Wife doesn't want sex

Unread post by **Conspiracy** » 21 May 2021, 00:38

My wife and I have been together for more than 10 years, for the last year or so she has had some kind of decline in sexual desire, she says that she is tired and nervous. I tried to figure out how to help, but she doesn’t know. I know for sure that she has no one, because almost all evenings are together. What to do? We’re barely 30 and have sex once a week if we’re lucky.

Unread post by **Mishka Novgorodsky** » 21 May 2021, 03:37

I have a similar situation... only I’m 43, and my wife is 39. We fry rarely, maybe once every 10 days, or even less often... They say that you need to bring “life” into the relationship, but how to do it - Don’t know. A friend says that you need to make her feel jealous, but is that true? Will this jealousy turn her away from sex completely? I’m thinking of going to a sex therapist...

Unread post by **Mishka Novgorodsky** » 21 May 2021, 03:38

I have a similar situation... only I’m 43, and my wife is 39. We fry rarely, maybe once every 10 days, or even less often... They say that you need to bring “life” into the relationship, but how to do it - Don’t know. A friend says that you need to make her feel jealous, but is that true? Will this jealousy turn her away from sex completely? I’m thinking of going to a sex therapist...

Unread post by **Fall in love** » 21 May 2021, 05:07

But I have another problem. mine requires every day, and sometimes twice. And it always ends.

Unread post by **vector** » 21 May 2021, 05:10

mine doesn’t want to either. says she’s tired)

Unread post by **Fall in love** » 21 May 2021, 05:11

Well, if the wives are tired, then it’s time to look for mistresses

Unread post by **vector** » 21 May 2021, 05:21

then let’s start)

Unread post by **Fall in love** » 21 May 2021, 05:26

Good luck. I even stopped cumming with mine. She gets off me in 30 minutes. I don’t even have time to cum

Unread post by **A charmer** » 21 May 2021, 05:35

First, create a romantic atmosphere, prepare her dinner, champagne or whatever she likes. And during the conversation with your wife, invite her to talk about frank topics. Ask her what fantasies and desires she has. Share yours. Tell me openly what you want you are upset and worried that your passion is fading and her reluctance to make love. tell her that you love her... and you don’t want to change, but you only want her!
Promise that maybe you can partially take on some of her responsibilities, give in to for some time. Maybe he really gets tired. And from the information received, draw conclusions. This happens to everyone. I also went through this.

Unread post by **Fall in love** » 21 May 2021, 05:59

For one evening she will give everything

Unread post by **Mishka Novgorodsky** » 21 May 2021, 20:24

Yes, I’ve already tried to set the table, and took on her worries, and took her to Paris for a week - not a damn thing works! If I don’t insist and we don’t quarrel on this basis, he won’t! Moreover, he finds any excuse not to have sex... And he gives it as if he is doing a favor! I once asked her how often she needed it - she said that once a month would be nice! I’ll probably have to look for a mistress, I don’t see any other way out...

Unread post by **Masturbate** » 21 May 2021, 21:45

Yesterday we visited a sex therapist on Dmitrovskaya (Yulia Vasilievna Kokhova). She said that we have different sexual constitutions and recommended a whole arsenal of remedies. The doctor is wonderful! I would fuck you without a second thought! I recommend it to anyone who has problems! True, it’s a little expensive - 5.5 thousand per visit...

Unread post by **vit123** » 28 May 2021, 13:10

If a wife says this, it may not mean that someone is eating at her place and she fucked herself crazy on the side and doesn’t want to go home anymore. The work factor may also influence this. and most likely commonplace. Try with your wife to go not to your mother in the village or to your parents at the dacha. and expand your fantasy horizon regarding travel. Invite her to go to the sauna together, invite her to visit a spa with a massage. Well, in the end, sign up for a group for those over 60 to go to the pool and visit it. Maybe this will somehow bring my wife back to life? Buy her some nice lingerie. have a small party at home.

Unread post by **Yurik** » 29 May 2021, 00:41

Conspiracy, hello. And you try changing clothes. Put her underwear on, etc. Or better yet, I don’t know a female police uniform or become a medic, in general, your fantasies, try this. The main thing is not to be shy, even if it makes her laugh. If her things are small, buy yourself stockings, panties, etc.

Unread post by **niqk** » 29 May 2021, 06:19

That’s sound advice! Try role-playing games! Awesome thing! Kaiff!!!

Unread post by **Honeymoon** » 01 Jun 2021, 23:15

She may be taking birth control to avoid getting pregnant. There are some side effects from the pills. My partner at work told me that she had problems with her husband and didn’t want sex. Even after I stopped taking it, the desire decreased.

Unread post by **vit123** » 03 Jun 2021, 05:31

Doesn’t want to, doesn’t mean he can’t. Find out the reason and then you will understand what is going on. SEE THE ROOT. as Kozma Prutkov used to say.

Unread post by **Zdah** » 23 Sep 2021, 05:12

Same crap. She says she’s tired and wants to sleep, but on Instagram she sits for an hour lying in bed on vacation, took the table, set the table, went to a restaurant, nothing helps. I’ve been cleaning the house for the last 10 years, the dishwasher washes the dishes and she cooks and eats, well, it’s like I don’t lie on the stove either, I work, I bring money into the house. Only we have sex once, maybe twice a month, and then she says that once we have sex, we masturbate to each other. I don’t know what to do, I love her and our children.

Unread post by **Mother Heroine** » 23 Sep 2021, 05:21

ZDA7, this happened to my wife almost exactly the same, nothing helped, and in the end he left her. Although I feel sorry for the children who grow up without me. I see them periodically.
But you can’t command a woman’s heart - if you fall out of love, that means you’ve stopped loving (((

Unread post by **nikolay.andreev** » 23 Sep 2021, 05:22

Do you have sex in public?

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ZDA7, we have the same thing in sex, as you wrote about yourself

Unread post by **Dimass** » 23 Sep 2021, 05:26

Mine doesn’t like all these extravagances :) People are different.

Unread post by **Zdah** » 23 Sep 2021, 07:26

The same situation. I also don’t know what to do or how to deal with this. But I’m already tired.

Unread post by **niqk** » 23 Sep 2021, 10:34

Guys, if you have missionary sex, in the dark, under a blanket, and even in a nightie, then what do you want? There should be different things in sex!

Unread post by **Zdah** » 23 Sep 2021, 10:39

No, I bought all sorts of erotic outfits in a sex shop, panties with a slit, beautiful expensive underwear, everything is in the chest of drawers, new, well, only wears underwear.

Unread post by **niqk** » 23 Sep 2021, 10:40

What did you just buy and stick it in - wear it, they say?

Unread post by **Zdah** » 23 Sep 2021, 10:42

Previously, it was anywhere we wanted, they even did it in the fitting room, in the park, on the train, in the entrance, in the elevator, although we lived on the second floor, but no one canceled the stop button))) but now it’s difficult with this, let’s tell her like before somewhere in the park I’m generally afraid.

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No, I came home, prepared dinner, candles, champagne, fireplace, sat contentedly, gave her gold earrings and even tried on sexy lingerie. I say you’ll wear it this evening, well, we’ll see, and towards the evening I’m tired and really want to sleep, I’m still going to sleep. And he spends an hour on Instagram.

Unread post by **niqk** » 23 Sep 2021, 10:46

ZDA7: ↑23 Sep 2021, 10:42 It used to be anywhere, anywhere they wanted, they even did it in the fitting room, in the park, on the train, in the entrance, in the elevator, although they lived on the second floor, but no one canceled the stop button))) but now it’s hard to tell her Let’s do it like before, somewhere in the park I’m generally afraid.

Did this happen to her after giving birth?

Unread post by **Zdah** » 23 Sep 2021, 10:48

No, after the first birth, just show her your penis right away, suck it, or wash yourself, come on your own, let’s wash together, and now it will be locked at 33 so that I don’t come in.

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And after the second, there was less sex, but it was 4 times a week consistently.

Unread post by **niqk** » 23 Sep 2021, 10:50

ZDA7: ↑23 Sep 2021, 10:48 No, after the first birth, just show her your penis right away, suck it, or wash yourself, come by yourself, let’s wash together, and now it will be locked with 33 locks so that I don’t come in.

Apparently, there is something with the hormonal background... You can’t do without a doctor... And don’t delay with this matter - you may completely lose interest in life!

Unread post by **Zdah** » 23 Sep 2021, 10:54

niqk: ↑23 Sep 2021, 10:50
ZDA7: ↑23 Sep 2021, 10:48 No, after the first birth, just show her your penis right away, suck it or you wash yourself, let’s wash together and now it will be locked at 33 so that I don’t come in.
Apparently, there is something with the hormonal background... You can’t do without a doctor... And don’t delay with this matter - you may completely lose interest in life!

Yes, and when she got her period, they could take the penis out to bed, give a blowjob, you say you liked it, of course, and that’s all We went to bed for the last year and a half, such a disaster.

Unread post by **niqk** » 23 Sep 2021, 10:58

As I say, the home-grown means of sex lovers from the forum are clearly not enough to cope with this. We need professional doctors...

Unread post by **Zdah** » 23 Sep 2021, 11:22

niqk: ↑23 Sep 2021, 10:58 As I say, the home-grown means of sex lovers from the forum obviously cannot be dealt with here. We need professional doctors...

I don’t know, maybe you’re right. Need to try. But before, the excuse was like I don’t earn enough. I make normal money.

Unread post by **nikolay.andreev** » 23 Sep 2021, 11:24

What’s wrong with them?

Unread post by **Zdah** » 23 Sep 2021, 11:28

nikolay.andreev: ↑23 Sep 2021, 11:24 What’s wrong with them

Only they know this.

Unread post by **nikolay.andreev** » 23 Sep 2021, 11:29

Exactly. Do you jerk off often?

Unread post by **Zdah** » 23 Sep 2021, 11:33

nikolay.andreev: ↑23 Sep 2021, 11:29 Exactly. Do you jerk off often?

Not to say, I especially like to go to the shower, the gentle light is on in the bedroom, it seems like everything is going to happen, even undressed each other, but then bam, not me I’m tired and want to sleep. Then I start jerking off and goes into another room and sleeps there

Sent after 3 minutes 24 seconds:
nikolay.andreev,
Well, you know that in the last month I didn’t give her any hints, I didn’t pester her, I completely ignored her, like I even started coming up to hug her. And I’m tired of her, I want to sleep, and as she sits on Instagram, lying in bed, she starts hugging her, I’m tired anyway!!!

Unread post by **nikolay.andreev** » 23 Sep 2021, 23:39

It’s clear. I have the same situation

Unread post by **va234567** » 14 Aug 2022, 10:33

Well, if you get tired, then you need to somehow try to unload it or go somewhere to distract yourself, you can’t just plow all the time.

Unread post by **jonny_t** » 14 Aug 2022, 10:57

Everyone has the same thing. Wives often stop wanting sex, or rarely show desire. Sometimes work and everyday life really get boring, and that’s why libido goes out. Or maybe one of the spouses has become fat, has become completely unattractive, or monotonous sex is why it gets boring and you don’t want it.
In my case, I no longer wanted my wife, she has gained a lot of weight and laughs off all my complaints or gets offended, and sex with her became completely monotonous. Lingerie, stockings, leather harness and sex toys lie on the chest of drawers and you will never get any initiative from her, and in 10 years of marriage, she was reluctantly on top a couple of times. He won’t give you a blowjob until you give him a blowjob. A couple of times he brought me out for a frank conversation and asked if I wasn’t okay with it. I always started with foreplay and until the first time, of course, it didn’t come from cunnilingus or masturbation. She always said that I felt good and came a couple of times. But sex a couple of times a month maximum. In other respects, we live in perfect harmony, but sex...
In general, I have resigned myself, I am looking for a mistress.

Unread post by **konstantin.N** » 17 Aug 2022, 15:18

If I tried everything adequate, then this is the nature of this woman. There are those who say sex once a month is just right. There are those who don’t get aroused by porn, but only by their own special fantasies. All you have to do is rethink your attitude and adapt. A mistress is the easiest way to solve your sexual problem, but not the fact that it is the best.

Unread post by **Skf** » 18 Aug 2022, 02:29

I had this happen with my ex-wife. The last couple of years of our life together. Her head is tired. At the end they separated

Unread post by **zoom** » 25 Aug 2022, 14:50

So this thing overtakes me to take into account, everything is like everyone else’s carbon copy

, what should I do brothers

Unread post by **Aid77** » 25 Aug 2022, 15:15

Mishka Novgorodsky: ↑21 May 2021, 03:37 I have a similar situation... only I’m 43, and my wife is 39. We fry rarely, maybe once every 10 days, or even less often... They say that we need to add a "live stream" “into a relationship, but I don’t know how to do it. A friend says that you need to make her feel jealous, but is that true? Will this jealousy turn her away from sex completely? I’m thinking of going to a sex therapist...

the same crap, only we’ve been married for 22 years, once a week and then so-so, but when at sea on vacation, then fuck you won’t recognize her, 2-4 times a day and wallpaper with such passion, after such vacations it always hurts for a week

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Unread post by **dva2dva** » 22 Oct 2022, 11:28

The situation is the same... together for 11 years. Sex, at best, once a month, or even once every two months. I’ll say right away that at first everything was fine, sex was everywhere. Petting in the park, at the cinema, on the train, but then the child was born and it began to decline (not immediately, gradually). I did all of the above, the table and the vacation and the bathroom and tried a lot of things. Half of everyday life is on me - if someone wants to say that she takes care of the house and with the child. I am a straightforward person, and I ask directly what she wants - she doesn’t want anything, according to her, she’s happy with everything. Offered all kinds of variety. There is no lover 100%... not even 200%. I tried to arouse jealousy - twice was enough. As a result, sex was done once every two months, in bed, in a position on the side. There is practically no foreplay. In general, in the end I got tired of it, I don’t try anymore. Whenever she wants, I take her, she doesn’t want me and I don’t pester her.. At the same time, the relationship is good - we don’t quarrel. We don’t argue, we go shopping together - you can’t even tell from the outside that they are “monks”

Unread post by **AntonSumy** » 22 Oct 2022, 11:31

Hello. Offer her other types of sex or role-playing games

Unread post by **Paradise apples** » 22 Oct 2022, 11:51

After 10 years of marriage, a man is often treated as a relative. For example, as to a brother. At the beginning of a relationship, a person is a mystery. And here is my dear one, spread out on the sofa, farting from time to time. Well, what kind of sex and attraction is there?

Unread post by **Akteya** » 22 Oct 2022, 11:52

Apples of Paradise, after 3 years) love lives for three years . Then he eats up everything in everyday life. Initially, you need to build relationships so that you don’t get bored and exhausted.

Unread post by **silver_fox** » 12 Nov 2022, 14:08

Conspiracy: ↑21 May 2021, 00:38What to do?

Talk. Leitmotif: sex is a thing that is necessary not only for me (the husband), but also for you (the wife). And if you feel that this is not so, you have some kind of hidden problem that needs to be solved as quickly as possible! ", approximately. It’s not a fact that he will immediately split, but he will think about it - for sure. Here, for the second or third time , if you don’t freak out and show yourself to be balanced, patient and reliable, it might work out. And don’t be surprised if the problem turns out to be in you - it most likely will be.
In general, be patient - wait for pleasant discoveries. no need to.

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