Is it worth moving in with him?

[Korotaeva1996]

I am 26, my child is 2 years old. I got divorced and now live in a rented apartment (I’m not a Muscovite). We have a good guy at work (he’s over 40) who offers help. Like, live with him, cook, and live for free. Not sleeping together, of course, but in different rooms. Should I agree?

He didn’t say anything about sex or relationships, but when I move, he might offer it. What to do?

[Petrovich]

Do you yourself want a relationship with him?

[Korotaeva1996]

And you yourself want a relationship with him

No. Our age difference is too big. I don’t want a relationship, but it will be more profitable to live with him. On the other hand, after washing he will see my underwear, and I will be very embarrassed

[Petrovich]

Well then you shouldn’t move. Sooner or later you will have to decide, either sleep with him or move back to a rented house. Although I may be wrong.

[Korotaeva1996]

Well then, you shouldn’t move. Sooner or later you will have to decide, either sleep with him or move back to a rented house. Although I may be wrong

Well, if he offers it, we’ll go. But if he doesn’t offer, I’ll save a lot

[Arianna]

Clearly discuss with him in advance what he thinks you should do. Also, immediately tell him what you absolutely will not do, so that he does not have the illusion that you automatically agree to a relationship with him. Keep the conversation in a businesslike manner. Well, I would be concerned about installing a lock or latch on the door of my room; you can dry your clothes there in the room

[Korotaeva1996]

so that he doesn’t have the illusion that you automatically agree to a relationship with him.

Yes, I told him that right away

I would be concerned about installing a lock or latch on the door of my room; you can dry your clothes there in the room

Lock and latch we’ll do it, but oh well, it’s better to hang the laundry in the bathtub than in the living room

[SR0]

Of course there will be constant hints about sex and you either agree or move out, there are no other options

[Korotaeva1996]

you either agree or move out, there are no other options

Then we’ll move to a rented apartment. But I won’t sleep with him

[Polyansky]

Our age difference is too big. I don’t want a relationship, but it will be more profitable to live with him. On the other hand, after washing, he will see my underwear, and I will be very embarrassed

14 years is nonsense, he is not old yet.
You contradict and make me laugh with your stupidity.
I don’t want a relationship: is moving not a relationship? and then what?
After washing you see your laundry: won’t you go to the toilet and won’t poop? do you even hear yourself?

you will move and not only cook, but also have sex. no normal man would just keep you at home

[mega second]

If there is no relationship, then what is the point of moving? Why? Is he kind, does he want to support you so that you can save money on him with his help? Most likely, he hopes that living together under one roof will bring you closer over time. And most likely you will begin to live together as a family. Perhaps it will be better for both him and you. And the difference is not that big. . And sympathy for him will appear over time. After all, he takes care of you, inviting you to live together

[Korotaeva1996]

you will move and not only cook, but also have sex. no normal guy would just keep you at home

Well, no sex. Well, screw him. I don’t want him. He essentially offers this for cooking.

Most likely he hopes that living together under the same roof will bring you closer over time. And most likely you will begin to live together as a family. Perhaps it will be better for both him and you. And the difference is not that big. . And sympathy for him will appear over time.

Maybe he hopes, but it’s unlikely that I will develop sympathy for him. Well, I mean feelings, so he seems to be a normal person in himself

[mega second]

It depends on how he treats you and your child. If with warmth and care, then sympathy and love on your part will appear over time.

[Korotaeva1996]

sympathy and love on your part will appear over time

I don’t know. Hardly. At least not enough to go to bed with him. Still, there is an age difference. Can a forty-year-old man be the boyfriend of a 26-year-old girl?

[Polyansky]

. Can a forty-year-old man be the boyfriend of a 26-year-old girl?

what’s wrong with a 40-year-old?

[Vladtsst]

In the country where I live, age differenceeven at 30 years old it doesn’t bother anyone. My wife is 10 years younger than me. And I often hear from local girls that my wife is too old for me.

[Gudgeon]

He essentially offers this for cooking

And you are essentially considering whether to agree. Otherwise you wouldn’t be here. Don’t pretend to be a sheep, the adults around here understand everything.

Can a forty-year-old man be the boyfriend of a 26-year-old girl?

Circus in style " convince me that forty-year-olds are also good." Some kind of kindergarten.

[Korotaeva1996]

Don’t pretend to be a sheep, the adults around here understand everything

There were no hints of a relationship in his words, but if I move, there is a possibility that he will start pestering me. 50/50, of course, but the probability is high

what’s wrong with a 40-year-old?

Everyone yes, but this is a different generation even. And I also have a child

[Mongoose]

I am 26, my child is 2 years old. I got divorced and now live in a rented apartment (I’m not a Muscovite). We have a good guy at work (he’s over 40) who offers help. Like, live with him, cook, and live for free. Not sleeping together, of course, but in different rooms. Should I agree?

He didn’t say anything about sex or relationships, but when I move, he might offer it. What to do?

Only recently there was a similar case! He was also a good guy, he offered help, etc. And as a result, after some time they convicted....-attempted rape!!!
And you..... lock, latch! Lord - kindergarten!!!

[Gudgeon]

50/50, of course

99/1 is more accurate. Does he need it - to support free tenants? There is a goal. It is you. Well, don’t be naive! By inviting you to move, he has already outlined this goal for you. But who said that this is bad? It’s just sex. Essential for health. Define the framework of the relationship and move forward. And if you move, you will have to sleep with him sooner or later. Or run away.

[Legos]

You can, of course, agree, but be prepared for the fact that it may end the way you fear.

[Korotaeva1996]

And you..... lock, latch

Well, these are precautionary measures

There is a goal . It is you. Well, don’t be naive! By inviting you to move, he has already outlined this goal for you. But who said that this is bad? It’s just sex. Essential for health. Define the framework of the relationship and move forward. And if you move in with him, sooner or later you will have to sleep with him.

So why does he need a woman with a child? In any case, there will be more disadvantages for him than advantages!

be prepared for the fact that this may end the way you fear
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I will not go to bed with a forty-year-old. This is overkill

[hello. I don’t hear]

You’re almost 30, he’s over 40, what’s the big difference

[Korotaeva1996]

difference

15 years difference! I live alone with him, but I’m not ready to go to bed with him

[hello. I don’t hear]

difference

15 years difference! I’m not ready to live alone with him, but I’m not ready to go to bed with him

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Then just be a governess

[Andrey Petrov]

Korotaeva1996, I would like you too I gladly invited him to live, but his daughters would definitely have killed both of them from the world! Don’t you need sex!? Or do you think that you can lead young men past him to your room!? It definitely won’t work! If you refuse to relocate, then when you encounter difficulties with housing, you will bite your elbows! And just like in the fairy tale “The Scarlet Flower,” you look at him in a couple of weeks and you’ll come to him at night, when you feel the urge, you’ll think about it and dive into his bed!

[Morpheus]

15 years difference! I live alone with him, but I’m not ready to go to bed with him

Dear girl! Listen to the opinions of a person who is already well over 40... Judging by your age, you are no longer a child and are fully aware of your actions. Since you have a child, it means you’ve already had the experience of living together and apparently it wasn’t very successful. In this case, you are looking for in this man a “daddy” who will accept you and your child, take care of you, etc. but at the same time he will have to behave towards you like a eunuch. He is 40 years old - this is the prime of puberty in men. This means that as a lover, this man will be better in bed and more gentle than your similar peer. But it’s not only that. No matter what agreements you conclude with him and agreements on your immunity, nature will sooner or later take its toll. You will have sex sooner or later. If this is the only problem you have, and the man himself is quite adequate and normal, then move in with him without hesitation. If a man is normal, he will give you time to adapt and will even try to win your feelings for him by caring for you and paying attention to the child. At the age of 40, a man is already mature enough to create a full-fledged relationship and he will need you not only as a sexual object, but also as a beloved woman. Take a closer look at him, I’m sure over time your feelings will flare up for him and you won’t even notice this age difference. Otherwise, your union can be characterized by the phrase of one movie character from a famous film:
"Living with a woman in the same apartment and not sleeping with her is a perversion."

[Arianna]

I’ve already unsubscribed here, but I wanted to add On the one hand, maybe the man really doesn’t plan to hit on me, I also have a free room, in theory I could invite a man to live there in exchange for fulfilling chores, but I don’t like people in my personal space. On the other hand, just cooking is too little a price to pay for living there, also with a child, who will definitely cause some inconvenience. Suspicious and cloudy, in short, and the girl had already decided everything for herself, as it seemed to me. It’s also interesting that you’re embarrassed to dry your clothes in front of him (we’re talking about panties, etc.?), but not to the extent that you would dry them in your room. Either you are deceiving yourself, or I don’t understand something) if you decide to move, continue to rent an apartment for at least one month in case you have to quickly leave this guy

[Gudgeon]

So why does he need a woman with a child? In any case, there will be more disadvantages for him than advantages!

He likes you. Considered my own soul. Maybe even love Or maybe you look like an uncomplaining victim. Or they inadvertently gave reason to hope. I don’t know.

[Korotaeva1996]

And just like in the fairy tale "The Scarlet Flower", you look at him in a couple of weeks and you yourself will come to him at night, when you feel the urge, you will think about it and dive into his bed!

It’s unlikely)

No matter what agreements you enter into with him and the agreement on your immunity, nature will sooner or later take its toll. You will have sex sooner or later.

Well, it’s up to me to decide

[Gudgeon]

Korotaeva1996, How did you manage to quote by my name, not mine? quote?
Did they rule with their hands? I didn’t write this at all