Wife doesn't want

[Tomhaos1]

Hi all! There is a problem (married for 7 years, have a child for 6 years, every time sex or a blow job is a whole story, persuaded, etc. not a freak, dick 18 cm. Tired of begging for sex, tried all the options, romance, expensive gifts, etc. but My wife wants, at best, once every 2-3 weeks, I can’t do this anymore, prostitutes was not an option. I had sex with her, oral/classic/anal, talked to a psychologist, it didn’t help.

[hello. I don’t hear]

Find a woman on the side, maybe everyone will be happy. The main thing is that she doesn’t know the wife.

[Tomhaos1]

Yes, but I want to do it all with my wife

[Gudgeon]

Tired of begging

A familiar topic. The amount of sex I need significantly exceeds what she needs. You can try to talk about this if they listen to you (but often they don’t), agree on other practices that can satisfy you (such as helping with hands, blowjob, etc.). But as a rule, this doesn’t work either. Those who don’t want sex themselves didn’t care about what you needed, they were stressed... The second option: look for how to satisfy your need yourself: masturbation/erotic massage/mistresses/secret sex parties (underline as necessary).
nIn this situation, the main thing to understand is the following: 1) you will in no way, in any way, under any circumstances, make your partner want more sex. 2) You won’t be able to force yourself to want less sex. from 1) and 2) you should 3) either run away or solve the problem by getting the missing sex yourself. And we are not talking about prostitutes here (see above). Choose options without cheating if this is important to you. They exist too.
There is another hidden option: agree on an open relationship regarding sex with others. But this is more of a fantasy. Such cases are rare. It’s beautiful on the forum pages, but divide everything that is written here by 4 (mostly these are just fantasies). And attempts usually end in the collapse of the marriage.

I talked to a psychologist, it didn’t help

They haven’t helped anyone yet. They are people just like you, they don’t have answers or solutions. They only profit from negative emotions and the desire to get away from them. In essence, they are the same fortune tellers, only with a diploma.

[Tomhaos1]

You described everything very correctly, the only option here is probably to disagree, but damn it’s somehow very offensive, everything is there, work, home, income, etc. but a banal blowjob figuratively) is not enough, and here the dilemma is whether it’s worth leaving the child because of your lust, on the other hand, we are 34 and sometimes we want all sorts of debauchery) I tried massages, but they last for a couple of days) going there on a permanent basis is also not an option. I talked to my wife many times and the good and the bad changed in a couple of weeks and that’s it (something like that.

[Gudgeon]

everything is there, work, home, prosperity, etc. but a banal blowjob figuratively) is not enough, and here the dilemma is whether it’s worth leaving the child because of one’s lust, on the other hand, we are 34 and sometimes want all sorts of debauchery)

Welcome to the club! If it was enough for me, then I probably wouldn’t be on such a forum. Noo... Everyone compensates as best they can. I don’t have any mistresses.
Whether it’s worth it or not is up to you to decide. I decided it’s not worth it, I’ll get it myself. Yes, there is not enough lustful debauchery The classics are of course good... the first 5 years, and then... Imagine something that tastes best to you. Let it be black caviar. And then you got it in unlimited quantities. Eat it, eat it... and after half a year it’s like "this caviar again, how tired I am!". There is no forward movement, experiments, diversity - there is no former passion. Unfortunately, many women do not need any experiments and are even alien to them.
This is how it happens... at first "I don’t need sex more often" and "What other blowjob? Go away with your perversions!" , and therefore "why did you brute cheat on me?!" The story is not new, but sad

[Xyliganx6]

Maybe she’s tired. Are you helping her?
It is difficult for strangers to answer such a question.
Maybe you offend her or take it out on the child.
And how often it happened before. Typically, women at this age have an increased appetite for sex.

[Gudgeon]

Are you helping her?

I always didn’t like this attitude. We live together. I don’t help, I’m an equal participant. I cook (even more often than she does), clean (albeit less often than she does), do repairs, fix cars, garden (generally alone). We purchased all the equipment that makes life easier, including a dishwasher and a car vacuum cleaner. He may get tired at work, but there is time for rest. A couple of hours of TV series on the couch every day fits into her daily routine... By the way, I don’t have time for that. This is not a complaint, but simply that we are both busy with things both at work and at home. And this is in no way the reason for boring sex.
We don’t have a child yet (but we are working ). My character is such that I never lash out at my wife at all. Over the 10 years of our marriage, I yelled at her three or four times (and then she purposefully drove me out).

And how often did it happen before

nIt’s always been like this: classic sex, three standard positions, according to the rules, “Groundhog Day.” Well, if we exclude the first half of the year of the relationship and insatiable sex (that’s what the beginning of a relationship is like). But again, even then - only classics. Of course, you can say: what the hell did you wait for, did you see what you were taking? And I can only answer one thing: like all fools, I believed that things would get better, we would be closer, trust would increase, barriers would fall... But no

[Xyliganx6]

Gudgeon, Well, if we exclude initiative on your part altogether and to observe?

[Gudgeon]

Gudgeon, Well, if we exclude it altogether initiative on your part and to observe?

Well... I tried. Then it happens something like this: he walks around for a month, then starts asking like “when will we have sex?” But she herself will not do anything first. So he walks and waits. I thought about waiting longer, so that I would want it more, I thought that maybe in the wake of hunger I would fall for something... But no. Another boring classic. On the plus side: sometimes in the morning when he sees a boner, he can play pranks with his hands just for me. It’s not often, eh... It’s a pity. I understand that this is simply a matter of different temperaments. She doesn’t need as much stupidly as I need. Well, she always “helps” me like this.

[Tomhaos1]

In general, I’m not the only one with this problem, but it’s not normal, we need to solve it somehow, the years go by, time goes by, and grown men are looking for how to remove themselves, which in my opinion is not the best option
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Maybe she’s tired. Are you helping her?
It’s difficult for strangers to answer such a question.
Maybe you’re offending her or taking it out on the child.
And how often it happened before. Usually women at this age have an increased appetite for sex

I help, I sit with the child, I have never offended the child, there are quarrels with her, but mainly because of something sex, otherwise everything is great, often it happened only in the first 2-3 years, then that’s it... she stupidly falls asleep and doesn’t need anything

[alex503311]

Gudgeon, Well and if we completely exclude initiative on your part and observe?

Well... I tried. Then something like this happens: he walks around for a month, then starts asking like “when will we have sex?” But she herself will not do anything first.

Unfortunately, such upbringing is similar. We worked with a colleague, I’m 25, she’s 40, I knew she wouldn’t give it, but she promoted her, she needed sex.
But it wasn’t like she came and said, insert it into me, I can’t stand it anymore this was not the case.
Plus, she gave herself to me whenever I wanted, and three times a day was enough for me at least.
At first I thought that she would say, stop bothering me, you want it often, but there was no criticism.
Then he often took her standing, or from behind, that is, quickly, so as not to be caught.
And he determined it himself, for example, she was on sick leave, two weeks later she came, I started kissing, I understand that she wants.
One day they came to me, I took her, went into the hallway, got dressed, kissed her, I understand that she wants the penis in me again, I undress her, go to bed and take her again.
I just knew that she liked it when I entered her, and she didn’t feel the dildo made of silicone (let’s say), but the penis immediately pleased her and brought her to orgasm. And there were also, I would have dreamed that they would sit, but let’s say, I’ve been wanting your xYZ in my pi for a whole month, please give me one.
But somehow it didn’t happen, it needs a girl from her youth, for herself bring her up, so that she could then climb into bed and ask her for you....
I also had it with a girl, but once every two days was enough for me, although, too, I’m still used to the girl being passive, or active, that is wanted, went
to the kitchen and took it from behind, but it wasn’t much, but I climbed in to her in the morning and took her.
But of course, if my head hurts, etc., then yes, I can tolerate it, but If the girl doesn’t want it, then it’s better to find another one.

[Terre]

My situation is the same, I’ve only been married for 28 years, every year it’s getting worse and worse, I’ll be honest, I decided that nerves and health are more valuable. Left, I think this is the only right decision... P.S. And even if you are an angel , nothing changes. Total: excruciatingly painful for the time spent.

[Fan96]

Stop whining. No one in the world has ever died from lack of sex.

[Gudgeon]

Why endure if you can not endure? Masochism? A few spare lives?