had this experience. We returned to our exes, who said that they had changed, that they understood and comprehended everything. In the end, it lasted for a month at most. No matter how a person says that he will change, it is all a lie. Then everything will return to normal

22 out of 52 years. Is this not an example for you???

Unread post by **mrmraaa** » 20 Sep 2023, 06:22

Fargal94: ↑20 Sep 2023, 06:11 22 years out of 52. Isn’t this an example for you???

I’m not saying that I’m straight with everyone, but I just wrote a personal example))) There are people who are ready to improve for a second chance )

Unread post by **Fargal94** » 20 Sep 2023, 06:27

mrmraaa: ↑20 Sep 2023, 06:22
Fargal94: ↑20 Sep 2023, 06:11 22 years out of 52. Isn’t this an example for you???
I’m not saying that I’m straight with everyone, but I just wrote a personal example))) There are people who are ready to improve for a second chance )

there you go! So it’s worth giving a second chance! And if you don’t give it, then for the rest of your life you will reproach yourself for never knowing what a person is capable of.

Unread post by **Hair shirt** » 20 Sep 2023, 07:35

I know a man who got divorced once. But who really didn’t want to get a divorce. But I couldn’t do anything about it.
Now this person is happy and very grateful to his ex-other half that the divorce did happen.
I think there is no need to look back at the past because we really don’t live very much . I mean that period of life when everything is fine with you and when you want and can.

Until the age of twenty, we are not responsible for ourselves and are forced to dance to someone else’s tune all the time. From twenty to twenty-five, as a rule, everyone studies and this is also not a full life. At fifty, some kind of pain begins - one thing or another.
And really, you have 50-25=25 for everything
That is, that full life is only 25 years. When nothing hurts, when you are attractive, when someone is looking at you, when the sensations are full.

And I remember just now how one woman told me - every new guy you get involved with some kind of relationship is a new world. Everything is from scratch. Everything that came before it seems to be erased and it all no longer means anything. That is, the new man erases everything in the woman’s mind that came before him. If it seemed that without some guy there was no life, that love was to the grave, that the one and only. But another man appears and he replaces the previous one. Everything seems to be erased and everything is done again. And this is actually true.

So don’t look back and move on.

Unread post by **Beluga** » 20 Sep 2023, 07:38

Vasyanitsa: ↑20 Sep 2023, 07:35 So don’t look back and move on

Not taking into account the experience you have gained?

Unread post by **Hair shirt** » 20 Sep 2023, 16:49

Belkha: ↑20 Sep 2023, 07:38 Not taking into account acquired experience?

Somewhere I once read a very interesting phrase about what experience is. This phrase goes like this:
Experience is something you will never need again.
I was very amused by this. Because I also drew my attention to the fact that the experience is true something you will never need again. And all because you can’t go into the same river twice - that river has already flowed away.

You gained some experience, but it’s very difficult to repeat exactly the same situation again. The situation will definitely change, there will be other people, there will be some conditions, or the stars will turn out differently - and the result will be different.
That’s why experience is only good for selling it to someone as something valuable. Like sharing the most precious thing - my experience. But in fact, they sell you something that you no longer need. And this experience is only good for supposedly giving it to someone and thus making the person owe you or be obliged to you. For this type of experience.

Personally, when someone tries to sell me their experience in this way, I just laugh at it all and say that I don’t need it for nothing.

So forget about this experience of yours. What is positive and what is negative. Everything that happens to you in the future depends only on you and not on the fact that you will correct your actions using the burden of some kind of experience. Such and such.

Then you generally need to start a file cabinet. Remember all these experiences, classify them. Divide into positive and negative. And then lay out all these cards around you and think about what to do, taking into account all these acquired experiences. Ours and others.

Unread post by **Beluga** » 21 Sep 2023, 00:27

Vasyanitsa: ↑20 Sep 2023, 16:49 Experience is something you will never need again.

i.e. Having licked the bare wires of the weak current and felt all the charm, will you repeat this next time? then welcome to the Darwin Award candidates

Unread post by **Hair shirt** » 21 Sep 2023, 07:16

Belkha: ↑21 Sep 2023, 00:27 i.e. Having licked the bare wires of the weak current and felt all the charm, will you repeat this next time? then welcome to the candidates for the Darwin Award

Make a fool pray to God - he will break his whole forehead.

Unread post by **Xenophon** » 21 Sep 2023, 08:10

What do you mean by second chance? A chance for what? Start over again? This is impossible. What has already passed cannot be started over again. Therefore, a second chance is not to start over, but to start a new stage of the relationship. And from this perspective, this second chance looks different.
The man is fighting. Would at least one normal woman build a relationship with such a partner? Of course not. And there is no second chance. The man drinks and drinks away all his property. You can marry someone like that. No. And there is no chance. The man changed. You will marry a man who slept with other women before you. The answer is obvious. So we need to give a second chance. He may also stop going to the left, just as he refused other women for the sake of a relationship with you. Maybe not give up, but continue. Then there is no chance.
The word betrayal cannot be used for treason. This is not entirely correct. Well, that’s a different topic.
Trying it for myself, I can definitely say that I will not give a second chance to a lady who bothers me. With a lady who likes to drink, I’ll be happy to drink myself. I will forgive the betrayal. Although, again, in my opinion, the concept of forgiveness is inappropriate here. It’s better to put it this way. I won’t attach such importance to this as to break up with the woman I love.

Unread post by **Beluga** » 21 Sep 2023, 08:23

Ksenofont: ↑21 Sep 2023, 08:10 Would at least one normal woman build a relationship with such a partner? Of course not. And there is no second chance. The man drinks and drinks away all his property. You can marry someone like that. No

But they go after people like that and endure and you can’t tear them off with pincers

Unread post by **Xenophon** » 21 Sep 2023, 09:04

Belkha: ↑21 Sep 2023, 08:23 after all, they go after such people and endure and cannot be torn off with pincers
Let me go, depth

Women, some of them, I emphasize this, have such slack. They overestimate their capabilities. They believe that with love and affection they can change a man. This is a very dangerous misconception that leads to sad consequences. A normal woman will not tolerate this. The weak will justify her existence with jointly acquired property, children, and this most vile thing - she hits, it means she loves. Beats can be replaced with drinks.

Unread post by **Anonym9** » 08 Oct 2023, 01:47

The best option is to give a long-term probationary period! 1690797080 user_id=12161] Give a second chance or not? Should I believe the promises or not?
Do you think maybe you have had a similar experience? How did it all end?

Unread post by **ilovebiboys** » 17 Oct 2023, 07:50

if a person is dear, I will fight for him to the last, the main thing is that he appreciates it and does not take advantage of my kindness

Unread post by **Beluga** » 17 Oct 2023, 11:45

The dog that runs after me is called “Last Chance”. something inspired

Second chance

Quick Reply