Communication with your ex during a chance meeting.

Unread post by **fin** » 23 Oct 2022, 03:00

Women, please tell me. If after breaking up with my former partner, with me, whom I dated for 6 years, I called her a drunk and a pervert, is it really because of these words that she hasn’t said hello to me when we meet for 2 months? Moreover, he called it justifiably! A drunk - because he often likes to meet with his girlfriends and drink with them. This annoyed me. A pervert - because there are concrete suspicions that she, a divorcee, at 39 years old, got involved at work with a 25-year-old colleague, a driver. Are these such terrible, swear words? I don’t really need her “hello”, but I’m just interested in your female opinion.

Unread post by **Akteya** » 23 Oct 2022, 07:16

If someone told me that, the person would be left with a wet spot.

Specific suspicions are not concrete facts! If you went out with your friends to hang out, it means you didn’t have what she needed. To keep her at home.

Unread post by **d4d** » 23 Oct 2022, 07:25

I’m certainly not a woman, but here’s what’s interesting to me:

fin: ↑23 Oct 2022, 03:00 Alcoholic - because he often likes to meet his girlfriends and drink with them

Does he drink often? Many women and men periodically meet with friends and during communication drink alcoholic beverages of varying degrees of strength. But at the same time they are not drunks. Or for you, a drunk is anyone who drinks alcohol more than once every six months?

fin: ↑23 Oct 2022, 03:00 Pervert - because there are specific suspicions that she, a divorcee, at 39 years old, had an affair with a 25-year-old at work -year-old colleague, driver

Since when is a relationship between a 39-year-old woman and a younger man (but an adult and aware of his actions) considered perversion?

Unread post by **fin** » 23 Oct 2022, 11:12

I said what I said.

Unread post by **d4d** » 23 Oct 2022, 12:17

fin: ↑23 Oct 2022, 11:12 I said what I said.

Then why these questions, comrade? If you consider your words addressed to her to be the norm, then why is her behavior after them towards you not the norm? Say thank you, he simply ignores you and does not greet you, and not the reaction as described Akteya

Akteya: ↑23 Oct 2022, 07:16 If someone told me that, the person would be left with a wet spot.

And by the way, quite the right words , for unfounded bullshit. And it doesn’t matter whether you’re her ex, your current one, or just a leftist “Vasya from the mountain.”

Unread post by **racer** » 23 Oct 2022, 12:19

As practice shows, it is better not to communicate with exes

Unread post by **Akteya** » 23 Oct 2022, 12:20

Well, exes are usually embittered...

Unread post by **racer** » 23 Oct 2022, 12:22

They almost always happen, but they admit even to themselves that they were wrong

Unread post by **d4d** » 23 Oct 2022, 12:25

racer: ↑23 Oct 2022, 12:19 As practice shows, it is better not to communicate with exes

If you ran away normally (this happens, but not for everyone, of course, and not always), then why not to communicate? But in most cases, yes, I agree.

Unread post by **Akteya** » 23 Oct 2022, 13:18

d4d, well, yes. But it’s still better not to communicate with your exes in any way at all)

Unread post by **d4d** » 23 Oct 2022, 13:24

Akteya, reduce communication to a minimum, let’s say. Because you never know, everyone is so ex-and-ex for that reason - who knows what will be on their minds at the next [non-]random meeting.

Unread post by **racer** » 23 Oct 2022, 13:25

It’s possible, but the main thing is not to think that you can start over

Unread post by **Rocket** » 23 Oct 2022, 14:49

Exes are like a glass of urine, there is no point in drinking it again, in the hope that it has ceased to be urine
Yes, you can break up on normal terms, even maintain adequate communication, but why, if the relationship is everything, nothing else connects, but after all, it may still happen that you start to be jealous of her, so I think it’s better to break up, to avoid suffering, the main thing is not to swear

Unread post by **Gudgeon** » 23 Oct 2022, 15:37

fin, in general, it’s your own fault.
But I have another question: why the hell do you need her opinion and greetings? It means they separated, but the sediment remains and you are still waiting for something... I just don’t care about my exes... I wouldn’t worry about whether they say hello or not. Although I don’t hold any grudges. I could exchange a few phrases with anyone, I am grateful to them all for some experience. They all made me wiser. But I certainly wouldn’t have been upset and wouldn’t have noticed even if they turned away without saying hello when they met.

Unread post by **Vladtsst** » 23 Oct 2022, 17:30

Don’t sweat that kind of grain. I divorced my first wife when we had already lived for 18 years. She persuaded me to return when I was married for the second time. It was cut off when the first child in the second marriage was born. I haven’t known anything about her for 7 years now, and I’m not worried. We must live in the present and future, not in the past. And it’s good that I broke up with the perverted and drunkard.

Unread post by **Woman** » 23 Oct 2022, 23:52

d4d: ↑23 Oct 2022, 07:25 I am certainly not a woman

but I am a Woman and wanted to write the same thing, word for word!

Unread post by **nz_alex** » 24 Oct 2022, 00:27

I would also advise her to cross to the other side of the street.

Unread post by **Woman** » 24 Oct 2022, 00:55

racer: ↑23 Oct 2022, 12:19 As practice shows, it is better not to communicate with exes

it depends on how you broke up.
An ex can become a great friend !

Sent after 1 minute 5 seconds:
fin,
Alcoholic - because that he’s dating his friends.
Pervert - because he has sex with a young driver.

Pi

hell

It’s good that you broke up! At least the woman will be happy. Without you!

Unread post by **Faust** » 24 Oct 2022, 01:29

fin: ↑23 Oct 2022, 03:00 Is it really because of these words that she hasn’t greeted me when we meet for 2 months?

Well, if that’s the case, then the lady is not particularly wise. Why would you force yourself to communicate with her?

racer: ↑23 Oct 2022, 12:19 As practice shows, it is better not to communicate with exes

Not always. You can often have sex with exes, since the partner is proven, he is familiar to you and will not talk too much. Many people do this and there is nothing wrong with it. It seems that people already broke up many months ago, they don’t want to look for someone else for various reasons, but they still practice sex with each other. Your ex knows that you can please her.

Unread post by **d4d** » 24 Oct 2022, 01:34

Faust: ↑24 Oct 2022, 01:29 Often you can have sex with exes, since the partner is proven, he is familiar to you and will not talk too much.

If you broke up normally, then maybe Maybe. If we had a falling out and swore at each other before the race, what kind of sex is there after breaking up?

And yes, I wouldn’t be so sure about the fact that “there won’t be too much talk.” You never know what kind of urine will hit him/her in the head.

Unread post by **fin** » 24 Oct 2022, 02:29

Gudgeon, What just pissed me off was not that she When she broke up, she gave the reason “I’m not attracted to you,” but why is she afraid to confirm the fact of her relationship with this 25-year-old minor? And she even made excuses to me 2 or 3 times. First she wrote to me by SMS: "It’s not like that. Getting drunk with your friends is a must, I don’t deny it. And about sex with young people, you’re wrong!!!" I wrote it verbatim, word for word, for some reason with three exclamation marks. Then she and I “clashed” in the garden (we have gardens nearby, a common fence). Then she told me: “I tell you again, this is our young driver and he’s driving us around. And he’s dating my partner’s daughter.” Of course, I couldn’t stand it and answered her: “Of course he’s driving us around! And he’s fucking you!” Explain to me why she can’t tell the truth, like "Yes, we are dating."? Why and for what purpose can’t he say this??

Unread post by **d4d** » 24 Oct 2022, 02:41

fin: ↑24 Oct 2022, 02:29 she gave the reason when parting: “I’m not attracted to you.”

What’s a bad reason? If there is no mutual “attraction” between a man and a woman, then why torture each other by living together (and even just by dating)? For me, cancer is a completely normal reason.

fin: ↑24 Oct 2022, 02:29 why is she afraid to confirm the fact of her relationship with this 25-year-old minor?

nWell, judging by the following quote from her words that you provide

fin: ↑24 Oct 2022, 02:29 She then told me:"I repeat to you again, this is our young driver and he drives us. And he is dating my partner’s daughter."

Maybe there really is nothing between them and he just periodically gives her a ride somewhere. and even if she meets with him, what’s wrong? For good measure, this shouldn’t bother you anymore, since you’ve fled. She has her own life, and it would be better for you to take care of yours, and not engage in pussy suffering over trifles.

Unread post by **Nickname** » 24 Oct 2022, 02:47

Akteya, or stay on friendly terms if possible

Unread post by **fin** » 24 Oct 2022, 04:35

d4d, It turns out we dated her for 6 years, then we were drawn to , but for some reason it stopped in the 7th year? And yes. One time, in July, I saw this young driver near our store and couldn’t stand it, I went up to him and asked him directly whether he was dating her. For some reason, he was a little drunk, even though he was driving, and answered me: “She is my colleague, whom I respect.” He said nothing more. But I called “mine” later and 20 minutes later she called me back and started yelling, like, what difference does it make to you, you have nothing to do? You embarrassed me in front of my employees! He not only drove her up and down from work, but, for example, for some reason he came to her house (I saw through the window) and helped unload some furniture, a couple of days later he came to install a wardrobe, he took her to the city several times in his car, he saw how in the morning he also took her and her 11-year-old daughter somewhere, although buses run. In general, this guy often rubs up next to her. Or is this all at the request of his future mother-in-law, my ex’s partner?? Of course, this is also possible, but I intuitively feel that there is no daughter of my partner, and the ex specially invented this in order to divert suspicion from their sexual relationship. Although I didn’t hold a candle. I just think that women don’t get out of relationships, but they already have someone to go to, a new man. That’s why she stopped being attracted to me. This is my logical version.

Unread post by **d4d** » 24 Oct 2022, 05:31

fin: ↑24 Oct 2022, 04:35 It turns out that we dated her for 6 years, then we kept at it, but for some reason we stopped in the 7th year?

It quite happens. One of my friends lived with a guy for eight years, and then they separated. She was the initiator, and she left precisely because of “I’m not attracted to you, etc.” And she went into free swimming, for a year and a half, as far as I know, there was no relationship.

fin: ↑24 Oct 2022, 04:35 and helped unload some furniture, a couple of days later he came to install the wardrobe

Don’t you admit that she just paid him for it? With money, not bed.

fin: ↑24 Oct 2022, 04:35 In general, this guy often rubs himself next to her. Or is this all at the request of his future mother-in-law, my ex-partner??

Also as an option.

fin: ↑24 Oct 2022, 04:35I saw through the window

Are you following her? So you really have to do it. I would already be busy with my personal life, and would forget to think about my ex and who she has sex with or not.

In general, I can’t understand this obsession of yours about whether she’s fucking with this "youth" or not. You ran away, you are in the past for her - that’s all, period. Everyone now goes their own way and chooses their own partners.

Or do you still want her back?

Unread post by **fin** » 24 Oct 2022, 07:23

d4d, I don’t know myself. On the one hand, I understand with my head that she is unsuitable for a relationship. By the way, even at our first meeting in 2014, she said: “I don’t need a serious relationship, just sex.” Word for word. I’m just used to the fact that girls/women themselves looked after me more, showed care, attention, etc. And I always left them, I was always the first to leave the relationship. And this one, my ex, was the first to break off a relationship for the first time in my life. Somehow I don’t understand how it happened that I fell so deeply in love with her, even fell in love. Although her character is not at all what a normal woman should have. He also smokes and won’t refuse to drink. I really like her figure, curves, ass and green eyes. I can’t explain it, but to be honest, I’m still quite drawn to her. As for the guy getting paid for his work, I don’t think so. I know that they both receive normal salaries. Maybe he really is dating her partner’s daughter. And all these “movements” of his were at the request of his future mother-in-law. Otherwise, what’s the point of her making excuses to me? Although maybe she’s just ashamed to admit it because of such a big age difference, 14-15 years. The most important thing is that she is not attracted to me.

Unread post by **dva2dva** » 24 Oct 2022, 11:03

fin: ↑24 Oct 2022, 07:23 I’m just used to the fact that girls/women themselves looked after me more, showed care, attention, etc. And I always abandoned them, always the first

That’s the main reason why it was so annoying that she didn’t say hello. It’s not a matter of “hello” or “not saying hello,” but of a hooked ego.

Unread post by **Marishka** » 24 Oct 2022, 11:05

Just forget it and that’s it))

Unread post by **d4d** » 24 Oct 2022, 12:49

fin: ↑24 Oct 2022, 07:23 By the way, even at our first meeting in 2014, she said, “I don’t need a serious relationship, just sex.”

Well, Why don’t you confirm her later words that she is no longer attracted to you? For some reason, sex with you stopped suiting her -> she stopped being attracted to you. Loyal.

fin: ↑24 Oct 2022, 07:23 I’m just used to the fact that girls/women themselves looked after me more, showed care, attention, etc. And I always abandoned them, I was always the first to leave the relationship.

And then you were abandoned - and your pride, ego and God knows what else this fact hurt - how Well, it was you who always abandoned women, but here it’s the other way around. And you probably really don’t care about greetings, as I said above dva2dva.

fin: ↑24 Oct 2022, 07:23 Although maybe she’s just ashamed to admit it because of such a big age difference, 14-15 years.

Yes There is nothing wrong with this age difference. Especially if, according to you, she doesn’t need a serious relationship, but only sex. At work, at about the same age as that driver, I had a similar relationship with a colleague. So she was over 40, but that didn’t bother us.

fin: ↑24 Oct 2022, 07:23 The most important thing is that she is not attracted to me.

So you suppress this craving for her in yourself, since this is the case. You cannot step into the same river twice, as they say. Especially when this same "river" has already changed its course =)
So try not to rush along it, but get distracted by something (or someone). And everything will be fine for you!

Unread post by **fin** » 25 Oct 2022, 01:03

d4d, If it’s not a secret, you’ve had those for a long time relationship with a colleague over 40?

Unread post by **d4d** » 25 Oct 2022, 01:48

fin, about two years.

Unread post by **fin** » 25 Oct 2022, 02:04

d4d, And then, as I understand it, hormonal insanity , dopamine, oxytocin, went away and stopped being attracted to each other?

Unread post by **Amateur** » 25 Oct 2022, 02:29

fin: ↑23 Oct 2022, 03:00 Women, please tell me. If after breaking up with my former partner, with me, whom I dated for 6 years, I called her a drunk and a pervert, is it really because of these words that she hasn’t said hello to me when we meet for 2 months? Moreover, he called it justifiably! A drunk - because he often likes to meet with his girlfriends and drink with them. This annoyed me. A pervert - because there are concrete suspicions that she, a divorcee, at 39 years old, got involved at work with a 25-year-old colleague, a driver. Are these such terrible, swear words? I don’t really need her "hello", but I’m just interested in your female opinion.

after a divorce, I dated my ex for 2 years solely to satisfy my desires (she adored oral sex my pussy and I loved to lick all the holes for her and knowing that others were fucking her, and she openly held me like a manual pussy licker and sometimes to tongue fuck her anus and moisturize her after the members of her friends. She openly said that I was only pussy licking for her. and the best and she fucks with others and I am obliged to moisturize her and I agreed for 2 years and once asked what kind of penis it was (since her anus and vagina were very open) to which I heard shut up and lick, I started.

Unread post by **d4d** » 25 Oct 2022, 02:38

fin, именно так.

Communication with your ex during a chance meeting.

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