A 23-year-old boy is asking for marriage. Is he a fool? Why does he need this?

[Again, yes]

A guy who is 23 years old has been working at our work for two years (I’ll be 32 soon). In the first year everything was fine, but in the second he started hitting on me. He is tall and plump, I am short, and when he writes to me, he calls me “small”. Although I’m 8 years older, damn it, and I’m a grown woman, and he’s a young guy. I asked him not to make advances and not to call me that. Useless. He began to call me to marry. I love you, I like you very much, I want to live with you. I say find someone the same age as you. I need you, not them. So what should we do with it? I don’t know how to explain to him anymore

[Natalie]

If you don’t feel chemistry between you, try explaining it that way. Try not to offend. You never know what kind of cockroaches he has in his head..

[Keep the change for yourself]

What to do with him?

Drag him to the forum and immediately tell him to read only paedo-homo-zoo-mammy-baby topics.
That’s all...

Then he will also start creating ten accounts and write on the same topic from each, just like you.
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If the admin keeps you in the basement and forces you to write endlessly on one topic from different accounts, then send a triple bracket, we will save you!

[Venus]

We have a guy at work for two years who is 23 years old (I’ll be 32 soon). In the first year everything was fine, but in the second he started hitting on me. He is tall and plump, I am short, and when he writes to me, he calls me “small”. Although I’m 8 years older, damn it, and I’m a grown woman, and he’s a young guy. I asked him not to make advances and not to call me that. Useless. He began to call me to marry. I love you, I like you very much, I want to live with you. I say find someone the same age as you. I need you, not them. So what should we do with it? I don’t know how to explain to him anymore

))) IMHO you are worrying in vain. Now the difference seems big until you are together. Once you get married, the difference will gradually disappear. When a man is younger, this is not a minus, but a big plus. Moreover, he has serious intentions. So, don’t be so categorical.

[Frieda]

I didn’t have such experience. There were, of course, younger guys, one even much younger, but they didn’t ask for marriage. You can live together, but I personally would be careful about creating a full-fledged family with a common household and children. Why right down the aisle? If you don’t have a promising adult man, try it and see how it goes.

[Venus]

I didn’t have such experience. There were, of course, younger guys, one even much younger, but they didn’t ask for marriage. You can live together, but I personally would be careful about creating a full-fledged family with a common household and children. Why right down the aisle? If there is no promising adult man, try it and see how it goes.

))) This trick doesn’t work with men. If you don’t get married right away, he won’t mention it again later.

[Connecting rod]

seems big until you are together. After you get married, the difference will gradually disappear.

I completely agree. My dad is 7 years younger than my mom. And they lived wonderfully in love and harmony. In addition, my mother already had two children from her first marriage. As they would now fashionably say RSP. And then I didn’t even think that my brother and sister not my dad’s family. They treated him with love and respect and called him dad. Everyone was treated the same

[Venus]

It seems big until you are together. After you get married, the difference will gradually disappear.

I completely agree. My dad is 7 years younger than my mom. And they lived wonderfully in love and harmony. In addition, my mother already had two children from her first marriage. As they would now fashionably say RSP. And then I didn’t even think that my brother and sister not my dad’s family. They treated him with love and respect and called him dad. The attitude towards everyone was the same

))) You cannot judge a man by his age. Sometimes, at the age of 20, a man is already serious, and sometimes a man is older, and he has the wind in his head. Your example is a good confirmation of this)))

[Frieda]

))) This trick doesn’t work with men. If you don’t get married right away, he won’t mention it again later.

It’s better this way than later he will mention that we didn’t get along when I have small children in my arms and an apartment with a mortgage.

[Venus]

))) This number does not work with men. If you don’t get married right away, he won’t mention it again later.

It’s better this way than later he will mention that we didn’t get along when in your arms there are small children and an apartment with a mortgage.

Of course, a formalized marriage is not a guarantee of its strength and indestructibility, but if suddenly they really don’t get along in character, then property disputes can be resolved without any problems.

[Pierro]

I’m not tall

the topic of boobs.. not covered..

[Juss]

For me, I think he is looking for a figurative mother, so you fit his candidacy.

[Connecting rod]

It seems big until you are together. After you get married, the difference will gradually disappear.

I completely agree. My dad is 7 years younger than my mom. And they lived wonderfully in love and harmony. In addition, my mother already had two children from her first marriage. As they would now fashionably say RSP. And then I didn’t even think that my brother and sister not my dad’s family. They treated him with love and respect and called him dad. The attitude towards everyone was the same

))) You cannot judge a man by his age. Sometimes, at the age of 20, a man is already serious, and sometimes a man is older, and he has the wind in his head. Your example is a good confirmation of this)))

and I remember how my mother, in her old age, told me how tenderly he looked after her when she worked as a storekeeper. He comes, says, for some reason and sits. Honey, he says. And on her palm he drew hearts with a pen Apparently, she was pleased to remember, she wanted to share) I was already an adult, I had my own family. And then, he says, he took him to his home village to introduce him to his relatives. And in the evening, he says, I ask: where will I sleep? And my grandmother: yes, we’ll make a bed for you here. - So we are just meeting, nothing has happened between us yet.. - No, dear, since you came to us, then now you are ours. So their grandmother got married

[Venus]

For me, I think he is looking for a figurative mother, so you fit his candidacy.

))) Eight years difference is not a mother, rather an older sister, but in marriages, as in almost all relationships, there must always be someone leading, and someone being followed. My ex-husband is seven years older than me, and in the marriage he was completely under my leadership, also like a child. This is fine.

[alexey.bro]

(I’ll be 32 soon).

Perhaps this is your last chance?) think about it

[Juss]

Strecoza, well, to each his own, I tried it once live with a woman 7 years older than myself and realized that this is not for me)))

[Venus]

Strecoza, well, to each his own, I I once tried to live with a woman 7 years older than myself and realized that it wasn’t for me)))

))) Maybe it wasn’t age difference, but incompatibility. Even people of the same age get divorced when the man is older. There is no universal compatibility based on the age of partners. There is simply a stereotype that the older man in a couple should be. And when the woman is older, both partners often develop complexes, both he and she, and even those around them and relatives add fuel to the fire, although there are many examples of such couples. And, people not only live together, but are also quite happy.

[RANGE_]

Tanyuhhha92,
It is not yet clear why Do you want to refuse the guy immediately and forever, or are you embarrassed to admit that the age difference bothers you, but you still want a relationship?
What feelings do you have for your colleague, besides his age?

If refusal and "don’t pester me" are more, then it is enough to tell him the list of requirements for a potential husband . And he should have this now, and not sometime later.
Are there really no such requirements? Justify this by saying that you do not have mutual feelings for him, and taking them for a test drive in marriage due to your age and subtle mental organization is tantamount to violence.

When refusing various things, it is better to talk about yourself, and not about the person you are refusing - thus, there is less risk of offending the intrusive offerer of something.

[Frieda]

Of course, a formalized marriage is not a guarantee of its strength and indestructibility, but if suddenly they really don’t get along in character, then property disputes can be resolved without any problems.

Probably yes! But if it’s not a biker with a small and flaccid penis. And this is exactly what my ex turned out to be, who drank plenty of my blood during the divorce and division of property.

[Bully Carrie]

I didn’t understand the question at all. If you are in a relationship, what does the age difference have to do with it? And if there is no relationship, why are they suddenly asking for marriage?

[Venus]

Of course, a formalized marriage is not a guarantee of its strength and indestructibility, but if suddenly they really don’t get along in character, then property disputes can be resolved without any problems.

Probably yes! But if it’s not a biker with a small and flaccid penis. And this is exactly what my ex turned out to be, who drank plenty of my blood during the divorce and division of property.

))) It was easier for me, we didn’t really do anything made money with my husband. Although the divorce itself was very difficult for me, psychologically. All relatives and friends put moral pressure on me.

[Juss]

Strecoza, well, I’m with you somewhere- then I agree. In my situation, the woman just seemed to have a lot of emotions. And I myself am calm about everything. Calm and only calm...))))

[Bully Carrie]

For me, I think he is looking for a figurative mother, so you fit his candidacy.

Mother. 8 years older. Yes. An eight-year-old such a mother. Well, it’s normal, who hasn’t given birth for 8 years?

[Venus]

Strecoza, well, that’s how I I agree with you somewhere. In my situation, the woman just seemed to have a lot of emotions. And I myself am calm about everything. Calm and only calm...))))

))) Our temperament is innate and can be corrected, of course, but very slightly. You wouldn’t be able to change her and breaking up the relationship is the best option for you.

[Frieda]

It was easier for me, my husband and I didn’t really gain anything. Although the divorce itself was very difficult for me, psychologically. All relatives and friends put moral pressure on us.

Our parents made a fortune, but I was stupid to dump what my parents had made into one basket. But there was no moral pressure on me; they forgot about me and the child immediately after her birth. Now all that remains is to understand whether this is good or bad for my daughter?

[Bully Carrie]

Now all that remains is to understand whether this is good or bad for the daughter?

This is neither good nor bad. As you decide, so it will be.

[Venus]

It was easier for me, my husband and I didn’t really gain anything. Although the divorce itself was very difficult for me, psychologically. All relatives and friends put moral pressure on us.

Our parents made a fortune, but I was stupid to dump what my parents had made into one basket. But there was no moral pressure on me; they forgot about me and the child immediately after her birth. Now all that remains is to understand whether this is good or bad for my daughter?

))) Mine are growing up well without a father. Last year he started showing up a little in their lives. But I believe that a weekend dad will never replace a full family. This is probably more necessary for men so that the children do not forget him, but for the children themselves, a date once or twice a month does not play any role at all.

[Juss]

Hooligan Carrie, ha, made me laugh. I’m not talking to an 8-year-old mother, but about the fact that he sees in her what he needs, namely, the older one who will pat her on the head and let her cry in her robe. Of course, I saw guys with a very strong spirit at the age of 20, but this applies to today’s youth less and less often.

[Bully Carrie]

But, I believe that a weekend dad will never replace a full family.

I always thought that a weekend dad is to scratch the man’s side. Well, yes, so that mom can wisely use the free day off.

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Hooligan Carrieha, made me laugh. I’m not talking to an 8-year-old mother, but about the fact that he sees in her what he needs, namely, the older one who will pat her on the head and let her cry in her robe. Of course, I also saw guys at the age of 20 with a very strong spirit, but this applies to today’s youth less and less.

I’m glad I lifted your spirits. A diagnosis on the Internet is like a horse in a vacuum.

[RANGE_]

If you are in a relationship, what does the age difference have to do with it? And if there is no relationship, why are they suddenly asking for marriage?

[Bully Carrie]

No body - no business.

Well....the absence of a body does not mean the absence of motives

[Juss]

Hooligan Carrie, I’m always positive, so always It’s nice to chat with good people. Just like with you, pleasant and objective communication.

[Bully Carrie]

Hooligan Carrie, I’m always positive , so it’s always nice to communicate with adequate people. Just like with you, pleasant and objective communication.

somehow you separated me from adequate people, like adequate people - separately, I - separately. But nothing, continue

[Frieda]

) Mine grow up beautifully without a father. Last year he started showing up a little in their lives. But I believe that a weekend dad will never replace a full family. This is probably more necessary for men so that the children do not forget him, but for the children themselves, a date once or twice a month does not play any role at all.

It seems to me For boys, a man is important. Father or someone else, but who treats them well, but is important. So, in the absence of an alternative, a Sunday dad will do. I was lucky in this regard. I have a daughter.

[Juss]

Hooligan Carrie, well, I was just having a discussion with you , so I singled you out separately)))

[Venus]

) Mine are growing up beautifully without a father. Last year he started showing up a little in their lives. But I believe that a weekend dad will never replace a full family. This is probably more necessary for men so that the children do not forget him, but for the children themselves, a date once or twice a month does not play any role at all.

It seems to me For boys, a man is important. Father or someone else, but who treats them well, but is important. So, in the absence of an alternative, a Sunday dad will do. I was lucky in this regard. I have a daughter.

It is difficult to talk about something that does not exist and never happened. My ex was not a Sunday dad.
And, I love my dad very much. No less than my mother, but I trust him with secrets more. Mom swears, but dad never. So, for a girl, dad is even more important than for a boy.

[Bully Carrie]

I think a man is important for boys.

Well, it is clear that it is better to be healthy and rich than poor and sick. That is, I want to say that both girls and boys care about their father, who is a man, and their mother, who is a woman. As a girl who grew up without a father, I can say that a man is even more important to a daughter. Because the daughter will then bring all this childhood trauma into marriage....
But if there was no male father, what the hell now.

[Tanya]

My grandmother was 11 years older than my grandfather, they lived a long life, gave birth to two children and my grandfather raised a daughter from her first husband and treated her children as his own grandchildren.
At the age of 29, I rejected a fan who was 22.. I didn’t take him seriously and didn’t perceive him as a man at all, even though he was a handsome, funny, smart guy..
I used to love older men, and around the age of 36, all the lovers became younger than me... and younger and younger... First 7 years younger, then 11 years younger... another one almost 13... As a result, I’m 51, and the men in my family are over 45 there was never a bed..
As one of my friends says...he doesn’t look for peers. And if you like a man, then it’s worth a try, and at 32 life is just beginning, believe me, and if this doesn’t work out, there will be others!

[sevener]

Yes, 32 is a funny age for a girl. She can give birth before she’s 39, so there’s definitely no need to rush into marriage. Well, what about this situation and men. For a marriage, it is better to make sure that it is reliable, not frivolous, etc. If you like it, you can live together for a year or two and check it out. And if you don’t like it, then carefully explain so that he falls off, the main thing is that he doesn’t turn out to be a maniac.

[Tanya]

Yes, 32 is a funny age for a girl. She can give birth before 39, so there’s definitely no need to rush into marriage.

Who said she can only give birth before 39??? Lord, what nonsense! My grandmother gave birth to my mother at 41, my brother’s wife gave birth to his son at 42, I have a friend. gave birth at 46..

[Stressed]

Yes, 32 is a funny age for a girl. She can give birth before 39, so there’s definitely no need to rush into marriage.

Who said she can only give birth before 39??? Lord, what nonsense! My grandmother gave birth to my mother at 41, my brother’s wife gave birth to his son at 42, I have a friend. gave birth at 46..

I don’t understand why children are aged?
No one would force me to give birth now.
I want to live on my own
25 - 35 seems optimal to me for children, then it’s better for myself
And you can have a relationship without children

[March]

Strecoza, well, to each his own, I once tried to live with a woman 7 years older than myself and realized that it was not for me)))

Well, It’s like you’re not invited to get married.

[March]

And relationships without children are possible

It is possible. But it’s boring.
It’s better to have children early, so that they have time to grow up while you are still at a “vigorous” age. Then contact with them will be better established. And at the age of closer to 50. By that time, living “for yourself” is already pretty boring, and you want to show care.

[red_fox]

We have a guy at work for two years who is 23 years old (I’ll be 32 soon). In the first year everything was fine, but in the second he started hitting on me. He is tall and plump, I am short, and when he writes to me, he calls me “small”. Although I’m 8 damn years older, and I’m a grown woman, and he’s a young guy.

Well, not everything is so simple. There are such shots. My wife’s colleague’s husband is 7 years younger than her, and he took her with the child from his first marriage. My director’s wife is 5 years older.. But now, when he is 50+, the difference is clearly visible. He is a good-looking man, she is a dry, wrinkled old lady.

No, no, why the hell is this “happiness”? IMHO, of course.

[Juss]

March, girls are called to get married if anything)))

[March]

March, girls are called to get married if anything happens )))

So this... "There are different cases... (C) ).
PS - Emoticons were invented for a reason...

[Again, yes]

))) IMHO you are worried in vain. Now the difference seems big until you are together. Once you get married, the difference will gradually disappear. When a man is younger, this is not a minus, but a big plus. Moreover, he has serious intentions. So, don’t be so categorical.

I think he just wants to drag me into bed, that’s why he offers to marry)))